The 4 Bases Of A Relationship You Must Know: Making Out And More

If you are getting into a relationship then you must have an idea about the 4 bases. Fret not if you aren't aware of base we are here to help you out.

By Sanchari
The 4 Bases Of A Relationship You Must Know: Making Out And More

Base of relationship - a must know!

Not everyone is aware of the relationship bases regardless of whether they are new in the relationship or dating for a long time now. Some might have heard the terms in high schools and wondered what the girls are talking about! The question lingers in their mind without a proper answer. So, here we are to explain the 4 bases of a relationship. Though the base might seem like a myth, it is very much real. If you are a baseball freak, then you will be able to relate to the terms used in the relationship base. It’s quite strange that baseball metaphors are used while explaining the relationship bases, but it is a fact.

No need to worry about the relationship bases

Don’t stress too much on reaching each base or following the base rules. If you aren’t able to meet the base, then it’s okay. What matters most is your feelings toward your partner. These levels of intimacy lead you to the final love making act. But whether you are able to go through all three bases before reaching the final base depends on various other factors. You should connect with the person you are trying to make out with or else you won’t go beyond the first base. You just won’t feel like allowing the person to get that close to you. When you are in a relationship, making out seems the next obvious thing, but if you have the knowledge of the bases, then it will be easier for you to go with the flow. You know exactly what to expect from your partner at each base. Though there is nothing official about the 4 bases, people have accepted these 4 bases with the stamp of approval.

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The 4 bases of a relationship

These terminologies actually help you in communicating with your partner. Earlier, when other girls used these terminologies, then you were completely lost and didn’t have any clue about what they were talking about. But, not anymore, here is a simple guide to those baseball metaphors.

The first base in a relationship

If this is your first time in a relationship, then this first base will be the most memorable moment of your life. The touch starts getting a different meaning and your closeness accelerates your heart beat even when you are just sitting close to each other. When your heart is pacing up and down, you will feel the urge to place your lips on your partner’s lip. Welcome to the first base of the relationship. This is a sweet gesture of love where you kiss each other softly while caressing the hair. Some reach the first base during the second date only whereas some like to take it slow. There is no steadfast rule in a relationship, so you can take your time before the first base. You must feel comfortable before you get closer to each other. The relationship is about how you feel about each other and respect for each other, so if one of you is not ready, then the other partner should not force it. Once you have had fun in the first base with French kissing, then it is time to move on to the second.

The second base in a relationship

Second base also involves kissing, but this time it turns a little more intense than the first. This time around, you and your partner will be kissing, but your hands will also be put into action. It is nothing that you have to memorize and then play by the rule. It will happen naturally. In the second base, some touching, groping, grabbing, and rubbing of the chests and breasts will take place. In this stage, you will enjoy body kissing and some sensual stroke or massage. So, basically, it is more of a skin action this time around as compared to the first base where you were confined to lips only. In the following bases, your kissing intensifies, and you can almost hear each other’s heartbeat. You will realize that you are slowly heading toward making out, but hold your thought there because you have another base before you finally land on the fourth base.

The third base in a relationship

This is the stage where you start forgetting where you are and concentrate more on each other. Pleasing each other is the only thing in your mind now. Your heart is racing faster than ever, and you are feeling sensation below the waist as well, then you are in the third base and you are closer to sex. You are now engaged in some serious petting, including oral sex. In this stage, you are reaching out below the waist and feeling and fondling, but remember sex is not happening in the third base. Sex is the last and fourth base and you are headed straight toward it now.

The fourth base in a relationship

It is also known as the Home run. Whether you are in high school or you are older than that once you cross the fourth base for the first time, you cannot call yourself a virgin anymore. The fourth base of a relationship is where you will be making out with your partner. Now that you have a complete knowledge of all the 4 bases of relationship you won’t feel left out at the high school anymore and you would also be able to understand what the other girls are talking about. There are some other terminologies or the baseball metaphors that are being used while discussing sex. If you want to know more about them, then read on.


You must be wondering why the high school girls were so concerned about a strikeout! Here is the answer. When you are not able to engage in any kind of foreplay successfully or you are not able to reach the first base of the relationship, then it is known as the Strikeout. Don’t start judging yourself or your partner, if it isn’t a successful encounter because there are many reasons behind that. You or your partner might be too drunk or you couldn’t just connect with each other. So, there is nothing wrong, it was just that the moment was not apt for both of you. So, chill.


If someone is bisexual, then they are known by this name. Next time, when you hear someone addressing someone with this name, then you know exactly what they mean.

Pitching/ Catching

When a man is performing anal sex on another man, it is known as pitching. In catching the man is receiving the act from another man.

Reach out

It’s no big deal if you don’t remember what each base stands for. If you forgot what they stand for, then you can ask your friend or for that matter your partner. Your partner will be more than happy to explain every stage to you. But, remember if you fail, then don’t start blaming yourself. Just remember the time wasn’t right and you were not ready for the situation.

Have each other’s consent

When you and your partner are trying to get up, close, and personal, then both of you must be ready for that. Without the consent of one, the bases don’t make any sense. It should also be clear in both of your mind about how many bases to cross. If one of you is drawing a line, then the other should respect that and not try to cross it. First, talk to each other about the bases and decide that both of you are ready for this. Don’t hit the bases if you are not sure.

Take proper precaution

Sometimes you might decide to hit the first base, but end up completing all four bases. Unexpected things happen, so it is very important that you stay prepared for that. Proper contraceptives should be used if you are trying to experiment with the bases. When you are talking about the bases with your partner, then there are high chances that you might get carried away with all the metaphors and its explanation. But act wise; it’s not always good to go with the flow when you know the consequences.

Go ahead and hit the bases

Now, you have a clear idea of what each base stands for. But, these might vary from person to person, so next time, when your friends are talking about bases, you can simply ask them for some clarification. It is always good to be informed and the best way to educate self about things is by asking questions. If you want to discuss the bases with your partner it is good, but don’t focus more on hitting the home run, then you might lose out on the whole experience. Having knowledge about the bases is helpful, but don’t make it your ultimate goal. The whole experience of each base will lose its charm when you concentrate more on the goal. Always remember the journey is more beautiful than the destination. If you enjoy the journey, then you will also enjoy once you reach the destination. But, if you are in a hurry to reach the end goal, then you will be losing out on the experience of each base. Every base has its own charm, so why not make the most of it when you are there. If both of you are focused on each other, then your experience will be the most pleasurable one and you will have lovely memories of your first encounter with the bases. Make it a beautiful moment rather than a painful event for both. It is no harm in asking for consent before acting. If you have already hit the first base, then ask your partner before going on to the second. It will express your wish, and you will also know what your partner wants.


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