Don't Wait Too Long: When To Say I Love You For The First Time

Ideally, there nothing like the perfect moment to say you love him for the first time. Do it as soon as you realize your love for him is real.

By Gerald Matiri
Don't Wait Too Long: When To Say I Love You For The First Time

The Right Time To Confess Love For The First Time

Falling in love is like that moment you fall out of an airplane with a parachute. Not so many people want to go first, but someone has to do it and it could be you. Who said you have to wait until your new guy says he loves you? As long as you truly love him, why not let him know? However, timing is important and there are a few signs that will show you it’s time to express your feelings. It will take time before you fully understand a new boyfriend, so you have to be patient. Like any other process in life, there’s a learning curve in dating: some lovers are quick while others are slow learners. Some, who like to experiment, have a lot of information concerning dating while the rest who are timid, know too little. It doesn’t matter how many boyfriends you have had in the past; what counts is whether you’ve been committed to your partners. Your relationship is already intense, and you are wondering when to say you love him for the first time. What is the right time? Some will tell you to wait till six months pass since you started seeing him, but will you be feeling the same and what if he changes his mind? You don’t have to follow a particular timeline; it is not important to do that as in the longer run it is just your heart; so follow your heart. While there’s no set timeline you are supposed to follow, there are particular signs that will help you make the big decision of saying “I love you” for the first time. No matter what, listen to your heart even as you do what you feel is right.

Reasons To Tell Him You Love Him

To stay in the limelight: You are a wonderful girl and you love this guy. You want to know if he feels the same towards you. If he doesn’t reciprocate, consider him the loser and not you. If he says he loves you too, then you will have a great romance and nothing compares to two people who love each other. You are not getting any younger: Time is moving and you get older each day. This is the right time to risk because no dating journey is a safe game. Go wild and be carefree while you still have the time. He needs to know it: Whether it’s a good or bad thing, your boyfriend deserves to know it. You have no right to keep it to yourself. And you’ll never know how he feels until you take the initiative. To explain the reason for your recent weird acts around him: when you are in love, you send unusual signs such as sudden change in your dressing style and changing your route around the school. He might get the clues, but not fully understand them. Declaring love is the only thing that will explain that.

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When To Say ‘I Love You’

1. If you are sure you are in love with him

There are so many things you could be feeling about him but they do not matter if you are not in love. In your heart, you need to have the surety of what it feels like to love him. Perhaps it is your first time to fall in love, and you didn’t know that all of a sudden you could feel so wonderful, and for that matter, you are sure this is love. It could be just a nagging feeling and no matter what it is, you must ascertain that it’s true love. After you determine that indeed it’s love, you are ready to shout it. Go ahead and tell him, “I love you’. Particular feelings will help you know that it’s the right time. So, don’t be afraid to show your beloved what you feel because he probably feels the same. It doesn’t mean he has to be the guy you will spend the rest of your life with him. The only certainty you need is if what you feel is true love. You cannot lie to yourself about being in love - you always know it.

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2. Be yourself the first time you say ‘I love you’

If you want your relationship to start on the right foot, you should be true to yourself first. You will be opening yourself up to the cute guy when you tell him how you feel. Do not try creepy solutions like taking alcohol and drugs to help you confess love for the first time. You must be in a position to speak your mind confidently; otherwise, you will send the wrong message to him. Declaring love for the first time is a good way to set the guidelines for how you will be handling situations in your relationship.

3. You can plan for it or not

It all depends on your personality. If you like organizing things, it would help to plan the right time to say you love him. Planning minimizes the nervousness and pressure of speaking the three most powerful words. On the other hand, if you are a spontaneous person, you can declare your love for him if a moment feels right. This way, you will not worry about perfecting it when the right time comes.

4. Text him flirtatious messages

You have been talking to this cute guy for a while and by now you know what he likes or dislikes. Do not be afraid to get naughty through text messaging. He will most likely reciprocate your flirty text. Ensure that he likes you in a more-than-just-a-friend manner. Start by sending a late night text and see how he responds. Within a few days, you will be communicating intimate stuff and you will be in a position to declare your love for him in a flirty and cute way. Whenever you text him while he’s in bed, get naughty with him by asking a silly question as you move on to sexier stuff.

5. Act before speaking

It is easy to say the three cute words - I love you - but showing is better than simply stating. The way you act around him or treat him while you tell him how you feel matters a lot. Actions are the true test of how you feel. Are you happy around him and what are you doing to make him happier? Your actions will speak louder than your words. He will know you are sincere depending on how you treat him. It doesn’t matter how many times you say you love him, you need to prove it.

6. When you think you can do just anything for your love

Being in love brings a mixture of emotions besides love itself. You can do anything because you feel at peace, accepted, and excited. When you realize this, stop and tell him how you feel for him. You will know it is true love if all you want is to make him happier. You will be willing to do anything you can for him because you have found the one. Telling him you love him should be your next big thing.

7. Declare your love after the fifth date

How many times have you gone out with this cute guy? If they count five and he hasn’t told you what he feels, it is not too soon for you to say you love him the first time. It may seem early, but it is totally acceptable whether you do it in-person or via text. Since you’ve been dating long enough, you shouldn’t be afraid and you can rest assured that he will not be scared away once you confess your love for him. If you cannot hold your emotions any longer, don’t wait too long. Ideally, you should confess love after a couple of months. But the sooner you do it, the sooner you figure out what direction your relationship is going to take. If you love every second you spend with your cute date, then its time you take the plunge.

8. Are you prepared for a commitment?

Do you believe you are capable of loving him the right way? Words might come empty most of the times and a relationship involves more than just offering the love feeling; you must be sure you can handle more commitments. Before saying you love him over a text, be sure you are ready for tasks that unfold. Apart from physical commitment, you will have to engage your emotions throughout the relationship. Some people say that there is a time for love, but people should make time for love. If you are ready to make a relationship work, stop lying to yourself or make empty promises. When you find someone to love, find time to be with him and let him know what you feel because you might regret if you don’t. What is preventing you to declare love for the first time to a cute guy? Is it that you are too young or emotionally unprepared? If you are sure you love him, just say it.

9. What’s your compatibility?

Do you think you can spend the next five years with this man? Are you sure this is not infatuation clouding your judgment? True love is not something trivial; before you say the three words, make sure you are compatible with this cute guy. This man should mean more than just a weekend date before you spell out your true feelings towards him. But do not wait too long as you might lose him. He might find another potential girlfriend, so it’s imperative that you express your feelings sooner than later.

10. You have to get closer the first time

Spend more time with your friend especially ‘alone-time’. Make sure you are comfortable with each other and that’s when you can crave for each other’s company and miss one another. Initiate things you can do together, text him to ask for advice when you are stuck, and seek all means that will develop a great bond between the two of you. Just because you are a woman, it doesn’t mean you cannot tease and flirt with a man. Before confessing your love to him, get out of the friend zone. Flirting through text messages can help you move out of the friend zone and he will start looking at you in a different way.

11. The first time must not be rushed

If you fall in love quickly, you might convince yourself that your love needs reciprocation, particularly when you consider your relationship to be serious. If you’re both intimate, you want to spend more time together; but are you in love? There are a lot of new lovers who mistake love for lust and this is a blunder you must not commit. Saying ‘I love you’ is making a promise you must fulfill. So, you cannot make a promise when you are not sure. Saying too soon can make your partner doubt your credibility while waiting for the right time shows that you are mature enough to contemplate your promises.

12. It’s normal to feel anxious the first time

Fearing to say it is totally normal. Many girls wait for their boyfriends to say the loving words first. While you may be very sure about your feelings for him, you never know how your partner feels. This is the main rationale for your anxiety. It would be easier if he declared his love for you first because you will know exactly what he wants. But now that he is taking too long, you should take the initiative. Will he say it back? What if he is freaked out? You will only know it once you build the courage and say it.

13. Let him know your intentions before confessing love

It is important that you give him clues before actually revealing your feelings. Make him see how serious you are with your relationship and when you get time for a meaningful conversation, mention how special he is to you and how much you enjoy his company. If he was after a fling, he will know it’s time to step out and save you the agony. You cannot shock your partner with your confession. Make it obvious first that you like him so you know if there is any chance of acceptance or rejection. Don’t forget that a man can reject your love even if he sees you as a great woman. But there are ways you can play your cards right and avoid rejection. Work your way through his heart so he may like you without feeling like he is being arm-twisted with your confession. To play the game right, start by knowing him better and create a good first-time impression! Arouse his curiosity so he starts thinking that you are the perfect companion. If you are shy, get to know him through common friends and give them hints that you like the guy. It won’t take long before the friends start making suggestive comments about the two of you, and that’s when he’ll get clues about your intentions.

Young Girls Must Learn To Fly Without Perching. You might already know that guys use their friends to make a girl fall. They script up acts to help him prove his love to you. The popular one is when the guy asking you out hands the phone to his friends, or when you meet the friends for the first time; you begin to hear stuffs like "so, you are the one driving this guy crazy everyday. He can't stop talking about you. What did you do to him?" Bla bla. If you scale through that like a bag of bullshit that it is, he will play the meet my siblings card. He will ask you to say hi to his brothers or sisters or even let you meet them. You will of course hear stuffs like, our wife, what are you guys waiting for. You are the best person we have ever seen with him. Bla bla. If you haven't fallen stupidly and completely into his arms by now, then he will have no choice but to activate the "meet my parents" card. Lol...you can't say no to African moms even when you really want to. Not after she has called you "My daughter" and has given you a moral laden story of how she met his father. Bla bla. We all know the truth in these. Guys are taking this dating games to another level. I heard this one guy in Abuja gave his Iphone7 to this beautiful lady he just met so she could receive his call on it because the lady was hesitating to give out her number. Smooth guy. The girl smiled, took the phone and said thank you. She got home, threw the sim away and never heard from the guy again. 😎 A bird called Eneke, in a popular Igbo folklore once said "Since men has learnt to shoot without missing, I too, Eneke, has learnt to fly without perching."_ One would ask... These tricks are expensive, stressfull, stupid and unnecessary and why would guys go through all that just to date a girl? But the right question is. Do all the guys who apply this stressfull, tactful, expensive and unnecessary means want a serious relationship? Answer is NO. Unfortunately, more than half are just having fun. I advise ladies to be like Eneke the bird. To fly without perching. ____ (C) #SocialAndSmart #SocialFaculty | image: Regina.daniels

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14. Humor can help the first time you confess love

It pays to show off your funny side. The simplest way to get closer to a man is by being light-hearted. Do not show him a serious attitude as it will scare him off. Guys like funny girls because humor takes away the awkwardness in any type of conversation. You may not have much to talk with him, but making light jokes will let him open up more. Make sure you smile and he will like you back. As you make jokes around him, let your body language show your intentions e.g. leaning on his chest or biting your lips. He will definitely get a clue where your relationship is going.

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15. Do not say ‘I love you’ the first time during sex

There are countless opportunities to say I love you for the very first time, but not during intimacy. You can say it amidst a conversation, when riding a roller coaster or when having dinner…the list is endless. But telling a man you are in love with him during intercourse is not okay. During intercourse, the heart is normally over-excited and so you may not be in your right mind to make a major declaration. Even someone who is lusting can declare love during an intimate moment due to the heightened emotions running through his mind. Wait when you calm down - neither sad nor exited.

Conclusion

Love is one of the most powerful words - it can be overwhelming and at the same time awkward, evoking exciting emotions. The right time to say you love him for the first time is the moment you feel it. Yes, it’s that simple, but you don’t need to say it too early to avoid losing its meaning. Before anything else, you must have a slight idea about how he feels about you. As you say the three magical words, make sure that they create the impact you’ve always intended. After declaring love, you cannot turn back because you have entered into a binding contract. He may accept or decline your proposal but there’s no need to worry. All in all, the love declaration will make your relationship more meaningful. You will feel happier than ever before.