150 Conversation Starters For Kids Over Dinner And More

These are conversation starters for dinner with your family! Your kids and teenage children, will appreciate the positive memories you make with them!

By Nicole Muir
150 Conversation Starters For Kids Over Dinner And More

Conversation Starters For Meaningful Family Discussions With Your Kids

Can you remember a great family memory? If you can, chances are this memory is from a time of great quality bonding, filled with thought-provoking conversations, joy and laughter. Why not help create these wonderful memories for your kids as well? Kids enjoy being actively engaged in conversations. They are also known for asking a lot of questions, which is great, but why not reciprocate and teach them the value of two-sided conversations? Kids love to learn! Whether this is about themselves, others, or subjects. Generally speaking, kids were born to be information sponges. As we get older that desire to learn can change, which is why creating these habits with your kids is a great way to set them up for better communication skills and the desire to learn in the years to come.

Life is filled with distractions

There are never-ending "To Do" lists. Work is extending into after hours. Technology is easily accessible. These are just examples of the numerous distractions that rob parents of quality family time with their children. Dinner time is a great way to practice a distraction-free environment and implement these conversation starter questions, in order to develop lasting memories that can impact your children's confidence, self-value, and parenting style in the future. These questions don't need to be just used during dinner time, but breakfast time or any other time you have the opportunity to spend time with your kids. With often crazy work schedules and balancing daily life we can use these questions in numerous ways to fit in ways to communicate.

Examples of how so use these questions with your kids!

At the dinner table

As said previously, the dinner table is a great time to use these questions because usually, the entire family is together, making family interaction with everyone easier. This leaves more room for the whole family to engage in conversation as well as practice communication skills such as eye-contact. There are probably very few moments everyone in the family is together at once, so take advantage of this great time while you can!

After dinner

Here is a fun way to change up the flow of the night: instead of sitting down to watch tv or go your seperate ways for the night, try clearing off the table and make room for dessert and conversation. By then the stress of the day may have subsided and you can enjoy family time more.

While cleaning/ cooking

Use this time to have fun doing something that may start to feel monotonous and boring. Changing it up with fun questions or getting to know you questions can make the time fly by and start becoming a more enjoyable task.

In the car

This may be a difficult one because often we are distracted with the next thing to do while driving, but this is a great time to remove ourselves and focus on our kids when we can't really do much else anyways. It can also set the whole family up for more positive moods throughout the day when we feel others care about us enough to spend the extra time during the day to have these discussions.

In place of a family game night

Change up the way you ask each other questions by making it into a game. Try to memorize each others questions and recall them the next week. Or even quiz each other to see how much each person knows about their family members! Remember to make these questions into a game to have fun with it! Try your best not to feel bad if someone doesn't remember something about you and turn it into a fun experience!

Your kids can see your effort, this is what counts!

You may not be much of a conversationalist or don't know where to start with your distraction free family time. You may also have a kid/kids who are unresponsive to your efforts to communicate. Whatever the reason may be, it is important to demonstrate the effort in valuing your kids thoughts and opinions. Over-time you can prove to your child you are there for them, whenever that time comes. When they need someone to speak to, they know they can have trust you and have deep discussions with you.

"The greatest gift you can give someone is your time. Because when you are dedicating your time, you are offering a part of your life that you will never get back." -Unknown

Questions about Goals and Aspirations

These are great conversation starters to learn more about what motivates your kids/teenage child to succeed.

The conversations that may take place following these questions can explain actions you would otherwise not understand. Certain actions your child or teenager does can seem insignificant, but understanding their goals and aspirations can give you help you know how to invest in your child's hobbies or interests. They will notice your support for them and you will feel more confident in how to provide them the best support as well.

1. What would you like to achieve when you graduate high school? When you graduate College? 2. Do you have any short term or long term goals set? 3. What do you aspire to be when you grow up? 4. What is your dream job? 5. Where do you dream of working, if you could work anywhere in the world? 6. If you could choose a goal of being a professional athlete or a singer which would you aspire to be? 7. If you could aim to accomplish becoming the President of the United States or a Famous Rockstar what would you pick? 8. Who is your role model and why? 9. Can you describe your biggest fear keeping you from achieving your goals? 10. If you accomplish world peace, how would you do it? 11. How old do you want to be when you start your dream job? 12. Would you want to start your own business or work for a company? 13. If you were to start your own company, what would it be? 14. What actions do you plan to take to meet your short and long term goals? 15. If you were not to achieve one of your goals how would that impact you? 16. If not achieving one of your goals impacts you negatively, how would you overcome that obstacle or change your plan? 17. Do you like to write down your daily plans or just think about them? 18. Do you want to live a simple life or an extravagant life?

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Questions for your younger kids

Conversation starters to engage your younger kids in critical thinking as well as fun topics

Some of these questions can be used for all ages, such as with your teenage child, but are a great way to encourage critical thinking in your little ones. Having these types of conversations encourages better communication, english skills and can teach them how to effectively explain their thoughts, values, ideas and more! The english language, or any language for that matter, is best learned by practice! Dinner time is a fantastic way to help your younger kids practice english without them even realizing it!

19. If you could be an animal what would you choose to be? 20. What is your favorite color and why? 21. If you only got to eat one food everyday what would that food be? 22. If you saved your allowance for a year, what would you spend with it when the year is over? 23. Can you remember the most funny memory you have? 24. If you could would you choose to live in the ocean as a sea creature or or on the moon as an astronaut? 25. Do you think family time is important? 26. What is your favorite song? 27. If you could choose pancakes or pasta for dinner, which would you choose? 28. Do you think it is important to ask people how their day was? 29. Do you like to be the talker or listener? 30. How often do you think you should brush your teeth? 31. Do you feel it is important to be kind to everyone? 32. If you could choose to smell flowers or your favorite dessert what would you smell? 33. Is it important to remember to say "Please," and "Thank You?" 34. Do you think it is important to have dreams and goals? 35. Do you enjoy learning new things everyday?

Conversation starters that are fun

At times laughter can be the best medicine

These questions can be used as conversation starters, to lighten the mood or simply to bring entertainment to family time with your kids. A great laugh with your family can be a wonderful memory and create deeper relationships. Laughter can also show your kids you can be light-hearted as well as have serious intellectual conversations. These types of conversations can also be great at relieving stress in the entire families lives and be a great escape for the chaos we all face often.

36. Would you choose to be the one always laughing or the one always making someone else laugh? 37. Can you come up with a joke to make the entire family laugh? 38. Can you make a conversation you can imagine your pet animal having? 39. What was your most embarrassing memory that you can laugh about now? 40. Make up the most hilarious song to make the whole family laugh. 41. If you were a bug, what would you be? 42. What is the best animal noise you can make? 43. Describe your weirdest dream you have had? 44. If kids could make up the rules what do you think they would be? In school, at home, in the world? 45. If you were a furniture designer, what would you design? 46. If you could solve a problem with an invention, what would that invention be? 47. Can you describe your dream home? 48. Say the first word that comes to mind? 49 Have you ever played a prank on someone? If you have describe the prank you did? 50. What is the best prank someone has played on you? 51. What is the craziest Ice Cream flavor you would create and want to try? 52. Who is the most funny person you know and why? 53. If you had 10 seconds to make someone laugh what would you say or do? 54. What is your favorite super power and why? 55. What is the weirdest smell you actually like? 56. If you had the opportunity to hold a snake would you? Why or why not? 57. If you were stranded on an island what survival item would you choose to have if you could only choose one? 58. If you could travel anywhere in the world for fun where would you go? 59. What brings a smile to your face? 60. What would be your ideal vacation? What activities would be your favorite while on vacation?

Questions about school

Dinner time is a great way to ask your kids what their views on learning are, such as how important they think learning is to their future. These can be great for teaching your young kids and teenage children that knowledge is a main key to success.

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61. What is your favorite subject and why? 62. What qualities do you like in your favorite teacher? 63. Is there anything you would change about you classes? 64. What do you enjoy doing during your recesses and lunches? 65. Aside from English, what other languages would you be interested in learning? 66. Do you feel like you could ask for help if you are struggling in a class? 67. Do you learn best by taking breaks often or sitting down to study in one study session and no breaks? 68. Would you much rather learn surrounded by other students or by yourself? 69. Are there any activities or groups you would like to join in school? 70. Do you enjoy English class? If not, what would you change about your English class? 71. How do you like your fellow students in your class? 72. In comparison to other students, do you feel you engage more or less during class discussions? 73. Do you prefer to buy food at school or bring your own food? 74. Are students in your class more creative or realistic? 75. Would you want to try a whole bunch of different sports in school or stick to your current favorite? 76. What is your favorite day of the school week? 77. Are there any memorization tools that work best for you? 78. What is your schedule like in each class? 79. Do you feel you are successful in your classes so far? If not, are there any ways I can help? 80. Do you enjoy learning new subjects or prefer familiar subjects? 81. Do you consider your English writing skills good, fair or not the best? 82. If you had to choose your favorite subject between English, science, or history, which would you choose? 83. Would you like or dislike attending a school where the students were required to wear a uniform? 84. Is it difficult for you to handle peer pressure from other students? 85. Do you believe other students are generally kind to each other? 86. Would you defend someone being bullied or would it be difficult for you to find the courage to? 87. Do you feel accepted and treated fairly by other students in school?

Questions about personal strengths and weaknesses

Conversation starters can be a great tool to teach your kids how to self-reflect!

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As adults, we learn the great importance of self-reflection. This is key in learning what skills to focus on strengthening. Self- reflection can be more easily communicated first in a family setting because your children's comfortability with their family.

88. What do you believe your strengths are? 89. What do you believe your weaknesses are? 90. Do you have any ideas on how you can turn your weakness into a strength? 91. How might your strengths help you in the future, with school, job or personal life? 92. How do you think you practice your strengths every day? 93. Do you believe everyone makes mistakes? 94. What three words would you use to describe yourself? 95. Do you receive criticism well? Why or why not? 96. If you had to give yourself advice from the future, what advice would you tell yourself? 97. Do you believe you practiced good communication skills in the past year? What about the past month? 98. How can you communicate better with your family and friends? 99. Do you focus on other peoples weaknesses or strengths? 100. What was the most difficult lesson you learned this year? 101. How do mistakes help prepare us for the future? 102. If something seems difficult because it is not your strength do you believe you should give up or continue trying to accomplish that task? 103. Would you say you are self-motivated or motivated by others? 104. When was the last time you were angry? How were you able to handle and overcome it? 105. How can your greatest strength set you apart from others? 106. What is your motivation? 107. Do you think it is better to be proud or humble? 108. Describe a difficult situation you have been in and how you overcame it using your strengths? 109. Can you think of any instances where a weakness can actually become your strength?

Questions about general topics

Conversation starters for the entire family to engage in a wide range of topics

These are conversation starters to try with you kids that don't necessarily fall into the categories of dreams, laughter, school or reflection, but are still valuable questions!

110. How would you describe yourself? 111. What is your favorite movie genre? 112. Do you prefer to write or read? 113. Describe the last time you made someone smile? 114. Do you like running or riding a bike more? 115. What is your favorite part of the morning? 116. What types of dreams do you have most often when you sleep? Do you like these dreams or not? 117. Is there a time of day you are most tired? What do you do to energize yourself? 118. Do you enjoy cleaning up more or making a mess? 119. Is it difficult for you to not be impacted by other peoples negative mood? 120. Do you ever get mentally tired? If so, how do you overcome it? 121. Do you believe it is important to live a healthy lifestyle? 122. Do you like to eat small snacks throughout the day or bigger meals? 123. Do you believe kids are under a lot of pressure to succeed? 124. What expectations are different of you in your teenage years versus when you were younger? 125. Are kids given the same opportunities and responsibilities as adults? Why? 126. If you had to choose between drinking water for the rest of year or juice what would you pick? 127. Do you like colder weather or warmer weather? 128. How much sleep do you need at night to feel your best? 129. If you had the opportunity to run in a marathon would you? Why or why not? 130. Do you prefer to be outside in nature or inside? 131. What sport would you choose, soccer or golf? Why? 132. When you feel the most productive what is usually the first thing you do? 133. How can you support your friends to be the best person they can be? 134. What are your favorite snack foods? 135. If you were to open up your own restaurant what food would you serve? 136. What do you think of the phrase "fake it until you make it?" 137. Do you think more positively or negatively about yourself? 138. How do you show people you love or care about them? 139. How would you apologize if you hurt someone's feelings? 140. Is there a word or phrase you say often? 141. What is your greatest fear? 142. How can you overcome your greatest fear? 143. Do you believe you are generally kind to others? 144. Do you have a lucky number? 145. What do you think about most during the day? 146. Do you have a favorite quote? 147. Do you enjoy when the entire family is interactive during dinner? 148. Is it important to follow all the rules, even if you don't agree with them? 149. Now that you are in your teenage years do you feel your values have changed a lot since you were a child? 150. Do you believe your teenage years are meant for mistakes? If so, is it important to learn from these mistakes?

Tips for successful dinner conversations

1. Eliminate Technology

Use of technology is becoming a huge threat to families having quality time, not just during dinner but in general. If isolation from technology is a struggle this should to be practiced daily. This not only can give you the ears to listen, but show your kids you are investing in them, that they are more valuable than the smartphone you have or the laptop. It also demonstrates valuable lessons that face-to-face interaction is important! Eliminating technology from the dinner table opens up more opportunities for quality discussion with these conversation starters.

2. Be completely present

We may be able to avoid the technology distraction, but our minds are always thinking about something. This is where it can be difficult to stay focused on your conversations with your kids. This will take practice just like eliminating technology but is vital in creating lasting memories.

3. Use it as a time to de-stress

This doesn't mean use dinner time as a formal therapy session, but a way to escape from the daily stress we face. Use this quality time with your kids as a way to relax your mind. It can be so easy to let our worries build up and become overwhelmed. When we allow ourselves to engage in positive family time it can make an amazing difference on your stress levels and overall health. The importance of teaching our kids this lesson is important as well. This can demonstrate that relaxation is okay, even great, at times. You can lead by example the need for a strong work ethic as well as time for de-stressing.

Remember, your kids want quality time

Life gets hectic and it is easy to lose track of time, but remember daily that your children want you! They want your attention, they want your affection, they want to know they are loved! These conversation starters do not need to be isolated to dinner time, but anytime you can find to have quality time with your kids. With the questions above, you can be enabled to have quality time with your family and creating lasting memories your kids will cherish.

"Spend time with those you love. One of these days you will say either, 'I wish I had,' or 'I'm glad I did." -Zig Zagler

Time is fleeting

Enjoy the family time you can get. Be mentally present to your fullest. One day these memories will be distant and you can make remembering when your kids were young laughter and joy filled. Time is fleeting, so take joy in the moments we get now!