8 Clear-Cut Signs He Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You

Having a crush on a best friend can be exciting and frightening at the same time. It’s always fun to have romantic imaginations with someone new in mind, thinking if you’ll ever have the chance to go out with him. But, it’s only fun until you see how unreasonable the chances are for that to happen. From that point on, it’s just sad and heartbreaking. Have you got a crush on someone but don’t know if they feel the same way? You’re probably looking for some clear signs that he doesn’t like you back. If that’s the case, this article is meant for you. Keep reading!

We’ve listed the eight signs he doesn’t want to date you, and just doesn’t like you that way.  

Any guy who likes you will naturally want to initiate communication with you. Here are the communication-related signs that he isn’t into you;

• He hardly ever calls, and it’s usually you who rings him.
• You’re generally the one who starts conversations with them in real life.
• They respond but don’t initiate.
• You always text first – or at least, mostly.

A guy who’s deeply into in his crush will be genuinely interested in what she has to say. They’ll pay attention to each word, and provide re-affirming body language signs that he’s listening to you. Guys won’t ever pick up their phones when their crush talks to them directly, so if that’s happening, it’s bad news. It’s best to keep this guy as just your friend and find someone who really cares.

Jealousy is one of the most obvious signs that someone’s into you. If you’ve tried to see how your crush reacts when you tell him about liking someone, and he didn’t pay heed to it, he doesn’t want you like that.

Someone who’s even remotely interested in dating you will show signs of discomfort when you mention liking/dating other guys. If he doesn’t seem at all concerned, and even tells you how you can spark things up with the guy you mentioned, that’s a pretty clear sign that he just sees you as a friend.

Guys who are into someone will find cute little ways to get closer or touch them.

It could be anything, from standing close to you, or sitting next to you in class, to hugging you to say hi!

A guy who doesn’t have any romantic interest in you won’t show these little affectionate advances. They’ll hardly get close to you and won’t try to be physical with you at all. Whenever you show interest in them physically, they’ll probably act weird. Watch out for this as it’s a pretty convincing sign to figure out if he likes you or not.  

Even friends would be available for you now and then, but it’s different when he likes you. A guy crushing on you will go out of his way to say yes to your hang-out offer. He’ll always prioritize returning your texts and calls, no matter how busy they are.

If your guy is hardly ever available when you want to speak to him or plan things out together, it’s a direct sign that he doesn’t have a romantic interest in you.

Does he remember your birthday? If yes, that’s a good sign, but even best friends will have that part covered. What matters is if they remember to ask you about how your interview went, which you told them about days ago. It’s a positive sign if he remembers to show up at an event you casually invited him to.

Not being able to keep track of the stuff that means a lot to you is a sign that he isn’t that interested. If he liked you back, caring about the significant parts of your life would come naturally. You’d do it for him. It’s not hard to be there when your favorite person wants you, is it? If he doesn’t match your energy, it’s best to move on – there are probably tons of people who dream about having a girl like you!

If he’s already dating around, that’s a pretty strong sign that he’s not that into you. If he were, he’d communicate clear chances and openings for you to show interest. If he constantly talks to you about other girls that he likes, he sees you as a friend he can trust, but nothing more. This is especially true if he gets into a serious relationship with another girl, that’s when you should give up all hope and look for someone who actually deserves you.

If the guy you’re crushing on, acts the same way with you as he does with everybody, you’re not special to him in a romantic way. Men around their friends act differently than with their love interest. If he liked you, he’d make his caring and protecting nature more obvious to you. He’d help you out, crack more smiles, and be kinder around you in an attempt to impress you. If that’s not the case, he only sees you as a friend or acquaintance.

This is heartbreaking to realize, we understand, but it’s better if it happens sooner! When you get this guy out of your head, you’ll make space for someone even more charming than him, who might be genuinely into you. We tend to avoid other peoples’ romantic advances when we’re crushing hard on one person, so the sooner you realize he’s not into you, the better!  

People won’t generally say it straight up, like ‘I don’t want a relationship with you’ unless you directly ask them. Instead, their behavior and other non-verbal signs can express this disinterest very clearly. We’ve described those signs in detail up above, but here are some more that relate to the things he talks about or says;  

• Guys who like you will try and flirt with you by occasionally saying stuff like ‘hey beautiful!’ or such. If your crush never calls you by any flirtatious names, even as a joke, that’s a sign.
• He keeps asking you for advice about his relationships with other girls, or his attempts to get with someone.
• All the conversations he has with you are generic and revolve around usual things, instead of having teasing or flirting elements.

There can be many reasons why a guy shows such behavior. He might not want a romantic relationship, but still stays in touch with you and keeps being around you. Here’s a list of plausible reasons;

• He sees you as a good friend and doesn’t wanna lose that with you. Perhaps he feels like he can share anything with you, not knowing about your crush.
• He might want an open-ended friends-with-benefits type relation with you and keeps you around to discuss that eventually.
• Even he might not be sure about what he wants, or if he’s interested in you romantically. If you know him to be an indecisive guy, this reason is highly likely.  

If all of the signs above match with your situation, you’re probably certain that there’s bad news related to your crush. If that’s the case, it’s time to accept the truth and move on with your chin up.

Realize that while he might seem perfect for you in your imagination, but that may not be the case in real life. When it comes to choosing a partner, being genuinely loved should be prioritized. If the guy you’re crushing on displays all the signs mentioned above, he’s probably incapable of giving you his true love – and that’s a turnoff.

There’s a whole pool of men out there who are looking for a girl just like you, and it’s just a matter of time till you bump into one. No matter how long it takes, it’s better to get with a guy who realizes your worth, and makes you feel like the most special person in the world!

It can be soul-crushing to find out that someone you adore romantically doesn’t have the same feelings for you. Still, it’s better to find out about that sooner, than to keep living in a dreamy illusion that’s bound to shatter. Before you invest more and more into someone, make sure they’re ready to reciprocate what you have for them in your heart – as cliché as that sounds. We hope this article helps you clarify your whole love life situation. No matter what, remember to put yourself first. All the best!