Everyone prefers Beautiful to Ugly
It is understood and obvious that everyone wants a beautiful thing by their side. We don't go to the market and purchase something that is not nice to look at. Nor would a guy want to date someone who is not even average to look at. The tendency to desire something that is beautiful is human. But if those who are not as lucky in the looks department understand this psychology, then it gets much better for them to lead a normal and happy life.
It can be devasting to be born ugly. A girl would realize that she is not even half as beautiful as her friends by the time she enters her teens. Her blissful childhood comes to an end when she realizes that guys prefer her cuter looking friends over her. She is often made fun of and called ugly by her friends and classmates. It is natural to feel depressed and insecure in life then. At that time, the parents of that ugly child have to play a major role. There are cases of some parents belittling their ugly child. Nothing could be worse than that. The ugly child is made to suffer from verbal abuse both at home and in school for a fault that is not at all hers.
The ugly person has to understand that there is more to life than just good looks. Motivate the child to find out her talents. Encourage her to study well, groom herself to the best of what can be done and to rise above others in her preferred field. Soon, the world will forget her flaws and peek into her real talented self. There are a plethora of ugly people in the world who have become a part of the rich and famous lifestyle.
What it really feels like to be UGLY
To make it personal, I was always conscious amongst guys. I could never just go out of the house in whatever I was wearing because I was always too scared to show my real self to the world outside. Even to run basic errands, I used to sometimes takes hours dressing up in front of the mirror. My fat body was the result of hereditary issues. No matter how much I starved myself or exercised, I could not lose weight easily. There was a point in my life, when I just got fed up with my diet plans and just started living life. I decided to divert my attention and interests to writing. Today, I make more money than most of my good-looking friends. I have chosen to remain anonymous to the outside world, and I feel comfortable in reaching out to them with my knowledge and words rather than my real self.
But this kind of wisdom came very late in life. I hate to admit it; however, there were times when I used to spend hours crying alone in my room. The label of being ugly was a big black spot in my life. I have done many stupid things to win some guys attention and even dressed up in revealing clothes. I was so insecure in life, and I got so desperate for love and attention that I went down to really stupid ways. After facing a lot of backlashes, after being laughed at and after being sidetracked by my friends, I discovered my true purpose in life.
Pictures with friends are impossible
Holidaying with friends is also impossible
I know it is stupid but I cannot stop thinking about it
A real incident which made me feel very UGLY
This incident dates back to my college days, and even now when I think about it, my heart stabs with pain. It was prom night - one of the most dreaded events in college for me because I know none would ask me out. Just like every other year, I used to attend the prom night with a female friend who too was not pretty. We hung out most of the time and shared a lot of our problems.
Just an hour before the prom night, a guy in my class, tall and handsome, called me and asked me to go to the prom with him. I could not believe it. It was like one of my craziest dreams come true. I dressed up quickly ( I always had that pretty black dress, just in case). I applied my makeup painstakingly. Even my parents gave me a nod of approval, and everything seemed surreal. He came to pick me up in his car, and together we headed to the event.
Things were not as rosy as they did in the beginning. As I entered the hall, my classmates started whispering and laughing looking at me. I heard someone say, 'And the Ugly Duckling Arrives.' When I looked over to my shoulder to see my guy's reaction, to my horror, I noticed that there was no one besides me. He left me alone and joined the crowd to make fun of me. Time stood still, and the floor slipped from underneath my legs. I had never felt so ugly or so stupid in all my life.
It could more than a month for me to get back to normal again. But I realized something then that I have to rise beyond looks in life. It was the turning point in my life and had made me very strong.
Beautiful or Ugly - Nothing lasts forever
A very famous quote that most of us are aware of is "Nothing lasts forever, not even beauty." As and when you age, your pretty hair will become grey and brittle, your flawless skin will have wrinkles, and your beautiful eyes will need glasses. Beauty is a very temporary attribute. What remains permanent is your nature, your talent, your attitude and your knowledge. Being born beautiful is not in your hands, but to die beautifully is all in your hands.
Examples of some great men and women who very ugly
Some famous women in Hollywood and Bollywood are famous despite their ugly looks. These people have risen above their looks and made it to the top. These people have earned respect and fame with their talent. One such example is that of Sandra Bernhard. Up close and personal, this woman looks really ugly, but she managed to become one of the most sought-after television personalities because of her talent and her dialogue delivery.
There are many males on this list as well. David Schwimmer has heard it many times in his life about being ugly. Despite this, he never got insecure in life, and he became really famous in showbiz with his talent. Our very own Donald Trump is another one of those males who does not look very good but has made it on the list of the top most essential men in the world.
All these people had talent in other areas which made them establish themselves in life. There are many other actors and actresses, and people who do not possess that kind of skill set or luck in life. So what do such average ugly people do in life? Well, each person has a unique talent in life. The sooner you find your talent, the sooner your life gains some purpose. Take examples from these famous and ugly people in life, and you will not feel so low in life.
How I've made my peace with being ugly
I felt that if you are born beautiful, you are fortunate in life and those few pleasures of life which ugly people never have, come to you very easily. Ugly people never get unwanted attention from men. Ugly people don't get stared at all. Ugly people don't get asked out by men.