The Essential Guide For Getting Back Together After A Breakup

Breaking up is common but what’s not common is getting back together with the same person without going through emotional distress. According to a study, only 50% people reunite with their partners after a break-up. The hardest part is the aftermath. Rebuilding your relationship after the break up is not easy. Reading success stories about couples reuniting sure gives you hope but it is not always possible that things will take a positive turn for you. This is how the story usually goes. Things were not going well between you and your partner, you fought and broke up. A couple of weeks or maybe months go by and you start missing each other so much that you are ready to ignore how much of a mess the relationship was. If you are feeling this way, you are not alone. There are lots of people out there who want to fight for their love and get back together after the breakup. Remember one thing, if you are feeling lonely, that is not a good enough reason to reunite because things won’t be the same. Relationship therapists say that if you are planning to get back together with your Ex and you want your relationship to be different this time, then you have to make sure you don’t create the same dynamics as before. Both of you need to understand what roles you played that led to the break up in the first place and change your behavior. This fight for love isn’t going to be easy, my friend.

First thing’s first, ask yourself why do you want to get back together with your Ex? Are you frustrated or do you really think there is something positive about getting back together? You have to evaluate everything before taking this big step. Since you are already here, chances are that you have made up your mind to fight for love and make things work this time.

Before you convince yourself that you have it all figured out and that you are ready to fight for love, here are some tips you need to hold take a look at:

Want to know the key to how to make it work? Just take it slow. You might be madly in love with them but sometimes, the personality clashes make it hard for one to fight for love. Rushing back into the relationship is not really going to make everything better. A good way is to go on dates, spend some time apart and don’t frequently text each other. Taking things slowly will offer you the opportunity to understand each other better.

Do not get back together with the past conflicts. If you really want to make it work, you must openly communicate with one another and be brutally honest. Instead of biting your tongue whenever your partner slips into their old habits, just speak up and let them know it bothers you.

You can’t really make it work if you are not on the same page about your expectations for your relationship. How to do that? Simply, communicate. Often, our relationships end because of the unmet expectations. Before you start the relationship again, it is best to communicate your expectations to find out if you will be compatible with each other. You can only fight for love if both of you can picture yourself together in the future.

Do not tell your friends and family about your reunion. No matter how many examples you give them of success stories of couples who are happy to get back together after the break-up, they will have their own opinions about your break-up. It is important that you trust your own judgments in this process. To be honest, getting back together is a big step, bigger than even starting a new relationship so, you need to figure out what’s best for you without external influences.

It may be the start of something new but it’s not a whole new relationship. You are the same person and so are they. You need to build on the past relationship.

Yes, some people change but the majority stay the same. Don’t expect them to be a different person no matter how long you have been apart. If you hated how much he smoked, chances are you are going to have to deal with that habit again. Now you just have to figure out how to deal with such things if you really want to be together.

You will have to wait for getting physical and the answer to how long depends how the way things work out between you two. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be affectionate towards them. You never know when one sweet gesture of yours makes them fall for you again.

Getting back together and staying in a happy and healthy relationship will take time. So don’t get paranoid over how long it will take for everything to be normal again. Both of you will have to learn new skills to fight for love and make this relationship work.