How to get a girl to fall and remain in love with you
It takes a lot of sacrifice in order to make a relationship work, especially at a time when quick fixes are the norm. Therefore, something as little as showing appreciation for your girl might go a long way in making things work out between the two of you, even if things seem to be falling apart. Without further ado, here are some of the things you can do for your girl in a bid to keep the fire burning:
1. Complimenting your girl regularly will make her want you
Ok, so we all know that it takes a century for your girl to put on her makeup and another century to do her hair. It also sounds close to miraculous how she fits into her jeans just so she could look good when both of you are going out on a date. Truth be told, your girl does a lot of things to keep you interested in her and, more often than not, these things go unnoticed. So, as a man who is interested in making his girl fall in love with him over and over again and hence keeping the relationship afloat, you should learn how to appreciate and compliment her. Are her and her hairdo looking like a million bucks? It wouldn’t hurt to let her know. Women are emotional beings and they need assurance, and that is exactly what you should do for your girl so she will want you forever. Just make sure that you aren’t exaggerating things because women can smell a fraud from a mile away.
2. Your girl will want you more if you listen to her regularly
As mentioned above, your girl really goes through a lot and, since she is a superwoman, she often manages it even without your help. In fact, all that your girl might be asking from you is a listening ear. So when your girl comes to you to complain about her best friend Keisha who stole her hairdo, as boring as it may sound, just listen. By doing so, you will be offloading a lot of pressure from your girl and she will be forever grateful. Who knows, just listening to her complain about seemingly girly issues might go a mile in saving your relationship. Not listening to her on a regular basis might make her emotional and, like it or not, your girl might just end up finding someone who will listen to her and her problems. And, trust me, there are about a gazillion other guys who are willing to listen to her rumble all day long while giving her a foot massage. Don’t believe me? Well, try checking her DMs and be mesmerized. That said, try listening to her even if you don’t feel like it and you’ll make her want you.
3. Make your girl your number one priority and she will want you even more
Someone said that chivalry is dead, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go all 1956 on your girl. It wouldn’t hurt if you open doors and pull chairs for her. Even if you just argued and are still bitter, put a coat over her shoulders the moment it starts snowing or raining. The whole point of doing this is making sure that your girl feels wanted. If your girl feels wanted, she will want you right back, and that is how your relationship will withstand the test of time. In addition to that, make sure that you are taking care of her emotional needs and putting her before any other women in your life. This will most certainly make your girl feel pretty lucky to have someone like you, making her fall deeper into the rabbit hole of love with you. So, if it's true that chivalry died, then it's about time you looked for a necromancer to sort you out – just kidding. No black magic here, please.
4. Your girl will love you if you stay cleaned up
Research says that women are attracted to natural musk, but that doesn’t excuse you from taking a shower every once in a while. Even if you don’t like trimming that beard once in a while, just do it for your relationship. As a man, you not only have to take care of your woman’s emotional needs, but also of her physical needs as well. Take time to iron that shirt and polish your shoes because your shoes are the first thing your girl looks at and if they aren’t clean, she won't be happy with you. If you don’t know a thing or two about cleaning up, it's never too late to try. Just make sure that you sign up for online classes or, if not, make Google your friend. I'm sure that if you ask your girl for help, she will be more than glad to help because when you look good, your girl earns the compliment. So, dear men, it doesn’t hurt to give your girl some 'street cred', as it will make her want you even more. You want her to want you, right? The obvious answer is yes, so start working on your cleanliness.
5. Serenade your girl out of the blue
If you choose to doubt the power of using music to make your girl want you, then look at the music industry today. The likes of Trey Songz, Chris Brown, Miguel, Neyo and August Alsina (just to mention a few) have been known to drive women across the globe crazy. And why is that? Because romantic music/vocals speak directly to a girl and her soul. You might want to apply for singing lessons in order to save your girl and relationship as a whole. Learn how to place emotional tunes with a guitar or piano. If not, then try your best to captivate your girl with some remarkably hot vocals. Hit those high notes and you will definitely get her eating from the palm of your hands, making her want you even more. Not all of us were born crooners, but thankfully we can learn from time to time, making us feel like we won a lottery in the end. Remember, you don’t have to be as good as Chris Brown, just don’t croak like a frog man. There is a clear difference between “croon” and “croak”.
6. She will want you more if you are a clown
No, don’t go painting your face if that was the first thing that came to your mind. What I mean by being a clown is just about being funny and fun to be around. Your girl will never fall in love with you if you are the kind to take life too seriously. Ever heard the catchphrase “all girls just want to have fun?”. Well, there is nothing truer than this, especially when it comes to your relationship between you and that girl you’d like to refer to as 'the one' from time to time. That said, it is imperative for you to try and learn a couple of jokes and funny stories. The good thing about being funny is that you don’t have to be a natural. It all starts with seeing the goodness in every situation and just being honest about it. It's all about having positive, cheerful vibes that will make your girl and your relationship thrive. Cracking jokes and clowning around will give your girl the much needed emotional boost and make her want you, both during the good times and the bad times.
7. Woo your girl, her family and her friends
Trust me, your girl almost always makes romantic decisions based on her family and her closest friends' opinions. So if they end up disliking you, then chances are that you and your girl won't do so well. That said, if you want your girl and your general relationship to succeed, then stop being too emotional about taking your girl and the rest of her squad out. Be a gentleman and fun when around them and they will definitely chip in a good word. You should also be in a position to extend the same courtesy when it comes to her family and you will most certainly be out there winning. If her family approves and speaks highly of you, then you are most certainly winning and she will definitely want you even more.
8. Don’t sweat the small stuff and she'll want you even more
So you called your girl ten times and she didn’t pick up? Shrug it off and focus on other things. But if you want to start sending a million texts and asking her where she was, then the picture you are painting to your girl is that you are insecure. A girl will never, ever, be in a relationship with an insecure person – period. So if you want her to want you, then you need to let her be the emotional one in the relationship because that is how it works and not the other way round. If you call her and she doesn’t pick up, then let her be. More often than not, your girl will call you back when she can and give you an explanation. Even if she doesn’t, it is not your job to make a mountain out of an anthill because that will not make her want you.
9. Being mysterious makes her want you
If your girl is always thinking about you, then you can rest assured that she will fall in love with you even more. If she always finds something amazing about you, it will keep her intrigued because she just doesn’t know what other interesting items you will pull out of your proverbial magical hat. For instance, you can take her to the Chinese restaurant downtown and order your food in Chinese, catching your girl off-guard. If you want your girl to want you and keep the relationship working, then try being mysterious. Being mysterious in a relationship doesn’t mean keeping secrets, it means always improving yourself so she gets delighted as she finds out your other hidden qualities. Note that ignoring her will only make her emotional and shouldn’t be considered as being mysterious. Mystery is an art that takes time to achieve, and your girl will definitely want you much more because of it.
10. Keep time even if your girl doesn’t
Your girl will take about two hours doing her makeup, three hours looking for the perfect shoes and another five hours trying dresses. She is doing this so that she can look good for you. Don’t go planning a revenge mission to get back at your girl because it will just show you are a weak person. If you want to keep your girl and the relationship intact, you need to be the exact opposite without being emotional about it. Trust me, your girl will want you more if you keep time, including when going out on dates. Once again, for her to want you even more, learn the art of keeping time and you will be on the safe side.
What other things can you do to make her love you more?
Unfortunately for most men, asking her to be your girlfriend and for her to accept is not the end of the road. The only way to keep her interested and invested in the relationship is by working hard without taking any shortcuts. You can always be her cheerleader, check on her and always reinvent ways to love her more. Last but not least, also remember to focus on your own thing. If you keep on prioritizing her and not looking out for yourself, then your value as a man vanishes almost immediately, and we don’t want that to happen now, do we?