How To Sext A Guy: Conversation Ideas He’ll Surely Respond To

“Guys only want one thing." Heard this enough number of times? And why won’t you? The popular opinion is that guys want sex all the time, sometimes even when they don’t want it! While this statement is exaggerated (because of course, no one can want just one thing from life), we can’t rule out the fact that men have much higher levels of testosterone than women. This is a key point for why it is easier for men to be sexually aroused than women. Good, now that we have established that men are easy enough to turn on, the inevitable question follows: is it that difficult to get a man to respond to your sexts? Believe it or not, sometimes it is. Now this disproves the previous fact that we established but here’s the thing: sexting is not sex. They are very closely related no doubt, but they are not the same thing and do not necessarily have the same effect and consequences. The difference is that sex is the actual act. Sexting is not. It is merely a means to conjure ideas about that act. This is why sexting is an art. It truly is. There are tons of ways you can screw up with sexting. And when you do, the guy you just pinged will not only not respond to your sext, but he will also conveniently categorize you as some sleaze he’d better stay away from. This is, of course, what you don’t want. It is important to know that for the most part, guys love the very notion of getting down and dirty. If a guy is already attracted to you, a dirty conversation with you isn’t something you need to work too hard to start. In some instances, the guy might be interested in sexting even if he didn’t know you that well! Yep, there’s the testosterone working. However, in some cases, there might be slight hitches like your guy is kinda shy and needs a little extra motivation to respond, or that he is more eager to get into the real thing than “wasting” time sexting. If you want to show him how sexting can be a different form of fun, and get him to participate in the conversation at all costs, we got some great tips and ideas lined up for you. Take note!

If the sexting with your guy hasn’t begun yet, it is time to warm him up to it. Intimacy, whether over text or otherwise, is best fostered through the mutual attraction. Also, it is a well-known fact that for most guys (the sane, respectful ones at least), it is an aphrodisiac to know that a girl likes them intimately. There is something very satisfying about getting consent from a girl that makes them all the more eager to engage in steamy conversations. Therefore, leave no stone unturned in telling your guy just how much you are fond of him. This is the first major step to initiating a fun sexting game. Although a part of sexting, it doesn’t have to be all dirty and steamy. You can include whatever it is that you like about him. Here are some ideas: Maybe he has a good voice. Start there. Tell your guy how much you get attracted to him every time you hear his husky voice. Then add a sexting twist to this compliment by adding that you would like to hear what he sounds like when he talks dirty to you, or when he calls out your name in ecstasy. Does the guy work out regularly? Compliment him on his arms. You can start with a harmless comment on how strong his arms look when he rolls his sleeves up, but usher in the sexting by adding that you have often wondered how it would feel to be in the strong grip of his arms.

If your problem isn’t that your guy is shy, but on the contrary, it is always he who initiates the sexting, maybe it is time to turn that around. You might have felt that your guy is eager about sexting, but isn’t initiating it anymore, it is perhaps a sign that he wants you to start talking sexting for a change. Because here’s what happens when you don’t: the guy feels like you’re not interested in him intimately, or worse, you are a boring little girl who doesn’t know how to have fun with sexting. So if your guy hasn’t been very active on the sexting front lately, or, you have just started seeing this guy who seems totally into you but hasn’t begun sexting yet, maybe they are just hesitant about because they are unsure about how you feel. You want to take the plunge in this case. Don’t worry about coming off as easy; if you are totally sure that this guy is attracted to you, chances are he expects you to give him a green signal on the dirty conversation. Besides, a lot of guys have admitted to finding it extremely hot when a girl takes the initiative and sexts first. Such girls, to them, are confident women who know what they want and are not afraid of going for it. There aren’t any complex ideas to consider in this case; just start. Tell your guy something nice to begin with (refer to the previous point). Tell him how much you like him and that you want him and wished he was with you that very moment. The rest of the conversation simply flows.

Want your guy to respond to your sext in a jiffy? Paint him an obvious picture of what you’re wearing. Even if that is not what you’re wearing, sexting is texting after all. He can’t see you unless you choose to show him yourself. Men are visual creatures and they respond best to pictorial exchanges. But if you’re not comfortable enough to send out pictures, this is a good alternative. Use your words instead. The ideas are varied, but there is just one underlying rule: Keep it as sexy as possible. You might be wearing a worn out hoodie and pair of shorts for all you know, but don’t tell him that! It will just end up being a conversation over how oversize sweatshirts are the best to keep you warm! Instead, think of your favorite Victoria’s Secret model. Or Sports Illustrated. Whatever. Think of how they dress, lingerie included of course (I mean, sometimes all they wear is lingerie). And then proceed to write your guy a detailed description of that attire. Here are some outfit ideas that can turn your guy on A little black dress and heels, a leather mini skirt and boots, a pair of booty shorts with an itsy bitsy crop top. Some other killer ideas when describing what you’re wearing is to talk about it in a way like you’re undressing. Say you’re just back from work (or school) and taking off your work clothes to step into the shower. And then walk your guy through the detailed steps, right from the unzipping of the dress to the unhooking of the bra.

An excellent example of initiating sexting with your guy is to tell him right away what you would do to him if he were with you, instead of waiting for him to say to you first. Like mentioned earlier, he might be hesitant in starting the dirty talk because he wants to be sure first of how you feel about sexting and if you’re up for it. Show him you’re ready by telling him exactly what’s on your mind. Chances are, he’s already raring to go and will immediately respond! So what are the things guys generally like to hear you say while sexting? Here are a few ideas: 1. I want to kiss you so hard that your lips might bleed from my passion. 2. I want to run my fingers across your chest and bit your ears. 3. I want to grab you by the hair and bring your mouth down to wherever I want to be kissed. 4. I want to take that tie off of your neck and tie your hands with it. Do you want to know what follows? 5. I was just sucking on candy for a minute too long today. Do you know what it reminded me of? 6. I’m craving for peanut butter right now. But I’m craving to lick it off of you. 7. I have this urgency in my body right now, and I want to use you to satiate all my urges. One effective tip to get him to participate in the sexting actively is to end each sentence with an open-ended question, like, "What do you think?" "How would you like that?" Even if he is not the smoothest of sexters, he will eventually find his groove.

The other end of these sexting ideas is to let him know what you would like him to do to you instead of you doing him. You needn’t choose one of the two though; you can alternate between both these ideas. Guys are usually the proactive ones when it comes to the act of lovemaking, so it’s a great idea sexting-wise, to paint a picture of how it would be for him to do these naughty things to you. There is also something incredibly hot about the being assertive about what you want in bed, and guys often love being ordered around as long as it involves them getting laid! Here are a few ideas to be inspired by: 1. I want you to be with me right now! 2. I want you to hold me so close and so tight that I’d struggle to breathe. 3. I want you to lift me up in your arms, wrap my legs around your waist and kiss me like there’s no tomorrow. 4. I want you to undress me piece by piece (or rip it all off at once). 5. I want your hands all over my body and feel every inch of it. 6. I want your mouth in places that would make me moan. 7. I want you to promise me we will make love all night and not stop until the wee hours of next morning.

This is the most obvious of the ideas. No guy has ever been able to resist the temptation of sexy, sultry pictures and nothing gets them to respond to a sext a well-shot picture of the female body. But it is always, always advisable to be sure that your pictures will be safe before you decide to sext nudes or semi-nudes. The rule of thumb is to only share intimate pictures with someone you know for a while and trust, although sometimes even an estranged ex-boyfriend can end up doing mean things for the sake of revenge. The other safeguard is not to include your face in those pictures. Tactfully hide your face with your hands or look away from the camera. It makes for an aesthetically pleasing technique of taking sexy nude photographs yet keeping your face concealed. Or you could always simply crop your face out of the picture. Now for the aesthetics of the pictures, don’t superzoom on your body parts — that is never flattering. Instead, hold your camera up at your best angle, preferably slightly sideways. This helps make you look skinnier and to see that the light falls flatteringly on your curves to enhance their appearance. Alternatively, you could also shoot yourself in dim light. The peek-a-book effect of your image with the low light will make for a pleasing portrait of your body. Your guy might even appreciate your artistic tastes!

Remember that epic scene from Breaking Bad where Skyler asks Walter, when romping it up in their car in public, why after all those years of being married something like that feels so good? And Walter answers, “Because it’s illegal!" When something feels wrong or out place, it usually stands to be an aphrodisiac. Like you’re not supposed to be getting dirty in public because lovemaking is a private affair. And that is why engaging in a little outdoorsy fun is so exciting. It adds that extra thrill to the act. The same goes for sexting. It feels the most exciting when it is not supposed to happen in the first place. Say your guy is out with his friends. Or even at work! He might be engrossed in that new project he’s racking his brain over. And that is when you send him your first sext of the day. It is unexpected and therefore stimulating. If your guy isn’t standing the risk of losing his job if ignored the work at hand, he will immediately respond, pleasantly surprised. Or, imagine him sitting at an office meeting, extremely serious. He receives a sext from you saying you’re at work but can’t concentrate because you want to get naughty with him so much right that moment. He might not be able to respond right away, but he will surely chuckle inside. Use these ideas of sexting him at inappropriate times to your advantage and see him excitedly replying back. Just don’t send him pictures when he’s around a lot of people!

The last of the ideas is that you have to mix it up a bit. Even a fun activity like sexting can turn into a snoozefest if there is no variation in the way it is done. For example, if the guy initiates sexting each time, change the pattern by springing a surprise on him by sending him a sext first. If the opposite is true and it is you who mostly initiates sexting, stop doing it for a while. Make your guy wonder what’s wrong and make him work for it. Subtly hint that you are missing him and looking forward to some naughty talking but quickly change the topic. Just toy with the idea of being intimate with him but don’t reveal any more details. Your guy will beg for it but don’t give in just yet. And then when he has almost lost all hopes of you ever initiating sexting again, spring him a surprise by expressing all your passion over a carefully composed sext. Or just send him a sexy picture and innocently tell him you want his opinion on which lingerie to wear to work today because you’re planning on meeting him after. All the ideas of sexting discussed thus far are about making the conversation steamy yet interesting, in a way that makes him feel thrilled to be participating in it, instead of looking at it as a chore. When done right, these ideas will get him pinging back in no time at all!