20 Clear Signs He Wants A Long Term Relationship With You

Is my man really interested in me or he is just playing games? If you are wondering this, here are some important signs to look out for.

By Gerald Matiri
20 Clear Signs He Wants A Long Term Relationship With You

What are the signs that a man is serious?

One of the greatest questions in a girl's mind is whether the man they are seeing wants a long term relationship with them. Unfortunately, it can be difficult to answer this question, especially because men will pretend to be very committed, only for them to disappear when they learn that you are pregnant. Many times, a man will also send mixed signals that can make you think that they are very interested in having a relationship with you when all they want is a no-strings-attached relationship. When you start noticing red flags that suggest that he isn’t truly interested in a long term relationship with you, you will need to start being honest with yourself. The good news is that there are signs that you can use to confirm whether the man wants to be in a long term relationship with you or not.

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1. One of the signs he shares his goals with you

When you find a man sharing his dreams and goals with you, this is a clear sign that he wants a long term relationship with you. This is because the man wants to show you his achievements in life. He will also want to know about your goals as a way of determining whether your life is heading in the same direction as his. When you see that a man has no interest in sharing his dreams and aspirations, this may be an sign that he wants to keep everything simple and doesn’t see the relationship lasting long. In most cases like this, the man will only share basic information about himself and leave you guessing about the rest. The fact that he doesn’t mind sharing his goals with you may seem to be a simple thing. This is not the case as it is a clear sign that the man doesn’t mind opening up about his life. Guys can also be very expressive, but they prefer taking action rather than just talking. When you ask a man about his goals and he answers you vaguely, this could be a sign that he is not the right man for you. The man should appreciate and respect your opinion and advice. When he asks for your advice concerning that investment idea, it is a clear indication that he cares about what you tell him. He is not only interested in your opinion but he also values what you think of him. We only talk about our goals, dreams, and aspiration with the people we are close to such as friends, partners, and family. When you find a man asking about these things, then he is not interested in only a short fling. If the man is just interested in a short-term hookup, he will not bother to ask you for advice. If you are still not sure of what his intentions are, don’t settle for a guy who is always playing games with you. You should move on and wait for someone who will be serious with you.

2. Your man wants you to meet his family and friends

Introducing you to his family is one of the signs that he wants a long term relationship with you. If the man isn’t serious, he won't bother to make you part of his world. It is important for you to consider how he introduces you to the key people in his life. Does he introduce you as a good buddy or girlfriend? Listen to what he says to his family and friends to determine what you mean to him.

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3. He expresses his feelings

When the man wants a future between you and him, he will not mind expressing how he feels about you. He will share what he feels and think about you. It is difficult for a man to express his emotions. When he does that, it is a clear sign that he trusts you. If he considers your relationship with him to be just a fling, he will not treat you seriously. The good thing with men is that they will rarely leave grey areas. He will be upfront on what he is searching for when it comes to dating. If he wants you to be his girlfriend, he will not mind telling you that or at least show you some of these signs.

4. Your man takes action

It is also advisable to be keen on his words and actions. The old saying that “actions speak louder than words” remains true. When a man says that he is in love with you or you are his girlfriend but rarely calls you or even comes to see you, this is one of the signs that he only wants to play games with you. If his actions show that he clearly loves and values you, this is an indication that he is trying to build a good foundation for a long term future with you. You don’t have to ask him how he feels because this is something that should come out openly in his actions. Does your man show interest when you are talking to him or is he always on the phone and has to keep asking what you just said? Consider whether he pays special attention to what you say to determine whether he is interested in a long term relationship with you. When you call a man who wants a serious relationship with you to ask for help, he will be ready to drop whatever he is currently doing to be there for you. It may be easy to know men who are great at talking but engage in very little action. Men will use talk to charm you even when they aren’t committed to the relationship. But when you see a man who follows through on his words with action, this is one of the signs that he wants to marry you one day.

5. Spending time with you is one of the signs

Like we have noted above, the amount of time that a man spends with you can be a clear indication that he wants a long term relationship with you. When he is into you and considers you to be his girlfriend, he will regularly drop by your workplace just because he wants to see your face. If he is far away, he will regularly spend hours on the phone with you because he wants to hear your voice. This is one of the signs that he wants to know you deeply. The only reason why he keeps calling or coming to see you is because he misses you. A man who is busy with his career will not waste a lot of his time with someone that he doesn’t care about. In case he doesn’t care about you at all, he will try to come up with as many excuses as possible to ignore you. This means that if you are interested in him and would like to have a long term relationship with him, you will need to spend some more time with him, just as he does with you.

6. Your man shows interest in your interests

One of the signs that a man is interested in a long term relationship with you is showing interest in your activities. When a man has a crush on a girl, he will start showing interest in the things that she loves such as her favorite TV shows, musicians, sports, and even her fashion. For instance, when you see him coming with you to the salon and waiting for 3 hours for your hair to be done, this is one of the signs that he wants to have a long term relationship with you. Your man will also try to show you his interests and ensure that you are involved in them, like participating in a certain sports game, hiking, or watching soccer. So when you start to see him sharing more and more parts of his life with you, it is one of the most obvious signs that he really wants to have a long term relationship with you.

7. Your man stops showing interest in other women

Men have a habit of admiring other women. But the moment they get a woman that they want to have a serious relationship with, they will stop looking at other women. When you see that he has stopped admiring other women, it is one of the signs that he is seriously into you. The moment a man has decided that you are all he needs, you will no longer see him stop to ask you what you think about that girl. He will realize that you are the girl that makes him happy and he will want to start building your trust in him. He will be so enthralled with you that he will build a foundation for a life with you. On the other hand, if he doesn’t want to show exclusivity with you, it means that he wants to continue testing the waters out there. He will cut off all contacts with exes and flings. The man will choose to focus fully on you and will not let other girls come in and spoil your relationship with him.

8. Showing jealousy is one of the signs that he wants a long term relationship

The moment you fall in love with someone, it is impossible to avoid feeling jealous. When a man falls in love with you, he will start feeling jealous when he sees you with other men. Unlike what many people think, jealous is not necessarily bad. This is one of the signs that the man wants to be in a long term relationship with you. The only reason why he is feeling jealousy is that he wants to be the only man in your life. However, it is important to avoid confusing jealousy with controlling or possessive behavior. If the man asks you to stop communicating with other men or is always following you whenever you go, this is a sign that all is not well. This doesn’t mean that you need to trick a man so that you can win him over. It is advisable to live your normal life and see how he will react when he sees you hanging out or talking with other men.

9. Signs your man wants a serious relationship - he plans a real date

When a man starts to plan a date with you, this is one of the early signs that he wants to have a serious relationship with you. It may be the usual old-fashioned dinner, a chill movie, or even mountain climbing. No matter how little the gesture may seem, it means that your man is going out of his way to give you an exciting time and display his commitment to you. If your man isn’t committed to you, he will not go out of his way to take you out on a date. If you realize that he only wants to take you to his bedroom, this may be an indication that he has no plans to marry you. A man who is planning a real date will come with some surprises. When you see that your man is putting effort into making your day better, this is an indication that he is already falling in love. A man who wants to marry you will enjoy bonding with you as you enjoy his favorite activities. If he loves tennis, golf, or soccer, he will try to include you in these sports. He is not afraid of being seen with you in public places. His idea of dates shouldn’t be only Netflix and chill. A man who is serious should take you out of town and should not be afraid to show that he is interested in doing it alone.

10. Signs that the man wants a serious relationship - impressing you

When a man is interested in a girl, he will work very hard to be her superhero. He will be doing that to prove that he can do anything from fixing pipes, cooking, or even bringing you breakfast in bed. This will make you proud when you think of him. This is one of the best signs that he wants to marry you in the future. There are many unreliable guys out there who will be nowhere to be found when you need their help. When a man is there for you, he is approachable, reachable, and will be there to offer you a shoulder to lean on. This is one of the signs that a man finds you special.

11. Not playing games is among the signs that a man wants to spend time with you

A man might play games with you especially when all he wants is sex. When a man really wants you, he will have no time for playing games with you. He will put away all those childish games in order to prove to you that he is interested in something serious with you. You will not catch him ignoring your texts or calls, or saying one thing and doing the other. If you find yourself in a situation where you are always questioning his intentions or the kind of relationship that the two of you are in, perhaps it would be a good idea if you simply walked away. The good thing with guys is that they are usually logical and straightforward. He will rarely play games if he wants a serious, long term relationship with you.

12. Signs that the man wants you - talking about a future with you

One of the clearest signs that he wants to marry you is talking about it. The moment that he talks about you getting married, you can be assured that he is interested in a serious relationship with you and the two of you are meant to have a life together. There are many dudes out there who will only date you for fun. When you hear him say “we” when talking about his plans, it means that he is visualizing the two of you being together in the long term. For instance, when you see your man including you in his travel plans for the upcoming year even before you ask him to do so, this is a sign that he wants to marry you in the future. The man should not only tell you that he wants to marry you. He should show this through his actions. There is no better way to know that he wants a serious relationship with you than when his words and action goes hand in hand.

13. You understand one another

A relationship usually starts on the grounds of a mutual connection and understanding. If you have nothing in common with someone, you should not even dream of getting into a relationship with them as it would end up as a total disaster. If a man is serious about getting into a long term relationship with you, he should be able to find common ground. He will use this to establish a good connection. To establish whether you have a common connection, the man should be in a position to ask deeper questions rather than some on the surface only. After asking what you do for a living, he may go ahead and ask where you foresee yourself in the next 5 years. When you find the man digging deeper, he is not only interested in a short-term hookup.

14. He openly talks about the past

If a man wants to marry you, he will open up about his past. He will talk about his past flirts, exes, and even any regrettable choices that he made. On the other hand, he will also want to get the same information from you. Your man should show interest in knowing you. When you find that a man wants to get to know you on a serious level, this is a sign that he is really interested in making you his girlfriend.

15. Contacting you regularly is one of the signs

Your man will regularly contact you through calls, texts, or social media. Nowadays, there are so many ways that a man can get in touch with you. These include Facebook, Twitter, Whatsapp, Snapchat and many more. If he is seriously interested in a relationship with you, there is no reason why he shouldn’t contact you regularly. Even if he has no interest in sending texts or social media messages, he should still get in touch with you in a way that he finds comfortable. You should also bear in mind that if the man wants you to be his girlfriend, he should not only reach out to you for the sake of sex. He should also reach out to you to talk.

16. He gets a bit intimidated by you

When a man is truly in love, he shows a bit of shyness. This is a sign that he cares about you and you have a special place in his heart. On the other hand, if you find a man to be overconfident and is filled with pride, this is a huge red flag. But if you find that he is shy when around you while he is still showing interest, it is one of the signs that he wants you to be his girlfriend. All that he is doing is taking chances and he understands that the risk of rejection is very real.

17. He doesn’t rush you with anything

This is, without a doubt, one of the greatest signs that a man wants you to be his girlfriend. This is because in most cases, men are not after a serious relationship and are only interested in taking you to bed. They will ask you about what you are ready to do, whether or not you draw a line, and they will eventually sext you. If a man is serious about you, he will not engage in these crude acts. He will ensure that you remain comfortable with him. He will wait for the right time for the magic to happen.

18. He gives you keys to his home

When you find a man giving you the keys to his humble abode, this is one of the signs that he is very serious about having you around. This is not only about access, but the amount of trust that he has in you. The moment that he places his keys in your hands, it is one of the signs that he completely trusts you and wants you to be with him. Your man will also happy for you to stay there when he is not around. He understands that there is a risk of you discovering some weird stuff in his closets but he is ready to take that risk because he really wants you in his life.

19. Keeping his promises is one of the signs

If a man is truly interested in you, he will not want to disappoint you. This is because he will find you to be very important to him. If a man keeps every promise he makes to you, he is serious about his relationship with you and wants you around for the long term.

20. He remembers every little detail

At times, we only look at the big things and forget about the small details. When a man is truly interested in you, he will listen to everything that you say to him, even when you think he is not listening. When you get surprised that he is paying attention to every little detail, it is because he wants to marry you in the future. He doesn’t have to listen to the big plans you have in life. He will show interest in every single thing. These include your favorite restaurant, hobbies, and even your birthday. The reason why he does this is that he is happy to know that you are happy and secure. This may not be a very big gesture but you will be surprised to see him drop little reminders every now and then of past conversations.

Final thoughts on signs that a man wants a serious relationship

Dating has never been easy for anyone. The need to pick up on these signs and determine whether he has feelings for you can be difficult. However, you cannot afford to miss these signs. The moment you are assured that the man is interested in you and really wants a serious long term relationship, that’s when things will become simpler. When you start to see these signs becoming obvious, you will start to feel appreciated and respected. You will both have common ground. This is on top of the honesty and communication that will not be found in any hookup.

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