10 Things Every Man Wants You To Know About Going Down On Him

Whether you've never gone down on a man before or you're a veteran, these 10 tips will help you! It's what every man wants you to know but may never say.

By Vera Aries
10 Things Every Man Wants You To Know About Going Down On Him

Going Down On Him

Oral sex is an integral part of the sexual life of most adult and sexually active persons. Some people enjoy giving oral pleasure, while some enjoy receiving. But, just like everything else, for that segment, practice is required when giving. Since some sexual partners are not open to expressing their wishes in bed, even in what suits them the most, it makes it harder for a partner to work. This is why women should read these ten tips, whether they've only tried it for the first time or they're a veteran, and find out the hidden secrets and "skills" for going down on him. So, girls and women, after reading this, do your job! Do everything to satisfy your man. If you do it properly, you will be "a star from the sky." It is no secret that men love oral sex, but sometimes it is difficult for a woman to conclude that what she is doing is actually the best. Are you worried that you may not use the right moves? Do you want to know what your partner wants to tell you about oral sex? Well, it would be best to talk about it with your boyfriend. Still, to help you a little bit, and to inspire you to new ideas, we have ten things that every man wants you to know about going down on him.

1. Don't Look At Oral Sex As An Obligation

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If you look at oral sex as an obligation, like a job or something that you need to do, to make your partner happy, then that's why you are not desperate for it. If you look at the oral satisfaction as an obligation, you belong to most women who are terribly awkward at oral sex. Look at it as a source of your pleasure, and it will become just that. Of course, you should find a real man for this, since some men are just not worth your "effort." But when you are with a man you love, it is quite natural for you to enjoy, while giving him pleasure in any way he enjoys. Find such a man. Then, keep him by giving him oral sex regularly. You deserve it. Or maybe not yet. As long as you feel oral sex is mandatory, you will have plenty of trouble finding a man. Okay, perhaps you'll find him, but keeping him is quite another story. Women who are brilliant in oral sex are good at it because they do not only like it but also see it as a source of their own pleasure. There is nothing more erotic for a man, then to see his other half enjoying sex while going down on him and creatively using her mouth and tongue.

2. Slow Down

Make sure you are not in a hurry. There is no answer to the question: "How long does it take for oral sex?" Oral sex lasts and does not have to have an ending goal.

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The urge to finish as soon as possible ruins your oral sex. In this way, you will only let him know that you just want to end up with that and continue your life motive "without oral sex." Do not do that, as all of your previous efforts will fall into the water. Slow down. Focus on the process. Enjoy every second and forget about the ultimate goal. There is no goal. You do not want anything to achieve. There are practical opportunities, times and places when you want to speed up the process, but it is not now. Do not worry how long it has been since you started. Do not limit yourself to timelines. He needs it as much as he needs. You do not rush. If you get tired quickly, this is because you do not use everything that is available to you.

3. Stop Thinking About What To Do, Be Spontaneous

Thinking while going down on him kills the passion. These two do not go together anymore, and in oral sex, there is just no place for thinking. Devotions, sensuality, passion - this should be your guidelines for brilliant oral sex. Any logical thinking will "destroy" the enjoyment and will disturb your concentration. As you think, you are not committed, and when you are not confined to the task, you do not enjoy the moment but rather worry about something. You wonder, "Why is this not over yet? Am I doing it right?" If you look at him, he'll see if you're gone from the moment, or he'll see you're thinking of something else. If you're worried about something, it's over. You're all broken. Now he is thinking of what you think of it and can not relax and indulge in the enjoyment you give him. Do not think. Exclude your mind during oral sex, and you will see positive results right away.

4. Surprise!

There is no point if every oral sex is being planned before. For a man, there is nothing more exciting than the unexpected ones. Surprise him from time to time with "unexpected" oral sex and when he is at least expecting it. Take the first step. It will only separate you from the rest of the woman.

You need to make the first step by recognizing when it's the right time for oral sex. Take the initiative. Use your tongue from on chests and slowly go down, so you can help him relax. You will see a great difference in the quality of your relationship when oral sex becomes more frequent since you initiated sex rather than because he had to beg for that pleasure.

5. Smile & Positive Attitude

Once again, the pleasure is not all in oral sex. There is something in the way you communicate with your man. You can not, of course, smile around while your mouth is busy, but what you can do is stop for a moment, breathe in, say something, then smile. The point is to send a simple message: "I like what I'm doing for you." Negative and stubborn attitude will not take you anywhere. If you carry the right message the orgasm will start in his thoughts, not in the penis.

6. Challenge Your Man

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Do not go immediately to action. This should be a fun game, and not a run to "work" what to do. Add a dose of imagination and exhale serious, clinical facial expressions by teasing, flirting, and gradually helping to relax and indulge in enjoyment. Add some temptation to the game before you go to the main thing.

7. Use Your Hands

If you think your mouth and tongue are the only "tool" you should use to make your partner achieve a tremendous oral satisfaction, then you are making a big mistake. Your hands are the basis for good oral sex. Use your mouth, tongue, and hands at the same time for great pleasure.

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It is very sensual for a man to see a woman that can do the proper oral sex without using her hands. But if this is the first time you try it, or you don't have much experience, use these tips and stick to what is proven to work for sure.

8. Learn "Deep Throat"

Warren Buffett, the most prominent entrepreneur of all time, once said, "The best investment you can make is investing in yourself." I completely agree. If there is any technique in sex that you should invest in learning is "deep throat." One in ten women is more likely to have oral sex, and they usually know how to take a deep throat without any difficulty. If you learn this technique, it proves your dedication to learning something new when it comes to going down on him. If you are armed with the will, you can do anything, even deep throat, and in time you will learn to ignore the urge to vomit. The first time is the most challenging part, then all you need is more practice.

9. Learn The Techniques Of Going Down On Him By Exercising

Now, do not rush. Let him teach you how you can satisfy him, and how and where he needs a stronger squeeze. You can only learn through the act and repeat, do not rush. Be imaginative. Have fun and do not hurry up things. Every man will appreciate the effort you have made to be better in going down on him, and the best you can do is to be open to that question. Make sure that what you are doing is the right thing. Even if you are not correct, still be safe in your movements, and it will always be a great pleasure.

10. Change The Place

The same time, the same place, and the same way is no fun. Even if you are brilliant in oral sex, too much of the same can get boring. Sometimes, it's good to spice up your oral sex by changing a few things, like your technique, location, or atmosphere. Leave the bedroom and change the scenario. Sometimes the other room is the perfect solution. Be imaginative.

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Conclusion

Do not think about oral sex as a complicated task. This is the skill that a woman can master if she wants to, but she does not have to look at the learning process as something too serious and unexciting. Keep on having fun. Give yourself time. Do not worry about "perfection" in this area. Control what you can and go from there.

If it's the first time for you, it is quite natural to need time to become good in going down on him. We all have to start somewhere. Do it with a man you love so that you won't need another motivation. You'll grow to enjoy it with the love of your life thoroughly. Do not be afraid of failure, or that things will go wrong. Your man will appreciate your efforts. Keep upgrading yourself when it comes to going down on him. Any advice or tips you have read about is just the tip of the ice burg. There is so much that you can learn about oral sex and so much information that can not fit in this article. So now, are you ready to enjoy and indulge? Of course, you are! Remember to have fun with it.

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