Is Your Husband Lying To You? 5 Ways To Tell For Sure
Any woman should know when her husband is lying or hiding something. Here are some of the signs to look out for if you ever find yourself in doubt.
Jul 24, 2018
How to tell if your husband is lying to your face?
If you are keen enough, you won’t have a problem noticing whenever your husband is lying. This is because he’ll exhibit certain traits subliminally and if you are careful enough, you interpret them accurately and therefore, coming up with the right course of action. Actually, it’s never that difficult finding out when your husband hasn’t been up to any good as long as you put your mind to it. And if you aren’t good at it, then it’s time to dedicate some time to learn just how to go about it. The first thing you ought to know is that every time your husband hides something from you or lies, there will be a slight change in his behavior. He might either seem a little tense or his voice will sound funny – or both. He might also avoid looking straight into your eyes whenever you confront him and make his suspicions known to you. If you still can’t tell if he is lying, try going through all the information below as carefully as possible. Also, feel free to find extra information on the internet, that is, if you aren’t satisfied with the five tips below. Don’t forget to practice how to read your husband on a regular basis. That’s the only way you’ll become a guru much faster since practice makes perfect. Don’t hesitate to seek help from a professional behaviorist if you have to. He or she will give you incredible tips on how to go about confirming your fears without raising any red flags. Thankfully, there are so many behaviorist experts available online. All you need to do is Google search those nearest to you and make contact.
1. Your husband might be lying if he is cagey
Like I said, it’s always easy to spot a cheating and lying husband. All you need to do is putting trust in your female instincts and the signs will become as clear as crystal. Therefore, the first thing you’ll need to do is stay as calm as possible before paying attention to his overall behavior. The first thing you’ll notice is how cagey he gets whenever you bring up cheating and lying in relationships. The reason for his behavior is because he’s been cheating and lying. On top of that, he’ll do his level best to duck the topic as well as the questions you are busy directing towards him. In extreme cases, he might even confront you about your “nagging” questions and ask if you are doubting him. If he does this, just know he is trying to divert your attention from the truth – which is that he is cheating or lying behind your back. Men often do this to throw their suspicious women off the scent while working behind the scenes to erase their tracks. You should also expect the same outcome whenever you bring same the topic up with his close friends. This is because they already know what your husband has been up to but won’t tell you a darn thing. That should, therefore, be another cue to tell you that your husband has a habit of hiding things from you. Unfortunately, secrets have never done any relationship especially marriages any good. They always sow seeds of mistrust which always end up ruining everything! So, once you’ve established that your husband hides and lies, you should confront him and get to the bottom of things for your own sake.
2. Your husband is lying if he avoids eye contact
They say the eyes are the windows to one’s soul. Therefore, when your husband has made a career out of lies and cheating, he’ll do just about anything to avoid making eye contact. Meaning that every single time you confront him, he will always stare at everything another thing except you. And being the smart female that you are, you should take this with a pinch of salt. This is because avoiding eye contact speaks volumes about your husband’s already questionable faithfulness. If you’re still having doubts about your suspicions, try talking to a close friend who’s been through the same ordeal. Nine out of ten times, you’ll end up being shocked by her revelations. I would, therefore, recommend that once you’ve spotted such signs, make haste and confront him for the sake of your marriage as well as your reputation. Avoiding eye contact is one of the many signs that your relationship is swerving dangerously down the path of destruction. Normally, your husband is supposed to share everything because you became a team once the vows were exchanged. Therefore, when he hides things, he is not only disrespecting your marriage but you as a person. If you aren’t convinced that dodging eye contact isn’t enough, then hold off the confrontation in a jiffy and lookout for other signs. I’m confident you’ll find much more evidence once you embark on digging. And once you’ve done so, confront him and demanding the truth from the horse’s mouth.
3. If your husband shifts the blame to you, he is lying
As earlier said, throwing suspicious people off the scent is indeed a common denominator when it comes to professional liars. If you confront him and your cheating husband won’t hesitate to remind you of your past mistakes and how he didn’t use them against you. Again, feel free to ask any female friend who went through the same predicament when she tried confronting a lying husband. Truth be told, so many women in marriages with lying husbands have gone through the same darn thing. Therefore, once you have identified the tale-tell signs, prepare for confrontation as well as a backlash. And when your confrontation backfires, I strongly advise that you stand your ground. Never allow a lying husband to win or get away with his lies because your marriage will only become worse from that point. Even better, give him an ultimatum after the confrontation. Ask him to either come clean or have the front row seats to your marriage breathing its last. If he loves you as much as he says he does, he’ll come clean no matter how hard as it would be. If he doesn’t love you, then he won’t flinch a muscle. Remember to give him ample time to think about your marriage and his actions before making him choose. That would be a good time to move out and cut communications with him until he comes back to his senses.
4. A lying husband never runs out of excuses
When your husband has a Ph.D. in cheating and telling lies, you’ll notice how easy it is for him to come up with excuses and cover up stories. To him, finding a fitting scapegoat whenever he hides is much easier than telling the plain truth. And if you aren’t careful enough, will always slide under your female lie detector every single time. Therefore, and for the umpteenth time, learning how to spot these signs even if it means asking close friends for advice is always the smarter move. And the moment you suspect that he’s been hiding something from you, confront him and get to the bottom of it. Again, don’t you ever play yourself by allowing him to win? Confront him and demand the truth for the sake of your marriage. And if you aren’t entirely sure about the exact thing he is lying about, act like you already do. Remember to stand by your decision as firmly as possible and only loosen your grip when he chooses to confess. This is the only way to spare yourself from a shitload of issues in the future. At the end of the day, you are his wife and are therefore entitled to the truth - nothing more, nothing less.
5. Your husband is lying if he's facing shows contempt
Among the many signs that point to a lying husband, facial contempt is arguably the most reliable of them all. A lying husband hides stuff from his wife because he has contempt for her. It is as plain and as simple as that. If it was the other way around, then he wouldn’t see the need to tell lies or even cheat on her in the first place. Therefore, the moment you suspect that you have a lying husband who hides and lies, then confront him without any hesitation. The earlier you do this, the better it would be for you. In the process, make sure he understands the position his lying and hiding has put you in. Be vocal about how his cheating ways make you feel. After you’ve done that, give him plenteous time to think about how derogatory his careless actions were to you. If he doesn’t come clean and apology profusely, then you know what to do.
Final word
Contrary to popular belief, finding out whether your husband is cheating/lying or not is very simple! All you need to do is pay more attention while putting some trust in your female instincts. Always confront him as soon as you suspect something fishy is going on so that you can end up catching him off-guard. Don’t shy away from relying on your friends’ sharp instincts in the event that yours aren’t sharp enough. That’s why having a good circle of friends is always encouraged since you can derive so much strength from it! And once you have confirmed the signs that point towards your husband lying or cheating on you, then confront him unexpectedly. Always remember that you have a say in the direction that your relationship is taking. And for that very reason, you’ll need to know if he’s serious about fixing things by telling the truth or losing it all in a heartbeat. The fact is, everyone deserves the very best this world has to offer. And that includes you. When confronting your lying husband and demanding the truth, always prepare for the worst-case scenario. This is because there is a big chance the truth will end up hurting you. The truth might be so harsh to the point of crushing your self-esteem altogether. Always remember that you’re better off being hurt by the truth than living happily with a lie. Therefore, trust your guts and get to the bottom of things once the signs that your husband is lying become obvious!