15 Signs You Are The Rebound Guy In That Relationship

So you have found yourself a new relationship. It's probably a little nerve-racking and you probably are thinking that this person is feeling the exact same. Well, you're probably right. Sure there are lots of things to take into consideration when you're starting a new relationship. You have to basically think about the positive and the negative. Of course, you'll never know a person until you've spent some quality time with them but some people are very good at projecting the type of person they are and showing their true colors from the very beginning of the relationship. Some people talk about getting out of bad breakups when they first enter a new one. Some get into a relationship simply because they need a distraction from their life or from an ex or for some type of personal benefit. No matter how long it takes to get to know someone, there are always signs. Signs determining whether or not this relationship will last or if you'll break up.

So this person is telling you that you're the only guy they're talking to. Okay, so this one is always a bit "iffy". Like I said before, you never know what someone's intentions are. Those are quite private, intentions. It's something someone proves with actions. So if these actions are all positive you can assume that this person's intentions are good. Obviously, if a person shows negative actions it's more than likely that this person's intentions with you aren't the best. They're saying you're the only one. But have you noticed them mention anyone else? Whether this is someone from their past or current, have they mentioned anyone in a romantic or possibly romantic way? Do you notice that you're not the only one that has their attention? How long until it is okay to ask them if you're the only one like they say you are? Would that be too confrontational? I feel like any person who isn't willing to discuss or at least mention the circumstances of being with them and what they are currently going through obviously doesn't care enough about the foundation of your relationship. So take note of when they express that to you.

There are always signs to determine whether something will change or that action is taking place. I'm sure signs can make a person a little paranoid or a bit confused, but sometimes they're great for prevention. If you are seeing signs in your relationship and you can't get over these thoughts and ideas that you are the rebound then maybe there's a message. It's definitely time to start paying a little more attention to the signs that are given to you. Here are 15 signs you are the rebound guy in that relationship:

Did they just get out of a relationship a month or so ago? Was it a long-term relationship? If that is the case, it's more than likely that you're a rebound. They might say they're over their ex and that they will never get back together, but sometimes its nothing but a lie. If a couple breaks up, both will need a good amount of time to heal.

Okay, so this is completely straight-forward. If they are consistently talking about their ex, bringing their ex up, or doing anything and everything to relate the relationship you guys have back to their ex, or even compare you to their ex... You are almost definitely a rebound guy.

If this person is speaking about nothing but negative things about their ex and giving off terrible energy when it comes to their ex, there's obviously still strong feelings this person is channelling. This is a sign that she/he is still connected to their ex.

This relationship is based on sex. This person doesn't really share a connection or want to with you. All they want to do is hookup. Look out for how this person responds to you after intimate sessions.

If the person you're dating is sharing content or posting statuses on social media platforms that are really sad or motioned towards some type of relationship despair, they might still be struggling with the aftermath of their last relationship. This is a huge sign on determining whether or not you're a rebound guy.

This person seems way too into you too soon. He tells you he loves you and it's only been a month. Maybe this person is trying to fill a hole in their heart. I'm sure the feelings are genuine, but maybe not too much for you. Sorry.

This is another good sign to look out for. If he/she is too distant, avoids growth in your relationship, avoids talking about the future or even showing you off, it is more than likely that you're a rebound. This person is obviously not trying to move on too soon. There is space and time being created between the two of you just in case the ex walks back into their life.

If this person is consistently using you to get back at their ex or make them jealous, I feel like that sign is a major red flag that you are indeed a rebound guy. I get flashing your partner around but if it's purposely directed towards a specific person that is just petty.

Are you sitting there questioning yourself why you're with this person? I'm pretty sure it's because you're coming to the realization that you two have absolutely nothing in common. Sure they're attractive but what do you guys really do or talk about when sex isn't involved.

Comparisons can always be a positive thing, but sometimes too much comparing can drive a person mad! Who wants to be like anyone else except themselves! Everyone has great qualities but if your partner is constantly comparing you to an ex, I hate to say this but maybe you're a rebound and they'd rather be with them instead.

"Its funny you should ask, Cause I don't remember?" - The Front Bottoms Are you asking your partner "why they chose you" and they simply don't remember or have a clue as to why they chose you out of everyone? It's probably because they carelessly chose you. If you're feeling like this then you're most likely in rebound territory.

I feel that some people tend to over-exaggerate how much they lack something. Like happiness for example. Love is another example. One main exaggeration or lie if you will, is created when it comes to breakups. If it seems like this person is telling a tall tale of a fib about his breakup maybe it's because he doesn't want to be honest with you about who he really is.

Most mature and aware people who come out of long-term relationships can agree that it was both parties that caused the relationship to break apart. If your partner refuses and denies their part in the breakup, maybe this person isn't mature enough to be in a relationship in general. To them, their breakup may have come as a shock to them but to their ex, it was probably expected.

First they want you and then they don't. This person has a case of a fickle mind. Are they sure of anything? One you should be sure of is that you're a possible rebound, my dear.

This sign goes along with having a fickle mind. After a breakup, it is possible that a person can lose their self. They can forget what they like, what their hobbies are and what makes them who they are. If your partner has no clue who they are, it's possible that they're using you to rebound back or find a new self.

Okay, so you went over all the signs and have come to an enlightened conclusion that you are indeed a rebound guy. This type of news can be quite the distraction. I'm sure you can't get over the idea that you are the rebound guy in this relationship. I bet you have so much running through your mind right now. I bet you're quizzing yourself over all these signs and kicking yourself about how oblivious you were not to notice them in the first place. Maybe for the few who do enjoy a dramatic venture, this idea of being the rebound guy in the relationship appeals to you. Maybe you like helping a girl pick up the pieces of a bad breakup. Maybe knowing a girl will always want her ex but decides to spend time with you instead of him tickles your fancy. Who knows. Everyone has their kinks. I guess you have to stop and ask yourself: To be or not to be a rebound. Quiz Time: Here are a couple of questions to ask yourself: How long ago did he/she want to be with their ex? How long do you expect to be a rebound guy in the relationship? Could you be nothing but a distraction for this person? Has she mentioned a recent breakup? Does she talk about her ex a lot? Is she still friends with her ex? Can you get over the fact that this person really wants someone else despite how good you are for them? Are you the type of guy that isn't looking for a serious committed relationship? These are just some questions to quiz and ask yourself when trying to decide whether or not you want to be in the relationship.

This is just plain and simple: You Deserve More! Yes, you! Regardless of whether or not you think that this girl or guy is the person of your dreams, if they're not willing to put you first and not use you as a distraction or rebound from another person, then they are not worth your time. I'm sure you're a great guy, or girl if you're cross-reading this, and you might not know how long it will take to move on and find someone else, but I guarantee you will find someone. Or find more self-love! That's always great. You never know you can continue to quiz yourself and think about your relationship and come to the conclusion that you do want to be this person's rebound guy. You might be a distraction, but on the bright side you're really helping this person out.

Besides being someone's rebound guy, you can also consider to date other people. I'm sure if you discuss and explain the situation to the person you're currently dating that you understand and notice that you are the rebound guy in his/her current life. If being a rebound guy is not who, what, where you're trying to be in a relationship then maybe you are needing something more serious in your life. Explain to them that exact thought and emphasize that being a rebound guy isn't appealing to you. When you do decide or if you decide to date other people, I think it is always a good idea to be on the same page as the person of interest and if you aren't, then move on to the next person. It's best not to waste your time if you're spending it on someone who obviously doesn't want the same out of life as you. For example, don't try to date someone knowing that they aren't ready for something serious, doesn't matter if you think you can convince them, it's most likely going to end in disaster if you're looking for a committed relationship. Let's get over our crush (person who isn't into serious relationships) and use common sense and our logic people! Plus, there's plenty of fish in the sea so don't feel rushed or forced to choose someone. Keep looking. I promise you'll find someone great!