20 Reasons To Let Him Go And Feel Better About Yourself

It may be time to let him go and move on. Breaking those emotional chains will help you lose some of the feelings you've been holding onto.

By MJ Faublas
20 Reasons To Let Him Go And Feel Better About Yourself

How Did This Happen?

You have been dating for some years now. Or it could be that you'd met and married the love of your life. Everything was going great, you were feeling and walking on cloud nine. Nothing could come between you and your loved one. But out of nowhere, it happened. Things began to slowly change, from the love poems he used to write you slowly stopping; to him moving so far from you emotionally that you can't reach him no matter what you do. You ask yourself how did your relationship reach this point. You ponder whether it's time to move on or not. Before the relationship reaches zombie mode, please be advised, it is exactly the right time to move on. Before you two start hating one another and forgetting the connection you once felt emotionally, physically, and spiritually, it is time to move on. And finally, before you two begin to despise the actual existence of one another, be aware that the time to move on is about to pass and you might become a hostage in a love negotiation that once was a relationship.

When to Let Go

You've been in love with your mate for either some months or some years now. When you first met him, there was no other person on the face of the earth that you could see yourself with. But along the road of love and intimacy, something went wrong. And now you're not sure whether to continue trying or to just let go. The question of when to let go plagues your mind and you're unsure of how to move forward. Here's a simple list to help in determining when to let go:

The Love is Lost

He once used to make you feel like the only girl in the world with sweet love notes, love poems, flowers, candy, weekend trips, etc. But now, it is as if you are on a battlefield and love is the war being waged. At this moment, letting go is most prevalent, as it allows you and your partner to emotionally detach without any further harm being done to either party involved. The ability to move becomes harder past this awareness.

You're Losing Energy Around Him

At this point remaining in the relationship has become a draining process and you may begin to feel low energetic levels when around this person. This too, is one moment when walking away is both physically and emotionally beneficial.

20 Reasons to Let Go & Why

I. No More Love: You should let him go because you need to move on to attain the love you once recognized and shared. By moving on you don't lose anything from him, but gain yourself. II. He's Not Trying Anymore: Let him go because he is no longer interested and has stopped trying in the relationship. This is necessary to not lose yourself in blaming yourself for his selfishness. III. You're Not Enough: You should let him go because you lost him a long time ago. You don't feel like you're enough and you should move on. IV. No Line of Communication: "We don't talk anymore", has become the new anthem of your relationship. This is time to let go and move on. V. The New Version of You: Let him go so you don't lose yourself. You're becoming this co-dependent person fueled emotionally by drama and chaos. That's not you, let him go and move on to be the best version of yourself you know you can be. VI. To The Left: Let him go to show him that you are NEVER an option. Send him packing to the left so that your new beau can find his way to you. VII. You Like Romance: Let him go because you actually enjoy romance and emotionally supportive relationships. Those days of love poems are gone, but he is not the only man on earth. VIII. Happiness: Let him go because you deserve happiness. Once he's out of your life, you will lose all of the heartbreak and begin to breathe again. IX. Miss Me When I'm Gone: Let him go to allow him the chance to see what life is like without you. Most people can't understand the pain that they bring unto the lives of others while they're in the situation. When he loses you and you've left the situation, he will begin to miss you. X. It Hurts Too Much: Let him go because it hurts too much to be with him. If losing him feels better then keeping him, let him go physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

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XI. Holding On: Let him go because it feels like you're the only one still holding on. XII. Text Emojis: Let him go because communication has come down to text messages here and there filled with empty emojis that he never displays in person. XIII. It's Not Love: The relationship that once filled itself with all types of romantic gestures has now come to blank stares and awkward silences. XIV. New Life: Let him go because you simply want a new life. XV. Jealous: Let him go because you're becoming jealous of happy couples. Every cute couple or romantic story you hear makes you green with envy. It's time to let him go. XVI. Sleeping Alone: Let him go because you've become roommate and haven't felt any romantic love in a long time. XVII. He's Still Superman: Let him go because though you've grown apart from him, he is still an important person in your eyes. XVIII. It's Over Now: Let him go because you've realized that he was a temporary lover and was not meant for the long haul. XIX. You're Different Now: Let him go because through all of the emotional drama you've encountered, you don't mind losing him because you are different now. You've grown in the midst of the chaos, physically, emotionally, spiritually. XX. Love Me More: Let him go simply because you love yourself more.

Self-Love & Going Forward

Now that you've made it through the pain of the relationship, you were able to move forward, and now can begin a new relationship with a new love interest. Those romantic gestures, sweet words, kind looks, and love poems can return to your life, because you were able to heal and learn to love again.