We’re all familiar with the bubbly feeling of starting to have a crush on someone because people of all ages go through that all the time. The ‘subject’ to your crush maybe your classmate, your colleague, a neighbor, or heck, even your teacher! You don’t choose to get involved in this feeling, it just happens naturally, and that’s why it could get crazy sometimes. We’re talking crazier than crushing on a teacher; imagine having a crush on a taken person – oh boy!
One thing’s for sure, it’s not something you control. But not every butterfly in your belly translates to a crush, and it’s important to know the difference! This article will take you through 8 ways to accurately judge whether you have a crush on a certain someone or not. We’ve scattered these 8 indicators among different types of crushes to cover more ground, so keep reading!
The Meaning of Having a Crush on Someone
Before we get on with defining the indicators of a crush, it’s imperative that we first clearly define a crush itself. According to Urban Dictionary, it’s simply a super-strong desire to get with somebody who your heart finds special and attractive. Even though this definition may have arguably oversimplified crushes, it essentially falls under this explanation.
If you’re actually going through a crush at the moment, we know how you feel. You can’t stop smiling as you keep thinking about them during the day, and your whole world stops when they walk past you. They make you feel crazy emotions without even knowing; you could be giddy, blushing, and super shy all at once! But if you’re unsure about whether or not it’s a “crush” or just hormones fooling you, this article is for you. Check for these indicators for different types of crushes and see if you fit the description.
Having a Crush on Someone You Barely Know
1. Consider How You Feel When You’re Around Them
Having a sudden feeling of butterflies in your stomach as soon as you’re near the ‘subject’ is typically an indicator of a crush, even if you barely know them. In the more serious crush, you might even feel like your heart dropped a little, or missed a beat when they came nearer. To sum it up, if you feel a combination of excitement and nervousness at once, it’s safe to say you’re into them.
2. Check Yourself for Feelings of Jealousy
Normally, if you had a crush on a guy, it’s a natural response to want him to be single even if you have no plans of approaching them any time soon. You may even not like to hear them talking about or hanging out with other girls. But on the other hand, if you don’t really have a crush, you’ll be fine with them even flirting around with other ladies.
3. Are You Thinking about Them as You’re Reading This Article?
To be honest, if you’re subconsciously associating a particular person to these crush-indicators as you read through this article, it may point towards having a crush. Not always though, you might just be confused, but focus on what’s internally going on in your mind when you ponder upon these points. Our gut feeling is usually right about a question like this, and if it’s telling you yes then it might actually be a yes.
Having a Crush on Someone at Work
4. See If You’ve Started Caring about Your Looks a Lot More
When it comes to a potential crush on a work colleague, it might be complicated to differentiate between the affectionate feelings of a friendship and a crush. However, if it’s just a friendship, you wouldn’t care that much about what they think of your looks. But if it’s something more than a friendship, say a “crush”, you wouldn’t be following your regular daily getting-ready routine. You’d care about looking appealing to your crush. This would cause you to spend more time in front of a mirror, so keep an eye out for this sign!
5. Are They All You Think About?
This one’s a super important indicator to consider because our thoughts reveal the truest version of ourselves. If you think about that special someone significantly more than any other aspect of your life, then you’ve probably got a burning crush on them. Perhaps you’ve always loved to hang out with your friends, but these days you just wish you were with that person instead! Do you fantasize about them? If so, it’s a strong yes.
6. Have You Started Talking about Them All the Time?
If one of your friends ever had a crush, you can easily recall them going on and on about them literally all the time. You could be talking about anything, and they’ll drive the conversation to that specific person. If you’re doing the same thing now, you’re most likely crushing on someone. If your friends tell you that you annoyingly bring them up 50 times a day, just admit it at this point.
Having a crush on someone who is taken
7. You Catch Yourself Having Vivid Fantasies of Their Breakup
As demonic and evil as it may sound, if you’re actually having a crush on a taken person, your mind cooks up daydreams of this sort. You paint this perfect romantic picture in your mind where their current partner becomes the “bad guy” and dumps your crush for no reason, leaving you, the noble hero of the story, to take care of them until they eventually fall in love with you. If you’ve caught yourself thinking this novel plot ever, you have a crush on them!
8. You Find Ways to Start a Conversation with Them
Without even being fully aware of what you’re actually doing, you’ll find yourself asking needless questions just to start a conversation. Sure, your mind will give you justifications for why you asked that particular thing, but keeping a close watch on yourself will tell you the truth. Heck, you’d even give them heartfelt relationship advice to satisfy your guilt, but even that might be just to have a few moments of bonding conversation.
How to Stop Having a Crush on Someone
1. Distancing Yourself Away
It’s going to be a heartbreaking journey to intentionally muffle the cries of love that your heart radiates 24/7, you’ve got to go through it if necessary (especially if your crush is taken). This means to at least stop talking to them and unfollowing them from social media sites to avoid being reminded of them. This will set the stage for a successful crush-forgetting journey.
2. Stop Bringing them Up in Conversations
Once you’ve successfully stopped talking ‘to’ them, you’ll now have to cut down on talking ‘about’ them. This includes telling your friends to act as an alarm system for whenever you bring your crush up in a conversation. While you’re at it, tell your friends to never bring him/her up too, if that wasn’t obvious as yet.
3. Allow Yourself to Grieve, Knowing You’ll Find Someone Better
You can’t dodge the grieving process; it’s coming and you better get through it consciously. It’s totally okay to cry, allow yourself to openly feel the emotions your body is experiencing. Don’t get mad at your crush though, it wasn’t their fault, just keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason. There are way too many people in the world to be hopeless about finding the perfect match!
Quotes about Having a Crush about Someone
“I had to get over [him]. For months now, a stone had been sitting on my heart. I'd shed a lot of tears over [him], lost a lot of sleep, eat a lot of cake batter. Somehow, I had to move on. [Life] would be hell if I didn't shake loose from the grip he had on my heart. I most definitely didn't want to keep feeling this way, alone in a love affair meant for two. Even if he'd felt like The One. Even if I'd always thought we'd end up together. Even if he still had a choke chain on my heart.” ― Kristan Higgins, All I Ever Wanted
“Do you know what it’s like to like someone so much you can’t stand it and know that they’ll never feel the same way?” ― Jenny Han, To All the Boys I've Loved Before
“I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?” ― Shannon L. Alder
“It's like I'm thirteen again and he's my crush. All I'm aware of in this entire roomful of people is him. Where he is, what he's doing, who he's talking to.” ― Sophie Kinsella, Remember Me?
“This isn't a crush, it's an obsession. You are not in my thoughts. Your scent carries across a room and paralyzes me with longing. I don't want to hold your hand. Part of me wants to set you on fire and hold you while the flame consumes us both, to eat your heart so I know that only I possess it entirely.” ― Gwen Hayes, Falling Under
You can’t compare the feeling of having a crush with any other emotion or experience in the world, it’s beautifully painful, in a one-of-a-kind sort of way. But by reading the quotes featured above, it’s evident that you're not the only one that gets these psychotic thoughts when you're going through like it. It’s supposed to be heart-crushing, maybe that’s why it’s named a “crush”. However, there’s no reason to be hopeless, maybe your crush will like you back soon! Before making any advances on them though, use the indicators mentioned in this article to make sure you’re actually feeling what you think you’re feeling. All the best to you!