40 Signs He Has A Big (But Secret) Crush On You

Want to know if that guy you noticed staring at you has a secret crush on you or not? These are plenty of signs you can utilize to understand.

By Aadil Raval
40 Signs He Has A Big (But Secret) Crush On You

You crush is sending you a lot of unconscious signals

We can’t read minds because that is what only Superman and few other characters can do. It sucks when you want to know what is going on in another’s mind. And the fact that you can’t read others' minds is even more disappointing when it comes to deciphering what your crush thinks about you. Yeah! You heard it right. It insanely sucks when you are blushing while your secret crush is looking or staring at you and you want to talk to them but you can’t figure out what he might be thinking. It’s complicated, and that is what pushes people to think of other ways to gauge what signs or signals their crush might be giving.

Is it Possible to Understand If He Has a Big Crush On You?

The answer would be yes, although it takes patience and a keen interest towards gestures, body movements, etc that will let you know if the person you like or love has a crush on you or not. Let’s jump to the 40 signs and decipher what each of them means.

40 Signs That He Has A Big Secret Crush On You

1) They start hanging out with you

One says a boy and a girl can never be friends. In these times, it isn’t true since we already have a concept of being friendzoned. While you had a crush on a guy and the guy started initiated hangouts with you, it is a clear sign that he might be interested. They either ask for a movie or coffee or hang out at times especially when it's only you and him.

2) That Ginormous Smile By Your Crush

Did the world just came crashing down when your crush gave you a ginormous smile? It could possibly mean he is interested in you. You need to keep an undivided attention while receiving such a smile to decipher if it’s for you or not.

3) Eye Contact With Your Crush

Eye Contact reveals a lot. For a girl, a guy looking in her eye means that the guy likes her and he is pretty confident to start chatting. If he is making a lot of eye contact with you lately, this is one of the clear signs that he likes you. Many times, it is a best-kept secret that even his best friend won’t be aware of.

4) They’ll compliment you

These will be subtle, low-lying, praises and compliments that usually won’t trigger something but if you pay a close attention, you will observe that he is trying to compliment you for each and everything you do. For instance, ‘cool t-shirt’ is a small but pleasing complement.

5) He notices even the slightest details

It could be a new haircut or even the new Kajal that you are applying but he will never forget to praise you for the slightest details. Things will never go unnoticed so whatever you're wearing or however you look, you will always be praised by your so-called secret crush.

6) Long unending conversation

One of the biggest and the easiest signs of a secret crush that your friend might be is long conversations that he has been putting up lately. A guy who likes you or has a crush on you will try to keep the conversation going on.

7) Touch and Feel

Except for those creeps and desperate wannabes who are easily recognizable, there will be a guy who loves touching you or at least tries to touch *not inappropriately*. Holding hands can be included in this category. If you know someone like this, he could have a crush on you. Touching is a way of expressing one’s affecting towards others.

8) When you catch them staring at you

Once again, all the creeps who stare at girls aren’t included in this category. When a guy has a crush on you, at times he will stare at you and that is where you can contemplate if he likes you or not. Even if you have a crush on someone, you’ll do the same. Unless you were doing something absurd, he might be looking at something your beautiful face.

9) He won’t ask you about your partner

It hurts when you know that your crush is already in a relationship with someone and that is why your secret crush will resort to not discuss anything about your partner. If you have someone like this then there is a strong chance that he is probably into you.

10) He will ask deep and heavy questions

Friends do ask questions but someone who has a crush or likes you will probably dive into the most informative questions such as about your personal life, the tragedy in your past (if any), dreams, etc. It’s human psychology that when we like somebody, we strive to acquire more and more information about him/her.

11) He will get jealous more often

At the sight of another guy’s name, he will surely get jealous. Either he could display his angst against you or he might resort to keep quiet about it.

12) He gives signs towards something more than friendship

At times, he initiates being close to you. If he has a crush on you, he will make the move first or he would send signs that he is wanting to talk to you.

13) They try their best to look nice for their secret crush

When with friends, we do not care how we look. According to human psychology, you would try your level best to look good around your crush and that is what applies to someone who might have feelings for you.

14) Your secret crush pays for the food

Friends can be mean at times, but not that one guy who likes you. If he has feelings for you, then he would pay for the bill and pay for movies that you will be watching together. He would be tricky to manipulate your decision of paying yourself so that you let him pay.

15) Your decisions and opinions matter the most to him

You've resolved to climb Mt. Everest, and everybody disagrees with your decision. Not him. He supports you. This is a clear indication that he cares and respects for your opinions and decisions and would do anything and everything to keep it that way.

16) The biggest signs that he has a crush on you is the First Text daily.

He would opt for messaging you first in the morning. This becomes his routine to wake-up, message you or call you and then get freshened up. Moreover, he would keep the conversation going for long with new topics.

17) He’s there when you need him

Unlike others, he is on your speed dial because he is always there for you. Whenever you call him to help you, he comes running and helps you in whatever way possible.

18) He helps in your studies or your work

Whether a study project or data research for your work project, for instance in physiology, he will be there for you if you need him. He would be there even if doesn’t even know what physiology is and why is it important but he will come prepared referring all the physiology notes available at his disposal.

19) He flaunts his singlehood

You could be single or in a relationship but the one who likes you and has a soft corner for you within his heart would resort to being single. Moreover, he will flaunt that he is single and will keep the talk about him being single afloat until you notice.

20) One of the big signs that someone has a crush on you is his friends

Did you notice you have come across people with whom you never met? His friends would know your name and other information while you being unaware of them.

21) He would try to impress you often

No matter what the situation is, he would try to impress you at all costs. Say it through trendy clothes or bikes for instance but he would use any and every tactic to impress you.

22) He won’t talk about other girls

If the aforementioned things aren’t meeting your requirements, try this sign that will help you gauge if that particular person has feelings for you or not: he would never talk about any other girl for dating purposes even after being single for a long time. He would ignore any topic concerning dating someone else than you, and you would know when he is doing it if you pay a close attention.

23) The clearest of signs: he likes all your selfies

Here, I am talking about selfies. No matter how grainy it is or pixelated or even in low-light, he would always be the first one to like all your pictures and selfies. He will like every post of you and would agree to whatever caption you put. However, you will have to differentiate between someone having a secret crush on you or if someone is being desperate.

24) He is going to flirt with you, for sure

When you have feelings for someone, you can’t stop but compliment and praise them. If a guy likes you, he would indulge in what we call as unintended flirting. You’ll have to watch when he is flirting without any purpose and that is where you will hit the gold mine and perceive their secret feelings.

25) They would remember everything

Unlike your boyfriend or your partner, the person who likes you from the bottom of his heart would acknowledge all the details, he would remember each and everything you did. It includes all the weird, crazy, loving, and other things, plus important dates like your anniversary or your birthday.

26) All of your big secrets are safe with them

Trust is something way more important than any other aspect of a relationship which is for now, one-sided. He would share secrets that even his best friend doesn’t know about and you do the same with him. He trusts you blindly. For instance, he told you that he has been crushing all the physiology lab equipment and no one should know or else he would be expelled from the college.

27) There is always a reason they dislike your date

If you have a friend who ‘might’ have a crush on you or even a serious one, he would always find a hundred reasons to dislike him. He would explain to you why you shouldn’t date them which means they get jealous when someone is around you.

28) Future discussion at length

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He is someone who likes to talk with you regardless of the time so even a late night chat at 3 a.m. would be fine with him. He is someone who talks about his future with you with either intention or unintended signs that he would love to include you in his future life too.

29) In a group of friends, he will stick by you

Take for example a group of friends discussing a certain topic as friends usually do. The person whom you suspect to have feelings for you will always be with you even if you are wrong or alone in your opinion.

30) He tweaks his body language when you are near

Ever come across someone who becomes uncomfortable when you are around? It could be nervous or even a feeling of attraction towards you that makes him change his body language from being snuggly to comfortless and restless.

31) He blushes and smiles when with you

Pay attention to someone who blushes and smiles when with you but not when you are not near. This one is one of the clear signs that the particular person has a crush on you. That being said, there are exceptions which can be complemented by comparing other signs from this list.

32) You come to know about yourself from his friends

You spent a lot of time with a ‘friend’ of yours without detecting his feelings for you. Suddenly, you come across his friends who talk about yourself and also stats that your mutual ‘friend’ spoke to them about you, well, this one doesn’t need more explanation since you have already guessed the answer for this signs.

33) Another clear sign: your crush makes jokes about you

Not in a funny way but the jokes about dating you. If someone who has a crush on you either open or secret, he would joke around with his and your friends about dating you or proposing you to become his girlfriend. This should trigger your senses that he has feelings for you and that is why he is crushing the wall between you and him to try and date you for real.

34) Stumbling and Stammering

Other signs that are related to becoming nervous when someone you have a heart connection with is stammering and stumbling with words. He often jumbles words and sometimes the sentences don’t even make sense but trust me, he could have a crush on you because of which his response has gone haywire.

35) He adjusts his schedule for you

Do you know of someone who takes out time from his busy schedule to meet up when you call or arrange something even after being busy? Then you have a crush who is having a secret sacred feeling for you. These are constant signs that he could be sending continuously so that one day, you will come to know that you are special to him.

36) He’s the one who retweets and shares

Apart from liking all your pics on social media website, he will be someone who will retweet, share, repost, and all other social media gimmicks to impress you and attract you towards him. Beware, there are perverts and desperate guys on the social media from whom you must be aware of. Thus, it is ideal to respond to anyone who has a crush on you in real life like in college or at work, etc.

37) He is true at heart with chivalry

Chivalry never dies. He will act as true gentlemen who would never become aggressive as those wannabes you would find on the streets, even though he's crushing on you really hard. He will be the one who invites you on a date or says hangout which is a secret date for him and he will pull the chair for you, hang over the tissues, etc. He would do anything possible impress you and that is where you will know, he’s the one crushing on you.

38) He wants to be around you

It could be during any heart-breaking situation or during an emergency or serious events, but he will be with you irrespective of what may come. A man who has a secret crush on you will always be there with you even if you want him at 2 a.m. He will always be a shoulder to cry on.

39) He seeks your opinion at times

He is someone who wants to keep connected with you. He is someone who would ask you what shirt to wear, which color to choose and which brand to select, etc. For the some who has a secret crush on you, your opinion would matter the most.

40) He crosses his legs

It is one of the signs that someone has a crush on you. In this sign, you would notice that whenever you are around, he crisscrosses his legs. This is an unconscious response which could seem weird but it is completely natural. If you come across someone like this, you will definitely know if he is into you or not.

Extra Bits

Although these are 40 signs that you can notice or observe in something having a secret crush on you, there are pretty much numerous other signs that they would show constantly. It needs a keen eye to judge the signs and to understand the responses. For example, if someone is crushing on you, he would give you that look which you will find little different than how your friends see you. Other signs include remembrance. He will not only remember the dates, things you did as aforementioned but everything you said earlier word-by-word. Sometimes they will also read all their conversations with you, however, there is no way to detect if they are doing so since you can not put a scanner on their phone. A big sign towards crushing on someone is that you forget to touch your phone when your crush is around. If a guy who you know can’t live without his phone but will resort to not to touch their phone when you are around, then you are special. If someone who excels in studies in subjects such as biology, physiology, etc and imparts time from his busy schedule only so that you can do well on your upcoming physiology or biology test, he would always be special. Because he's sacrificing for you, showing that he really cares.

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