25 Obvious Signs She Is Cheating On you

If you are keen enough, you will always be in a position to pick up the key signs that your girlfriend or wife is cheating on you. The latter seems to be the case because there are certain signs that your woman will exhibit from time to time, either knowingly or unknowingly. And that should give you an inkling of what your next move should be.   If you ever experience this, the best thing for you to do will be to either make things right or walk away. Without further ado, here are some of the signs of cheating to look out for:

Okay, let’s be honest for a moment, you’ll not be considered paranoid to think your girl is cheating when she keeps doing her thing without including you. If she loves you as much as you think she does, then she will do everything in her power to make you a part of all that she does.    A relationship involves two people. As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. Not including you as much as she is supposed to might be a sign that she has another partner to tango with. And that, needless to say, should be reason enough for you to worry. If she displays this sign, then you should start considering the possibility of your girl being a cheater.

When your woman starts avoiding obvious questions, then she is definitely exhibiting signs that she is cheating (or at least entertaining the possibility of doing just that). According to psychology, asking questions evokes a subliminal response that can give you away prior to your verbal response.   The latter knee jerk response might unveil her as a possible cheat and so the best thing for her to do is avoiding the question altogether. If she keeps on avoiding questions especially about her male friends in the “friend zone” or “bro zone” brackets, then there is a problem. Just know that it is a sign that someone is being let out of the friend zone from time to time.

Whether she is planning on cheating with a coworker or a best friend, your woman will always want to know where you are and what you are doing. More often than not, it might be because she cares about you, misses you, or wants to feel included. But in some cases, she just wants to know where you are so that she can hook up with that “side piece” without being caught. The latter always happens especially in the case of a long distance relationship. A well-seasoned cheater will always make plans based on your plans – which translates to never getting caught. So if she does this more often than normal, it might just be a sign that she is a cheat, and a prolific one for that matter.

At one point, your woman loved everything about you - including all of your imperfections. But now, everything you do disgusts her; from the way you chew your food all the way to how your bowels move during digestion (silly I know, but it happens). If you notice the latter happening, it doesn’t mean that you are paranoid. Rather, it might be a sign that your relationship is about to crumble like feta cheese. Women always try to push you away so that they feel less ashaed when they cheat. Always be on the look out for this because it is a strong indicator that your woman is a cheat.

One of the strongest signs of cheating is when your woman starts falling in love with her work more. During the good old days, your woman just couldn’t wait to come home and cuddle into a bundle with you as you two watched an episode of Game of Thrones. Then all of a sudden, she now seems more interested in boring data entry at the office than ever and keeps coming home late, usually glowing and with a funny walking style.   I hate to be the bearer of bad news but she might be a cheat as being a workaholic out of the blue is often a strong sign of infidelity. She could be spending time with a male co-worker instead of you. If this happens in your relationship, maybe it is high time that you start considering the possibility that she is a cheat and start counting your losses. 

Ever gone through your woman’s things and bumped into some new, sexy lingerie that you’ve never seen before? Yes? Then you should start getting worried because it is a sign that she is a cheat. A woman only buys lingerie to look sexy for her man. And if she is hiding it from you, then you can bet that there is someone else eating from your cookie jar.   It might be that buddy-buddy coworker who is always skulking around her during the company’s long distance “business trips” (and I use the term business trips loosely).   On the flipside, there is the possibility that she was hiding the new, sexy underwear so as to surprise you during your wedding or dating anniversary that is just but a fortnight away. But then again, don’t keep your hopes up because when she does this, 9/10 times your woman is just nothing but a fully fledged cheat probably with a few years of experience. And that should scare you.

Guys might be good at throwing their girlfriends off the scent when they are suspected of cheating. But trust me, women are BETTER at playing that game. The moment your girl-cum-double agent suspects that you are onto her, she is going to compile enough falsified cheating evidence on you right before shoving the folder down your throat.   Before you know it, you will be too busy choking on your explanations to follow the leads you had on her. Therefore, if she keeps on doing this to you, chances are that she is a cheat that is desperately trying to cover her tracks. You should definitely watch out for this sign, especially if she has a knack for throwing smoke bombs at you.

Another one of the obvious signs of cheating is when your girl becomes overly defensive when confronted with cheating accusations. The truth of the matter is that if she is truly innocent, she will either be hurt, shocked, or surprised. But if she is a cheat, trust that she will instinctively switch to her “defense mode” because of the overwhelming guilt that comes with it.    No one likes being caught and so being defensive is something that you should always look out for. You can also try staring into her eyes when confronting her. I bet she wouldn’t be comfortable making eye contact. If anything, it will only seal the deal as a significant sign that your girl is seeing someone else.

People who don’t cheat have absolutely nothing to hide. So if your woman starts acting all cagey with her phone, getting all jumpy whenever you have her phone in hand, then that might be a sign that she is banging someone else. It might be that coworker, the plumber, the pizza delivery guy, or the guitarist from the shady band that plays every Wednesday at the popular bistro downtown. Sidebar – why is it always the guitarist? Okay, moving forward.   If she is cheating, your woman will always keep her phone close enough, and, more often than not, you won’t ever see it. It just shows that there is something that she is hiding that will unquestionably break your heart the moment you unearth it. And what other thing would “unquestionably break your heart” if not the fact that she is banging someone else?     Mm, I wonder.

Any dimwit of a guy can tell the difference between his girl looking good for him and when she is dressing like she is back on the market. And since you aren’t just any dimwit of a guy, when your girl is graduating into a full-time cheat, you’ll take notice. The first sign you need to look out for is how she dresses when going out without you, especially for that girls’ night out she’s been ranting about all week long. She might get a new makeup kit, the sexy organza dress that’s trending (and hugs her figure tightly). If this happens especially when you are in a long distance relationship, it's time for you to officially hang the boots because, well, she is definitely playing you (and winning).

So, your girl who apparently hates working out all of a sudden is spending three hours a day in the gym. She is now interested in pottery and doesn’t even pick up your calls because she doesn’t want interruptions during her “creative process”. Please DO NOT buy that crap because the latter is a sign that she is cheating on you. These signs are almost always the same and the sooner you learn how to decrypt them, the better it will be for you. Make a point of asking her what’s up and decide on your next course of action before it's too late.

If your girl wants to leave you for that robust, muscular “best bud” (read – the coworker she’s been seeing), she will work overtime to make your relationship unbearable. As earlier stated, her ultimate goal is making sure that she is ruining whatever it is that you had so that she can cheat without a shred of guilt.   The latter can happen whether you live under the same roof or are having a long distance relationship. That said, if you keep an eye out for this particular sign, then you will always detect a cheat before it's too late to save face.

If you truly love her, you will certainly take notice the moment she starts ghosting you. So when your relationship takes a twist towards that direction, just know that you aren’t paranoid because she is most likely to insinuate that you are. When it comes to making future plans, your boo will conveniently make herself unavailable or be vague about the plans.   More often than not, she is making herself scarce in order to spend more time with another man. It is painful, but it is also true.

When your woman is cheating on you, her phone suddenly becomes her shoulder to cry on. Inasmuch as she wouldn’t be finding your jokes funny anymore, your girl will always be laughing at her phone. And despite looking like she is having the time of her life, she wouldn’t be eager to share whatever is making her ribs tickle.   There is always some other guy tagging her in funny memes or sending her hilarious Twitter threads. And nothing screams "IT’S OVER" much louder than another man making your woman laugh. If she does this, then it’s a sign that she is a cheat and should end it, effective immediately. Let her go laugh with him at his house, not yours…eating your food and using your electricity to charge that stupid phone.   Okay, scratch that last part. That’s just me being petty.

One of the signs that your woman is cheating is when she avoids eye contact. What most people don’t understand is that staring into someone’s eyes gives away their immediate thoughts. And the same applies when it comes to relationships. You can tell by staring into her eyes that something is wrong, especially if you ask her whether or not she is cheating.   And if she is cheating on you with that hot coworker or when you were having a long distance relationship, her eyes will without a doubt give her away. And even though she might act defensive, her eyes will always give her away. Hence, this is a definite sign that you ought to look out for.

If she is giving it up to someone else, your woman will always look for excuses for having less sex with you. You might start hearing the catch phrase “not in the mood” a lot more since it’s coined for cheats and hence a sign to look out for. At first, you might think you are paranoid. Then you will slowly come to terms with the fact that the love of your life is a cheat and that your relationship, just like Hillary Clinton’s presidential aspirations, is doomed to fail.

Whether you choose to believe it or not, your woman’s closest friends will know when she becomes a cheat. Most of the time, they always have a hand in her woman’s infidelity because every woman has a bevy of trusted friends who not only know everything about her relationships but are aides in her decision making. So if your woman tells them that you became an ass, then they will start staring at you like one.   So if your woman is out there having a good time with another man, one of the most important signs you need to look at is how her friends treat you. If they act a little bit weirder than usual, then something is categorically wrong.

When your woman is a cheat, her friend list will definitely be riddled with a lot of possible suitors. Men always love keeping a close eye on a woman they are having sexual relations with – even if they are with another man.   And apart from being on her friend list, you are most certainly going to see them liking her photos and leaving funny remarks on her social media pages. 9 out of 10 times your woman will be entertaining them under titles such as bro or best friend. Always look out for these guys your woman refers to as bro and best friend. They are the silent partners you’ve been worrying about as far as your conjugal rights are concerned.

“Hell hath no fury than a woman scorned.”   We all have heard the above dictum but don’t know why the wise man who coined it chose to remain anonymous. And as I continue to interact with women, I slowly start to understand why he chose to stay that way. Women are amazingly kind and beautiful creatures...right up to the point where you make the mistake of scorning them.   Long story short, if you cheat on them, they are most likely to cheat and make sure that they have the last laugh. So if you were accustomed to cheating, don’t ignore the signs as the writing is always on the wall. (You can read that comment playing Sam Smith’s Writing On the Wall in the background for emphasis.)

As earlier stated, your woman will almost always sound vague about future plans if she is thinking about cheating. This might come as a sudden change especially if she was always looking forward to hanging out with you all the time. You might want to seek out a relationship counselor because this is a sure indicator that your relationship is headed for TROUBLE (and I use CAPS because it's that serious!). You might think you are paranoid but you can never afford to overlook such signs.

When your love was young, sweet, and full of promise, your girl just couldn’t wait to share everything with you. When she was having an issue at work or with friends, she always opened up. But now she always says that she is fine or tells you not to bother. These are very bad indicators that show your relationship is almost over and you have every right to be paranoid. If she starts being all cagey, then she is planning on being a cheat – if she isn’t one already.

If a girl likes you, then she will do just about anything to be around you. But if it gets to a point where she isn’t clingy anymore and craving for your attention, it means she is getting the attention and satisfaction she wants from somewhere - or someone! - else. So yes, get all paranoid and ask her if she is a cheat because your relationship is on the line and you just have to know where you stand.

In the spirit of not being clingy, your girl might also stop caring. You might act stupid or make a fool of yourself in public but no matter what you do or how paranoid you get, trust me, she won’t even flinch. That’s when you’ll know that she is a cheat and that your relationship, just like hip hop, is dead. At this point, you are better off writing a glowing eulogy of what you used to have rather than trying to revive it.

When your girl is ready to go, nothing you do or say will keep her down. She won’t look forward to meeting your friends or family and might come up with some paranoid or far fetched excuses for you to leave her alone. More often than not, these are just indicators that she is a cheat or that your happy relationship is on the brink of becoming a dysfunctional one.

When your girl wants to cheat, she will always pull a disappearing act when you least expect it. The reason for this is either because she is disgusted by you or is definitely seeing someone else. And the worst thing about it is that there is nothing you can do about it since your relationship will officially be on its deathbed. Any hope to make things work at this point will be futile or simply paranoid.

Finding out that someone you really care about is cheating on you can be a traumatizing experience. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t survive it or you are the only one going through it. Truth be told, most people have been cheated on – the only difference is that most of them will never find out. That said, you should consider yourself lucky that you are now equipped with knowledge of the signs to look out for. If you care for her and still want to make things work, then all you need to do is reach out and tell her how you feel. If it's your fault that she cheated, apologize and try to empathize with her because the cheating might be taking a toll on her too. But if she shows no remorse for cheating, then it's time to hit the road. As painful as it might seem or feel, trust me when I tell you that staying around in a toxic relationship will hurt you even more. So it's better to move on as soon as possible because that will mean you can kick start the healing process much sooner. On the brightside, moving on from her will open up opportunities for you, including finding a hot, mature woman who sees the value in you and appreciates you.