Falling In Love Is A Choice Or Is It Related To Feelings?

There is more than one answer to this question. Since falling in love is a matter of both choice and feelings. It is not a choice to fall in love with someone as this happens naturally and without any control. Deciding whether to enter into a relationship with the one you love is the choice you need to make. You can love someone from afar or make the decision to take a chance and risk them saying, "no".

It is possible to avoid love or relationships, but love is not a choice. Even if you decide not to go down the route of having a relationship, love can come around and smack you in the face before you know it. Love happens when you least expect it and in the most unusual ways. A person might not even be looking for love until they find it. It can come at the most unexpected times and it might even feel like it is the wrong time. Maybe love is just around the corner, carefully waiting for that perfect moment.

Love has no age, it has no smooth edges and it does not fit into a box. Love comes in all shapes and sizes. Although people do fall in love some think that love is a choice where you can decide to fall in love with someone. If you do fall in love maybe the choice is in deciding to enter a relationship or not. Controlling how much love you have for a person. If you have been hurt a lot by past relationships, then you may be fearful of entering another relationship with someone especially if you feel they will abandon or hurt you.

Love is something that brings two people together, regardless of their sexuality or gender. Love should not be put into categories or age groups, it simply does not define itself. It is true that sometimes love hurts and love can be unkind, but love will conquer in the end. Where there is love there is no time limit. There are different kinds of love from the selfless, unconditional love that God showed to His children. To the parental love that has no bounds. To the intimate love that two lover's share when they enjoy special moments together in privacy.

It is impossible to control love once you experience it, it is there for a long time usually. Each kind of love is unique in its quality and boundaries.
 

When you truly deeply love someone it is not so difficult to accept their faults, even if they annoy you intensely. You love them and it just happens naturally. It is a choice, even when you have an argument you have to make the decision to forgive your loved one. Maybe they let you down and hurt you? It is your choice to forgive them. You choose to be considerate and put their faults aside as they will put your faults aside during conflict. You choose to be tender and loving to them. Selflessness is something that comes before loving someone deeply. Depth of love occurs over time. You do little things for them like bring them a coffee when they are upset or give them a cuddle to reassure them.

You buy them little gifts that are greatly appreciated. The best working relationships give 50/50 perfectly. It is all about give and take in a relationship. When thinking about the one you love ask yourself questions like do they love you in return? Do they go out of their way to work at the relationship? If there is any doubt that the relationship is one sided, life is too short to be with someone who does not love you back.

Love takes everyone on a different path. Perhaps for some love happens quickly, suddenly overnight, whereas for others it is a slower process that can take months or even years. Sometimes it is not the other person's fault, they are too blind to see what is in front of them. They have their eyes shut and do not realize how good the person is in front of them. They may not be ready for a relationship due to problems in their own life and before they know it the best thing that ever happened to them has gone.

Maybe that person does not realize why they act a certain way or what they are looking for in a relationship. They may be too immature to accept the responsibilities of a relationship with someone. They may be a player and the right person has come along but, they are too focused on messing with people's heads. Love can be about power to some people and some people are not happy until they have control over someone.

Love can also be about tragedy, especially when you cannot have the person you are in love with. One only has to look at Shakespearean 'Romeo and Juliet' to see how a pair of star crossed lovers took their life over their families deep seated feud. It took two lovers killing themselves to end their families’ war in a bitter tragedy.

It is a choice to stay in love and a couple must work at their love for it to last. A couple must communicate and be willing to discuss the difficult times as well as the good times. Love will only work if there is communication there. A relationship needs to be worked at in order for it to last.

Many couples give up on their relationship at the first sign of trouble when had they worked at it, it might have been resolved. That is why there are services for couple counseling so that people can work at their relationship. If there is love there then it is definitely worth fighting for, Recently, Nicholas Cage got married and within 4 days of the marriage got it annulled. Marriage used to be a long term commitment where the marriage vows actually meant something, but today many people don't take their vows seriously. True, sometimes there are genuine reasons to separate, but occasionally, marriage and long term relationships are given up on too easily.

Love is something you wake up to and a choice that you decide to work at. If you woke up one day and decided not to love your partner and to love someone else that would be a choice. Where values and morals mean so much, should a person simply give up their long term relationship because they set their eyes on someone else? Would it be morally right to turn your back on someone you have loved for 20 years for a whim? Too many people today have marital affairs.
 

We may fall out with our partner from time to time, but it is a choice from the moment we wake up to keep loving them. That is why the Bible speaks of never letting the sun go down on an argument. If we let arguments and troubles interfere with the relationship and we hold grudges it is not good news for our relationship.

Whilst it may be a choice to choose whether to be in a relationship with the one we love, it is not a choice who we fall in love with. We cannot help our feelings and they can't be switched off like a light switch. Real love involves deep rooted feelings and we may have spent a long time and effort invested in our love.
 

When it comes to enhancing love and making it more romantic as in a relationship that is a choice. Doing special things for each other like a carefully planned romantic meal or a picnic is something that makes the time spent together more special. Writing love letters to one another or running your loved one a bath are simple things that add more passion to the romance. Doing ordinary everyday things with one another like eating together or making your loved one a coffee all add that special touch to a relationship.

This book unlocks the mysteries of how and why we fall in love exploring psychological theories to explain why we fall in love with the people we do. Ayala Pines, Psychologist discusses theories and debates why people look for love and fall in love easily.

This book studies everything from philosophy to architecture. It is highly inspiring, poetic and intelligent. The book looks at romantic love and how love can be a choice. It is part novel and part philosophical meanderings of the journey of love. From the beginnings of love and tracking each stage of love in the process of long lasting love.

This book will help couples get the best out of their relationship. It is about the choice to love and work at a relationship. It will help couples hold on to the love they have and work on it. It provides excellent insights that a couple may never have thought of and is the ideal book for couples. It demonstrates that by being more considerate in a relationship, a couple get the most of their time together.

Maybe you have fallen in love with someone and it is special, you are cherishing each other. Perhaps, you have a new love and are seeing everything through rose tinted spectacles and at the moment everything seems like bliss. Or, are you the lucky one who have shared a lifetime together? Maybe you were young love or love at first sight? Perhaps you have been in love and experienced heart break? Whatever kind of love you have experienced enjoy the process and treasure the moments you shared. Love can be fleeting at times as life goes so quickly and we should take each opportunity to enjoy happiness. Hopefully this article has shown the different kinds of love and lover.