Giving your heart to someone with all your trust and believe, requires a lot of strength. When you love someone, you are ready to leave anything in this world. You just can do anything for that special person because for you, he/she is your life and you just can't imagine your life without them. But what happens next, does that person remains the same forever? Do the feelings remains same forever? No, it doesn't! Have you heard of the famous saying "Time change and so do people"? Yes, this is the harsh reality of today's life, people don't remain the same forever. They can leave you anytime and anywhere. The chemistry, the spark, the love is nowhere now in your relation. Whether he's your boyfriend or husband, or she's your girlfriend or wife, if they want to leave you they will. No matter how hard you try to make them stay but you also have your limits and in love, you can't force anyone to stay with you. True love is letting go of the person not to hold them. The person can leave you for two reasons: either you two are not able to work out or the other person is seeing someone else. And what about you and your feelings?
You move on in your life, you decide to be happy without your ex. You decide to close the chapter that's not worth to read now. But whenever someone talks about your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend, ex-wife or ex-girlfriend you still get angry you still get that hatred feeling for them. You just don't want to talk about them, you avoid the conversation related to them. You still feel have that anxiety feeling and that angry feeling when you hear the name of an ex. Have you asked yourself why this happen? In-spite of moving on with your ex why you still get annoyed when you hear their name. Find out the reason below:
You hate your ex because they cheated on you
All this while when you were figuring out what's going wrong or when you were in a angry mode or when you were trying to fix the things between you two, you finally discovered that your husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend was cheating on you. They have already put your relationship to shame. After doing everything for them, what you got was the betrayal and this is the foremost thing for which you still have the hatred feeling or you get angry when you hear the name of them.
You hate them because they lied to you
They lied to you about everything. They lied about their personification, about your relationship, about their friends. While you were in the first stage of the relationship, they lied about themselves how they are but when you really get to know them you find the exact opposite of their words. You thought he/she was a happy go lucky person or they were open-minded, but it was all imprecise.
Your ex did not value you.
Continuously, they were avoiding or ignoring you. There was a time when they appreciated for your little efforts but now they get irritated, annoyed or don't put much attention towards you. They took you for granted and they treated you as a second option. They treated you with disrespect and also there was a heat of argument every now and then. Maybe this can be the reason for hating them so much. After all when you love someone with all your heart and when they treat your love like a shit, it hurts for obvious reasons.
Your ex was self-centred in bed
It was always about them, not about you. There was more lust than love in your relationship. They only made out with you when they were in the mood, and when you wanted to make out they simply avoided it. They concentrated more on their satisfaction part and sex is something which both you feel. They did not bother whether you are ready for it or not or your body is ready for physical activity, they just wanted to their own need.
Your ex cut you down in the most weird way.
They started giving you an excuse for making plans with you or spending quality time with you. Whenever you tried to have a conversation on call, they just cut your call by saying they are busy. You were no more in their priorities list or you can say you were becoming their second option. Their most of the plans were with friends, they even started ignoring your birthday celebration or your anniversary. These things made you angry and you started hating them.
You were the one who always pays and that made you very angry
The thing which can make a person angry is when you are the only one who is paying every time. Being in a relationship doesn't mean only one person has to pay or one person has to depend on other for financial things. But when you see your relation, you are the one who was paying for your movie tickets. for your dinner, for your small expenses. These small things can make anyone frustrated or angry.
You have already got the reason why you still hate your ex so much. But are you happy with this feeling or are you able to move on happily in your life? The answer is very clear, NO. Always remember forgiving and forget is the key to a happy future so just forgive them and learn what they taught you. Obviously, every mistake is a part of learning and they helped you in becoming a better person than before. They taught you what you really don't want in a relationship or what type of person you want to be with, in future.