Reasons I Hate My Best Friend And What Do I Do About It

Best friends are the people we love and trust the most after the immediate family. No matter what the circumstances are, a best friend is always our go-to-person for all sorts of advice and sharing. However, despite the fact that you love your best friend, there are also times when you hate them. For example, you might hate them when they socialize with their other friends. Most people do not like sharing their best friends with anyone and are often as possessive about their best friends as they are for their partners.

Other reasons for sometimes hating your best friend include when they get extra friendly with your parents, when they tease you about your crush, when you are tired of covering up for them and so on.

Sometimes even though you love someone a lot, you might start hating them for a temporary period irrespective of your undying love for them. As human beings, it is natural to get irritated or pissed off at someone over something. At times we might also overreact but it doesn't mean we do not love that person anymore. Occasionally, we end up getting annoyed or frustrated at people who know us the best because they tell us the bitter truth. Some of the common reasons are when you shared something with a friend and they tell it to someone else, not with the intention of betraying you but to help you fix things. Another reason you start getting agitated or end up hating someone who knows you the best is when they break your trust. Being betrayed is one of the worst feelings in the world. Heartbreak is often associated with a breakup of a romantic relation however you can also experience heartbreak when you get betrayed by your best friend.

You love your best friend but sometimes you want to be left alone for a little while. You don't feel like interacting with anyone and just want to enjoy your own company for a while. No matter how much you love your best friend and are comfortable with them, sometimes when you want your personal space and they don’t give it to you, it becomes irritating. Failure of communication in such situations can become a reason for bottled up frustration which turns into hate.

You love your best friend but sometimes you get tired covering up for them. You know they have your back and you try your best to never disappoint them but sometimes you have to lie over and over again just to cover up their stupid mistakes. When this becomes a habit, you might start seeing them as a selfish person for continuously putting their needs ahead and placing you in an awkward position and it’s completely justified if you hate them for it.  

Imagine being single and having a best friend who is in a relationship. You understand that he is her partner and you also give them their space but sometimes you just want to have a girl’s night out and expect them to understand that. There is a type of friends who just don’t understand the concept of having a separate life than their boyfriend which is annoying. It is hard to share something with her without her boyfriend knowing, it is hard to plan a lunch with just you and her without her boyfriend showing up and you are allowed to hate her for this because I’ve been there and this feeling isn’t in your control.

You understand the concept of having fun and are not at all an old soul but you also care to act a little decent at public places. You love your best friend but sometimes you might hate them for embarrassing you in public. They might be too loud or might do stuff that could be pretty embarrassing and trust me, it’s okay to hate them for this.

If you even have a slight crush on anyone, your best friend would be the first person you will share it with but they will also be the person to make sure everyone finds out about it. They will not miss a single opportunity and might even act weirdly when you interact with him. I’m pretty sure you’d do the same when your best friend has a crush but that doesn’t mean you can’t hate her for doing what besties do.

Best friends are often the ones who are brutally honest with us and will tell us the things we need to hear more than the things we want to hear. That is also something a best friend should do ideally but sometimes we just want them to make us feel good and stop giving us reality checks. Out of all the people in the world, we want them to understand what we are going through and want them to be a little empathetic towards us. At this point, you might hate them for a while when she tells you the things you need to hear over the things you want to hear but in the long run, you will love her for this.

You have a relationship with your best that is directly connected to your mood. If she’s sad, you’re sad and if she’s happy, you’re happy. When you spend a good day with her, it can fuel you up for weeks of your tiring routine but what about the fight? When you have an argument with her, it’s a nightmare! It is one of those times where you hate her for it and you think you’re never going to speak to her again… but it doesn’t last long to love her back. After all, we’ve all been there done that. Love always conquers hate.

Your crush finally messaged and you obviously, all the butterflies in your stomach are making it impossible to type a sane reply but your future with him depends on the first texting impression you leave on him. Where is your best friend? She passed out on her bed with her cell on silent… Yes, hate her for it.

Now, who doesn’t know about the girl code of never leaving your friend side when she gets drunk? But this girl, your best friend, gets way too drunk on every girls night out and you have to look after her by giving up your fun time after a whole week of draining work. If you ask me, I’d hate her for that too so go ahead do that but make sure she’s safe first.

Well… the heading says it all. I know the frustration and trust me I’ve been on the receiving end of this kind of hate too… and she’ll understand you for hating her on this.

When you feel like you hate your best friend, the best thing you can do is not talk to them for a while and give yourself space to understand your feelings. Talking to them when you are mad with them will only add fuel to the fire. It is better to give them as well as yourselves the time to ponder over things and realize you can't live without each other. However, after a few days, talk it out with them and tell them the things that pissed you off. Tell them if you dislike anything and do not let any miscommunication or misunderstanding get in the way of the beautiful bond that you and your best friend share.

Best friends are the people we are the most honest and comfortable with. Only your best friend knows you inside out and maybe even more than yourself. Even though you love them unconditionally and would never want anything to ruin that bond, sometimes you hate them which is completely normal. Try to sort things out at the earliest and also try to understand their point of view. As it has been said, the bond only gets stronger after a fight. Cherish your best friends and make sure to always make time for them no matter how busy life gets. At the end of the day, it is only a best friend who will always be your shoulder to cry on and it is extremely rare to find a best friend again in life. So no matter how hard it gets, do not let your temporary anger let you end a lifelong friendship.