Dating 101: 10 Strategies On Starting A Romantic Relationship

Most people do not know how to start a romantic relationship, let alone being in one. If you fall under this bracket, this article is exactly what you need.

By Dagmar Thomson
Dating 101: 10 Strategies On Starting A Romantic Relationship

10 Strategies on Starting a Romantic Relationship

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Many people start a romantic relationship only for it to end in a few weeks or months. The reason being, most of us feel sad and lonely and we fear the stigmatization of being named single in the society hence, we start a relationship hoping things will work out. The other reason for starting a relationship is to find our better half. Most people do not have any idea that you have to sweat to make a romantic relationship work, especially young girls. In order to have a genuine, quality and mature romantic relationship, both parties must be mature, know who they are, and they should know what they want out of it. There are a few strategies one can apply to start a romantic relationship to avoid breakups and heartaches;

1. Start Loving Yourself

In a romantic relationship, there are good days and bad days. At times partners fight and this is when you see the true colours of your partner. Things can get heated up and your partner can react in a negative way that you were not expecting. You should learn to love yourself first, and not allow any negative feelings to dwell on you. Maintaining a healthy relationship is tough and it requires a lot of hard work, discipline and some self-love. When you love yourself first, others will learn to love you back.

2. Live For the Moment

When starting a romantic relationship, most people have a lot of notions and ideas. For instance how the relationship will be, how the partner should behave, and how you should be treated. Planning these strategies from the word go and things do not work out as you thought, the relationship breaks. Let your partner be and learn to live for the moment.Enjoy what you have right now, and stop having any expectations from your new guy or girl. Any form of challenge that comes your way, you will be able to conquer it. Being in a relationship without any expectations is the beginning of a long-term romantic relationship.

3. Do Not Stifle Your Relationship

When you are in a new romantic relationship, couples keep on communicating all day long. This is possible through emails and instant messaging to mention but a few examples. This can stifle a new relationship and things can start to fall apart. You need to give your relationship some space, let your partner miss you hence looking forward to the next call or message. Stifling a new relationship can make some people lose the thrill of the relationship. Nowadays not only girls tend to stifle a relationship, even guys can stifle a relationship by constantly calling and texting.

4. Hold Back

When starting a new romantic relationship, the first strategy is to hold back on all your personal details. Do not offload your personal details all at once. Furthermore, you have the rest of your lives together to do so. Enjoy each passing day as you learn your partner, explore each other, and take your time. If you offload all your personal baggage on someone, this will keep him or her away. The thrill about a relationship is you keep learning something new from your guy or girl every day. This will give you something to look forward to until the next meeting.

5. Learn To Forgive

Every relationship is bound to have disagreements at one point. Learning to forgive in a new relationship will give the relationship a chance to grow. We are all human beings hence no one is perfect. Show your partner that you can forgive. You will be forgiven too. Forgiving someone and giving him or her a second chance creates a long-term relationship. Learning to forgive is a great strategy to maintain your relationship. Forgive and forget as many times as you can.

6. Focus on Your Life

When starting a relationship, some people make a mistake of forgetting their own lives. They abandon what they were doing and start giving their all to their new partners. This is wrong since your partner was attracted to you for the person you were. If you were full of life, had friends, went to gym to mention but a few, you should continue to be the same person. The people who have a tendency of losing focus on their lives when it comes to new relationships are girls. Most girls can become obsessed and clingy to their new partner. Your partner might lose interest in you once you start being clingy and too available. Remain a mystery and your relationship will be successful.

7. Be Good

When starting a relationship with someone, you become good to each other. You do not fight; no arguments and you get each other well. As the relationship progresses, small fights start, arguments increase and so on. This can lead to a partner behaving in a rude manner. Maintain your cool and be good despite the change in behavior. Show your guy nothing changes despite of the small fights. In most relationships today, when one partner becomes angry, the other one becomes angrier. This leads to breakups and heartaches.

8. Do Not Re- Live On Your Past Relationships

A past relationship should stay in the past. When you are starting a new romantic relationship with someone, avoid comparing your significant other with one of your exes. People are different and each relationship differs. Therefore, comparing two people and expecting your partner to act like your ex is having the wrong expectations in a relationship. Love your current partner as he or she is and forget your ex. Secondly, if you had a certain naughty behavior in your past relationship with someone such as being nasty or rude, it is high time you dropped the habit. No one likes dating a rude and nasty person. Learn from your past relationships’ mistakes and make the current relationship better. Aspire to be the better person in a relationship.

9. Start Appreciating

When starting a relationship with someone, learn to appreciate your partner’s nice gestures. For instance, when your spouse buys you lunch say thank you and mean it, when your partner buys you nice gifts, show your appreciation. When your partner compliments you do not forget to say thank you. These are a few examples of how to appreciate the person you are in love with. Appreciating your spouse is a great way to kick-start your new relationship. Learn to say thank you aloud; you never know you might make someone’s day better.

10. Maintain Your Cool

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Most of the time when people start a new relationship, they are overwhelmed with the whole romantic emotions. People tend to spread the good news about their new catch to their friends, parents and even on social media such as Facebook. You should control your enthusiasm and wait for the relationship to progress a little bit. If you start spreading the good news and how you have found someone, you have a connection with, things might not work out as expected. You will feel ashamed and stupid for telling everyone who cared to listen. Control your excitement otherwise; it might put off your new partner. When you have found a new partner, it is best not show any signs of desperation. A desperate partner can chase away the newfound love. Here are a few strategies to help you notice if you are desperate or not:

1. Being Readily Available

When starting a relationship, people tend to be available all the time. When your partner texts you, calls you or even emails you, you answer instantly. Whenever you are invited for dates, you are available. This is an indication that you are desperate and you have no life of your own. Focus on your life and your relationship will succeed. Do not be too available; let your partner wonder what you are up to.

2. Maintain Your Principles

If you are a principled person and you start a new relationship, you should stick to your principles despite what your partner demands. A person of integrity is a mature person who knows himself or herself well. Do not compromise your integrity for the sake of your new relationship; your partner might lose respect for you.

3. Do Not Be a People Pleaser

A yes person is someone who is not true to himself or herself. You cannot trust such a person in a relationship. If you agree with everything you are told all the time and you do not want to do, you are being dishonest with yourself. Do not be a yes person for the sake of avoiding being single. If you keep on pleasing someone, you will end up hurting yourself.

4. Showering Your Partner with Too Much Attention

If you are in a new relationship, avoid showering your partner with too much attention. Constant texting, emailing, and calling can suffocate your partner. If you keep on enquiring about their whereabouts, your partner will become suspicious of your intentions. Be your own person and focus more on your life. Do not make your world revolve around your partner; this will chase your partner away.

5. Do Not Be a Stalker

When you start a new romantic relationship, do not start stalking your new partner. Stalking will make your partner lose interest in you. If you found your ex in your past relationship cheating on you, do not think that the same case will happen to you in your newfound love. Learn to trust your partner and do not be clingy. When you have found a person whom you want to share your life with, it is important to evaluate yourself first, know who you are and what you want in a relationship. A relationship is like applying for a new job with your credentials, so you have to come prepared. Do not rush into any relationship to escape the stigma of being single. Take your time to avoid heartaches. Starting a romantic relationship is not as complicated as most may think. Just be true to yourself and take things one step at a time and everything will work out smoothly.