Control Your Partner: How To Be Sexually More Dominant In Bed

Let's face it - everyone wants to be dominant in bed once in a while, if not every single time. Here are some tips you can use to take control:

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Control Your Partner: How To Be Sexually More Dominant In Bed

How to be more dominant in bed

Sex is one of the most important parts of any relationship and should, therefore, be treated with utmost respect and care. There are some people who love to be in control sexually but just don’t know how to be dominant in bed. So, without further ado, here are some amazing techniques that will not only help you be dominant in bed but will most certainly make your sex life much more interesting:

1. To be dominant in bed, you need to dress the part

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Whether you are the boyfriend or the girlfriend, you may sometimes feel as if you aren’t that happy in your relationship even if you're in charge. If that's the case, you might want to switch up your bedroom attire. When you look sexy in amazing lingerie or boxers, you will get your partner’s attention and in turn, make it a little easier for you to control whatever is going on in bed which is quite incredible. If you don't know anything about bedroom attire and want to be dominant in bed, then it wouldn’t really hurt to take the time to seek the help of a good stylist. A stylist doesn’t have to be that professional guy you pay to tell you what your stylish friends can. You can just visit a shop and ask for the staff's advice. You will be surprised at how much they will be willing to help in your quest to dominate your bedroom.

2. Being good in bed comes with practice

Practice makes perfect is one saying that is never going out of fashion. So, if you want to gain control and take charge sexually, then you have to do just about everything right. If your partner is willing, you can take the chance to practice and get better with time. But if you want to practice and surprise your partner, then fear not because, thanks to the internet, there are a lot of videos and articles that can help you get better in bed. As a girlfriend or boyfriend, you need to also make sure that your partner is enjoying sex as much as you are. So, if you think being more dominant in bed is definitely going to make both of you happy, then why not? The good thing about this is that your boyfriend or girlfriend will appreciate you more for opening up and try to spice up your sex life. Do that and you will score some major points as far as your relationship goes.

3. Be dominant in bed by introducing curfews

Just so that we are clear and on the same page, this has got nothing to do with bringing law enforcement into your bedroom matters. What I mean is that you need to find a way to make your boyfriend or girlfriend crave you. If you make your partner crave you, then controlling them in bed will be a tad easier and you will most certainly enjoy doing so. You can start by banning your girlfriend or boyfriend from masturbation and watching porn. Do this and they will most certainly give you the chance to take control of the most important part of any romantic relationship – sex. The good thing about banning them from doing certain things will not only give you the opportunity to become dominant but will also make your relationship much more exciting.

4. Tie and tease

As long as your partner has consented to this, blindfold them, tie them up and start teasing them. Doing so will not only make your partner want you even more but will most certainly put you in a much more dominant position which is a definite win. Once you have tied up your partner and blindfolded him or her, proceed with the teasing. You can dance on them and let him or her feel the warmth of your skin. Try and kiss your partner close to the areas that he or she likes being touched without going directly there. In addition to that, try and whisper softly into their ears and you will most certainly have a good time. That, ladies and gentlemen, is how to carry out a teasing expedition and be successful at it. You can fashion a blindfold from just about anything and the same goes for handcuffa. But you can invest in a pair just to spruce things up.

5. Enjoy yourselves

At the end of the day, having sex is all about enjoying yourself as much as you can. So even if you are out there being dominant and calling the shots, make sure that when all is said and done, you are both enjoying sex. Show your partner that you are enjoying being dominant and in a bid to make you happier, they will allow you to be dominant. Although you're busy calling the shots, make sure that you are moaning or groaning or showing signs that what they are doing is really pleasing you. Doing so will most certainly make them put even more effort into sex, blowing your mind away while they are at it.

6. To be dominant in bed, you have to be sexy

If you want to get this dominant thing right, then you have no other choice but to get your sexy back. Hit the gym, lose that gut, and complement that with some amazing cardio so that in the end, you have an incredibly chiseled body that your partner just can’t resist. And then from there, don’t be scared of flaunting it around them. It will be good to then tease you partner so that when it’s time to give it up, your partner will do all in their power to make you satisfied. And that is how relationships bud and stay for a long time. Just make sure that you are doing all you can to get in shape, and don’t forget to be confident! It constitutes about 90% of being sexy. Ask anyone smart and they will tell you the same thing.

7. Being dominant in bed comes with declarations

Power is taken, not given. So, if you want to take over whatever is going on in your bedroom, sometimes all you need to do is put your foot down and you will be good to go. The moment you get in bed with your partner, try and declare that for tonight, you are in charge. If your partner has been dominant, they will step down for a little while and allow for you to take over. If they do, then make sure that you make the experience worthwhile. Also, be authoritative and show strength once you make your declaration. The latter is the only way you can be taken with the seriousness that you need to be dominant. Also, remember to never back down or change your mind. It will also be good for your relationship because it shows a lot of inner strength and that you can stand your ground during times of adversity, which is always a good thing.

8. Be dominant and make your partner wait in bed

Being dominant is showing your partner that you are independent with or without him/her, without being too cocky about it. And if your partner gets the notion that you have other things that are important to you as well, then they will do everything they can to get your attention. This is how one becomes dominant. And that is also how you will attain dominance in bed. On top of achieving the level of dominance that you want, you will also enjoy sex more in general, which is pretty cool. So apart from doing this for dominance, you can incorporate the same trick in your entire relationship. Doing this will most certainly put you in a better position. That said, always take time to practice and you will be rewarded both in bed as well as your entire relationship.

9. Maintain eye contact in order to be dominant in bed

If you want to have that dominant control both in and out of the bed, you need to learn how to communicate with your eyes. Eyes are the windows to one’s soul and so you need to learn how to communicate using them. In order for you to be dominant sexually, tell your girlfriend or boyfriend that you are in charge and stare him or her in the eyes to show that you mean business. The best place for you to practice your dominant look is in the mirror. The more you practice it, the better you get when it comes to being dominant which is exactly what we all want now, don’t we?

10. Use the right tone in order to be dominant in bed

Your voice is very important, especially when you want your boyfriend or girlfriend to heed your orders. Make sure that in whatever you are doing, especially in bed, always do it as though you are demanding and not begging, because there is a very big difference between the two. And if your partner lets you take charge, be confident that you are going to do a fine job. Always go out of your way to ensure that everything is being done perfectly and your relationship will most certainly be amazingly interesting. Needless to say, your relationship will be steadier if you learn how to stand your ground and speak your heart out. This is also why you need to know what tone to use and when to use it in order to avoid the possibility of being misunderstood, sexually or otherwise.


Being dominant either in bed or dominant in real life is very important since it adds a lot of value to you as one part of a relationship as well as individually. Therefore, it's a good idea to not only to be dominant in bed but to also be dominant in life as a whole. It is only the dominant individuals that will be in a position to take control of their lives in and outside of the bed. One thing you need to be careful of is not being too dominant, unless you want to scare your partner away. You can also incorporate roleplay so that you can ease into your dominant role with ease. Just remember not to force being dominant and you will be good to go.