Why Love Marriage Is Best: Advantages Of Love Marriage

Are you skeptical about tying the knot with your boyfriend? Read on to know why love marriage is the best and what are the advantages of love marriage.

By Amanda Palmer
Why Love Marriage Is Best: Advantages Of Love Marriage

The importance of marriage

Every culture in the world gives importance to marriage. The amount of importance varies but the basic definition remains the same. Marriage is an institution in which interpersonal relationships like sexual and intimate are acknowledged. People marry for financial, spiritual, religious, emotional and many other such reasons. People marry to have children, to continue their race and to have a partner. Marriage is considered important since time immemorial. It holds emotional and religious sentiments for many. These days, live-in relationships have become very common wherein people do not want to get tied down in the bond of marriage. Marriage still holds the utmost respect and importance for many people. There are two types of marriages in the world today - love marriage and arranged marriages. Love marriage is when you marry a partner of your choice and an arranged marriage is when you agree to get married to a partner chosen for you by your parents or society.

When you fall in love

To fall in love is beautiful. No words or emotions can aptly express the feelings a person goes through when in love. Suddenly, everything seems beautiful; all the lyrics have meaning and all the people around seem wonderful. Everyone in their lives should at least once fall in love. The sheer magnanimity of the emotions, the gait to your walk, the spring in your step, the constant smile on your face and the dreams in your eyes all happen because of love. The initial phase of falling in love is purely magical. It is even more heavenly when the same feelings are being felt by your lover and he responds to you in the same way. What more could a person ask for in life? Life feels like perfect bliss and all you want to do is to stay with your love all the time. When the initial phase wears off and you are still madly in love with each other, many other thoughts crop up in your mind. Your falling in love could be out of sheer infatuation, drop-dead gorgeous looks of your lover, easy humor, a kind-heart or many other such qualities. Now that you have fallen in love, you want to know him better. You want to know whether you both have similar interests, each other's likes and dislikes and every other thing. Day after day and month after month, when you get to know each other better, you decide that he is the one for you and that you want to live with him all your life. Then comes the thought of marriage. The very thought of marriage brings about a thousand concerns in your mind. You are more at ease if your parents approve of your choice, but if they don’t it poses another big problem. Should you go against everyone's wishes and go in for love marriage? What if your love marriage does not work out? What if your love marriage comes to a point, where you no longer love him anymore? Well, marriage is a gamble. You cannot predict anything about your marriage. It could be a success and it could also end up in a divorce. People change, circumstances change, feelings change and sometimes all this remains the same and yet priorities change. So, whether or not you should go tie the knot with this partner or wait for another is entirely your own calling. But, one this is sure, there is nothing like love marriage. Read on further to know about some amazing advantages of love marriage.

The advantages of love marriage

One of the biggest advantages of love marriage is that you get the freedom to choose your own partner. You can live your life the way you want to and you choose your partner also according to your likes and dislikes. You don't have to compromise on any ground to make your partner happy. Your partner mostly loves the way you are and does not expect you to do something the way he likes. There is freedom of thought, freedom of speech and freedom of job in a love marriage. There is mutual respect and understanding in love marriage. While it may be so in an arranged marriage too but many times, the partners have to compromise on a number of things just to make their spouses happy and for fear of society. In love marriages, mostly, people have similar interests, hobbies, and goals in life. This makes living with your spouse easier and he or she can relate better to your working style. Love marriage is not an artificially created, forceful amalgamation wherein you are supposed to love a partner just because your well-wishers say so. There is peace of mind and excitement. You don't marry a complete stranger in a love marriage. In love marriage, you exactly know how your partner likes his morning coffee, his favorite food, his favorite color and even some intimate details about him. After your love marriage, you both live in a world of bliss, knowing each other's likes and dislikes and doing things exactly the way your partner likes. You get into a love marriage only after years or months of knowing him in and out. You decide to marry only when you feel he is right for you and if you don't you can quit the relationship at any time. In a love marriage, you exactly know about your partner's financial status and that is a great advantage as there would be fewer tiffs regarding money later on. In a love marriage, you also know how your partner handles his finances and you kind of know about your financial security in life. This is an important advantage as money is quite important in life. Love marriages are not based on the rules of the society and so, one need not worry about dowry or other social obligations. You marry someone because you love someone and not because you want to make others happy. In an arranged marriage, if you come to know that the person you have married is exactly the opposite of whatever you aspired in your partner, you end up with an unhappy life of compromise or fights whereas in a love marriage, you get married only if you accept your partner and want to live with him throughout your life.

The disadvantages of love marriage

As every marriage is a gamble, so can be a love marriage too. There are a few chances of your partner changing after a few years of marriage. You end up in fights and eventually in a divorce. The biggest disadvantage of a love marriage is that none of the partners want to compromise. They both do as they wish and at times compatibility becomes an issue. None fear the parents or the society. Also, if the parents have disapproved of your love marriage earlier, then you have to go through a lot of pain of separation from your parents in a love marriage. Sometimes, if your marriage fails, then you don't have anyone to look up to for support in a love marriage. As there is not elder guidance, at times, there is lack of financial support for both the spouses in a love marriage.

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Disadvantages and advantages of an arranged marriage

The point here is that while any marriage may or may not work, in an arranged marriage, the chances of compromising are higher than in a love marriage. No bond should be forced upon anyone in this world. Only bonds which are made with freedom of mind and heart are true and the rest are all fake. In an arranged marriage, spouses compromise to such a point that one assumes that they are happy. In very few cases, you can say, that the partners met one find day and fell in love and lived happily ever after. The advantages are that the partners stay with each other due to the pressure of the society. The advantages are also that the parents are always there to support. But will this kind of support really help? A marriage which is broken is broken whether love or arranged, it causes the same heartbreak and discomfort. At least, in a love marriage, you are sure of your partner. What destiny has in store for you, none can predict but your chances of happiness are better in love marriage.

Final verdict

The entire concept of marriage can have its own advantages or disadvantages. Looking at the advantages and disadvantages of love marriage, it is quite clear that love marriage is ideally better. The world is a free place. Everyone should be given complete rights to choose their life partner and live their life the way they want. No social obligations or family pressures should force someone to compromise with their own happiness. They say that elders always wish happiness for their children. If that is true, then there should be no problem for them to agree to their choice. After all their children's happiness should be their prime concern in life. They have to understand that there is no guarantee that an arranged marriage will work and a love marriage will not. Both have similar chances of breaking up but at least in a love marriage, their son or daughter will be happy with a partner of their choice. As responsible adults, it is also up to us whether we make proper choices while selecting our spouses. Knowing someone in and out often helps us to make better decisions with our life. Also, one should give every relationship some time. There is no hurry. Know someone to such a point that you know that he or she is the one made for you; whether your relationship can withstand the hard waters, only time will tell. Be in a relationship with someone for a few years and only then decide to tie the knot. This will save you from a lot of heartbreak later on. The advantages of love marriage are more than the disadvantages of love marriage. If you ever have the time and opportunity to fall in love in your life, you should try your best to get into a love marriage with your love. It will make you happy and if you are happy you will make your partner happy and if both of you are happy, you will have happy children and a happy home.


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