How to Wear a Gag in the Bedroom for a Novice

Does the idea of being unable to speak arouse you? How kinky are you willing to get in the bedroom? Does seeing your partner wearing a gag ball bring any joy? Do you enjoy BDSM activities? If you haven't dip your toes into the world of BDSM then you wouldn't know what a gag is, right? Gags or ball gags are toys used to keep your partner's mouth open during sensual foreplay. The balls are made of plastic, rubber or silicone and are attached to a harness that straps around the head to keep them in place,

In kink or BDSM, gag balls are primarily centered in the dominant and submissive dynamic, since whoever's using the gag loses the ability to speak. The ball gag is one of the key items of physical restraint. If you're learning about gags just now, it would seem scary or difficult to imagine having a mouth gag during foreplay but (for many people), it's actually fun. They love it, why? Well, some people enjoy the sensation of not being able to speak, and others enjoy the look of their partners being gagged, they find it sexy.

Gags are popular among fetishists. They are sexually aroused by gags and the sounds people make while wearing them during sex. They are also aroused by the sight of all the uncontrollable drooling. For those who enjoy BDSM, the wearing of a gag can be seen as an act of punishment or humiliation. The submissive one needs to be restrained and punish by the dominant one. Others love wearing a physical object, like the gag, blocking their mouths because it triggers pain arousal.

Some people love wearing a gag because apart from establishing submission, it enhances their sexual experience. For the one wearing the ball gag, it increases both mental and physical arousal because it enhances their role as a sub or slave. Not being able to speak during sex adds to their level of anxiety due to being helpless and this heightens the overall sexual thrill.

Some others love wearing a gag because it can lead to a stronger climax. There are some larger, non-breathable gags that force you to inhale through the nose, this limits oxygen and it's what leads to a more intense orgasm.

Are you thinking about giving gags a try? Do you think your partner will be on board with that? If this is your first time hearing about gags and you're intrigued and want to learn more so you can give it a try then we'd like to help. Here are some good recommendations for novices like you.

You need to be aware that as much as ball gags are part of a sensual and erotic play in BDSM and the purpose is to keep the Sub form speaking, you'd still need to find a way to communicate a safe word. So before trying you should take about it, on ways the Sub can communicate the safe word that works for both of you. There are some ways to do this like snapping fingers, or the Sub dropping a token or tug something in close proximity, all this to let your know when they're feeling overwhelmed and want you to stop.

For novices, it is advisable to start with a time limit so your partner can get used to being gagged. In the dominant-submissive scene, the Dom needs to check periodically that gagged partner to make sure everything is OK. If you attempt to bring everything to fast and too soon, the gagged partner could feel uncomfortable, could developed some jaw pain or panic.

Choosing the right ball gag for beginners is crucial for you to really have a good experience. So if you're a novice it is wise to consult an expert before buying your first gag. This expert can guide you on which type of material is better and what size to buy. There are gags for beginners that aren't as intimidating, the balls in them are smaller so they're easy to adjust and so that the gagged partner won't need to open the mouth too wide.

Ok, so you want to give the gag a try. There are some things you need to acknowledge and do before trying it out. Before you go sticking anything into your mouth or your partner's mouth that's going to restrict their talking ability, you need to have a conversation. That's the first step, this way you can talk about expectations and concerns, and that way you'll be certain that you're on the same page.

Once you have discussed this new thing you're going to introduce into your sexy time and agreed that you're both OK with it, you need to have some clear signals. Your partner is not going to be able to talk so you need to find alternative ways to tell you if it's getting too intense or uncomfortable. Experts advise that you agree on a specific gesture or gesture for when the Sub has had enough and wants you to stop or do something else.

An example of said gestures or signals could be tapping three times on the back of the hand, as previously agreed, this could mean, "this is too intense, please stop", or "the gag is too tight, please loosen it up" or "my jaw hurts and I'm uncomfortable". It's a must that you have the "before" conversation with your partner. For sure it's going to be an awkward conversation nevertheless, you need to have it. One very important principle of BDSM is that it should always be sane, safe, and consensual. Maybe you're not all the way into BDSM, but since you'd like to try the gag, you need to have some ground rules from the start so that you both enjoy the experience. 

Now that you both agreed on the gag, you need to acquire one. Be sure to get one for beginners, you should look at a ball gag that's small and easily adjustable. A novice should be able to breathe easily with the gag on, as well as make sounds. You should consider getting a body-safe gag with a silicone ball. it is smooth, soft and easy to clean.

There is another option for beginners, instead of getting a ball gag you can get a cylinder-shape gag or a bit gag. With this type of gag, the submissive won't have to open the mouth as wide and breathing is easier. Ok, now that you have the gag is crucial that you start things slowly, as the dominant you need to constantly check on your submissive to be certain everything is ok and still feels comfortable, If you go at it too fast, it may cause gagging. Also, make sure that your partner (the submissive) is not sick or ill, for example, don't use a gag if there's a runny or stuffy nose because this will difficult breathing even more.

To start the scene, the submissive holds the gag to the mouth and you as the dominant, adjust the strap behind the head. It may take a while to securely get the ball gag into the submissive's mouth. While strapping the gag on, you should ask your submissive questions, even though the submissive won't be able to answer you but this way you can get set the scene and create a playful experience for both of you.

It's very important that you keep track of time so that your submissive doesn't get fatigued with the gag on and you should never leave your submissive alone while wearing the ball gag, this could prove dangerous.

Once you've finished the scene and both of you have had a good time, you need to take out the gag and clean it. Don't forget to do this after trying out the gag, it has bodily fluids and you need to clean it for safer use next time.

Here are some tips to properly clean your ball gag after trying it out.

• You can clean it using water and soap if you like you can use an antibacterial soap just to be on the safe side.
• Be careful around holes, rips, ridges or any difficult to clean areas, pay special attention to those so you don't leave any part dirty.
• Dry your ball gag and then store it in a silk bag, clean box or a proper storage container
• It's recommended that you disinfect your ball gag once in a while, You can use hot water and or a 10% bleach solution.

Ball gags are a commonly used sex toy in the BDSM world and if you're looking into it you may be thinking of adding a kinkier feel to your sexy time. Now that you know what they are and how to use them, they might be a good place to start to achieve your kinkier goals in the bedroom.