Are Gemini Men Jealous When They Are In Love?

Gemini; a name that starts with the word ‘gem’; and indeed they are. Men or women, the Gemini zodiac sign truly shines bright within the zodiac constellation. They are vibrant, energetic people who light up a room when they enter. And that’s what draws people towards most Gemini men -their vivacious nature; the lively, absolutely charismatic energy that reverberates through their surroundings. It might seem exaggerated to be using this word, but for some evolved Gemini men, they have an aura about them. Think of all the Gemini celebrities you can: Morgan Freeman, Johnny Depp, Kanye West, Tupac… all these Gemini men are extremely self-assured males who live life with a certain flair to them. That’s the most captivating qualities Geminis have, which gets a lot of women attracted to them. Gemini men have lots of other qualities that make them irresistible; their eagerness to constantly learn and grow, for example. Gemini men are literally the opposite of static. They are dynamic individuals who are constantly reinventing themselves. They are the true believers in the phrase, ‘never say never’ and are continuously surprising themselves and others with the new horizons they reach in terms of knowledge, action and experience. This core quality of inquisitiveness leads to other attributes that make them attractive. In their quest for knowledge and newer experiences, Gemini men are often creative individuals who love to make a difference to their surroundings. They make sure they add value to whoever they are connected with and their YOLO attitude is infectious. Often times, having a Gemini partner means that you eventually learn to be a lot more spontaneous and adventurous than you had started out as.

But all is not rosy with Gemini men. Maybe as long as you’re just friends with a Gemini man, things are all fun and perfect. But as soon as sentiments of love and attachment start building, there is eventually some trouble in paradise. Understanding the complexities of a Gemini man is crucial if you are the woman who has fallen for this charming man and want to make him yours. Gemini is ruled by the planet Mercury, which stands for energy and vitality. This is where they get all their spontaneity and enthusiasm from. Much like the Aries and Sagittarius men, Gemini men are explorers of life and although these other zodiac signs might be heavily leaning towards exploring in the literal sense of it, as in traveling, for a Gemini, it goes way beyond that. Gemini men are pursuers of knowledge and newer perspectives that come with it. They are committed to a lifelong personal growth and development, and trying to reach out for newer challenges to overcome. This is why you’ll find a lot of Gemini men so successful with careers in the spotlight. They strive to achieve success and fame. Even for the so-called average Gemini male, who hasn’t been blessed enough to be a celebrity or super rich industrialist, he’d rather spend his time reading books, watching movies of new genres, etc. – things that stimulate his senses and gives him the satisfaction of expanding his horizons. Awoman who seeks to make a Gemini man fall in love with her and stay with her should not come in the way of his quest for knowledge and adventure.

Geminis are usually laidback and can let go of things easily, whether a break up or a heart break or any other animosity that comes their way. This is because Geminis usually always have a lot going on in their lives to be sitting and wasting time wallowing over a small misfortune. Yes, a break up might stand to be “small” thing in the bigger scheme of his life for a Gemini man who is driven and motivated. Yet, if Gemini men have built a reputation of being jealous in love, there might be some fire to that smoke. We’ll come to it in a bit. But the general rule is that Gemini men tend to be really chill people who know how to quickly set aside any negativity in their lives that might stand in the way of their learning and achieving. The other thing to know about Geminis is that they aren’t big into chases. If you happen to be at a party and see a group huddled around a man speaking passionately about something, chances are extremely high that that is a Gemini man (unless he is a Leo or an Aquarius). Gemini men have the advantage of being charming fellows who can captivate attention in a snap. So more often than not, a Gemini man tends to be surrounded by a lot of devoted women. This is also partially because flirting is in the nature of Gemini men. And they are smooth AF! Obviously then, if a woman tries to play hard to get for way too long, it is she who stands to lose in the love transaction. Instead of trying to chase her, a Gemini man will shake it off and move on, and probably never think of it another time. That’s how cool they can be if they want.

By now you’re probably asking yourself, why would men who are such self-assured charmers who get so much of attention from others, feel the need to be jealous? Aren’t others supposed to be jealous of them instead? Yes and no. It is true that given the nature of Gemini men, you can’t help but be jealous of these charismatic men. Most of them will come across as what we call “born with it” and from the outside it seems like they have it all. But that’s the key phrase –from the outside. In the inside, every Gemini has a whole other story. The biggest strength most Geminis have is the gift of the gab. They are extremely good communicators and make inspiring orators. However, they aren’t always the best to spill out what’s in their hearts too well. Not that they can’t, but just that they choose not to. They carefully select what they show of themselves to the outer world and this often poses a problem in their relationships, possibly even leading up to a break up. Gemini men are also often questioned on their ability to remain faithful to their partners. And while there is some truth to this statement, declaring that all Gemini men are unfaithful is overreaching things. Nevertheless, the truth is that Gemini men are slow to get into commitments. The reason for that is this: Gemini is a mutable air sign. This imparts on them an almost desperation-like need for freedom and space. For most women, it is difficult to wrap their heads around this need. Sometimes, these Gemini men will make a mistake and enter a relationship they are not ready for, and then they will feel suffocated and want to rebel, often leading to resorting to unfaithfulness. These complexities, along with others, create a confusing labyrinth of emotions in Gemini men, which when left unsorted, lead to acts of jealousy and other related negativity. We’ll continue discussing this further.

Represented by the zodiac symbol Twin, Geminis are true manifestation of split personality syndrome. No, I don’t mean Geminis are all crazy neurotics. The duality of personality in a Gemini is a very normal, everyday character attribute. It has its advantages of course. This personality trait contributes greatly to their charisma. Most all Geminis can literally say, “I can do both!” Like the Aquarius’, this makes it hard to categorize them as a certain type which in turn makes for a very intriguing personality mix. On the flipside though, this leads to the contradictory behavior that often creates all the problems in their love life. A Gemini man can be in one mood one moment, and can act completely opposite the next. This contradiction extends well beyond surface-level mood issues to the deeper, core values and principles as well. At their worst, a Gemini man can be regarded as hypocritical in the way they can change their belief system with a change in situations. For example, a Gemini man is extremely protective of his need for freedom and space. A clingy and needy woman is the type he likes to stay far away from. However, the duality of his personality is that he often acts exactly like that. Being social butterflies, Gemini men crave for attention and validation from others. This includes their partner as well. If you ignore doing that for your Gemini man for too long, he gets anxious. This leads him to question your affection and loyalty towards him, which in turn leads to jealousy. Another personality flaw in Gemini men, as mentioned earlier, is their inability to be completely honest and transparent with their feeling and emotions. For Geminis, their undying social adulation comes at price of sometimes being untrue to themselves. They are often guilty of creating an image for the outer world that is attractive and suited to please others. This often creates a void inside them. The stress of always maintaining a polished image gets difficult to handle sometimes, and they are faced with insecurities when it comes to revealing their actual selves before their partners. Many women, who have had Geminis as their boyfriends or husbands, have cited fakeness as a reason of their break up.

Gemini men are a proud lot. This is what stops them from trying to chase women, and this is what stops them from telling you when they miss you. It is that very insecurity of having to bare it all before you that makes them hesitant. It comes from an underlying fear of being liked less. This is strange because Gemini men are otherwise extremely vocal about things. They are constantly making jokes, flirting smoothly, and aweing others with their opinions and viewpoints. And they are bot as shy as Tauruses either. When they are in love – as long as it is an empowering kind of love – they are able to look you in the eye and tell you. In fact, it is not very uncommon of Gemini men to write pages of poetry (no matter how bad it turns out to be) confessing their love for you. But the moment it comes to show a sign of weakness, they get into a defensive mode. They would rather break up than become a lesser human in their partner’s eyes. The only problem with this attitude is that, it fosters ingenuity. Weakness in itself should not be considered a sign of failure; and in attempting to conceal it, Gemini men end up faking it in their relationships. So how do you find out when your Gemini man gets jealous, when he isn’t ready to tell you? Look for these signs: 1. He will constantly check on you: This is not in his normal nature. But if the man who generally gives you all the freedom suddenly checks on you, he is jealous of something. 2. He will often be in a sour mood: If the usually lively Gemini man snaps frequently and mumbles grudgingly, it is a sign he is jealous. 3. He starts putting limitations on you: A Gemini man understands the value of a social life. So if he tells you can’t be friends with someone or sets a curfew, he is definitely jealous. 4. He starts putting limitations on himself: The jealousy and fear of losing you can set a Gemini man to change his own habits as well. If he voluntarily cuts on his partying hours, he might be trying to safeguard matters.

The question now is how to handle your Gemini man when he acts jealous? How do you assure a self-assured man of your faithfulness to him? Go back to the part where we discussed about the Gemini’s dual personality. We know now that a Gemini man doesn’t act jealous because he has a conservative attitude about socializing. In fact, unless the man is a total chauvinist, he will encourage you to have your own social life that doesn’t include him! As that’s how a Gemini man functions too! He has many diverse interests that he partakes in, which he might or might not make the woman in his life a part of. So unless he holds an unfair amount of double standards, he will most likely support you build a world independent of him too. However, when a Gemini man feels insecure due to the many complications of his personality, as stated above, he will start feeling possessive of you. The Gemini needs constant encouraging and motivation to thrive. And this need gets worse when he is feeling low for any reason. This is when he misses you the most and you need to be around him, assuring your steady devotion to him. A confident Gemini man won’t ever have a problem with you hanging out with male friends or be jealous whatsoever as he understands the value of friendship irrespective of gender. However, as with everything concerning Geminis, there is a flipside to the coin. And that is, on his bad days where he doesn’t feel confident enough, he will forego this very principle of his, and feel jealous when he finds you prioritizing other men over him. Deal with this situation with tact and grace. You shouldn’t have to let go of your friends just to please him, but try and understand where his insecurity comes from. And show empathy. Gently tell him he’s the most important person in your life, but that you also have other commitments.

Yes, the jealousy can work to your advantage at times too. You can conveniently harness this character trait in him to further your own cause, but be careful not to overdo it. Do you often find your Gemini man distant and aloof? Have you ever been exasperated by his reluctance to spend more time with you and opt for a solo night out with friends instead? These are all part of a Gemini man’s freedom-loving behavior but they can be totally frustrating at times because a woman has her needs too. Wanting quality time with your significant other isn’t a crime you should be apologetic about. Which is why this exercise is fun! It is possible to direct your Gemini man’s attention back on you by tugging at the strings of his jealousy. The next time he’s being too self-absorbed, give him a taste of his own medicine! Don’t make a fuss about him going out without you again. Instead, act cool and collected. And the next evening, dress up provocatively and step out for a fun night out with your girls. Tell him you’ll be late but don’t call or text him the entire time you’re out. If he calls, say it’s too loud for you to talk and disconnect. Once you’re back home, tell him how much fun you had and just casually mention the hot hunk who hit on you at the bar. Done a few times, your Gemini man will start feeling pangs of jealousy and miss staying in with you. He will remember and miss all those times your attention was focused on him and will yearn for it. However, resist the urge of acting too hard-to-get to make him chase you, especially if you've only been dating a short while. He will lose interest soon.

Based on the compatibility of zodiac personalities, some women can drive Gemini men absolutely crazy with jealousy. Disclaimer: Expect this task to be done by the most independent signs of the zodiac. Here’s who they are: 1. Aries: The Aries woman is a natural leader. Although she is extremely passionate about love and is totally devoted and faithful to her Gemini man, she comes with a fiercely independent attitude that is also a go-getter. She is a careerist who pours herself into her work to chart heights of success, which is why sometimes she might not be able to spare as much time to her Gemini man as he would like. This could be a cause of jealousy for her man. 2. Leo: The Leo woman is a social butterfly just like her Gemini man. She enjoys a lot of adulation from men and sees this as a fun part of life. In his worst days, the Gemini man’s ego might be threatened by this. If left unresolved, this jealousy can eventually lead to a break up. 3. Sagittarius: Geminis share a lot of passion with the Sagittarius because of their common interest in exploring and quest for knowledge. However, Sagis tend to beat Geminis in the area of complexity and the need for alone time. This often frustrates Geminis and makes them jealous for not able to be a part of their moments. 4. Aquarius: The funny thing is, most of the zodiac signs that make Geminis jealous are the ones they are most compatible with. The Aquarius for example, makes a great pairing with Geminis but their aloofness and flightiness – the same traits that Geminis have – are what causes Gemini men to get jealous.

Some zodiac signs are similar to Geminis in the way they think, while others are not. But irrespective of that, you might have your heart set on a Gemini man. We understand. Here’s a quick knowhow on how to handle him for each of you: Aries: Be your natural independent self; he appreciates that. But be sensitive to your Gemini man’s swinging mood and treat him accordingly. Taurus: You have to understand the need for his adventure. He won’t always stay home and to make him stick to you and be faithful as well, adapt to this need, but don't chase him around either. Gemini: You’re the twin to the twin! Who better than you to understand the Gemini man? But, your challenge is to curb these negative traits both in you as well as him, and retain the positive. Cancer: Your sensitive, caring side is a great foil to the Gemini’s flighty attitude. But you need to control some of your emotional excesses or it will suffocate the Gemini and eventually cause a break up. Leo: You both are meant to have fun in life together and that’s great. But the Gemini man also has a thoughtful side; he can’t just engage in frivolous fun and will soon miss sessions of intellectually charged debates. You need to match up to this side of his. Virgo: Your conversations are for days! You are both logical, rational people and get along very well. But your Gemini man tends to take things a little easier than you do, so maybe lighten up a bit. Libra: Long story short, you are probably what your Gemini man needs the most for his happiness, even if he doesn’t know it yet. But don’t try to pin him down or cut his flight or he will miss being single again! Scorpio: You have the air of mystery that Gemini men find intriguing and which will make them chase you. But you’ll have to let go of wanting to control each other, as will be the tendency of both of you in a relationship. Sagittarius: Your passion and chemistry together is unmatched and you have a lot in common. But you need to stop being too headstrong; it messes with the light airy Geminis. Capricorn: At the right time and in the right mood, you bring structure and stability to the chaotic life of your Gemini man. But too much of it is a problem. You need to learn to be spontaneous too. Aquarius: Being with you is like being with the best friend for your Gemini man, which is always a good thing. But you have to turn on the passion a bit. Just don’t get all too vague and philosophical. Pisces: Your sense of a deep and unconditional love is refreshing to the Gemini man and he will cherish it until you act needy about it. To avoid a break up and to ensure his faithfulness, give him space.

The reputation of the Gemini man as being notoriously jealous (like their reputation for being unfaithful) is unjust and unfair, as jealousy is only a human trait that every person nurtures in some degree or the other. Don’t single out Gemini men as the only perpetrators. Instead, acknowledge that every person has some flaws but if you’re smart enough, it is possible to not just work your way around that flaw, but to use it to add some variety and spice to your life as well!

Gemini men will do everything in their power to make you believe they got it all under control and that they are superheroes. But that’s far from the truth. They are also sensitive and needy sometimes and miss you as much as you miss them. They might not always chase you down the street to make up with you after a fight, but they feel guilty too and definitely wish you chased them and held their hand lovingly. Gemini men want to explore the world but for the right woman, they can also be a very faithful partner. And sometimes, they love you too much to be totally secure, which is why the jealousy.