How To Keep A Conversation Going With A Girl You Like

Do you need tips to keep up an interesting conversation with a girl? This guide will give you ideas on how to attract her with chill conversation.

By Gerald Matiri
How To Keep A Conversation Going With A Girl You Like

How to talk to a girl you like

So there's this girl you admire and you want to keep the conversation going so that you'll have a chance of her liking you back. Do you want to target the girl's points of attraction? Check out this breakdown of how you should talk to her.

1. Avoid conversational awkwardness

The first few minutes of a conversation are usually the hardest. It gets awkward and so uneasy that you start curling your toes trying to find the right topics. First impressions tend to be the greatest judge of your communication skills. Whether you are wooing a girl you just met or trying to impress your new girlfriend, you must not allow awkwardness to seep into the conversation. The girl will start wishing for you to leave her alone if things get weird. How will you get her attention if all she wants is to run away? There are many ways you can make a first impression work in your favor. Immediately after you meet the girl, begin with basic introductions and shake her hand politely. If you are already introduced, you can interject with something related to your occupation or mention the friend who introduced you to this girl. Keep on breaking the ice by commenting on what’s going on or about how great the surroundings look.To keep the conversation going, you can talk about the weather, the food you are eating, or the background music. Supposing you are in public, you can talk about noteworthy décor and recommend the best drink at the bar. No matter what you say, let it come out in a non-threatening way as you get used to one another.

2. Ask questions to keep a conversation lively

After breaking the ice, you have to look for ways in which you can know this girl better and one of them is by questioning her. Only ask meaningful questions related to such things as her hobbies, but nothing about her salary or ex-boyfriends. Start with the basics: her birthplace, her degree course, interests, and aspirations. The dialogue must flow naturally and bring up new questions if the conversation starts to slow down. You can point out on common factors between the two of you and expand on such topics, but keep the talk focused on her. If you are having an online conversation, be careful of the words you choose and do not go overboard with personal questions.

3. Let her chase you in the conversation

This is one way that will make you more attractive to the girl. Girls prefer men with principles and you have to make her learn that to keep you, she requires more than her physical beauty. In simple terms, you will be making her qualify herself in front of you. All you need to get the girl chasing you is to ask meaningful questions that will let her talk about her values. Ask open-ended questions so she may talk about whatever she wants. Get the girl to open up to you and she will, in turn, want to know you better. This will keep the conversation going.

4. Give information about yourself

You cannot let the girl keep talking about herself throughout the entire conversation because too many questions will bore her. While you speak, allow her to ask questions and make comments. Do not be a conversation hoarder who disregards the point of view of the girl. The information you mention should echo what the girl keeps sharing about her life. Focus more on the areas that are common between the two of you because they will act as sources of more ideas for the conversation.

5. Use the snowball technique

This is an approach that ensures you do not run out of ideas for your conversation with a girl. It is one of the simplest methods of focusing on your special girl and keeping the conversation going. This technique will portray you as a mysterious guy who doesn’t talk much about himself, leaving her in suspense about who you really are. The snowball technique involves creating a conversation using her own information. Let’s say you want to know what she does, then make an observation that she looks like a teacher. Most likely, she will give a simple answer like, “Yes, how did you know?” From there, add something like “I hear teachers have rough times with students these days, especially the rich kids…” You will be surprised with the amount of information she will provide and that will give you a platform for a more heated discussion. This is the snowball effect and it makes a conversation expand every time. You can transform any of her answers into an exciting conversation and you will learn so much about the girl you like. Make sure you add new content to her responses so that you don’t end up looking like an interviewer to her. You may even chip in interesting stories but there is no need to overthink: just say whatever sensible thing comes to mind.

6. Think less and keep it light to keep your girl interested

If you have ever been with a friend who transforms every moment into a brilliant time, you must have noticed that such an individual never overthinks what comes out of his mouth. If you are passionate about a topic, she will most likely form an interest in it as well. Your emotions and amusement will be transferred to her if you keep the conversation fantastic. This effect is known as state transference and it can work for you too. If you find anything funny during your conversation, expound on it so that she finds it funny too. You can joke about anything, even about how your dinner burnt last night. If you’re chatting online, send her funny videos. Sometimes, you can approach her with nothing in particular in mind. Then watch what comes out of the conversation. It sounds simple but the girl may not react immediately because she might be the shy type. Generally, get ready to be the one to keep talking and make the conversation fun to get her out of her shell. The only time you can overthink is when you're not sure of what to say to her to keep the conversation going. Nevertheless, you shouldn’t put her on a pedestal - be carefree and it might be easier to have a conversation with her than you think.

7. Engage in small talk- the most fulfilling conversation

Even though small talks are considered as taboos, they are very realistic and easy. They are the gateways to meaningful and deeper conversations. Like in any other aspect of life, you cannot expect to start from a greater niche without passing through the basics. Topics for small talks are great choice to keep the conversation going. For instance, talk to her about an upcoming occasion, the venue, or the drink you are having. You can relate to any experience and it will work.

8. Don’t forget to be nice to the girl

This is something you cannot neglect because your friendliness level will determine her receptiveness. Before you start conversing, smile while you exchange greetings. Smiling throughout will make you approachable and she will be more willing to share ideas with you. If you put on a serious face, she might feel intimidated and that is not what you want the lovely girl to feel on your first meeting. Your body language matters a lot e.g. nod to express agreement and maintain eye contact to show respect to whatever she says. Do not cross your arms or let your phone create a distraction. If you keep talking to her with your head facing down and shoulders rolled forward, fail to make eye contact, and talk quietly with no enthusiasm in your voice, you will sound depressing. You will portray an image of a sad guy with no confidence and she will be turned off. But if you deliver the message with confidence and life in your voice, you will seem authentic and exciting to her.

9. Banter with the girl to keep fun

This helps to get rid of the tension that accompanies new friends. Note that she will be nervous if this is your first time talking to her unless you are doing it online. So, look for ways to make the girl keep smile\ing. This will make her feel good and relaxed during the conervastion The key to bantering with a girl you like is to start with the correct mentality. Be carefree and full of fun e.g. by role-playing- assume you are the husband and asking her for a divorce or pretend to be the shy guy and let her hit on you.

10. Keep on complimenting her

Commenting positively about her dressing and lifestyle will get her warming up to you easily. Once in a while, break from the normal conversation to compliment her hairstyle and accessories. But do not say it too soon because you will look desperate and creepy. If you are chatting online, tell her how good she looks in those pictures and that you can’t take your eyes off her. It is okay to flirt but do not over-do it when you are not sure if she wants the same.

11. It’s okay to build sexual tension during the conversation

One way you can create sexual tension is by touching your lady. The touch doesn’t need to be explicit; keep it light and use your best body language to communicate your interests. You also need to be very clear on what you feel about her and don’t hold back. Girls like confident guys and so you should turn her on with confidence. If you are in the club dancing, let her know that you are aroused but do not force anything on her. You can then propose another date if you think you’re ready to date her.


It is quite easy to avoid topics that are more likely to bore a girl but it’s challenging keep a conversation interesting. You need conversation skills to avoid the common awkwardness between people who are getting to know each other. Men and women may come from different planets (Mars and Venus) but knowing the strategies of keeping a good conversation is the key to bridging the gap between the sexes. When having a conversation with a woman you are interested in, focus how you deliver your message rather than the content. She will find you interesting from the way you frame questions and ideas as opposed to the exact content. If you try to impress her all the time, she might get the impression that you are not good enough for her. Be yourself to avoid blocking the smooth flow of ideas which in turn create unnatural and lumpy conversations.