10 Critical Factors to Make a Man Fall in Love with you

How long it takes to fall in love depends on the person in question. Reader’s Digest claim that men fall in love quicker than women and men are 48% more likely to fall in love at first sight. So, ladies, he’s probably way ahead of you when it comes to love.

Love is (usually!) a positive thing, so you won’t miss the signs he’s showing. If he’s realized he’s serious about you and wants you in his life for a long time, his behavior will be very obvious. He will, firstly, be hoping to get the same reaction out of you, thus you will notice a lot of increased advances. He’s nicer, accommodating, and supportive. Maybe he has that look on his face you haven’t seen before. He might get angry less often, make a lot of plans with you, and find ways to be near you and keep you happy.

Communication, in any relationship, is key. Miscommunication is one of the leading causes of breaking up, so if a man is in love with you, he will have a very direct communicating channel with you. Text messages, late-night deep talks, talking, and expressing himself truly is a clear sign he is serious about you.

He would be emotionally vulnerable with you, share his past, fears, and insecurities. He would want you to get to know every bit of him. He would include you in his decision making, valuing your opinions. Moreover, he wouldn’t keep secrets or be excessively suspicious of yours. His positive body language towards you is also a sign of love.

Patience is key! If you want a guy to fall in love with you, you’re looking for a long term relationship. It won’t happen overnight. Does he love you? Or not? Wait.

If you rush things, you may blow your chance. Everyone experiences things on a different tempo. If it’s meant to be, you’ll see signs of increased attraction soon enough. And if he isn’t hinting at a more serious relationship after a while, step away.

This one is a no brainer. Physical attraction is the first of many things a guy looks for in a prospective partner and vice versa. Everyone has different tastes, and there is no point in changing your physical appearance every time you meet a new guy just to cater to his preferences. Wear what you’re comfortable in.

However, be presentable. Good hygiene ironed clothes and fresh breath is necessary. Especially during the initial days, there is nothing more attractive than a well-groomed woman.

Do things that show this isn’t just an infatuation or short-lived relationship. To do that, you need to create an emotional bond. It’s easy to talk, harder to listen. Really listen.

You need to put all your energy into hearing what he’s saying. Also, try to take in the signals he’s communicating non-verbally. A lot of communication during the initial dating phase may be nonverbal. See how his body language is when he’s speaking. Is he sad? Stressed? Pay attention so he knows you care how he feels.

What can you do to show him you appreciate him? Don’t only complement his appearance, but do say positive things about his witty jokes, his cooking, etc. Other than some well-meaning compliments, you can appreciate him by actions as well.

Think about ways you can help him, or make his life easier. Walk his dog. Bring him breakfast in bed.  Find ways to make him smile. When he starts to feel your love, he’ll soon start to feel his own for you.

Support is a wide array of emotions. Support him emotionally, physically, and if the situation requires, financially. Being there for someone can mean so many different ways. Support him in the decisions he makes, his plans, his choices.

Tell him how you feel about the situation if you feel he should act differently, but don’t make him feel less. If he chooses to be vulnerable with you, extend your full support, and let him know you are here.

Creating a healthy balance between your relationship and your life is extremely important. What separates infatuation and love is time. Give him time. Let him go for a boys’ night or focus on his work. Give yourself time. You don’t want to be the kind of person who completely ditches her friends and family whenever she starts dating. Spend some time alone.

It also means you’re not overly relying on him, and vice versa. You both are still your own person.

You can’t have love without trust. Both of them go hand in hand. A stable, healthy relationship requires mutual trust and honesty between both partners. You need to be truthful, even vulnerable with him so he may fully trust you to reciprocate these feelings.

Trust doesn’t come easily. It comes with time and conscious effort. If you have trouble trusting due to a bad experience, communicate this with him. If you feel he isn’t very trustworthy, don’t ignore it and follow up on your gut feeling.

Don’t play the dumb blonde. Most guys don’t find that attractive, and frankly, neither should you. Don’t downplay yourself for him. Having a few intelligent debates and conversations will keep your relationship thriving.

Challenge him, question him, deliberate with him. You don’t have to agree with everything he’s saying, and neither does he. Uniqueness is attractive. At the same time, don’t enforce your views on him. Respect your views, and respect his. Keep it stimulating with your witty discussions.

No one likes a pushy partner. Someone who constantly disapproves of his likes and dislikes. Don’t ostracize him for the things he’s passionate about. However, mention what you’re not comfortable with. Compromise is key. I’m sure there are a few things about you he isn’t too fond of. You both have to compromise it out.

No one likes everything about the other, that’s not human. Besides, if it bothers too much and you feel like you couldn’t adjust, he isn’t the one for you probably.

It's the little things that one remembers. A time where you went out of your way to do something thoughtful for them. Or maybe you left him a little note. Show him that you’re thinking of them. The way your face lights up when you see him, when you give him a supportive pat or when you run an errand for him, these gestures will stay in his mind and he’ll be soon to reciprocate it to the woman who so deeply cares about him.

There are many ways to get to know a person. You both have experienced similar attraction and would like to know each other better. Focus on asking questions that would further the conversation, like asking about where they grew up or what their preference in food is. Don’t make it a rapid-fire round of questions; accept the awkwardness. Be active in your conversations, by making eye contact or leaning your body towards them. Vice versa, see how they respond. Pay attention to their replies and body language.

When we meet someone new, a flow of compliments gushes in. However, this seems insincere, thus keep them to a minimum.

As mentioned at the beginning of the article, not losing yourself in the process is important. Men may come and go, but your journey with yourself is for a lifetime.  Being yourself is the foremost part of dating. Putting on a fake persona that is so dastardly different from yours will only harm you later. It will also cause a rift in your relationship. Thus, start honestly. Be your own authentic self, and men who appreciate that will come to you. Whatever parts of your personality make you should be your image. There is nothing more appealing than a woman who is comfortable in her own skin.

Love in the first instance does happen, but do not be discouraged if the spark doesn’t occur immediately. The relationship will succeed if you both continue to share a mix of common traits, beliefs, and values.

Love is a strong feeling and must be nurtured in different ways, situations, and times.