20 Effective Ways To Make A Guy Chase You

It is the role of a man to chase girls. But if he isn't interested in you, what do you do? Here are 20 ways to make a guy chase after you.

By Gerald Matiri
20 Effective Ways To Make A Guy Chase You

Should you chase a guy?

It is normal for guys to chase after women. This is because men are hardwired to chase whatever they desire. There are moments when you will come across a man you love and desire and you'd like him to chase after you. What do you do if the guy doesn’t show interest in you? For some women, they will not have a problem chasing after dudes and will always take the lead in such circumstances. Some men can be turned off by this behavior. This is particularly because men enjoy doing the chase themselves. The moment a woman throws herself at him, it means he won't have much to do. If you want to make a guy chase after you, there are several tricks that you can use.

1. Leave the chase to the guy

We all agree that women are now more independent and are becoming more aggressive in dating and chasing men. In most cases, there is no problem with that. However, there are certain guys you will be dealing with who will not enjoy the fact that you are doing the chase. This is because you will be removing the thrill of pursuing you. When you are interested in such a guy, you will be left with no option but to up your game. Even though it doesn’t seem wise to conclude that the man should be the one to do the chasing, not pursuing him will give the guy room to chase after you. You will need to be responsive when he shows interest in you or else he will move on to someone else. You should make yourself unavailable but show the guy that you are interested once he begins chasing after you. One of the weird laws of the universe is that we put more value on the things that are rare. When you start ignoring your crush that is when you will find him coming to you. When you focus a lot on him, you will find that he has disappeared from you. Therefore, a good idea would be to ignore him and he will do the chase.

2. Show confidence to make the guy chase you

Confidence is one of the greatest traits that any woman should have. When you exude confidence it will be easy to grab the attention of a man. Once he gets intrigued, he will be drawn to you. Once you believe that you are a great catch, the man will also believe the same. He will know that if he doesn’t treat you well, you will leave him you for the right man. One fact that you need to know is that men love women who have confidence. This also applies to women. Whenever a confident person comes into a room, you will always find yourself looking at them. Your goal is to draw his attention and there is no better way to do that than exuding confidence. Once you appear confidence, it will look as if you are not only interested in a man and this will make the guy desire you more.

3. Keep yourself busy

If you want to make the guy start chasing you, you must stop making yourself available to him or you will make him feel special. He will be left guessing who or what keeps you occupied. You will not want your crush to feel so special that your universe seems to revolve around him. Therefore, use this time to do the things that have always excited you like going to the beach or enjoying your hobbies. Ensure that you avoid getting bored at all costs as this is what will cause you to miss him and reach out to him. When you have a life to enjoy, you will be contented with seeing him only once in a while and this will ensure that your relationship with him remains fresh. The longer the period that you stay away from him, the more he is going to miss you.

4. Spend time with your friends

A common mistake that ladies make is to focus on their relationship too much and forget to spend time with their friends. This shouldn’t be the case as it only causes the guy to feel self-important. A good idea is to schedule one night a week for going out with your girls, no matter the kind of relationship you are in. This will go a long way in helping you maintain your friendships before he came into the picture. When things don’t go according to your expectations in the relationship, your friends will be the ones you turn to for advice on the next move to make. By alienating your friends, you will be showing them that they no longer matter to you. On the other hand, you will be showing your guy how special he is. You can be assured that this is bound to backfire on you and he will begin to treat you badly as he is aware that you will never leave him. It is advisable to split your time between the guy and your girl friends. This will send a message to him that your girlfriends are irreplaceable. Chances are that the guy you are eyeing also has friends with whom he goes out with at night too. The moment you alienate your friends for him, you will make him start feeling special and arrogant.

5. Have your own personal space to make the guy chase you

At times, we get into a relationship and immediately make the man occupy every space in our lives. We keep thinking about where the guy is, what he is doing and with whom. You need to remember that even before he came into your life, you already had your own life. When you become needy and clingy, this may end up killing attraction as he'll feel either suffocated by your attention, or his ego will inflate and he'll become overly confident. While there is nothing wrong with showing a man that you are committed to him, when you do this in the extreme, it will only serve to make him feel extra important. Let the guy give you space for shopping and engaging in your favorite activities. This will show him that you are independent.

6. Be real to make the guy chase you

During the early stages of a relationship, we always try to put our best foot forward. While there is nothing wrong with leaving a good impression, you should not forget to be yourself. At first, when you are pretending to be another person, he may end up getting attracted to you. The negative part of doing this is that you will be forced to keep up that façade. Alternatively, when you let the real you out, the man may lose interest. In case the man doesn’t like you for who you are, it simply means that he may be the wrong man for you. Trying to change yourself to be someone else will lead to a buildup of resentment. This is because there is no way that you will change yourself permanently for a relationship. At first, you may change some habits but you will end up going back to them. If he isn’t pleased with the real you, this will cause him to leave. This is why there is no need to get into a relationship with someone who doesn’t love you the way you are. But if he likes you the way you are, he will be left with no options but to chase after you.

7. Create an air of mystery

If you want to make the guy chase after you, you will need to stop being an open book. Ensure that you don’t reveal everything about yourself all at once. Whenever you communicate or interact with him, avoid revealing everything to him. Instead, share information little by little to make him interested. He will find you to be a dynamic person with several unique layers. When you share about yourself little by little, he will show interest in this beautiful woman and this will make him enjoy the chase. The golden rule in a relationship is to ensure that he is always yearning for more of you. The moment you are able to keep some things about yourself a mystery, you will make him want to be closer to you. He will long to understand the reason for your secretive ways. A good trick is to leave him guessing without letting him understand all the great things that are happening in your life. If there is something that the guy wants to know, let him sweat before he learns it. Creating an air of mystery will make the guy remain interested in you.

8. Avoid texting or calling the guy

If you are looking for a way to make the guy chase after you, this should be a no-brainer. While it's not easy, you need to restrain yourself from constantly calling him or sending a text to him. If you're the one who always makes calls and sends texts first, it means that he is not enjoying the chase. When he sends a message, take a few hours before responding. When he calls, let a little time pass before you pick the phone. The goal is to remove the notion that you are sitting next to the phone waiting for his call or text. If he is truly interested in you, it is his duty to call or text you. This is because if he is truly chasing after you, nothing will keep him away. If he isn’t interested, there is no reason for you to chase after him. Keep yourself busy with other things and wait for him to contact you.

9. Flirt with the guy

Getting a little flirty can make the man tchase after you. However, you need to avoid overdoing it. Ensure that you are making eye contact but avoid staring at him. When speaking to him, touch his hand playfully. Remove something from his face in a gentle manner. Touch your hair as you giggle at his jokes. Whatever action you engage in, ensure that it remains subtle and is not overdone. The goal is to show interest in him, not desperation. If you do it aggressively, this will only serve to defeat your goal as he will not see why he should chase after you. This is on top of the fact that most guys do not like women who are overly aggressive.

10. Keep everything short

A moment will come when the man will get in touch with you. When he talks to you in person, calls or even texts you, ensure that you keep everything short but sweet. Avoid the temptation to pour out your heart to him in a strongly worded text. Even when you feel that you are enjoying time with him, make sure that you cut the conversation short. You want him to keep desiring more of you. When you limit the time you spend with him, he will only end up craving for you. He will be left with no option but to chase after you. Most men are not very good at maintaining conversations. They also prefer simple texts. Lengthy texts will only leave the guy confused. In case you feel that there is something that you must say to him, keep it simple. Ensure that you deliver the message without adding any fluff. When you do this, it will be possible for him to feel at ease as he speaks to you and he will be more inclined to hit you up for a good chat. You are not only leaving him desiring you more but you are keeping everything simple.

11. Have an exciting and high-quality life

Men would like to get into a relationship with women who have the kind of life they admire. The more the passion you have, the more exciting your world will be. You cannot enjoy the dating game if your personal life is boring. It's possible for any girl to be physically attractive and have a guy desire to take her to bed. However, when it comes to the high-class woman that men love to chase, she will understand that men are attracted to something more than physical looks. This is the reason why she focuses on self-improvement and builds her desired life instead of her looks or the perception that men have of her. This way, she will be in a position to radiate the confidence that will cause any man to desire to have her as a girlfriend. If your goal is to have high-quality men chasing after you, you should ensure that you push yourself out of your comfort zone. Make sure you build a high-quality life that you love. Men are aware that very few women are able to achieve that and they will chase after these rare women.

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12. Don’t rush into a relationship

A common mistake that women make is rushing to get out of singleness. What they don’t realize is that singleness is a great phase in a woman’s life. When you're single, you have the opportunity to improve yourself without anybody pushing you around. You will have time to build your dreams. You will still have an opportunity to find the right person, which is one of the greatest decisions that you will ever need to make. When you are in a hurry to get out of singleness, you will start pushing for commitment almost immediately, probably with the first decent guy that you come across. You will give up the benefits of singleness and start doing the chasing. Men understand that the valuable things in life require work. The guy you are chasing will understand that if you are not in a hurry to get out of singleness, you are definitely worth chasing.

13. Don’t give the guy any extra benefits

If the guy is not your boyfriend, you should not give him any boyfriend benefits. The saying that you don’t need to buy a cow if you can get the milk for free is very true in relationships. Unfortunately, many people usually relate the saying with sex. If you think that sex is the best thing you can offer a guy, you will be underestimating the beauty and value that men put into relationships. Men love the emotional support that they get from a relationship. They love the security of knowing that you are all theirs. (This is on top of those cheeky photos that you send to him.) The main reason why men chase after ladies is because of these benefits. The moment you give out these benefits for free, you can be assured that guys will not see the point in chasing after you.

14. Consider his actions

Another common mistake that women make is chasing guys who don’t deserve their love or have done nothing to deserve being chased. While I agree that there are men who will sweep you off your feet the first time you meet them because they are attractive, are very rich, or have abs, it is the guy's actions toward you that should make him deserve to be chased. If you want a high-quality man, find those that treat you well. There is no point in chasing after that tall and handsome doctor that never responded to your text. He is not worth chasing if he has no time for you. If you want to make a high-class guy to chase after you, ensure that he is equally attracted to you just as you are attracted to him.

15. Stand your ground

We've already noted that you need to build an exciting and high-quality life. If you want a man to begin the chase, you need to have high standards. Ensure that you hold your self-respect above anything else. When you do that, you will see something magical happening: you will do away with guys who will try to manipulate you to do things the way they want. If a guy cheats on you or abuses you, no matter how loaded he may be, you are better off moving back to your single life. The moment you master this secret, you will have achieved your desire to see a man chase after you. Be assured that men can sense the value you put on yourself from a distance. That is the same price they will put on you.

16. Let the guy feel in charge

You will need to make the man feel as if he is in charge. The fact that he is the man should be enough to let him feel that he is the one who is making the decisions. However, this doesn’t mean that you have no role in decision making; the key thing is to ensure that you remain stealthy in it.

17. Don’t make the guy feel too special

The fact of the matter is you shouldn’t let the guy feel as if he is the only one. Because he isn’t. Show him that there are a couple of guys who have been trying to chase you. Post picture of yourself with other men on Instagram (even if they're actually your friends). The goal here is to show the guy that he isn’t the only one and you are really in demand.

18. Be sexy to make the guy chase you

Being sexy doesn’t mean that you need to start being a person you aren’t. The idea is to improve your sexiness as you enhance your natural features. While there is no need for surgically filled lips, you can choose to wear that plumping lipstick as you flaunt your curves. You cannot deny the fact that men are visual animals. When you look good, you will definitely make him crazy about you.

19. Avoid too much drama

One thing you need to realize is that men avoid women who cause drama. In fact, they will immediately run away when they sense that you are the kind that attracts drama. This will bother them because they won't be able to handle it emotionally. If you want to make a guy to chase after you, you ought to do away with all sorts of drama.

20. Don’t do anything

Though this may be difficult, this can be one of the most effective tips to make a guy chase you. If you are the kind who likes chasing after your dreams, the idea that you should sit and wait may seem odd. However, you need to realize that the goal here is for the guy to understand your worth and thus chase after you. But rather than actively showing interest in a guy, you should sit back and wait for him to act. As long as you follow these tips, all that you need to do is to watch him do the chasing. Even when you win him over, you will still want him to continue with the chase. It's too easy to make your relationship a routine. You need to keep your man guessing what you are going to do next. Avoid getting used to the relationship and keep everything fresh. If your man doesn’t reciprocate, it may be time for you to move on or speak up. Keeping him chasing after you is not an easy task but it is possible. You will need to ensure that the effort and respect is mutual.

Final thoughts on getting a guy to chase you

When wooing a woman, many men enjoy the chase. There are some people who believe that in the modern world, the idea of making men chase after you is old-fashioned and has no place in the life of an independent woman. However, every man has a caveman’s DNA that makes guys chase after the things they want. Since there is no way this instinct will go away anytime soon, you should learn to use it to your advantage. Use these tips to make any guy chase after you.