20 Incredible Ways To Make Your Ex Jealous And Want You Again

Looking to make your ex jealous? Here is a guide to make your boyfriend or girlfriend regret leaving you using text, Facebook, Whatsapp and more.

By Julie Coleman
20 Incredible Ways To Make Your Ex Jealous And Want You Again

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The pain of a breakup can be brutal, especially if you were the one who was dumped. There is no doubt that your boyfriend or girlfriend left you hurt, and there is nothing sweeter than gaining revenge by making them jealous. If you want your ex to come crawling back to you again and regret the awful decision that they made, here are 20 ways to make them jealous and regret they broke off a good thing.

Making your ex jealous can feel pretty sweet.

Make him anything but your number one

In a relationship, it is easy for two people to merge into one. You almost begin depending on what the other person feels about you to validate yourself. To start making your ex jealous, the first thing to do is to make him anything but your number one. This is harder than you may think. When you had a problem, your ex was probably the first one that you texted. When you had fun, it was usually with your boyfriend or girlfriend. If they are no longer the first person you call to chill with, they will feel that twinge of jealousy and regret. If your ex has already moved on, don’t worry - there is still time for them to feel jealous. The more time you spend exercising these tips, the more they will regret breaking your heart.

Your ex will regret that s/he decided to walk away.

1.) Stop obsessing

I know, easier said than done, right? You wouldn’t be reading this article if you didn’t relate to that feeling of obsessing over something you can’t change. Unless you can change it (which is why you are reading this article). The best advice is to stop obsessing. If you follow these top tricks, then the results will speak for themselves. Don’t let making your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend jealous your full-time job. The point is, even though you won’t be able to stop thinking about them because breakups are painful, making yourself healthy is what will do the trick more than anything else. Not only will you be taking care of yourself and focusing on “more important things” you will also be creating a platform to make them insanely jealous.

2.) Find yourself again

Nothing makes them more jealous than when they realize it is over for good.

What did you like to do before you had a boyfriend or a girlfriend? Where did you go? What did you read? What did you do for yourself on special holidays? It is time to find out who you are again. In a relationship, you begin to take on the likes, habits, and activities that the other person has. This is normal. It made you feel great when your ex started watching love stories because he dug the dramatic scenes, right? The first way to get back at your ex and to make him regret ending the relationship is to become your own person again and to gain some confidence. They want you to feel bad. They want you to be unable to move on. Make him jealous by showing him that you are becoming a better version of yourself by knowing who you are. Try taking a new class in a hobby that you enjoy. Take a bubble bath. Go some place you have always wanted to travel to. When s/he sees that you are becoming stronger, not weaker, they will feel the itch of jealousy nagging at them.

Look good...and feel good


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3.) Start with the simple things

A breakup can make you feel bad, physically, mentally, and emotionally. Start with the simple things. Get up, take a shower, get something to eat, and get a good night’s rest. Don’t think this will make your ex jealous? This is just the start. To make yourself look and feel good, you need to start with the basics. Plus, if you are sitting on your couch stinking, do you think they will really want to come and see (or smell) you? Need a little motivation? Get your best guy friend or girl friend to go out with you. Throw them a text telling them that you need a little TLC, and ask them to accompany you. There is no better confidence booster than a good friend who will give you an honest opinion.

4.) Hair and makeup (if you are a girl)

One of the things that you can do to make your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend jealous is to get your hair done, do your makeup and nails, and to buy yourself some new gear. There is no doubt that they loved you when you got all prettied up, and seeing you with simple improvements to your hair and face will make them start to feel a little jealous. If you walk out of the house with your hair a mess, your manicure all shabby, and wearing sweats, this isn’t going to sing “Gosh, I miss them” in your ex’s mind. However, if you bump into them on the street and you are looking fresh and hot, chances are they are going to do a 180 and begin wondering why they left you in the first place.

5.) Wear something sexy

Now there is no reason to go outside in zero-degree weather in a leather strap that barely covers your unmentionables just to make you ex jealous. However, there is something to be said about wearing something sexy. Even if you only purchase a new pair of silk boxers, sexy lingerie that you can wear under your best jeans, or a beautiful bra - regardless of what you are wearing, make sure YOU feel sexy in it. If you purchase something that doesn’t fit well, and you begin wondering as you adjust your parts all day why in the heck you are doing this to begin with, it defeats the purpose. If you feel sexy, you act sexy. This is the time to take a hot profile photo and put it on Facebook or Whatsapp. Keep it clean (you don’t want to get reported and lose your account). The point is, if you are feeling sexy because you look sexy, this is the time to brag about yourself. You don’t need to be narcissistic, but get the point across that you are hot stuff and it was their loss.

6.) During the long run

Nothing is better than a jealous ex.

A few simple changes in the short-term will do wonders. However, making some long-term commitments will do even more for you. We are flooded constantly with information on how to live a healthier lifestyle, but the key is to put that information into action. Text a friend to take a daily walk. This will not only help you mentally, but also physically. If you have the funds, try out a local gym. Eat better. Get regular sleep. These are long-term goals that will help you to look and feel better. There is nothing better than running into your ex and hearing them say, “Wow, you look great!” The better you look, the more that they will regret not being with you. Long-term goals will also help you to feel better about yourself, and you may end up believing you could do better than your ex anyway.

You can't make them jealous if you don't get out there!

If you don’t put yourself out there and you stay hidden under your warm, fuzzy blanket scrolling your Facebook, there is little chance that you will have an opportunity to make your ex jealous. Here are a few ways that you can get out there again to beat the blues and increase your chances of finding new love or convincing your old love to take you back.

7.) Once again, start simple

You may not have left your house in days. If you are just starting to come out of your shell after a breakup, then start simple. Go to the grocery store. Go to the library or movie store and return your tear-jerkers. Go for a walk around the block by yourself with your head held high. Not only will some fresh air do you some good, the chances you will run into your ex or one of their friends is much higher. Even better, because you have taken some time to care for yourself, the chances of you meeting the perfect person (and yes, it could still be your ex) is even better. If you don’t leave your house, your chances dwindle. The more you get out there into the world, the better off you will be. If you are still in obsessive mode, visit the places you think your ex may be. But be careful. You don’t want to be known as a stalker. The goal is to make them jealous, not for them to call the cops on you for harassment.

8.) Go have some fun and adventure

Going to the store and to the gym is just the start. Now, it is time to really turn it up and get you out there in the world again. The more that you are seen, and the more photos that you take, the better the chance you have of making your old boyfriend or girlfriend regret ending the relationship. We are talking fun, folks! This means going out to different concerts and sporting events. Text some of your friends or go by yourself. The point is, is to get out there again. Where have you always wanted to go, but were never able to because you were tied down? Where are some of the different places that your EX wanted to go, but you never got the chance to visit? These are the best places because if you get photos of your adventures, that will surely make them jealous. Do they love a certain band? See if you can get tickets to an upcoming concert. Take lots of photos. You don’t think they won’t notice that and feel regret? Even better, take someone of the opposite sex with you, even if they are just your friend. Nothing says jealousy more than the combination of going awesome places with a new person. You can assure the public on social media that they are just a friend, but make sure you add a few hints here and there. You don’t want your ex to think that you have given up on the chance of you two getting back together, but you also don’t want to give the impression that you are desperate for their attention either.

Move on...kind of

Even if they move on they will still miss you.

9.) Talk to other people

You can’t stay a hermit forever. It is time for you to get out there and talk to other people. You've probably been relying on your friends a lot, which is great. Some of those friends may even have potential to become more. But, if you are not ready for another relationship with anyone but your ex, and you are still determined to make them jealous, you need to get out there! Nothing says jealousy more than your ex seeing you talk to other people. Specifically, other people of the opposite sex. Especially if there is a little physical contact or great eye contact. If you can showcase your stuff (your great conversation skills for example) in front of them, do it. They may act like they don’t care, but chances are, they do. Laugh a little. Word to the wise…don’t overdo it and make it look fake. Thoroughly enjoy yourself, and try not to look in your ex’s direction while doing so. That just looks cruel and is a big turn off.

10.) Take it to the next level by talking to his/her friends

Be careful with this. Although it is a great way to make your ex jealous, it can look sneaky and cause some ripples. There's surely one or two of his/her friends that you find attractive, and that feel the same way about you. If you are looking to make your ex jealous and regret breaking up with you, text one of his/her friends and ask if you can talk. If they take the bait and don’t ignore you off the get-go, have a simple conversation. Tell them that you are adjusting to being single again, and would just like to talk. If they continue the conversation, great. But, at the first sign of negativity, bail. They will be quick to pick up on whether you are talking to them just to get the scoop on your ex. Yes, you are showing interest in finding out what they are up to, but don’t make it obvious that you are using them for information or to get back at your ex. This is tricky because you also don’t want to lead them on. Keep an open mind. If you are not comfortable in pursuing a relationship, set your boundaries. Go at the speed that you are comfortable with. There is nothing worse for your ex than him seeing you with this best friend, especially if they are of the opposite sex. Even worse, if you become the new best friend to their best friend, and they choose to spend time with you, that will strike some serious jealousy. Talking to your ex’s friends is a fine line to balance on, but it works if done correctly.

Use social media as your weapon to make your ex jealous

We live in a great age where social media is used as the primary way to make our ex-boyfriend or girlfriend jealous. In fact, it causes a lot of problems in relationships, eventually causing a breakup. If you are still pushing for the goal of successfully making your ex-lover regret ending the relationship, use social media. We live in a small world and it doesn’t take long for word to travel.

11.) Use your facebook

Facebook is a powerful tool to evoke jealousy. Not only do you have the power to post as you please, for anyone to see that you choose, you can specifically call people out to raise attention. Use your Facebook to your advantage. Remember how we talked about looking good and going places that would make your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend jealous? Post those pictures and write about them. Don’t plaster sixty pictures of one event, post one picture for sixty events! If your ex is on your Facebook, it will be nearly impossible for them to NOT see what you are up to. If you want to take a really daring approach, you can tag your ex in your post, or you can block them. Both methods can be very daring and send the wrong message. Do it with caution. If you were with your boyfriend or girlfriend for over a year, you know that Facebook memories will pop up. It's okay to share these once in a while, but don’t go overboard. If you re-share a post from an earlier time, update the post with something about how they were the good old days. It will remind them of what was, and could bring up the feels. If you do it too often, they will think that you just can’t let go. You might not be able to, but they don’t need to know that. If you decide to block your ex (which could make them jealous off the bat because they can’t check out what you are doing) remember, you will not see what they are up to either. There is nothing worse than reading a Facebook post where you see three comments and only two show up.

12.) Use the Whatsapp platform to make your ex jealous

Facebook is a great way to make your ex jealous if you are posting pictures and comments for the public to see. But what if the platform that you are using is a little more personal? Let’s say you are using Whatsapp. Personal one-on-one communication through Whatsapp is going to be very similar to being caught up in a personal conversation via text (although you can share in more creative ways). What do you do when you are talking to your ex alone, and want to make him jealous or regret the breakup? First, don’t go from one extreme to the other. Don’t go overboard with “I love you and miss you.” If your ex just ended the relationship, the last thing s/he probably wants to see or hear are those words. The goal is to make him jealous, not to try and beg for him/her to come back. On the other hand, don’t act cold and ignore the person. Reading a message is a different way of communicating because you can’t really feel what the person is saying without body language. Instead, try to take a middle ground. If you are using Whatsapp (or even text) to communicate, then keep things simple. Ask them how they are doing, and respond to what they say with kindness. This is going to be hard, especially if you are hurt. They say that you can kill with kindness, and Whatsapp is the perfect way to be able to do that. Let them know how you are doing. If you begin talking about how things are changing in your life and how you are succeeding with your newfound individualism, don’t go overboard in making them think that you are completely better off without them. While you want them to think that, you don’t want to push them away. Don’t hide behind all the frills of Whatsapp. What means the most is what you are trying to say. Sometimes it is difficult to do through text. Your timing is important also. Don’t blow them off because they may not contact you again. Try to maintain as much balance as you can in your tone. Let them know that you are doing well and that you are getting out and meeting people. Talk about some of the things that you have done. Send over a picture or two of some of your adventures on Whatsapp, but don’t send pictures of you making out with his best friend. Be reasonable. Jealousy can be accomplished through simple things.

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13.) Tell them you are seeing someone else

Want to tell your ex that you are seeing someone else? The question is, are you? If you are really seeing someone, it depends on the length of time. Your ex might be relieved more than jealous, so this doesn't always work. However, if there are still some feelings there, telling your ex that you are seeing someone else (especially after a period of time) may create some feelings of jealousy. If you really are dating someone, is it a good idea to make the person that you love feel jealous? Maybe. It could be kind of gratifying.

14.) Start seeing someone else

You are now getting out there in the world. Chances are, the more you get out, the better the chance there is that you WILL start seeing someone else. You don't necessarily have to jump right in and text your ex that you are dating. They might not even care. However, if you are seen in public with your new fling, that may create some different emotions. Being seen with your new boyfriend or girlfriend might change the whole game. You don't have to go out of your way to rub it in their face, but you can create quite the stir if your ex so happens to see you with your new lover in public.

15.) Let your ex think that you are seeing someone else

Believe it or not, people will actually lie to their ex in order to make them jealous. The problem is, there is a good chance you will get caught and look like a complete idiot. Not a great idea. You can hint around to the fact that you are dating someone, but giving a false impression can make you out to be a liar, and that isn't an attractive trait to your ex. Concocting someone out of thin air is something people do out of desperation. You aren't THAT desperate, are you?

What to do when you finally start making your ex jealous

16.) Don't push too much too fast

You did it! You made them jealous! They are starting to call a little more. They are throwing you a good morning text and asking what you are up to. Mission accomplished! Now what? Once you have started to make them jealous, you have to really give some thought to whether or not all that effort was just to make them jealous, or if you really want them back. Regardless, once you have them hooked, don't push too much too fast. If you want to keep them around, stop the jealousy provoking actions once you have them back. If you don't want them back and did it just to be spiteful, then lay it on thick over time. The more you push, the more desperate and evil you look.

17.) Keep your options open

Really think about your objective. Did you want to make him jealous to get him back? Just to get him to feel the feels? If your plans are starting to work, you need to commit to what you think is going to be best. So, keep your options open at first. Don't go through all this trouble just to toy with someone's emotions. It is okay to make them jealous, but don't do it without making your own intent clear once you have them hooked.

18.) Listen to what they are saying

Make sure you are clear on their intentions as well. Listen to what they are saying. Listen to what is making them jealous too (there is nothing wrong with having information in your arsenal). Just because you make them jealous doesn't necessarily mean that they are your boyfriend or girlfriend once again. Listen to their words, their expressions, and their body language. Listen to how often they are communicating with you. Be careful you don't take their signals wrong - another move and you can kiss all your hard work goodbye.

What to do if s/he refuses to get jealous or has moved on

19.) Realize that it really is their loss

Look how awesome you have become during this process, provided that you approached it with balance. If you went off the deep end and made this journey more than what it needed to be, then take some time to do some reflection. However, if you really worked on yourself, which is what is going to make them the most jealous, and it was successful, and they still didn't take the bait, s/he may not be the best one for you. If your ex doesn't see the wonderful qualities in you and thinks they are better off without you, then take some time to consider that you may be better off without them too. Hopefully, making them jealous didn't turn you into a vengeful stalker, and you found some new prospective mates in the process.

20.) Take what you have learned and move on the best you can

Many of the ways to get your ex back, or at least to make them regret leaving, up until now have prepared you to become a stronger person, to take care of your soul, mind, and body, and have gotten you out of the house to experience new and exciting things. Sometimes we learn the best lessons through each journey. All this time that you have been concerned about making your ex jealous, you've really done a lot to make your own life better. Don't take that for granted! There are always other fish in the sea. Although the one that you wanted got away, there is always a chance for the future, and they just may need some time too. Don't give up on yourself, even if your primary objective was not accomplished. Other gifts were brought to you in the meantime, and they were ones you earned. Don't be validated solely on their want for you because you rock no matter what!