15 Ways To Stop Yourself From Cheating In A Relationship

Nowadays, most romantic relationships meet their demise because of cheating. Believe it or not, infidelity is not as taboo anymore in our society — it will be forever seen as immorality, but it is not that big of a deal anymore. There are even times where married couples agree on it as long as both are careful not to bear the responsibility of having children with their third parties. You would probably ask yourself, “Why would you get married if you’re not ready to commit?” but yes, these kinds of situations happen in liberal countries. It is really hard for a lot of people to figure out why one must have to cheat. One minute, you are very much in love with your husband; the next, you’re attracted to someone else. People’s emotions are very hard to deal with, right? But most of the time, it has something to do with the relationship we are involved in — either our husbands are hurting us emotionally and physically, something is already lacking, we are not happy anymore, or we just fell out of love. You have to understand that cheating doesn’t necessarily make us the bad guy because we all have our personal reasons, however, that is not enough to justify the act. Whatever your reasons are, if you feel that you are no longer happy with the relationship you are in, just leave. Cheating would not hurt only your partner, it would hurt you, your family and friends. It would not bring you the happiness you are looking for; you are keeping yourself away from it. So, just in case you are currently tempted to cheat on your partner, here are 15 ways for you to stop yourself from doing it.

Have you ever found yourself thinking about being romantic with someone else besides your partner? Perhaps, you’ve already imagined yourself kissing a handsome colleague once, going out on a date with a guy friend, or worst, fantasizing about having sex with other men. If you are currently in a relationship and you are doing this, you are bound for some trouble. Fantasizing about other men is the first step towards infidelity, so you have to stop — some would probably reason that having a fantasy would not hurt as long as you are not going to make it real. That’s true, but how sure are you that you can keep yourself away from temptation? This is the same with what women always accuse their partners of whenever they catch men checking another woman out: “you’re already undressing her in your mind”. It is okay to have a crush on someone else, which is normal. But keep it casual — you’re only attracted to another man because he is good-looking, that’s all. Always remind yourself that you belong only to your man and your connection with your spouse is deeper than just good looks.

This doesn’t mean you have to stop drinking altogether. You just have to know the right time, right place, and the right people to be with whenever you want to go drinking. It is okay to drink alcohol with friends, women or men together. But never drink with the opposite sex where you are the only woman around. Alcohol, especially too much, has a bad effect on the way we act and everybody would probably agree with this. You can do things you thought you couldn’t; you can say things that won’t sound like you; you can go wild, and you might not be able to stop yourself because you are under the influence of alcohol. Aside from that, men also get a little more perverted when drunk, and they can take advantage of you. Do not drink in places without your partner where you and another man can have chances of being alone together and where you will have cheating temptations.

Are you the type of woman who is a little friendlier than others? Maybe you are that playful, touchy type who easily gets close to people, so hugging a total stranger is no big deal. Well, that’s okay, just make sure that the gestures are completely friendly and nothing else. Avoid flirting with other men. You might argue that it is just playfulness and that it does not mean anything — that could be in the first few tries, but you will never know how your emotions could play with you while you are keeping on with it. Besides, when you are flirting, you can't deny that you are trying to get someone’s attention, (what else is your intention, right?) and that is already an act of cheating. You have to keep in mind that your attractive, attention-seeker, and flirty side should only belong to your partner. If it is really your personality to get physical with your friends, that’s okay, but once you are feeling different, you have to stop doing it. Additionally, you should also discourage people from trying to flirt with you.

Cheating on your spouse might bring a good feeling only in the beginning, but while it lasts, you will find yourself having a difficult time dealing with guilt and conscience and someone will eventually discover your infidelity, which is the worst humiliation you can give yourself. It is not worth it. If you are having temptations of cheating, always tell yourself that you will end up facing trouble and you are bound to get caught, either by acquaintances, friends, family, or worst, your husband. Remind yourself that the truth cannot be kept hidden forever. If you get into the act, the only expectation you will likely meet is a tragic end.

If you are cheating on your partner, what will trouble you is your guilt and conscience. If you are feeling this way, then it is not yet too late for you to stop. Do not try to fight off your guilty feelings, let them prevail. Whenever you are tempted to do an act of infidelity, always imagine your husband being aware of it. If you find yourself wanting to go out with your other man, tell yourself that your husband will be just around watching you. If you are on a phone call, imagine that he’s on the other line listening to your conversation. If you are chatting, tell yourself that your husband knows your entire social networking sites passwords. This way, you will be at least a little hesitant to cheat on him. Cheating will never bring good results to neither of you in the end, so how hard would it be for you to resist this sinful act?

Usually, the third parties are the colleagues because the workplace is where one spends most of the day in. Aside from that, there are a lot of people in the office that we are friends with. It’s also inevitable to be involved in get-togethers with colleagues after working hours or have team-building activities. It is not a taboo to hang out with your office mates, of course. But again, you have to keep your relationship with them casual. You can still go to out-of-office meetings but make sure there are women other than you. Do not accept car rides from men colleagues as there will be a lot of privacy there that would easily tempt you. Keep your workplace just for working. Make friends and spend time with your colleagues but make sure that your relationship with them is completely work-related.

People cheat on their partners for a reason. Surely, you would not cheat just because your guts tell you to. Oftentimes, this reason is the relationship itself, as maybe your emotions already changed for your lover or the spark is already long gone. For a relationship to be stronger, both you and your partner should make an effort to make it work. It is common for most couples to get used to each other in just a couple of months, and though nothing is totally wrong with that, too much of it usually results in both falling out of love. Don’t forget the romance in your relationship. Even when you are busy at work, try to call your husband during breaks. Leave a small note on the bedside table whenever you go to work on mornings. Never lose time for each other as that will be the first cause of the spark being gone.

Do you remember the time you realized you were falling in love with your man? It is one of the greatest feelings, right? During that time, you were probably thinking he was the most perfect person you’ve ever met and you completely accepted everything about him. But now, if you are tempted to cheat on him, it’s because you realized his weaknesses and flaws are becoming a burden to you and you couldn’t help to compare him sometimes with other men. You should never, ever, do this because you are just giving yourself more reasons for cheating on him. Treat your partner as a blessing and remember that every person has his own weaknesses, even the one you’re comparing your man with. Always remind yourself the time you fell in love with him. Support his endeavors and make the relationship stronger by fully accepting your man instead of looking for something he isn’t.

Physical contact should be reserved only for your partner, so you might want to back off a little when it comes to hugs, a lot of hand-holding, massaging, and over-the-line gestures with other men. It doesn’t matter whether it is just a friendly gesture for you or not, men might take it as something else, tempting you to cheat. It’s okay to hug sometimes for support or a have someone gently giving you a pat on the back. But if you think that you are already getting touchier with other males than your lover, it’s time to stop.

Just because you are already in a relationship, it does not mean that no one will ever be interested in you anymore in a romantic way. In reality, having a guy confess his love to you is actually a common cause for cheating and getting a relationship destroyed. Ladies, we have to admit that one of the best feelings is when a man confesses his admiration for us. We feel as if we are prettier than all the other females around and we feel much more special and appreciated, right? It is okay to entertain this kind of confessions if we are still single. However, if we already have a romantic relationship, the right thing to do would be to turn them down. Other women may argue that they just want to keep the person who admires them around, as it’s a complete waste to push them away. If you think about it, it’s not every day that you get love confessions, that’s true. But the point is, you are in a relationship and entertaining another man for the sake of having that feeling of someone admiring you is already an act of cheating, and we all know that’s not going to end well. You can still keep them by making clear that you are open to a friendship, but you really have to turn down their love emotions.

All of us have best friends, either of the same or opposite sex. And we have the right to keep them even if we are already in a romantic relationship. But if it already comes to the point that we have to keep them hidden from our partners, it becomes cheating. There are friendships that are really close, but having a friend of the opposite sex can lead to a more intimate relationship. The best thing you could do is to introduce all your close friends to your partner. It doesn’t mean that your spouse should be close to them as well; it’s just that it would be easier for you to resist the temptation of cheating because you are aware that your partner knows the people you are going to cheat on with.

If you are part of a relationship, it doesn’t mean that you have to lose your personal life. You have to know that you still have the right to keep some things personal and only for yourself. So, this advice is mainly for those who are close to giving in to the temptations of cheating. If the urge of cheating is strong inside of you, you have to resort to even giving your personal space to your spouse by letting him know the passwords of your social networks, giving him access to your cell phone and PC, and allowing him to check your emails. By doing this, it would be harder for you to keep secrets, thus you would have to think twice before cheating on him.

It is unavoidable for a relationship to go through troubles and misunderstanding. You and your partner are two different people with different life perspectives, and you will find yourselves disagreeing with each other. However, this is not enough reason for you or your partner to give in to the temptation of cheating. If there is something that bothers you, consider relationship counseling. Talk to a professional about your worries and ask for a proper and effective solution that would rekindle your love emotions. Do not resort to cheating, as the act would only worsen your problems.

There are really times where the demise of a relationship is unavoidable because once you fell out of love, it is really difficult to rekindle it. You can’t force something to go back if it is already gone, right? If this happens, you need to have a firm decision instead of cheating on your partner. Talk to your lover about your plans. Tell him that you already fell out of love and that you want to end the relationship now. If you are falling in love with someone else, be honest with your current lover and don’t hide anything. Doing this takes a lot of strength and it might hurt a lot, but making a firm decision on whether to just leave or try again will save you from the trouble and from a much more hurting humiliation, which is what cheating would cause you and your partner.

Whatever reasons you have for cheating on your spouse, keep in mind that they won’t be enough to justify the act. Whether we like or not, cheating will always be an immorality and it does nothing but destroy lives. If you are almost giving in to the temptation, think about your family and your friends, and how they will see you when you get caught someday. Your infidelity will always be stuck in their minds and you will always be “that cheater”. Think about your future children and how it might hurt you to see them being victims of cheating. Imagine the story you’re going to share with the people about your love life. Do you really want to be remembered as a cheater?

It's true that it's really hard to control our emotions. When we fell out of love with someone, it's almost impossible to bring the spark back into the relationship. But if this happens, the best thing you can do is just to be honest with your partner and leave gracefully. Breaking up is one of the hardest things to go through, and the changes you have to get used to are challenging, but at least you are saving yourself and your partner from a much bigger trouble in the end if you resort to cheating. Cheating is hard work! It will stress you out a lot and it's not even worth it. Along with the stress, your chances of ruining your image and reputation are close to a hundred percent. Whatever you do, it won't end in your favor. Don't ever cheat! Try to talk to your partner if you are beginning to feel uncomfortable with your relationship. Be transparent to him because if you do so, it will be easier for you to resist this sinful temptation.