19 Obvious Signs You Are Officially In The Friend Zone

If you are falling head over heels for a girl and you're unsure if she feels the same, here are obvious signs you are officially in the friend zone!

By Neko Yama
19 Obvious Signs You Are Officially In The Friend Zone

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We love to joke around about being pushed in the friend zone whenever we are with our friends. But, it is not funny when you are experiencing it. In fact, it is one of the most hurtful situations you can get in. It is as hurting as being left alone by a lover. Why must friend zone exist though? Remember that just because a girl enjoys talking to you, a girl shows interest in your hobbies or she texts you back doesn't mean she has feelings of admiration for you. The friend zone exists because it's natural. True love is never easy to find—with millions of people all over the world, your cupid must like you very much if you get to meet your soulmate on the first try. Unfortunately, those who get trapped in the friend zone are the "good girls" or the "nice guys," as for a reason, nobody knows for sure. Maybe people nowadays look for partners who are confident on taking on advances, maybe guys like wild girls better, or girls like adventurous guys. Who knows? The friend zone is natural; the next question is how to escape it. Good news: You don't have to stay there forever. You only have to know the signs early so you won't have to torture yourself. Of course, it is also not easy to just forget about your feelings for the person you admire but what else can you do, right? Anyway, here are 19 obvious signs that you are already trapped in the friend zone.

1. Is She Too Comfortable Around You?

Is she the type of person who texts or calls you whenever something exciting or even boring happens to her? Do you notice that this girl you admire can tell you almost everything? Because if so, you might want to back off on making advances on her because unfortunately for you, that is an obvious sign that you are in the friend zone. If one likes another in a romantic way, they'll be a little mysterious when it comes to their personal matters. They will only show the brilliant and exciting side of their life because they want to impress the guy they admire. A girl who has feelings for a guy will hide a lot about herself and would feel uncomfortable to turn talkative in front of him. If she does the opposite to you, it just means she treats you as a friend she can trust, but you're not really a boyfriend material for her.

2. She Tells You About The Guys She Likes

Maybe you heard her once talked about a certain guy in her office whom she likes very much and currently dating, or she goes on and on about a guy she just met the other day. Worst that can happen is for her to be asking your advice on what to do so a guy she likes would ask her out on a date. If she has once told you about the guys she admires or she finds interesting, then it's clearly one of the strongest signs that you are pushed into the friend zone. Why? It's pretty obvious. If she likes you in a romantic way, she will not talk about other guys, much more ask your advice in hopes of catching a date. However, if you notice that she compares them to you and you end up being the better one, there is a high chance that she likes you. But, if she doesn't mention you ever, it's time to escape the friend zone.

3. Having Pet Names Means Friend zone!

If a girl likes you more than a friend, she will not use corny names to call you such as "poo head," "my brother," "bff," "best buddy," "kiddo," and the likes. What's even worse is when she calls you with these in public places. Of course, there are couples who have call signs and pet names for each other, but if you are a friend for now and she uses these cute pet names, it's one of the signs that you are currently not a potential candidate for dating.

4. You Always End Up As Her Shoulder

If you are noticing that you are the one whom she always leans on when she's at her most vulnerable moment, it is one of the clear signs that you are a just a friend and nothing else. Maybe she just broke up with her boyfriend, and she turns to you. She probably just wants you to sit on the couch with her and a tub of ice cream while watching a DVD. She wants to cry her eyes out and wants you to say, "you're a strong person, you can go through this," or "you deserve so much better." If you always end up being the one who consoles her when she's down, it is high time that you escape the friend zone or think twice about making a move on her. She is just too comfortable and trusting towards you that she doesn't look at you in a romantic way. You are no boyfriend material for her.

5. She Dresses Up In Front Of You

What is the meaning of your crush dressing in front of you? Unfortunately, it means you are in the friend zone. Notice how she reacts when you are poolside or at a beach together and she's wearing a bikini—does she constantly adjust her straps? Is she fidgeting and looking at you now and then? Because if that's the case, she might be interested in you in a romantic way. She's conscious that she might not look good. However, if she doesn't care if you see her body rolls, it means she's not very concerned, and it's not a big deal if you find her appealing or not. This is especially true if she can dress and undress in front of you. For her, you are nothing else but a friend she can trust, an almost-family member; she's comfortable getting naked in front of you without any sexual feelings.

6. You've Shared A Bed But Nothing Still Happened

How many times have you shared a bed with her? And for those times, did something even happen between the two of you? Or did she just go to sleep instantly? You might think sharing a bed with her is a perfect opportunity to make a move on her. But if she is too comfortable on lying on the bed with you, it means the opposite of what you think. She doesn't think of you as boyfriend material; she treats you like a trusty friend—or worse, a brother. Another thing to notice, if she wears her childish pajamas or she puts no effort to look sexy while lying on a bed with you, or wear not even light make-up, it's a clear definition of being in the friend zone. If you are feeling rather bold, you can try and initiate some physical activity but it's highly suggested that you don't because you are only expecting rejection.

7. Have You Met Her Family?


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It's a normal custom anywhere to let your family meet someone you like. So, ask yourself if you have ever met her family once. Although there is a chance that you already have since it's also not a taboo to bring a friend at home. However, how did she introduce you? "This is..." or "this is my friend,...". If she used the latter, then you are nothing but that. Also, if her parents never mention anything about your relationship or never regard you as their daughter's boyfriend and act too comfortable around you, it's the definition of being in the friend zone and nothing more.

8. You're No Boyfriend Material When She Sets You Up

Has she ever mentioned a girl in her class or a girl with whom she works? Does she tell you that this girl is pretty and how you might want to text and go out on a date with her? If so, you should watch out because the meaning of this behavior shows red flag! It's much worse when she just randomly brings along a girl while you are on some hang out. This is one of the clear signs that you're in the friend zone because, if you think about it, a girl who likes you in a romantic way will never set you up with another girl.

9. Does She Do What You Want?

When was the last time you remembered that she tried to adjust her schedule to do the things you invite her to? Did she ever go to a basketball game with you even though she's not interested in sports? Did she ever cancel plans with other friends to go with you instead? She might have a few times, but if you notice that what mostly happens is the other way around—you getting roped up with whatever she wants to do, it's time to consider backing off a little because you might not be seeing it, but you're already in the friend zone.

10. No Physical Contact Signs Friend Zone

Notice how she reacts when you try to make physical contact with her. Does she return the gesture? You know she may sometimes, but that doesn't mean she already treats you as a dating material. It could only be because she treats you like her very close friend or almost seem like a "big bro." However, if she doesn't, the only meaning of that would be because she's not interested in you in a romantic way. Keep in mind that a girl who likes you will always find an excuse to touch you.

11. You End Up Always Doing Favors

How often do you give her rides from place to place but you were never invited to? Do you always tag along at the supermarket with her? Or worse, are you the one buying her tampons when her cramps won't let her get up from the bed? Then, bad news for you because it's a clear definition of being trapped in the friend zone. It is not entirely bad to do errands for her but if you notice that it keeps on happening, she might not be looking at you as a dating potential. They might be called as "boyfriend duties" but remember that whoever usually does them ends up being in the friend zone.

12. She Brings Along A Friend Whenever You Two Go Out

Notice her replies whenever you try to text her and ask her to go out together. Does she answer your text excitingly? Can you feel her willingness to go out with you alone? Or does she always texts you back with "Can I bring my friend?", or "Can I tag my sister along?" If she always brings someone else whenever you try to get her alone with you, the probable meaning of this behavior is to prevent you from making any more advances with her. If she sees you as a dating potential, she will always find an excuse to have you alone. This is one of the best signs that you must escape the friend zone now.

13. Adjectives For Friends Signs Friend Zone

Listen to her how she describes you. What adjectives does she use? If she uses "you're lovely," "you're sexy," "you're manly" and the likes, there is a big chance she's interested in you. However, if she describes you like how she'll describe her dog, using adjectives such as "adorable," "friendly," "silly," "cute," watch out because it's a clear definition of friend zoning. After all, a dog would never be a candidate for dating, because they're only human's best friend, nothing more!

14. You Are In The Friend Zone When Dates Are Casual

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Do you go out with her—a walk in the park, mall shopping, bike riding, going out to a party, or watching a movie? But somehow, you never get the feeling that those "dates" are romantic? Does she act too casual whenever you two are alone together? If that is how you notice it, you are probably in the friend zone. Although, there is not a certain way to know whether your hangouts are romantic or not but outright asking her. If you are too shy to ask, but you can determine it by reserving a fancy restaurant, wear your "dating" formal outfit, and well, treat it like a romantic date! If she show signs of awkwardness, then you have your answer, they're not romantic dates after all!

15. "You Are An Awesome Friend!"

Maybe it's time for you to escape the friend zone when you always hear from your crush that you are such an awesome friend. Keep in mind that when a girl takes extra effort to remind you that your friendship is too important for her, it is her way of sending you the message that you should stop hoping that you two will ever become more than friends and that you should give up altogether on making a move on her. It can also be her desperate call to show you that she does not want to lose you as a friend. She does not want to reach to the point where she has to completely push you away for you to stop.

16. Introducing You As A Friend Signs Friend Zone

Whenever she introduces you to her friends or her family, how does she do it? Does she tell them directly your name or does she always start with "this is my friend..."? If she uses the word, friend, then you have to accept that you are nothing but that and you might already want to escape the friend zone. Ladies tend to brag about their crushes or the guys they like to their friends that they can even write a biography through her introduction on you. And if she likes you, she'll make her mark on you. However, if she boringly introduced you with just a wave of her hand, it's a clear sign of friend zoning.

17. You Can Get Drunk Together And Nothing Will Happen

Can you remember a time where you two got drunk together? If you will think about it, it is actually a perfect opportunity for you to hit on her, right? But, instead of expecting an intimate physical activity, did she just end up asleep on the bed without even trying to go for a kiss or a hug? That's bad news for you. You have to move on because it's clearly a definition of being in the friend zone. Most people would go through the help of alcohol to make advances with their crushes, but if the girl you like still wants nothing to do with you after getting drunk, it is not a good sign though it is one of the strongest signs that your role in her is just a friend.

18. Signs Of Friend Zone: You Are Unfunny To Her

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What is the meaning of the girls' behavior when they laugh at the guy's joke even though it's not funny? It means they like the guy. They're trying to impress and be a lot closer to the guy. So, watch out if your crush never laughs at your jokes, but rather, she rolls her eyes at them most of the time. This is a clear definition of her pushing you into the friend zone. Although just because she laughs at them would not also necessarily means that she's crushing on you too—it could be just because you're really funny.

19. Her Friends Will Tell You So

What other meaning does it have when her friends tell you that you are in the friend zone? This is one of the most significant signs that you have to move on and stop altogether from hoping she would ever become more than a friend. She might not be able to say it in front of you because she's afraid of hurting you, but who other than her friends can she share this dilemma with, right? Although it could mean nothing, maybe they're just playing around, then again, maybe they're telling the truth. What are the odds?