25 Warning Signs Your Boyfriend Is Controlling Your Relationship

For any person who suspects they are in an abusive relationship, she should always get out because such situations never end well. And since getting out earlier is much better, it is important for you to check out the tale-tell signs that might hint your boyfriend is a control freak. Some of these indicators might include being jealous and insecure especially over some petty issues. Also, check out other signs and once you realize that you are trapped with a controlling boyfriend, then the best move will be to get out before it’s too late.

Possessiveness is one of the signs of immaturity as well as a control freak. The latter always happens because your boyfriend knows jolly too well that he doesn’t deserve you and that you might find someone better. So, they will always seem to isolate you even from friends and family because of fear they might tell you what he already knows — he isn’t good enough for you. He will always be obsessive with your movement and even keep on checking your phone over and over again and that is just nothing but a poor excuse for a relationship.

The person who said that love is blind didn’t lie even a single bit. So, when all of your friends seem to hate him, you will always wonder why. But it is during such times that you should always be open to criticism and you should be surprised much when one of your bold friends just comes clean and calls your boyfriend for what he is — a controlling boyfriend. That said, even if you might be missing on the salient characteristics, you can never count your friends and family opinions when it comes to your boyfriend and you should take it with a pinch of salt.

A controlling boyfriend will always find ways to put you down so that you, in turn, think that he is doing you a favor by dating you. But that is just not true because the fact is that he is scared of losing you that is why he is acting that way. He will find even the slightest of things you didn’t do perfectly and dwell on them. The truth of the matter is that you don’t have to deal with such kind of drama because it’s not only toxic but also very abusive. This is an indicator that he is jealous, childish, abusive and possessive, and you deserve better.

You can never go wrong with this indicator. A controlling boyfriend would do just about anything to keep you, and that comes from being insecure and possessive. He might threaten to beat up other males who befriend you or look like they want to date you. Even worse, he might threaten to take his own life if you dare leave him or anything within those lines. These threats will almost always be accompanied by annoying obsessive traits such as stalking and prying which can be emotionally draining. You should, therefore, learn how to take care of yourself by first of all leaving him and never come back.

Apart from your friends not being cool with him, the feeling will almost always seem to be mutual. A controlling boyfriend will always know that they disapprove of him and so he will always be vocal about his dislike for your friends. More often than not, he will always try to keep you away from your friends so that he can continue to torment you mentally which is something that you need to get rid of. The more you stick to your controlling boyfriend, the more you will get hurt. Run girl, run.

A real man will always support his woman through thick and thin, victory and defeat — but not a controlling boyfriend. Support is neither in their vocabulary nor their characteristics. Put on the most beautiful dress in the world, and he will grumble about how your cleavage is overexposed. Even worse, he will most certainly have a big problem with your happiness, and for the umpteenth time, you don’t need to deal with such kind of abusive person. I know I am insisting because that is just how serious it is. Don’t stay with an abusive, jealous boyfriend even if your life depended on it. Their unpleasant characteristics will never change.

One of the many relationship's characteristics is that love is unconditional. But when it comes to your jealous, insecure and controlling boyfriend, you will have to please him before you get the love and that is just petty. Because of his jealous, insecure, abusive and possessive nature, your boyfriend will always come up with conditions with which if followed will earn you his love. Your jealous boyfriend might say you have to stay with him all the time, cut off your family and friends as well as all the guys that follow you on social media. Crazy, right? But can you expect any better from such a person?

Apart from being negative all the time, which is draining, by the way, your controlling boyfriend will always make rude comments. And to add salt to injury, he will always make it look as though it is your fault. If you have a weight problem, expect zero encouragement from such a person. He will always make rude comments about your weight or grades or sexual performance which isn’t really how any normal boyfriend should do. Again, get away from such an obsessive and controlling relationship. There are scores of men out there who will love you and all your imperfections.

The controlling, and for that matter, very annoying boyfriend will always keep a wide berth especially when you need him the most. They will almost always do all in their power to distance themselves when you are at your lowest. Therefore, that's among the characteristics you ought to look out for. And that is why you need to stop dating a boyfriend which such characteristics because he will always leave you vulnerable and exposed. But then he will have the nerve to blame you for being vulnerable. You don’t have to deal with someone like that, not now, not never.

If you think women have a memory sharp enough to remember any bad deed, wait until you meet a controlling boyfriend. They seem to have a temporary amnesia when it comes to all the good that you have been doing over the years, but when it comes to the mistakes, it does seem that they have a good memory all of a sudden. An abusive, jealous, insecure boyfriend will never get tired of reminding you that you messed up from time to time. Even when you start feeling as though your life is coming together, they will almost always make things worse by sliding in a bad comment about something you did. It sucks big time and needless to say; you will have such a difficult time focusing altogether.

Apart from being possessive and obsessive being their favorite characteristics, which are enough to drive you crazy, a controlling boyfriend always has a way of killing all of your chances of being at peace. If you do something wrong, as petty as it will be, your boyfriend will always find a way to knock you back down no matter how hard you apologize. If you spoil yourself with an expensive pair of shoes, you will not hear the end of it even if you used your money for it which is just too ridiculous. At the end of the day, when all has been considered, you shouldn’t stay in such a relationship — period.

Guilt is a very powerful tool that a controlling boyfriend always strives to use over and over again. All of a sudden, you will always feel as though everything is your fault even if it was their fault and if you keep up with staying in such a relationship, then you will always be feeling stressed and depressed because you will feel useless when you aren’t. And the worst thing about being in a relationship with such a guy is that they will never feel guilty about what they are doing to you.

Another reason why you don’t have to deal with a controlling boyfriend is that you won’t ever have privacy. He will insist on checking out your phone, your social media pages and even put on a hoodie and follow you around like some serial killer. A girl deserves to be with a guy who gives her all the space in the world so that she can at least miss him. But you can’t get that from an abusive and jealous boyfriend.

When it comes to your insecure, controlling boyfriend, spying isn’t just enough for them. When they are fresh from spying on you and find out that something doesn’t add up, they will have the nerve to confront you demanding answers. And they will get to do this forgetting that they had no right invading your space and privacy. If they see you chatting up with another guy, they will have the audacity to walk to where you are and demand an answer as soon as possible, which is just too bad. Being possessive and obsessive, they will choke out any happiness that you have, and that is just not right.

If you are in an abusive relationship, some part of your brain will tell you that it’s not good for you and that you should leave as soon as possible. You will always find that you are happier and having a good time whenever you are away from your controlling boyfriend. The latter is so because he is responsible for sucking out the joy in your life. Which is one of the many reasons you need to stay away from him at all times?

Paranoia is one of the characteristics that you will have to deal with when you are dating an abusive, controlling boyfriend, which you shouldn’t really. He will always come up with some incredibly imaginative theories about how you are cheating on him and how he always knows. The only problem is that you weren’t even thinking about cheating or leaving him when you actually should. All I can say is you need to grant him his wish and leave him for someone much better since it will most certainly be for your good.

A timeout is very important in any relationship because from time to time, we all need some space to reorganize our thoughts and renew our focus. But when it comes to your controlling boyfriend, he will always see your alone time as your time for cheating and bad mouthing him. As I said earlier, his jealous, insecure, as well as possessive nature, is born out of his full knowledge that he is treating you poorly and that other man can do much better — and he is right. That said, the only way you can get your personal space back is by running away from him and never coming back.

Let me put it this way — you will never win an argument with him because he has been planning the fight for a while. Apart from keeping a very active scorecard and being flat out rude, always expect your controlling and obsessive boyfriend to make you tired to the point that you agree with everything he says just to avoid an argument with him. And I don’t have to say that I am also starting to get tired of telling you that you should leave him, especially if he has all the above qualities. That is not a relationship you would want to be in at any given moment.

A controlling boyfriend’s idea for fun is teasing you over and over again, which isn’t the best thing to do to someone you refer to as your girlfriend. For that matter, you need to make sure that you are getting away from such people because, well, they will suck up all your energy and make you feel less worthy of anyone better. And that is exactly what they want you to feel by the way.

The only encouragement you will ever get from an abusive, controlling boyfriend is to partake in unhealthy hobbies such as drinking, smoking or even doing drugs. The main reason for them doing this is simply because they feel mediocre and we all know what they say about misery — its needs company. You will, therefore, find yourself in situations such as fights and arrests because you simply indulged to please him. You need to deal with him and be free before it’s too late for you to do that!

For some twisted reason only known to them, a jealous and controlling boyfriend will always shut you down. It may be because they feel you will outdo them or they just hate seeing you shine — or something between those lines. They will, therefore, shut you down or even worse, tease your idea as unnecessary or you trying to look smart. That’s just an insecure and possessive boyfriend who doesn’t deserve you a single bit.

Sex with the right person often feels magical. But when it comes to having sex with an obsessive and insecure boyfriend, you will always feel out of place. And you should because your subconscious is simply telling you that you are sharing something sacred with a boyfriend that isn’t even worth it. That should, therefore, be your cue to end the relationship and strive for something better.

As we have already established, a jealous and possessive boyfriend always has nothing going on in his life. And he has anything going on in his life; he often wants to be the one progressing. It is therefore pointless seeking any form of support from an insecure and possessive because you won’t get any.

If he offends you, cool, but if you offend him, all hell will break loose. The latter always seems to be the case and many times; he will just raise hell for the sake of making you feel worthless and as a reminder that he is the man. Sadly, he is just an omega who is lucky to have you. Get away hun, get away.

Until you can prove otherwise, a controlling boyfriend will always think the worst of you, which is why you have to leave him. You don’t deserve that kind of energy.

A boyfriend is supposed to be your support system, your anchor and shoulder to cry on. You don’t have to deal with anything less than that. So, the moment you realize that your boyfriend is having any of the above-stated characteristics, just up and leave. He will never change. And you don’t have to suffer for it.