Please your man with your mouth and more
Here are your best tips and tricks!
Ladies (okay, men too) let's get real. You need to learn how to please your man with your mouth. Different men like different things, and there are a variety of techniques and positions that will both please him and make it comfortable for you. Remember, be safe. If this is your first time, make sure that you are aware of any possible sexually transmitted diseases that your man may have. You can use a condom while performing oral, although men and women mostly opt out of this option. The main thing to keep in mind is yes, you are out to excite your man, but keep your comfort in mind as well. Oral should be just as pleasurable for you as it is for your man. If you are serious about learning to please your husband or boyfriend, use these 20 tips and tricks to get the (blow) job done right!
Anatomically speaking, let's start at the top: the mouth
Since we are getting serious here, we are going to work anatomically, versus chronologically. Since these tips are designed to help you get your boyfriend or husband to climax, it is important to understand how each part of your body affects the process. Some of these tips are just pure common sense, but they are all important! Tip #1: Make sure your mouth is moist. Yes, I said it. Moist. There is nothing worse than giving your man pleasure with your mouth and it being as dry as sandpaper. If water just isn't cutting it, try out some flavored lubricant. They don't exactly taste like candy, but it will make your lips and tongue slide with ease. You don't HAVE to go down this route, but if anything, make sure that you cure your cotton mouth beforehand. Tip #2: Drool happens. Actually, it helps. Spit is one of the best natural lubricants. If you are providing oral sex for your man, spit on that sucker! He will not only find it erotic, it will help the process along. There is nothing wrong with a little sloppy oral sex! Tip #3: Use that tongue. Swirl it. Slide it. Use it on all parts of his member. Don't just let it lie there in your mouth - get it moving. The more action that he feels, the higher the chance that he will be begging for you not to stop! Your tongue will be your best friend during oral sex. This is the strongest muscle in your body based on size, so use it to your advantage. When your mouth begins getting tired, use your tongue as a filler so you can catch your breath. He will enjoy it and it will give you a bit of a break.
Ladies...please watch your teeth!
Seems like a no-brainer, right? Unfortunately, not all women realize how sensitive this area of the body is on a man. If you just happen to scrape your teeth across the head or shaft...the pleasure may be gone right then and there. Tip #4: Your jaw may get tired. Pay attention to how wide your mouth is. Surround his member, but give some room in case your jaw starts to close out of exhaustion. Practice and experience will help you to develop your jaw muscles so that they won't get tired as quickly. If you accidentally scrape your man with your teeth, he will be sure to let you know. Whatever you do, don't bite him. It is not erotic, and it will hurt him. Use your tongue and some spit to help relieve the sting if you happen to nibble by accident. Tip #5: If you have dentures...take them out. Yes, older women and women with dentures have this advantage. It can really make a difference. Self-conscious or not, your husband or boyfriend will truly appreciate the gesture. Oral is meant to feel good, not hurt.
Next up: the throat please
Ladies, before you become an expert, you need to practice. People laugh when the thought of giving a banana, Popsicle, or sex toy oral pleasure comes to mind, but if you don't get your throat in shape, you may be in for an awful surprise. Tip #6: Practice. Practice. Practice. His member is going to hit the back of your throat. Either your gag reflex is going to act up, or you will have no problems. Gag reflex can lead to vomiting, so practicing can help train your throat to tolerate the intrusion. Tip #7: Go deep. There is nothing better for a guy (be careful of the teeth) than when you go deep. When I say deep...I mean all the way down your throat. Sounds like it hurts, right? Again, that is where practice comes in handy. Tip #8: Go deep and then rock it from there. Just like when it feels like it is all the way down your throat, bob your head from there. There is something about the tip of your man's member hitting that stopping point and knocking against it that will drive him crazy.
Please...your hand is for more than holding
While your mouth is preoccupied, other parts of your body are available to assist you while you perform oral sex. Tip #9: Use your hand to help stabilize your husband or boyfriend's member. By using your hand(s) to surround the base, you will help keep the blood flow in the organ, which will help keep it hard. Tip #10: If you want to please your man, then use your hand to stroke while your mouth is focused on the tip. If he feels movement at the base of his genitals while your mouth is working the top, then there is extra stimulation. Don't be shy - use some pressure. You aren't looking to tickle him, you are looking to keep him stimulated! Many women prefer to give a hand job as they are giving a blowjob because it helps to keep the blood flowing. Since you need to be cautious about how much your jaw is used because it may begin to ache, your hands will be an excellent substitute and time filler. Also, because you can use a little more pressure with your hands, it will help to keep him hard. Make sure you spit on your hand so that there is no chafing.
Use a different position to please your man
There are multiple ways that you can position your body in order to perform the best oral sex. Tip #11: The way that most people envision giving oral is with the woman on her knees. This allows for your man to use his lower body to push and pull while you use your mouth. The longer that you do it, the more tired your knees are going to get, and your neck will tire also if you are on the shorter side. Tip #12: Let him be on top. You know when you sixty-nine? Most women are on top, allowing for them to control the oral sex being performed on the man. Feeling a little more daring? Let him be on top. Remember when I said to make sure that you get your throat in shape? This is a really good position to allow him to slide all the way down. Make sure you have some way of letting him know (other than biting him of course) if you can't breathe or need to take a break. Allowing him to be on top gives him the feeling it would if you were having sex, but it is a lot more sensual and kinky. If you allow him to control the speed and the depth, it may be hard on you if you are not used to it, but boy-oh-boy does it give him the best oral sex ever! Tip #13: Lay on the bed while he is standing at the end of the bed. This is a little hard on his end because he will need to bend his knees or lean into the bed, but it gives the same effect as if he was on top while performing oral. This position allows him a sense of control (many men totally dig that) and allows him to slide down your throat a lot more easily. Tip #14: The old-fashioned way of performing oral is with your man laying down while you are straddling him and conducting business. There are pros and cons to this method. The pro to this position is that you have the control and can use all of the tips (yes, pun intended) you want to. The downside is that you can't quite get the depth. This is a great position if you have a bad gag reflex because you can control how far your head goes down. The other downside is if he is getting ready to climax, you are more likely to pull away and he will not get the full effect of good oral sex.
In your mouth? What to do when he...
So, you have just started giving him the best oral sex ever. Now what? There are three types of men. Some men will get quickly excited when you perform oral and will climax quickly. Some men will take forever to climax and you may end up getting tired or frustrated, jumping into intercourse to get him off. Or, you have the perfect in-between when he will climax before your mouth, neck, throat, and hands tire. Regardless of the time it takes, he may eventually climax. The question is...do you spit or swallow when he finally reaches that point? Tip #15: Be prepared for a variety of outcomes. He may climax, he may not. He may stay hard, he may not. Despite the number of possibilities, you need to be prepared. There is nothing worse than if your man starts to lose his mojo and you react with frustration. He'll be frustrated and there is nothing worse for a man's ego than seeing a negative emotion on your face. Have a game plan. If he goes soft, start using your hands more, or explore other options (or blame it on yourself that your mouth or other areas of your body hurt). Sometimes taking the blame will ease the tension. Tip #16: If your man is about to climax, know the signs. This may be difficult if this is the first time you have ever performed oral, or if this is the first time that you have performed oral on this particular person. Most men will get extremely hard just before they are about to climax. Some will ejaculate with pre-cum just before they are ready to let loose. Their bodies will tense up. No matter what, don't stop! If he is about to get off from your amazing oral sex, don't drop the ball no matter what! Tip #17: Spit it out. If the option presents itself to spit or swallow, many women will opt to spit. This doesn't mean you have to be insanely gross about it. There are many women who do not particularly like the taste of ejaculation. Let it run down his member while you finish him off. This is particularly sexy to men, seeing it drip from your lips and tongue. Tip #18: Gobble gobble and swallow it up! This is for you girls who are a little more experienced. The more versed you are in the art of oral, the more you will tolerate or even enjoy swallowing at this point of performing. You can either swallow a little at a time or keep going and swallow it all at once. Again, the main thing to remember is not to stop. Use your hand to help get him completely off. It will only be like a tablespoon, so when it starts to hit your mouth, don't stop to swallow. Use your hands to keep the motion going so that he can climax completely.
There are other options....
When you are performing oral, the thing to remember is that there is a lot more to a man's anatomy. There are lots of options, rather than just going up and down. Tip #19: Focus on the balls. That's right ladies. Don't forget that the testicles are part of a man's anatomy as well. Take some time to lick, suck, and rub his testicles as well to provide some extra stimulation. Especially use your hand(s) while you are performing oral with your mouth. If you rub his testicles while you are giving him oral, it will give an even more intense feeling of pleasure. Tip #20: Focus on the tip. The tip (or head) of your man's member is the most sensitive part. This is why using your mouth, tongue, and especially throat are so important. If he feels the tip of his member hitting the back of your throat, it will be much more intense for him. Yes, moving up and down on his shaft provides a lot of stimulation, but focusing on the head is what will make him curl his toes the most.
Size does matter...to him.
Why your husband or boyfriend loves your mouth
There is something quite intimate about performing oral on your boyfriend or husband. It is a completely different feel from having standard intercourse. Make sure that you take some time to look up at your man if you are on your knees or on top performing oral. There is nothing better than for your man to look down and see your big eyes looking up at him sensually. This will really get his mojo rising. The great thing about oral is that it can be performed out of the blue. It doesn't always have to be used as a method of foreplay - it can be an action all in itself. Especially when a female is going through that time of the month. You can always spark excitement and respect when you provide oral at the most random of times. It's great giving oral in the shower, while he is watching a movie or football game (especially if he is laying down and can see the curve of your butt in the light of the television), or while he is eating. Another positive about oral is that his ejaculation only amounts to about ten calories per serving and is an excellent source of protein! If you are not quite ready to jump in the sack, oral is a great way to round that corner. It is a little more personal than just using your hands. There are women who do not enjoy giving oral. Have your man take a shower beforehand, so that it will decrease any "fum-munda" scent that may be lingering. Be prepared for a salty taste - that is the best way to describe it. Also, ejaculation is creamy, not watery. The texture is what can throw a woman off more than anything. Men really enjoy having oral performed on them, but once again, don't be shy. Add some pressure, but watch out for your teeth. Men like a tight vagina because they can feel it, and the same goes for oral. If you experiment with different positions, different scenarios, and a variety of techniques, you will find out what will be the best for your man and for your own comfort level. One size does not fit all, so get creative and have fun!
Do you know what he likes?