10 Tips For Talking To A Girl For The First Time

Looking to talk to that girl for the very first time? Not sure where to start? Well, look no more! The 10 tips you need are right here!

By Maxwell Leahy
10 Tips For Talking To A Girl For The First Time

How Do I Talk To A Girl For The First Time?

If you need help talking to that special someone for the first time, you've come to the right place! Below you will find out how to start that first conversation, among many other things.

Getting Started With The First Conversation

Ever had your eye on a girl but just didn't know how to talk to her for the first time? Could be that you're nervous, maybe you're unsure of where to begin, or you just never got out there and tried. Odds are if you're here, then you need guidance of some sort. Well, this article is here to help put you at ease when it comes to this endeavor. In here you will find ten tips for talking to a girl for the first time. These tips will have you feeling a whole lot better when it comes to talking to girls for the first time, or at the very least, be your first step in the door to making you feel a lot more comfortable doing it.

Tip #1 - Make The First Move!

You've had your eye on her for a while now, but she doesn't know you exist yet. Girls like guys that exude confidence in themselves. What better way to show her this than going up to talk to her and striking up a conversation? This may be nerve-wracking at first but when it comes to girls, the more you talk to them, the easier it gets! Conversation is one of many things that will make you stand out from the crowd. Girls love nothing more than a good conversation with a confident guy.

Tip #2 - Keep The Conversation Going!

Going up to a girl and starting an interaction is easy enough but when it comes to keeping the conversation going all the while keeping her interested, that's a different story. Sometimes you can get an idea of how to talk to a girl by what you know about her. It could be her personality, the way she looks, how she acts, or a multitude of traits. These things will help further any conversation, but seeing as it is your first conversation with her, it might be best to get to know her a little bit. Try asking this girl about herself and see where it goes. You might just hit it off.

Talking To Her For The First Time? Here Are Helpful Conversational Starters Tips & Tricks

Girls like talking to a guy who's willing to be themselves. Whether you watched this video or not, lots of people will suggest the same thing. Girls are not going to like a guy who does not talk and act like himself. They want the fun-loving guy who's not afraid to be who he truly is. This video is meant to show you great ways to start a conversation with a girl and keep her interested in not only talking to you but getting to know you as well.

Keeping Her Interested

Tip #3 - Steer Clear Of Pretending To Be Someone You're Not!

As mentioned earlier, when it comes to talking to that girl for the first time, she'll hate nothing more than when a guy is not genuine. This cannot be stressed enough. Just be yourself! You can go up to a girl acting like a hot shot in an attempt to talk to her, but she won't be fooled. You'll be left wondering where you went wrong in the conversation and scratching your head trying to figure it out. You'll eventually come to the realization that all you had to do was be yourself.

Tip #4 - Humor is Key!

When talking to a girl for the first time, it's definitely going to be hard if you're a serious Sam. Part of being yourself and showing her how fun you are is showing the humorous side of you. Now, to be honest, sometimes when it comes to this, you may fail, and you have to accept that. Not every girl may get you or understand your humor, and that's okay. What's not okay is offending a girl or making her uncomfortable because of your approach and timing.

Keep The Dos & Don'ts In Mind For Your First Conversation

The dos and don'ts are a lot more subtle than you think. One thing can be okay to one girl but may not be to another. It's like a double-edged sword. You just have to make sure not to take it too far or say something that is inappropriate in this situation. Pickup-lines and compliments are an example of this. Some are okay; some are not. You have to think: how would I feel if I were in her shoes and so-and-so said this to me the first time we talked? Not only must you keep this in mind, but also be sure you don't have bad timing. There is nothing worse than bad delivery, especially when talking to a girl for the first time.

Tip #5 - Don't Force It!

Talking to a girl for the first time, having fun, and things going smoothly is swell, but some guys don't know when to end the conversation, which can become a problem. You had your topics, and she had hers, and you try to come up with more because you don't want to leave her just yet. You should know that when this happens, you should probably get going. Girls get a feeling when you come in fun, and things go well. However, once it starts to die down, they can tell when you are running out of things to talk about. Stop before this happens! You will end up becoming awkward to her which may give her the wrong idea about you.

Tip #6 - Don't Talk To Her And Not Have Topics In Mind!

Sometimes being yourself, being friendly, and talking to a girl about herself are all well and dandy, but what if she's not the type to talk about herself too much? Talking about yourself can be good to counter the situation, but she's not going to want to hear you talk about yourself for minutes on end. She will be out of there the first chance she gets. You may even find her all of a sudden making excuses as to why she needs to go. So don't go on and on aimlessly; have some topics in mind to get things rolling. Current news and events may be great to bring up.

Keep the above in mind, so you won't be the one to walk away in a situation like the picture below.

Tip #7 - Make Eye Contact And Smile!

Nothing shows a girl more that you are someone they want to be around than eye contact and a smile. You could be the most interesting guy in the world, have the best topics to talk about, but if you talk to her in a shifty-eyed, mundane way, and serve up conversation with a frown, your chances are slim to none from the get-go. A smile shows you are a friendly, welcoming person. Without it, you are anything but.

Tip #8 - Don't Just Talk To Her - Grab Her Number Too!

You've gathered up the courage to talk to her, you had a sizzling first conversation, and you both seemed to enjoy each other's company. Maybe you had a little or even a lot of fun to boot. Don't let it stop there! You've come this far. Take the extra step by getting those phone digits. Remember, when you ask her, just do it by being yourself. That's something any girl would appreciate. You are almost certain to get her phone number!

Tip #9 - Ask Her Out Sometime!

You have her phone number now, and you may even feel accomplished in some way, but don't just grab the phone number and run. Ask her what she's doing and see if she wants to go out on a day next week. Maybe even bring up a suggestion of some sort. Girls like it when guys take the lead and take charge. \ Be happy with whatever answer she decides to give and don't come off upset if she says no. It doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't want to. Never assume that or any other reason that you may think it is. Who knows though, she more than likely might say yes! Might even become your girlfriend someday! You never know!

You Have Her Number - Don't Forget To Text!

After parting ways, you will now have a good sense of where you are at with this new girl you just met. You have her number and at some point you are going to want to text her. You don't have to text her right away, and don't sit around wondering if she's ever going to text you. Give it some time. Wait a day or even up to a week to text her. A lot of guys make the mistake of texting too soon, too frequently, not enough, or in ways that suggest she's your girlfriend already. Take it slow and text her when it's the right time. Also, make sure that when you do there is a reason for it. Don't just text to text. You might leave her wondering why you text her for no reason and start to give a bad impression. Wait till the time is right.

What's Up? - More Like WhatsApp!

Get her to download WhatsApp which can be a great platform to message her.

You could suggest the WhatsApp app!

WhatsApp is an app for both iPhone and Android devices. It's used by over a billion people and could be compared to Facebook's Messenger app or built-in chat. It's great choice to use to chat with girls, guys, and friends alike!

Tip #10 - Whether It's Acceptance or Rejection, Don't Stop!

At this point, you have either been successful with talking to a girl for the first time or in some way have been rejected. If all went well, congrats! However, sometimes things don't work out the way we planned. You have to know that that's okay! There are plenty of fish in the sea! Use this as the beginning of a learning curve and take the experience you gained from it to talk to the next girl.

As long as you keep it up, you'll one day start talking to loads of girls. It will become second nature to you at one point and you may even find your hands full with a girlfriend.

Practice Makes Perfect - Girlfriends Don't Happen Overnight!

Thank you for taking the time to read these 10 Tips For Talking To A Girl For The First Time. Hopefully, these tips will help you get on the right track to overcoming the fear or anxiety of talking to a girl for the first time. As long as you keep at it, it will become easier and easier, and before you know it, you will be talking to that first girl and many more onward.

"Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen."

-Michael Jordan