Dear Men: Here's How To Treat Your Woman And Win Her Over

Relationships are tough and winning your woman over can be a challenge. However, there's hope, and all it takes is treating your woman the right way.

By Reggie
Dear Men: Here's How To Treat Your Woman And Win Her Over

You have to put in the effort

Men have been trying to win over their woman's hearts since the moment they could communicate with them. We're talking early elementary grades here: in third grade you may have given her your favorite toy, only to be dumped for a boy who didn't wear glasses; in fourth grade you were older and wiser, so you played it cool, and gave her a sweet Valentine's day card, only to be dumped for a boy who had a hair on his chin. Sometimes it feels like you never win! But we didn't give up; we learned, or at least we thought we were learning. The truth is, it is extremely difficult to win your woman's heart and win her over. Or is it? Understanding women is not as complex as the world makes it out to be. This isn't a Rubik's cube we're talking about; this is a human being, and they would like to be treated as such. Now, do they have a different way of expressing their feelings? Absolutely! But that doesn't mean we should shy away and wonder why she's yelling at us for leaving the toilet seat down last week. It just means that we need to put in the effort to understand her better and treat her in the right manner. Perhaps, we've been focusing so much on the 'winning her over' part, that we forgot the part where we have to put in the effort, and treat our women like queens. That's the most important part, and here are some ways to accomplish that.

Treat her with respect

We respect our bosses at work. We respect family members and friends. So why not respect the beautiful queen we have at home? The singer Aretha Franklin said it best, "R-E-S-P-E-C-T / Find out what it means to me." If you've heard the song, you know that respect was a big deal in her lyrics, and most likely in her life. She's probably not the only woman who feels that way. So treat them all with respect. If your woman is telling you about the excitement or hardships of her day and you couldn't care less, then you are not treating her with respect, and certainly not like a queen. There are so many ways to treat a person respectfully. Follow them all, and maybe, just maybe, she will give you a treat later on in bed.

Treat her like a queen

If you honestly want to win your woman over, then you need to look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are treating her like a queen. If you can't confidently say yes, then it's time to start doing so before she walks out the door and finds someone who will treat her right. Treating a woman like a queen can involve many things: showing interest, communicating with her, and doing kind things for her every day. However, one of the biggest ways to accomplish this is to put her first all the time.

She's number one: treat her that way

Your woman should be your pride and joy, and certainly should be the number one person in your life. She should be your everything. She should even be above (men, you may need to sit down for these next few words), your guy time. Yes, it's true! Please, moment of silence for the men who are currently shedding tears. Treating your woman as the number one person in your life, means that guy time may have to take a back seat. That doesn't mean it has to end, but it does mean it needs to be secondary. Treat her in that manner, and you're another step closer to winning her over.

Allow her to be the woman she was meant to be

Your woman is an amazing human being. Treat her that way. Too may guys worry about their woman becoming more successful than them. That is an easy way to lose a woman. You may have heard of the movie, "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days". Well, with that ridiculously outdated attitude, you would better understand how to lose your girl in less than that time. Give your woman the support she needs to follow her dreams, and the rewards in return will be tremendous. Sometimes guys and girls can be controlling, and that just leads to resentment down the road. No one wants to be told what to do all the time, and no one should be. In order to treat your woman like a queen, you may have to let her do her own thing once in a while. This doesn't mean she should be doing whatever she wants, whenever she wants. It just means that you have to allow her the freedom to chase her dreams. Better yet, join her! Be her number one supporter and let her grow.

Honesty is the key to a woman's heart

There is no faster way to winning your woman's heart than being honest with her. Well, maybe chocolate covered strawberries in bed would help too. But while material things fade, honesty can build a great and lasting relationship. Honesty is easier said than done. There are times where we may lie for no reason at all! We just throw lies out with no effort. At work, at school, at home, we just keep the lies coming. The more we lie, the easier it becomes. In a relationship, a little white lie can seem so harmless, but if that lie grows, it can destroy a relationship as quickly as it began. Don't do this. Be honest with your girlfriend. If you made a mistake, or if you're struggling with something, tell her, no matter how big that mistake or struggle is. Why? It's because she deserves the honest and whole truth, and that is the way she should be treated.

A woman wants a man who's all in

Men, it's time to man up and be all in for your woman. This is sadly a rare trait in men these days. But rare can sometimes be good! You can be the man who is all in for his woman. You would be the talk of the town. Girls would be all over your woman with questions about how she found such a noble guy. All the while, you can sit back and feel a sense of pride. Not for you, but for your woman and the smile she is currently sporting. Women want men who are all about them. They don't want a guy who is unsure of who he wants to be with. And they especially do not want a man who treats them like a side chick (which no guy reading this should be doing)! No, they want the opposite: a man who is 100% on board with his woman. One who will support his woman, love his woman, and treat her right all the time. Do this, and your woman will be jumping into your arms.

Pay attention to her

Treat your woman right by paying attention to her. This is a simple task that some guys forget to do. You don't have to walk around with a notepad and pencil, taking notes on everything she does. However, you do need to take the time to notice her, and here are a couple of ways to do that.

Listen to Her

One way to give her your attention is by listening. Before you scoff at that line, think about the effort it takes to listen to someone. Not that much effort at all. You don't have to say a word. You may not even have to nod. Your woman just wants a friendly ear to talk to. In fact, you'd be surprised how many women would actually prefer that you stay quiet. It will only take a couple minutes out of your day, and all you have to do is sit and listen. Hey, you may even find that it brings you closer to winning her over, all because you took some time to treat your woman right.

Be Observant

Another way to give her attention is by being observant. Again, this will not take hours out of your day, and it is something you can do at any time. How do you accomplish this? Simple: notice her. Take a few seconds to check her out from top to bottom. Look at her hair, her clothes, her nails. Notice as much as you can. As she shops, look at what she is picking up, and what items cause her eyes to light up. Not only is this how you should look at your woman, but it's also a way to gain gift ideas for the future. Oh, and of course, notice her in the bedroom as well. As you become more and more intimate, start to notice what she likes and dislikes. Then treat her to some of those moves you noticed she enjoyed. Who knew treating your woman the right way could be so enjoyable!

Actions speak louder than words

Treat your woman right by listening, by showing respect, by paying attention to her, but don't forget to show her with actions as well. Actions really do speak louder than words, and here are some physical, tangible actions to treat your woman with.

Treat her to some flirting

Flirting should always have a place in a relationship. Once flirting stops, it becomes difficult to keep the relationship going. In early relationships, flirting comes early and often. From picking her up to twirling her hair around your finger, it's natural and easy. However, flirting can disappear as your relationship progresses. Be the one to keep flirting a big part of your relationship. Send her texts, buy her a meaningful gift, give her a kiss right before bed. There are many ways to flirt, and coming from her man, she'll probably enjoy them all.

Show her intimacy

Guys, you've been reading patiently, so here is the small section you've probably been waiting for: treat her with intimacy. Please, don't get too excited, because it may not be the exact intimacy you wanted to hear. When we hear intimacy, our mind produces images of us in bed with our woman. However, this is not the only intimate option. Although I'm sure your woman would enjoy some intimacy in bed, they also would like other forms of intimacy as well. Take the time to show her these other forms. Treat her to a vacation, by writing her a song, or by making her dinner. After all that, she may show you some intimacy in bed at the end.