How To Get Over A Guy You Never Dated

Unrequited love sucks, right? It's ridiculous how you guys technically didn't date but you can't get over it. Don't worry, we've all been there at some point in our lives! There is always some part of you that hopes that the guy will change his mind but sometimes, it isn't meant to be... Here are our top tips for getting over a guy you have never dated.

Even if you never dated him, it's okay to feel a bit sorry for yourself and wallow in your feelings. Having a good cry in front of a romantic movie will do you a world of good, and treat yourself to your favorite ice cream. Getting over your idea of what could have been a perfect relationship is sometimes harder than getting over an actual relationship. Why? Because you can't get out of your head that you ALMOST had something perfect; it's all about wanting the unobtainable.

When you realize it's never gonna happen, the worst thing you can do is lock yourself up in your room and cry for weeks. It may seem impossible to get out of bed right now, but chin up, things will get better. What seems like the worst time of your life truly isn't. Stop obsessing about that guy you never dated and make the most of the change in your life. Get out and about! Visit new places, spend quality time with friends and family, plan an amazing vacation. Whatever you do, make it so amazing thhat you will have absolutely no time to focus on that guy!

It was never realistic - you thought that guy you never dated was pure perfection. Though we always think that our loved ones are absolutely perfect, we are only human. No one is perfect, not even that guy you love, and no matter how amazing he seemed to be. Putting him on a pedestal would have made for an unequal relationship, and therefore an unhealthy one. The sooner you realize that, the easier it will be to move on.

Sometimes, it's the simplest things that will help you turn over a new leaf. Looking back on those old texts, searching for signs that the guy that you never dated is just in denial and is actually infatuated with you won't help anyone. Slide and press delete, girl, and don't be tempted to go back down memory lane with old texts. A text message that you thought was a red flag may have been innocent for him. And to be honest it's kinda creepy to hold onto that kind of thing if there is nothing behind it. That's how to get over it!

Yes, I know I'm stating the obvious, but sometimes you are just so into someone you forget that you guys technically never dated. Although it hurts so bad, you have to use your head, not your heart. Isn't it better to not be with someone who isn't into you anyway? Show him you know how to bounce back and get over that minor setback, and you can get on with the rest of your life! Not to be totally pessimistic about relationships, not at all, but when there isn't that connection, you have to deal with breakups, cheating, and arguments. Is it really all worth it? You deserve someone that loves you as much as you love them, and the best is yet to come. You won't regret that fact you guys never dated in the future!

The guy already told you he's not interested, so stop looking for signs he's just scared to admit his feelings because he's an emotionless guy and he's in denial. You can't force someone to fall in love with you! Sadly, there is nothing you can do. It's his loss, and you will eventually find someone who is even more amazing. Falling for a guy who doesn't feel the same is a part of life that everyone has gone through, and unfortunately, you guys are no exception. You will slowly and surely get over him.

Right now, it feels like you will never get over that guy, but you will feel utterly ridiculous when you look back in a few years' time. In your 20s you will have long forgotten about that high school crush that you never dated. When you are 40 that guy you stalked on social media in your 20s will have completely slipped your mind. Life's too short to be fixated on the negatives. Take it as a positive opportunity to learn what you fully want from a relationship.

Social media is a tricky thing. It is great for seeing what your loved ones are up to, but you can easily get the impression you know people from what they post. Even when you say you are over the guy you never technically dated, it's hard seeing him post photos looking hot, or having the time of his life. How can he be so happy when you are so miserable? Don't take it the wrong way, he isn't thinking of you. Instead of dreaming of a life that almost happened, get to muting (not unfollowing) that guy on social media. Why not unfollow? When you 're having a rough time on a night out, or you can't sleep at night, you will follow him again and come across as quite the stalker! Just hide him from your timeline for now, and live your life! This will seriously help you get over the situation!

Just move on and get over it, literally. Have a girls' night out, flirt with that cute barman or that hunk who keeps making awkward eye contact with you that you have always politely ignored. Sometimes, you need a physical change in your life to move on. Give your undivided attention to someone new and not to that guy you never dated. Before long you will have long forgotten your unrequited love and what almost happened. The only way you'll move on is by actually getting started!

Nothing gets you readier for the day ahead, and nothing makes you more confident, than a sassy girl-power playlist. Get on Spotify and make sure you add a heck of a lot of feel-good songs. Put it on before going on a girls' night out, or before you have to see the guy you never dated at work or school. You can walk with confidence, without stopping and staring at him! Here are some confidence-boosting songs we recommend you add: - That's My Girl - Fifth Harmony - Sorry Not Sorry - Demi Lovato - New Rules - Dua Lipa - Hell No - Ingrid Michaelson - Green Light - Lorde

While you're still sulking in your room, grab your laptop and type out everything you feel. Even if you don't feel like talking to anyone, just writing everything down will help you express your feelings and also understand your thoughts. You will feel less stressed about recent events and reading your thoughts will remind you of why you are moving on. It will also help you realize that dating him is never going to happen and it's not worth getting your hopes up.

Once you have finished writing, stop thinking "what if I was too clingy?", "Should I have not called him?", "Should I have not said anything?". You are you and you shouldn't change yourself just so someone will like you back. There is nothing you can change and even if there was, it wouldn't be you. Don't regret anything, and don't change yourself for anyone, especially for someone you never even dated! Once you realize this, you can really move on and get over the guy!

I am not saying you have to cut the guy you never dated out of your life forever, but ask for some space. Don't hang out if it's just the two of you; only meet when mutual friends are around, and that's if it is absolutely necessary. Take some time out to just be you and get out of your crush's hair. It's not a breakup, but for you it sure feels like it, so take similar steps to a breakup. The next time they see you, you will be care free and happy with whatever life has in store for you next.

Sounds like something your parents would say, right? They aren't wrong! There are more than 7 billion people in this world, and though at the minute they can't even compete with your unrequited crush, once you move on and your life is changing, you should open up and let them in. If you focus on that guy who you never dated and you will never date, you are just wasting your time. Slowly but surely, you will find someone amongst those 7 billion people who will be your soulmate. Before you know it, you will get over it!

After the tears comes the acceptance phase. It's not the easiest phase, but you have to sum up the situation with a clear head. If you were just hooking up and he made it clear from the beginning that he wasn't into commitment, it isn't your fault, but you have to remember he was honest. If he strung you along, remind yourself you almost ended up with a player. What's done is done. Time for you to move on and get over the setback.

If you guys were technically more into hooking up than actually dating and he STILL hasn't come back to collect his things, it's time for a spring cleaning! He will never come back to pick up his belongings. There is no point in making yourself suffer more, sniffing his tee, or keeping his jumper as your pajamas. You have to get mean and throw his things away. You have to be selfish and think of yourself first! If he hasn't already been back to collect his stuff, he can't have been that important!

Not only is the guy not interested in you in that way, but if you stalk his new squeeze, he will also think you are an obsessive stalker, making any future romantic interests steer clear of you! Avoid looking through his friend list on Facebook and looking at friends of friends of friends...even if you have no friends in common, you may appear in their "you may know..." section. Yikes!

If the guy kept making you think you were almost there and you were going to become official, it's good you're free of him. That's not the type of guy you want to be with. You don't want to be in a relationship with someone who plays mind games, and if he is already playing them without actually dating you, that's pretty low. Every time you miss him, instead of becoming nostalgic and thinking about what almost happened, think about what a douche he was to let you down. It will stop you from being hung up on him for too long and will help you move on.