How To Stop Thinking About Someone You Love A Lot

When you love someone you'll know right when it hits you, it's something you'll feel and it's something you won't be able to comprehend. Soon, however, you'll be able to live and breathe and love the person you're with. Falling in or out of love is never easy but one thing is certain--love make the world go round! Love like all things in life has its ups and downs. Its remarkable at the great lengths we go through to prove and keep our lovers within our grasps. We show our significant others that we love them through meaningful actions and acts of love. These acts of love vary from one to another but they all involve expressing our affection and love through emotions, physical actions or supportive ways. Something you'll definitely notice yourself doing when you are in love is changing, hopefully for the better of course. (Those who are affected otherwise I am sorry. I'm sure out of all the mess and darkness you'll find the light at the end of the tunnel.) Wonderful and chaotic, love is just beautiful in general. You learn a lot of lessons and honestly a lot about yourself, regardless if your experience with love is positive or not.

Just like there are signs for falling in love there are also signs for falling of love. Sometimes these trying times during a relationship are never pretty or easy but we all go through. Stop and think for a second about your current relationship, about your special someone. Are you happy? Most people start noticing that they are no longer happy with their relationship and their partner when they start wandering. This could be your eyes, your mind, your heart. This person is no longer the center of your attention anymore. You just start wandering and wondering. You wander to different places and people. You wonder about all the possibilities and outcomes that could take place if you were no longer in your current relationship. A big sign I would pay attention to is giving each other space. Everyone needs their "Me Time" every now and then but if you constantly distant yourself and basically don't want to be around your girlfriend or boyfriend... I mean come on. You are genuinely not feeling them anymore. Another sign is the fact that you want to cheat on your partner. I honestly feel that if someone is wanting to cheat and throw their relationship away, that means the person no longer wants to be in a relationship. It's plain and simple and that person should just please move on. Please be civil and remove yourself from that relationship peacefully. Let someone else take a try at love the each of you the way you deserve. Please keep in mind that these are just some of the obvious signs and that everyone is in a different situation. It might take someone longer than others to realize and determine whether or not someone or a relationship is healthy and positive for them. Letting someone go that you care so much for isn't easy so be extremely considerate towards yourself and others.

Now that you've come to the conclusion that you are no longer in love with your partner, you must move on and focus on yourself. Stop everything you're doing right now and reevaluate your life. You must be in an insane and chaotic state of mind with so many emotions and thoughts running through your mind, It's almost like the world is against you more than it is with you. Don't fret my dear because things will indeed turn around once you stop moping. Start focusing on yourself and what makes you happy and content. A good place to start is to ask yourself questions, like, what do you love? What makes you happy? etc. Someone like yourself deserves all the time in the world to heal yourself and your wounds. So please, try not worry about wanting to let go and stop worrying about everyone else and what they might be thinking. It's okay to be selfish sometimes, especially when you're hurt. How else do you think you'll ever get better? Thinking about yourself in general and putting yourself first in necessary situations is important. Its healthy even. Its the only way to keep sane.

Getting over someone is never easy, let alone taking the necessary steps and actions to stop thinking about them. To quit thinking about someone you loved is like stopping yourself from partaking in a bad habit. Old habits, die hard. Don't you think? Loving someone with all your heart takes all of you and more. Believe me, I know. The hardest part is realizing they aren't good for you or that in fact you aren't good for them. It hurts to know and it hurts even more having to let go to be honest, it won't stop hurting for a good long while. On the bright side there is always something or someone that can fix, or ease the pain and process of moving on. There are indeed things that you can do to help stop you from thinking about someone. It's best to keep your mind busy and occupied with other things that don't include the one you love. Focus on something else and that person won't even cross your mind. Here are some helpful tips and ideas on how to stop thinking about someone you love, a lot.

Sometimes closure is all one needs to stop thinking about someone they love. No matter the situation, if you're wanting to stop thinking about them all you need is a simple explanation. Talk about what happened between the two of you. Come to an agreement on why you need to go your separate ways and why it didn't work out. Some of this information might hurt but its best to know in order to move on.

How crazy is it to act like this person never existed? Pretty crazy if you ask me and even I know sometimes it hurts to speak this person's name. It's always a mood killer but this person is still apart of your memory and a part of your life history. You'll never be able to erase this person completely, no matter how hard you try. You might block this person on social media, you might burn all the pictures you have of the two of your together burned or you might try to complete delete them from your life, but it's tough. Your friends might ask about him or her and you'll act like you have no clue who they are, but of course you still do. Just the sound of their name brings back memories because they were once a part of you and who you were, but not any more. Serious or not, you let them into your life and there's no going back. From here you can only move forward and it's wonderful once you remember to do so. Stop being petty and angry and appreciate the lessons you learned, the memories you created and the times that you had with this person. Accept it for what it was, let it be and move on.

Sometimes its best to think about others during difficult times like this. Whether it be another romantic love interest, your family or your friends don't hesitate to go hang out and enjoy yourself. Socialize with others to stop your mind from wandering to that someone you're trying to forget and not think about.

A wise person once told me that an idle mind is the devil's playground. Be sure to do your best to stay busy because more than likely you'll stop thinking about this person and soon you'll be able to move on with your life. Pick up a new activity, go visit new places, or event take a vacation somewhere. Find a comfortable chair at the library and engross yourself in a new book. Do whatever you have to do to avoid the blues and to stop the negative thinking.

Nothing is forever and this is something you need to understand in order to move forward with your life. Look and think on the bright side and eventually this will be considered part of your past. It will no longer affect you and because of that you shouldn't let it take a toll on you. Just think of it as a video game, something or someone you have to beat and pass in order to get to next level of your life.

Always send love, kindness and positivity to the person you love but wish to stop thinking of. It doesn't matter what harm or pain they've brought to you or caused you, you should never wish negative things on anyone. Its best to let bygones be bygones and go your separate ways peacefully. Wish them well but know for future reference that you should not associate yourself with such a being again.

These words are from a line from my favorite song by Pat The Bunny: "But it gets better. It gets better. It gets better. Sweetie, it gets better, I promise you" Don't sweat it my sweet, it will get better with time, and so will you. None of us like change but change is good. It might be a little scary at first and you might think you can't get over someone so meaningful but you can, and you will. You lived your life without before and you certainly have the courage to do it again!

After all the chaos, sadness and drama are through, I think we can all agree its time to stop and smell the roses. Its a beautiful day outside, you're alive, you're well and you're breathing. Why not go outside for a moment of reflection about the events of your life? You've been through too much to be cooped up inside anyway, so think of it as another positive step that you must take in order to heal your pain. I know you're probably thinking that it might be a little selfish to be celebrating but if you really think about it nothing but positive possibilities can only come from all of this. You don't have to think twice about it because it is definitely a gift from the universe. Abundance and prosperity are coming to you as you strike out on your path. Be prepared for life to leave you speechless and in awe during the next few months and please, remember to be patient. Think about the small things that make your day to day life so happy and content. For example be sure to stop and smell the roses. Seriously, stop and smell the roses, or even buy yourself some roses. After all, they are beautiful, and you are beautiful, too.