How To Talk To A Guy 101: Don't Be Shy

Most women do not know how to approach a guy and talk to him without being shy. If you fall in this bracket, read on to find out how to overcome this.

By Dagmar Thomson
How To Talk To A Guy 101: Don't Be Shy

How to Talk To A Guy 101: Don't Be Shy

they’re going to make some boss babies lol❤️

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Having a one on one conversation with a guy can be hard for women who are shy, unlike texting. A woman may have no clue on what to talk about and how to maintain the flow of conversation. The first thing you need to learn in order to talk to a guy is how to show confidence. You need to practice it until you get better at it. Making a guy like you is not about impressing just one guy; you need to learn how to make the first impression last on all guys. Talking to a guy for the first time is easy, and once you learn how to do it, you will never be shy again. If you want to know how to talk to a guy, here are some pointers you can use.

1. Enquire About Time

If you want to talk to a guy but you have no idea what to say, you can break the ice by enquiring about the time. Guys are very proud of their watches and they won’t mind showing it off to you. Asking the guy about the time can make the conversation head anywhere. You need to learn how to make small talk to keep the conversation going. If the guy likes you, he will try to have a conversation with you too. All you have to do is play along and do not try hard to impress him.

2. Touch a Guy Gently

and she gone stay with me until we grey and older 💍

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Touching a guy’s arm or a shoulder while you are having a conversation can make the guy more interested in you. He will pay attention to what you are saying and he might go to an extent of flirting with you. Guys are attracted to women who occasionally touch them while having a conversation. They start showing their interest involuntarily. However, ensure you make a casually and appropriately touch the guy, lest he mistakes your intention.

3. Seek the Guy’s Protection

It is a natural thing for a guy to protect a woman. In order to seek a guy’s protection, you will need to rekindle this primal sense. You can stretch out your hand and hold his when you see a large scary dog coming towards you or you can smile at him shyly and ask if he can help you carry a load. This will make the guy feel needed and therefore protecting you. He will appreciate it and he will do his best not to disappoint you. Such an encounter will make a guy start talking to you.

4. Make a Guy Talk about Himself

if loving you is a crime, tell me why i bring out the best in you 💗

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People enjoy talking about themselves; this is a known fact. If you have no idea how to talk to a guy you like, you can start by asking him open-ended questions about himself. He will automatically respond to you. He will start to give you more details about himself without knowing. You can formulate more questions from what the guy has just told you to get him talking more. However, avoid asking questions that will give you a no and yes answers. This will make the conversation boring and it will end quickly. Your aim is to keep the guy talking. Therefore, you can practice more if you do not know how to come up with open-ended questions.

5. Avoid Foul Language While Talking To a Guy

As a woman, you should learn to talk clean and decent. Using foul language to strike a conversation with a guy can be a complete turn-off. People who use foul language to talk about others are pessimists and they have a low self-esteem. Therefore, people avoid being around them. Guys are attracted to ladies who talk cleanly and use decent language about everything.

6. Be Polite

Guys tend to talk more to polite women. Being a polite woman means that you are a kind and loving woman who cares about other people. If you try to pretend to be polite when you are in his presence, you will be caught eventually. Practice being a genuinely good person and you will win his attention.

8. Ask the Guy A Question

Asking questions is the ultimate way to start a conversation with a guy. People tend to open up and talk while they are queried. They do so to defend themselves, explain either about something or due to mere interest. Do not shy away when you meet a guy you like nor should you feel the pressure to try and impress him. Reverse the roles and make him be on his toes. Evaluate your guy by asking him questions and see if he impresses you instead. Make the questions funny, flirty, but evaluative. However, do not make it all about the guy by asking him questions throughout the conversation. You have to give something in return. If the guy answers your questions genuinely, you can also tell him something small about yourself. Avoid giving him too many details; this will put him off. Do not play question games with the guy if you are attracted to him. Remember, you have to make your first impression last. People who ask obnoxious questions such as which car do you drive, are you rich or not, where do you live and so forth, are people with low self-esteem and they have no good intentions.

9. Make a Casual Statement to Your Guy

matching be so cute.

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If you feel shy and you really want to talk to a guy you like, you can comment on something without expecting a response back. This is you trying to be friendly to the guy. Therefore, do not get angry if things do not turn out as you had hoped. The statement does not have to be on something specific. You can make general comments about the weather, coffee, politics, and so forth. If the guy is genuinely interested in talking to you, he will maintain the conversation. On the other hand, do not get disappointed if the guy is not interested in you. If he does not talk back to you, you will have nothing to lose.

10. Avoid Lying When You Talk To a Guy

Women who are shy make big mistakes when they want to impress a guy. As a woman, you feel the need to lie to a guy on things that matter to him, hoping that you will connect. If you lie, you will be caught in another circumstance and you will lose his trust in you. Talk to your guy and let him know about your perspective. Avoid brutal truth if you do not like his taste in music, films, and fashion to mention but a few. Just make sure you do not lie to him.

11. Try Flirting

😁

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In case you have no idea what to say to a guy you like, you can try to be flirty. You can look his way for several minutes to capture his attention. If the guy notices you, you can smile and look away for several minutes again. If you are fortunate, the guy will walk right up to you and start talking to you. Under these circumstances, you do not have to worry about what to say to the guy. Play along with his conversation. If the guy is attracted to you, he will ask for your number to keep in touch through calling or texting. He might be anxious talking to you as well. Therefore, the chances of him saying something stupid are high. Do not make fun of the guy; instead, make him feel comfortable with you. However, if the guy avoids you even after you have tried on several counts to flirt with him, do not be discouraged. You should know that he is not the one for you.

12. Make Him Feel Useful

It is a common thing to see a guy helping a woman wholeheartedly. They like feeling useful and appreciated and this makes their ego soar. When you are nervous to talk to a guy, you can try and make him feel useful by borrowing his pen or paper. This will create a great opportunity to talk to him. If you are lucky, the guy will start a conversation with you. It is likely he will enquire about what you are doing; therefore, you should come up with an answer. Such a conversation ends up talking about your work and his.

13. Laugh with Him

😍😍😍 #blacklove

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Laughing with a guy is a smart move for people who do not know how to strike a conversation. However, only a woman who knows how to crack a joke should use this method. You can come up with a joke that will make you laugh genuinely, or you can turn an embarrassing situation to be funny. This will make you laugh genuinely. We all know laughter is contagious. Therefore, your laughter will make the guy laugh. This connection will make the guy start talking to you. Maintain the flow of the conversation and try to impress him. If in the end, things turn out well for you, the guy might ask you for your number. However, this does not mean you start texting him immediately. Let him reach out to you first.

14. Have Diverse Knowledge

A woman who knows her way around through any conversation is a woman worth having. Having diverse knowledge of everything is a great way to start talking to a guy you like. Use this knowledge to show off just a little bit. Avoid coming on too strong, otherwise, you will intimidate him. If the guy is attracted to you, he might ask you to text him your number. This is a great way to hook up with any guy you wish. Your knowledge is your best asset. Talking to a guy is easy once you get to know how to do it. You do not have to go out of your way to impress any guy; rather make them win your affection. With these pointers, you will master how to be a confident strong woman and appear knowledgeable. If you manage to break the ice for the first time, then you have an opportunity to get a guy like you.

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