15 Signs Your Wife Doesn't Love You Anymore

Love is no doubt one of the bases for marriage; take it out of a union and a husband becomes just another man on the street while his wife is at best reduced to a maid. If your wife loves you, you'll feel like a king but once she's out of love with you, life can become very miserable. In fact, your career may be adversely affected too. Love is like a tender plant that has to be cultivated so it continues to grow. Wives, and by extension, everyone can grow out of love if right measures are not taken as and when due. Consider when you first met; you both loved, admired, and respected each other. Now, you seem to be seeing some signs that your wife doesn't love you anymore. What could have been the cause? Maybe any of the few points listed below can be the reason she's now out of love with you.

You may have started taking her for granted. Because your wife loves you so much, she does everything to make your home a sweet one. She is always on point with the meals and getting the house tidy. She takes care of the kids and even does not refuse you sex whenever you ask, but instead of appreciating all of these gestures, you rather choose to criticize her for her few mistakes. To you, everything she does is but her duty and you see no reason she should be commended for it. Even when she complains she's having some challenges with anything, you don't seem to care but still insist she does what you think her duties are. How won't she grow out of love with you? She isn't your servant, you know? And even servants deserve some appreciation when they have done well. If that is not the case with you, perhaps you don't know or speak her love language. Our love language is the precise means by which we receive love the most. Dr. Gary Chapman has dealt extensively on this subject of love languages. He has identified five distinct love languages which he puts forward as the means by which each of us either gives or receives love. These include words of affirmation, giving of gifts, having quality time with each other, doing some acts of service, and physical touch. Someone may feel loved the most when given a gift, whereas another needs regular physical touch to get the love message. Chapman believes that couples soon grow out of love in marriage because of their inability to speak as it were, each other's love languages. Just consider if your wife's love language is spending quality time with you and you barely have time for her in a day let alone a week; why won't she quickly grow out of love with you? She'll feel you don't love her because love, which in her own perspective is having some quality time to discuss with her husband every day is not given to her. As a husband, you are more than often, prone to interpret your needs to that of your wife's. Maybe when she draws closer to you for affection or warmth, because your innate need is sex, you quickly interpret it to be her need too. So, before anyone knows what's up, you're turned on to service her. This attitude will only make you appear selfish to her and she'll start displaying some signs that would make you feel she doesn't love you anymore. Therefore, it means you must be always sure of what your wife's needs are before rushing to meet them. Again, if she has caught you with another woman, she can find the revelation too big to swallow. Truth be told, infidelity is a huge blow to any relationship. It's usually very painful. No matter how much your wife loves you, once this has set in, she may not be able to help it anymore.

You can go through the list of signs discussed below to see if they resonate with you. You don't need to see all of them playing out in your home; once at least 4 or 5 of them are what you're currently witnessing from your wife, she's no doubt, out of love with you.

A woman's respect for her husband comes from the love she has for him. Because your wife loves you, she'll accept your authority and submit herself to your leadership. However, where the love is gone or fast running down, she's not only growing out of love for you but also respect too. You'll say a thing and she'll respond with ten. She's always on a mission to let you know she isn't your servant, maid, or sister. An out of love wife would stand up to you on almost anything. That's because she no longer sees you as the "king" she once saw you to be but perhaps her mate with whom she can't take nonsense. Trust women to play out this well. If you've been noticing this from her, dear husband, your wife is fast growing out of love.

Perhaps, this was what you saw that made you conclude "she doesn't love me anymore". You may actually be right. If your wife is not going through any emotional challenge and she refuses to tell you how her day went or ask about yours, the only reason that is most likely responsible for this is that she has grown out of love. You see, most women cannot hide their feelings for long. Once they're displeased with you, it won't be long before you'll start seeing the signs. One of such is a reduced communication. She'll bottle up everything she's always be gisting you of before and gives a rather "don't disturb me" response to any inquiry you make from her. This is just the beginning of the signs an out of love wife would display

Again, you may need to know that it is because your wife loves you that she loves your parents. She probably wouldn't have as much respect as she has for your parents were it not for the relationship with you. So, when the thing that brought you together is no longer there, things that once fell in line because of it too would scatter. She'll no longer have a basis for holding any form of allegiance to your parents particularly your mother. Therefore, among the signs to watch out for when you're suspecting "She doesn't love me anymore" is this. Just watch out for her relationship with your mother.

An "in love" wife would not want her husband to leave her for a moment if she has her way. She's always feeling she hasn't had enough of her husband no matter how many time both have spent together. To this extent, if the man takes a minute later than expected, she may be worried because her mind is already longing to meet her husband. So, where the opposite of this feeling and attitude is what you get, there's no need to contemplate "perhaps she doesn't love me anymore," the handwriting on the wall is clear. She's not only out of love with you but also probably see your presence as a disturbance.

At first, you may think it's a joke but you may soon realize she means what she is saying; she wants a divorce. Divorce is the last word any woman in love with her husband wants to hear in her home. Most women would do anything to avert a divorce with their husband. The reason they detest divorce is perhaps that they tend to bear the brunt the most where such happens. However, when you see her pushing seriously for divorce, just know that the love between you both is over. You need to accept that you both have to go each other's ways. Not only is she no longer in love with you anymore, she has also probably gotten another man whom she hopes to replace you with.

This is the tactic employed by most women to get back at their men. They have read on platforms like this that one of the greatest needs of men is sex. So, when there is a face-off between them and their husbands, one of their weapons is to zip up their skirts or trousers and give endless excuses as to why they cannot meet with their husbands. Your wife not allowing you to touch her is among the top signs to watch out for when the thought "She doesn't love me anymore" surfaces in your mind. To most women, sex with their husband is an expression of their love for them. That's why some even choose to call the act "lovemaking". Therefore, when this is drastically diminishing, you have every reason to think "My wife doesn't love me anymore".

Women are exceptionally wonderful beings who take the welfare of almost everyone they're connected with upon themselves, especially those of their husbands. Men who don't understand them may think that they are too worried about everything; they misconstrue their caring heart for something else. As one of the signs that they truly love you, most women would not mind sacrificing their comfort for you. They want to be sure your business is okay and that you're doing fine health-wise too. If perchance you display any sign of weariness, they feel concerned and would do everything they can to get the feeling off you. But, dear husband, when you come home obviously worn out and confused and your darling wife behaves as if she doesn't even see you; be assured she's grown out of love with you.

It is normal for women to love their kids. But in a marriage where love is still present, most women know how to balance things up so their husbands don't feel brushed aside. They can meet both the husband and the children's need for love without any of the two sides lacking. However, where your wife has grown out of love with you, all her attention may now be focused on her children so much that she gives her children as the reason for not doing anything you complain about in the house. What has happened is that your children have taken your place in her heart.

Do you notice your wife fights with you too often these days? That may be a big sign the love between you both is lost. Where there is no love, tolerance too would be wanting. Little things would get her upset and she'll always cherish a vengeful spirit. Although wives that love their husbands fight them sometimes, the nature of the fight is usually different from a loveless union. Where there is love, the fight is usually corrective. Whereas, if she's out of love, her fight would not only be incessant but destructive. She'll refuse to accept your entreaties even when you're moving for peace. All she's looking for is an opportunity to leave you and she knows she has to have a basis for doing so, hence her frequent face-off with you.

It is love that makes a husband and wife share their properties. There are even certain marriages where couples own joint accounts and businesses; that is love at play. Where love has gone on a holiday or totally vacated, any of the partners may start pushing for independence. You can clear the doubt as to whether your wife loves you or not by paying attention to her quest for privacy and independence lately. She's going to request that she be left alone too often and would stop sharing virtually everything she's once been sharing with you. Where the love lost has grown fat in your marriage, she may even be requesting that your joint assets be shared. At that point, you don't have to think "She doesn't love me" anymore; you can see the handwriting clearly on the wall.

It is extremely difficult, if not impossible for a wife that truly loves her husband to be having an affair with another man. In most scenarios where an affair between a married woman and another man has been witnessed, it's usually because there was no love lost at one point or another between the woman and her husband. There are many reasons aside from the absence of love, why a married woman may become promiscuous actually, but one truth is that if your wife loves you, keeping all those other factors constant, she won't allow another man to have pleasure with her body. In a situation where you consistently find your wife with another man, that is, she cheats, you have no need of more evidence to know that she's totally out of love with you.

Part of the signs she probably doesn't love you anymore is she no longer asks you for help. She knows that if she does, you may not get the message very clearly. And of course, not all men realize that a woman asking them to help them is can be a sign of love. So, when you offer to help your wife with things, she would ordinarily have requested your help for before and she refuses, something is definitely wrong. You should not take it for granted that it's because she wants to do it herself, she may be rejecting more than your help but also yourself too.

As a confirmation to her not being in love with you anymore, every attempt you make to reconcile her to yourself would be turned down by her. She has made up her mind to let you be. At that point, only a miracle can restore your union. It's likely going to end in a divorce. When partners fight and both are willing to be reconciled, it's because there's still love between them, but where one or both of them refuse to let bygone be bygone, the union may have just hit a dead end.

One of the signs you would probably notice where you've got an "out of love" wife is that she'll start keeping so many things and information from you. You're no longer told what happens at her workplace or what her plans for the future are. She may even consider it as none of your business to know what she's up to in a day. And when you ask her about anything, she may just snub you or say less than required. All of these unnecessary hoardings of information may be because she no longer loves you.

Trust women to always keep dates and anniversaries. They can remember when you first met; how long your first kiss took, and so many other interesting events in your marriage like that. But if your guess that perhaps your wife doesn't love you again is true, she may claim to forget important dates like your birthday, wedding anniversaries and so on. Yes, she may have actually forgotten. But then, that may not be unconnected with your love waxing cold in her heart.

Not every sign outlined here actually spell doom for your marriage. In some cases, if you'll take concise and swift action, your wife can still love you again.