Kissing for the First Time: What Does it Feel Like?

The first kiss can be magical, and a tad bit scary. Here are some tips about what you should expect to feel when first locking lips with someone.

By Joyce Ann Washington
Kissing for the First Time: What Does it Feel Like?

First Kiss

If you're about to experience your first kiss, you are probably wondering what makes a kiss a good kiss and what will this kiss feel like? Maybe you are nervous and your palms are sweaty or your heart is racing fast and you may want to back out of the kiss. Try not to and just be calm. All of the feelings of nervousness and sweaty palms are normal. Below are a few other things you can expect to feel during your first kiss.

You Will Feel Nervous Before Your First Kiss

Your first kiss may definitely feel nerve-wracking for you. Things won’t always be perfect and the guy you’re about to kiss could also be nervous as well. Maybe you and your special someone end up bumping noses or foreheads. Or maybe you go in for a kiss on the lips and he goes for a kiss on the cheek. A lot of weird things could happen, but you have to try to be calm. Your hands may definitely feel sweaty and there may be a bit of fumbling from both parties. You two may not know what to do with your hands and you may both end up standing awkwardly and shifting your bodies back and forth. There can just be a bunch of weird things going on. Who knows? This may be his first time kissing too and the guy may feel just as nervous as you. There will be butterflies in your stomach and your heart will skip a beat. The nerves will be there. Just shake it off and go for the kiss.

You Will Feel the Adrenaline During Your First Kiss

You will feel a lot of funny feelings in your body during your first kiss. It will feel like your adrenaline is going up and that’s because it is. Your heart rate will definitely speed up and your breathing pattern will get heavier. Don’t worry, you’re not dying, it’s just the excitement and nerves your body is feeling when you and someone else’s lips are or are about to touch. It’s a good feeling, so don’t panic. Enjoy the adrenaline and all of the weird things going on in your body, have fun! Your first kiss can only happen once.

Brain Action During Your First Kiss

There won't just be things going on physically when you are experiencing your first kiss. Your brain will start to do some weird things when you are going into or experiencing your first kiss, also. Now, this is going contain a lot of scientific words, but don’t feel overwhelmed, and try to understand. The dopamine, which is a pleasure neurotransmitter in your brain, will start to send off signals to your body. It will be a pleasurable feeling and all of your negative feelings will start to feel like they are falling away during your first kiss. The dopamine will activate the hormones in your pituitary gland because it notices that you are connecting with another person. Although that may seem like a lot of big words, just know, in short, your brain will send off “happy” signals to your body during your first kiss.

Use Chapstick Before Your First Kiss

You or no one else in the world wants to feel chapped lips during a first kiss so make sure your lips are smooth and moisturized with some sort of lip balm or chapstick. Try not to use something that will add too much flavor to the kiss because the guy may not like that. Having a super sweet flavor chapstick can really work against you as it may distract from the kiss. Some people also may be allergic to some weird, sweet lip balm flavors, so be aware of that, also. Go for any neutral flavor and make sure your lips feel smooth like butter. If you don't have chapstick, just lick your lips. Not in an extremely noticeable way where it would freak someone out, just discreetly, so it isn't very distracting. Licking your lips is better than the feel of cracked lips.

Even with the Nerves,You Will Feel Happy

Although you may have been nervous before your first kiss, you will be happy once it is done. Kissing is a great way to reduce stress. The excitement of the first kiss and all of the rush of emotions will make you feel at ease when the kiss is over. Kissing just makes people feel good and can improve your mood. Couples who kiss more also are found to more likely have longer and happier relationships. There may be some giggles of excitement after the kiss is over, also. After the first kiss is over, you’ll feel so silly for worrying so much, and that’s a good thing. You should definitely feel happier after your first kiss and that means it was a success!

Don't Rush Out of Your First Kiss

Although you just might be ready to physically crawl out of your skin and run away, try to take it easy and slow down a bit. You may want to go in with a little peck on the guy’s lips and then hurry and back away from him. Try to just relax and take your time. You’re going to feel all kinds of nervous, but you’ll enjoy your first kiss so much better if you just take your time. Savor the moment. Maybe, if the mood is right, go for a little tongue for a gentle French kiss if you’re bold enough. You may be rushing your first kiss if you’re really nervous. It happens sometimes. If that’s the case, don’t worry. There will always be a second or third kiss for you to try again.

But Your First Kiss Could be Over Quickly

Although it is recommended to take your time during your first kiss, some guys also let their nerves get to them and they may rush the kiss. It may be his first kiss also, so you both have to cut each other a little slack. If you're not French kissing, which you may not be because you feel nervous, there most likely won't be any French kissing, the kiss will be short and sweet. Even if all of the romantic movies show you otherwise, in real life, someone probably isn't slow-motion kissing you. If they are, that could be weird or romantic, depending on how you want your first kiss to go. Normally, unless a person is making out, which is also unlikely for your first kiss, the kiss will only feel like seconds. That's okay, just enjoy the feel of your lips connecting to his while it lasts.

You May Feel a Little Pressure On Your Lips

There should be just enough pressure added to your kiss. Make sure that your kiss is not too soft so that the other person can feel your lips on them. Also, try not to smash your lips on theirs so that the both of you are not physically hurt by the experience either. Kissing too soft will likely be dull and boring and won’t add a spark of passion to the kiss. When you are too aggressive and pushing down too hard, some people don’t like that and they will think you’re being too rough and attacking them. Just try to add the right amount of pressure during your kiss.

Your First Kiss Could Feel Gentle

Chances are, your first kiss will be gentle and sweet. It may possibly be that you and your partner are both new to the kissing scene so they may not know what to do either. Although the experience may not be that long, the tender feeling of the person's lips will stay with you for a very long time. It may not be a make-out session, but it will be a romantic moment shared between you and your partner and you are likely to enjoy the experience.

Your First Kiss Could Feel Sloppy

If you do decide to be bold and throw in a little lip action, things could get sloppy. French kisses are normally messy so be careful. If you don't know how to handle your tongue, which with little experience in the lip-locking category, it seems physically impossible that you would, saliva could get everywhere. It’s completely unlikely to happen, but things can happen and you two may feel the moment of intimacy rising. Just know that if you two get into a hot and heavy make-out scene, you will feel tongue and you will feel the saliva of someone else. Try not to get freaked out if the feel of someone’s tongue comes unexpectedly. Just go with the feel of things.

You Probably Won't Feel Biting

Don't get even more nervous than you already are, but some people do enjoy biting lips while kissing. It doesn't physically hurt, but it's more used for a pleasurable sensation. Depending on how good your partner is at kissing, they may try to bite your lip if the kissing gets hot and heavy, but chances are, if they know that it is your first time kissing, they will be gentle on you and won't start out so rough. If lip biting is scaring you from going for that kiss, don't worry, it most likely won't happen. If it does happen and you don't like lip biting, just tell the person you are with so that they know for next time. But who knows, maybe you will like it. Just keep an open mind and have fun.

Try to Feel Relaxed During Your First Kiss

Although it may feel physically impossible, try to relax a little. If you are stiff, chances are, the rest of your body, including your lips, will also be very stiff. If your lips are stiff, that will be the start of an unpleasant first kiss. Just try to relax and be calm. The experience will be so much better if you relax and try to enjoy yourself.

Last Words of Advice for Your First Kiss

Your first kiss should be fun. It's easy to overthink this because you are not experienced "in the field", but it's not that serious. If you really like someone, and they (guy or girl) like you back, they will understand it's your first time kissing and will be easy on you. If you and the guy you're with are physically attracted to each other, then the first kiss you share with that special someone should feel great. Now, if you're feeling bold and want to experience French kissing with this guy you like, it's not recommended for a first time kisser, but if it floats your boat, go for it!