Should You Get Back With Your Ex? 6 Signs That Say You Should

If you're wondering why your ex suddenly re-appears in your life, with the desire to get back together, we finally have the answer!

By Vera Aries
Should You Get Back With Your Ex? 6 Signs That Say You Should

Should You Give A Second Chance To Your Ex?

We all want to meet someone with whom we would stay with for the rest of our lives, someone who will never cause us pain and disappointment. Although we are sometimes separated from the people we love and we suffer, we are still not aware what is best for us. Perhaps you have found yourself in a situation where your ex is trying to get you back in their life and they promise you that this time will be better. Often, we experience the second chance as some sort of obligation, but also at the same time, as a potential solution that can lead us to a major change in mutual relation. In case you decide to go on and give your ex-partner a second chance, you will spend days thinking about what would happen if you didn't accept that opportunity and whether your relationship can really change. And then you will probably come to the conclusion that the second chances can be useful, but only in the case that they are not forced. Remember, giving a second chance is a difficult task, no matter when you decide on that move. The best way to clear up with the past is to return to the first promise you made to each other. Also, have in mind this advice: do not try to idealize and decorate your love story with what it was in the past. You weren't so careful then. So because of that, it seems like your refreshed relationship is so spontaneous and natural. Your ex didn't lose his value and that is pretty good. Remember that the very feeling of controlling the mind is sufficiently disturbing that affects every move you make. In fact, it's a matter of fear not to do something wrong. It's important to realize that by giving someone a second chance to fix things, you actually have the opportunity to finish things differently.

Nijedan dan života nemojte provoditi sa osobama koje nisu vaš (sve)mir.

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Common Past

When you decide to give a second chance to your ex-partner, then you promise each other not to screw things up this time. This time you need to make an entire list of rules that the two of you have to keep in order to have a promising future together. And this time, you have to be convinced that everything will go much easier, both of you need to know what to do and what not to do. So, when we are in front at a crossroads, we think: What if I forgive and I end up hurt again?, or, What if I do not give my ex a second chance for dating and I'm wrong?? So, give the second chance to your ex if you see sincere repentance, explanation, and effort by his side to correct the mistakes made in the past. But if the same mistakes happen again, then you need to think about letting your ex go for good. It is your right to give someone a second chance or not. Whether he would use it in the right way or not is his job.

Muškarci koji menjaju puno žena ne znaju šta znači biti sa ženom To više rade da bi pobegli od njih, a i od sebe, nego bili sa njima To nije stvar sposobnosti da se osvaja Nego nesposobnosti da se voli i pripada Ima žena i žena, daleko više promašenih nego pravih Zato je pogrešno ulaziti u dublju priču sa svakom Ne samo iz nepoštovanja prema njima, nego iz poštovanja prema sebi Prema vlastitim emocijama a i tuđim Često oni koji kažu da imaju najviše iskustva Imaju ga najmanje Zato što su bili sa ženama A ne sa ženom A biti sa ženama znači davati se i predavati tek tako Svuda, na svakom mestu, gde stigneš i na koju naletiš Kao psi u doba parenja To je besmisleno A i taj neko baš ima vremena za bacanje A biti sa ženom znači pre svega biti sa sobom načisto dok si sa njom Samo tada je sve ono najlepše moguće Ona iskrenost, spontanost, toplina, nežnost, poverenje Da bi voleo ženu moraš prvo da je želiš A da bi je želeo moraš da misliš o njoj Da je oživiš u sebi i sve ono vaše što tek treba da se desi Bez mašte nema ni strasti na duže staze Samo muško – ženska borba bez budućnosti Ovako traje i kada se završi Ovako razgovaraš sa njom i kada ste daleko Ovako je imaš i kada je imaju drugi Preko onog svega što ste živeli i oživeli zajedno Što postoji i kada vas dvoje odete drugima Zato što ste se potrudili da se upoznate Da pustite jedno drugo u vaše svetove Da osetite jedno drugo Jedno pored drugog Jedno za drugo S.SIMIC

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Why Does Your Ex Come Back Into Your Life Again?

If you were wondering why your ex-boyfriend suddenly re-appears in your life, with the desire to restore your dating romance and move from where you stopped, we finally have the answer! It is about the "glitter after the break", that is, the period after the break when women experience major changes. They can be of a physical or psychological nature, but they are always positive, and because of this, the ex-partner begins to feel reluctant to be with her.

Get Back With Your Ex? 6 Questions That Will Help You To Decide Whether You Should Go Along On That Path

Before making the decision of getting back with your ex, we advise you to answer frankly to yourself the following questions:

1. Are you lonely?

Ask yourself honestly: are you lonely or do you really miss your ex? Accept the fact if you really miss him, but some advice: do not engage in the same relationship just because you are not dating someone else at the moment.

2. Why do you really want to get back with your ex?

Make sure your feelings are really honest. Do not mix love with lack of.

3. Why did your relationship end?

Was it your partner's fault or yours? Can you fix the relationship and move on? Probably the same reasons will turn up again, so think smart.

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4. Are you willing to accept each other's differences?

If you "matured" in the time you were separated, perhaps this time you will have more love and understanding with your partner.

5. Are you really starting from zero?

Clear all of the old disagreements with your partner and yourself. Start from the beginning and do not judge based on what happened in the past. Focus on the fun side of building a new stable relationship.

6. Do you really want your ex back in your life?

Getting back with your ex again? Do you really want that or do you just feel insecure? Make sure that your feelings are clear.

We're all addicted to something that takes the pain away.

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Why Should You Get Back With Your Ex?

Even though there is a reason for ending the relationship with your ex, sometimes time may manage to solve all the problems. That's why you can get back together with your ex, you can start a whole new relationship, accompanied by a new chance to succeed. If you two are missing each other and you think that it's a mistake that you've split up, it may be a definite sign to give another chance to your ex for dating.

Whether you have had an unpleasant break-up with your ex-partner, or the love in your relationship has simply disappeared, recent research in this area suggests that even the most tragic break-ups, can have a happy ending. Only if you act wisely and cleverly. You wake up one morning and you realize that your life without your ex-partner in it makes no sense. Being aware of all his virtues, but also his faults, you are more certain that your intention of getting back with your ex is definitive. Do not worry! You are not the only one with this intention! On the contrary, the idea of getting back with ex-partners is more than ever present now and, according to the latest studies, not only is it possible to have a serious promising future with your ex after getting back together, but is surprisingly feasible.

6 Signs That Say You Should Get Back With Your Ex

1. You Met At The Wrong Time

In order for one love relationship to survive, it is very important that the two partners meet at the right time. Perhaps one of you had unresolved problems from the past or was on the verge of major life changes such as moving or a new job, that just had to be fully committed to it. There are cases where a man left after two months without saying a word, and after a year he returned and he was ready to dedicate himself to his woman, which later resulted in happy marriage and children. You must be aware that such changes take a lot of time because they do not happen overnight. If enough time has elapsed since the break-up, it may be the right timing for another chance.

2. You Haven't Been Emotionally Mature Enough

It may sound like a cliche, but after breaking up, it takes some time to heal the wounds of the love that has failed and to start from the beginning. Sometimes you feel it's too fast for a new relationship, but when you get into that, after a while you realize that you are still emotionally tied to your ex-partner. But, although the new potential partner is perfect, if for you the ex-partner is still Mr. Right, then you will never fall in love with the new one. In this situation, good advice is that is better not to cheat on the new partner, but to think about dating your ex-partner and getting back together.

Najviše volim žene sa kojima mogu da budem drug A i žene vole kada ih tretiraš kao druga Ali ne kao nekog tamo Nego kao najboljeg Posebno kada ih pre svega tretiraš kao ženu Čim mogu sa njom sve i svuda Znači da se razumemo Najteže je sa ženama pored kojih večito moraš da se ustručavaš Da se i na prvom sastanku ponašaš kao na 101 A dobro znaš da nije takva Nego na pogrešan način diže sebi cenu Misleći da je fina dok je, u stvari, lukava Zato sam najlepše svoje sate proveo sa onima Sa kojima je moglo da se putuje, letuje, ide svuda Gde god i kad god Ništa lepše nego kada je žena pre svega prijatelj Sagovornik A ne neko ko te neprekidno goni Zato što nisi ovo ili nisi ono Najbolja je žena koja razume A najbolje razume prijatelj... Još kada se tu spoji strast, ljubav, posvećenost Prava priča je neminovna Imao sam jednu takvu Davno Nekad Ona je bila baš i žena i drug I da nije bilo nje ne bih znao šta znači kada ti se neko svidi dvostruko Voleo sam u njoj i prijatelja a i ženu Kada smo se rastali Izgubio sam oba Ako ništa drugo Video sam šta znači kada te žena voli potpuno I ovako, kao čoveka A i onako, kao muškarca S.SIMIC

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3. The Break Up Helped You To See Things Right

You must have seen movies in which partners break up, but then they realize that one can not be without each other. Perhaps the same thing happens to you. When you are in love, it's very difficult to see things objectively, but when you get out of the relationship, you can see very clear, all the perspectives. Perhaps with this advice, you will finally realize that all the quarrels were for nonsense and that life does not make sense if your ex-partner is not part of it. And if you tried to go out with others and you realized that you were the best with your ex, it's an obvious sign that you need to contact him.

4. You Have Had The Wrong Priorities

There are needs, but there are also wishes. Needs are things without which you can not live, and wishes are things what you would like to have, but you do not need them so much. Maybe while you were in relationship, you were interfering with these two things. You may have liked a handsome guy with a lot of money that will provide you with luxury and fun and you forgot that there is someone standing in front of you who will protect you, take care of your needs and understand you. If you feel that all of the written is true and that by getting back together with your ex-partner you will feel happier and that he is the one that will make you happy, then it may be worth trying to get back with your ex-partner and grab tight this timing that life is offering you.

Ti si jedna od onih božanstvenih žena koju nikada pre nisam mogao da gledam dok ljubim. Gledajući te, video sam lepotu, ali sam gubio osećaj tvog božanstva. U našem dodiru usana bila je skupljena sva ljubav koja nam je bila potrebna. Siguran sam u to, jer ljubeći te strastveno a nežno, ja sam bio siguran da ludim. Ali ti nisi razmevala mog ludila mir. Tragala si za svojim nemirom. Pitala si se, da li će te neko voleti snagom tvoje ljubavi? Tražila si da upoznaš onog koji bi mogao da te moćno pogleda, da te sjajem očiju dodirne, da ti podari nevidljivu ukočenost, grčeve i drhtavicu, a da u njima oseti tvoje sve. Poljupce, dodire, želju, strast, vrelinu tela, nežnost, snagu i revnost življenja. Pitala si se, da li će mu smetati tragovi nemira koje su po tebi ostavljale karikature od ljudi? Oni, čija lica nisu postojala kada si sa njih masku skidala. Oni, kojima si čudna bila dok si po kiši plesala, jer nisu znali da si u sunčevim zracima svoju tajnu oklopa sakrila. Izano -"Žig vrelih usana"

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5. You Had Important Life Plans

No matter how much you plan your future in detail, some things are simply spontaneous. For example, you can not plan the timing when someone will propose marriage to you when you will get pregnant etc. Perhaps your strictly laid out life plans did not suit your partner, and you did not want to give up on him. But now, you realize that with your new partner, things do not go according to your plans either, and you begin to believe that you have left the Mr.Right one. If in your new relationship things are not even half beautiful than in the old, then consider replacing your new partner with your ex-partner. Perhaps this time, dating with your ex-partner will finally be right.

6. Open Cards

You've broken up with your ex for a number of reasons, so an open and frank talk about each reason is more than necessary between you two. For example, if your everyday quarrels and arguments have led to a break, try to identify the triggers, as well as the ways to overcome them. Be clear about which things would work out, and which are the things that are the "thorn in your eye", and whose overcoming requires deviations from both sides. Through an open conversation, you will reach some reasonable conclusions about how you imagine the continuation of your relationship and how to stick to the promises, because if you start repeating the old mistakes, the repeated break up is not so far away.

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A Few More Signs That Indicate That You Should Get Back Together With Your Ex

He made some changes in his life and informed you about them immediately

After your split up, he tried to accept all of the criticisms that you have addressed to him, so he made a few changes, and used the first opportunity to inform you about them. Was his laziness and low ambition irritating you? After the breakup, he immediately started looking for a job and immediately after the first success he ran to you. With such behavior, he wanted to tell you that he is inclined to do a lot to get back to you.

He calls you often and contacts you on Facebook

This is an obvious sign - he is afraid that he may lose contact with you so he will use the technology to stay close to you. An even more reliable sign is if your conversations are long and you are the one that always ends them - he just does not want to stop talking to you.

He calls you when it's under the influence of alcohol

He calls you and speaks to you stretched and unrelated, indicating that he is drunk. In such a situation, he tells you how he really feels about you and in case you "dump" him, he will be able to blame the alcohol for the incident the next day. But he can also call you and start talking about something that is not related to you both. And that's a positive sign. Why? Many get along with alcohol to feel better after breaking up. If it is appealing to you, it means that you are in his thoughts while he is drunk, that means you are the reason for his drunk moments.

His Facebook status is still "In a Relationship"

Do not think that the change was not made because it did not come to his mind to do it or because he did not have time. He did not change his status because he is hoping that things are not finished with you yet.

Za nju

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He can't remove your name from his mouth

If, while speaking, your ex repeats your name constantly - that it's a good sign. He probably feels great relief and happiness that he has the opportunity to talk to you and to pronounce your name. Even stronger proof that he wants you is if the love nickname you used when you were together (sunshine, babe, honey...) suddenly comes out from his mouth.

He tells you that his friends/family/dog miss you.

In this way, he actually uses them to indirectly tell you that he misses you.

He talks with nostalgia about your relationship

When "accidentally" your relationship becomes a topic in your conversations, you can sense sorrow in his eyes and nostalgia in his words. It means that he is not ready to leave the beautiful memories in the past and wants new timing for getting back together.

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Accomplished physical contact

An optimistic sign for getting back together with your ex is if, during each of your meetings, he tries to make a physical contact with you - he holds your hand, gives you compliments about your hairstyle while touching it, etc.

He wants to consult with you

Does it appear too often for your ex to ask for your opinion? It's not because he values you as a friend, but because your opinion is important to him and wants his decisions to be in accordance with you.

He sends you "puzzles"

Sometimes the things that he wants to tell you can reach you through his friends. "You're the most beautiful couple", "Are you getting back together? "- his friends ask you. Men talk to their friends just like women, so his friends know that he wants to get back together with you and therefore they addresses to you such questions. If your ex does not want anything with you, his friends won't mention anything about your relationship and won't talk about you as a couple.

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Final Word

You know what? If you are seriously thinking that you have seen these signs in your ex, than probably you still have feelings for him. Yes, in some cases you can do it purely for curiosity, but it is likely that you want an extension in your relationship as much as he does. One advice, if you want to refresh the relationship with your ex have a good look at whether your relationship and your ex deserve a second chance, so if your answer is yes, than return to the signals that your ex is sending to you.

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