20 Obvious Signs He Is Using You For Sex

There are plenty of reasons why your boyfriend/husband might be staying especially in a relationship that’s clearly not going anywhere. For instance, he might be using you for the money, the high social status life or because he feels pity for you. Other times, he might be staying in the relationship because he needs you for the sex and nothing else. Thankfully, there are signs a man subliminally exhibits when this happens to be the case. And if you are careful, you’ll notice as soon as he reveals them. And once you have, you’ll be expected to be brave enough to end the relationship. This is because you are a queen who deserves nothing but the very best life has to offer. Unfortunately, having someone who doesn’t deserve you using you for sex just doesn’t make the cut. You also need to understand that men are different, meaning not all of them will exhibit similar signs. You’ll, therefore, need to be attentive from the moment you suspect that he is using you for sex. Without further ado, here are the top 20 signs to look out for whenever you suspect that your boyfriend/husband is only using you for sex.

If a man wants you, he won’t have a problem sharing every aspect of his life with you. This is because he subliminally hopes the both of you will end up sharing the rest of your lives together. But if he is using you for sex, then his obsession with sex might be a sign that all he wants is sex and nothing more. Therefore, if you ever suspect that your boyfriend wants you only for your hot body, then don’t be afraid to question him. Take a breather to avoid being blinded by love in order to see things as they really are. First things first, you’ll be required to screen all of the conversations and your boyfriend have had so far. And if it’s true that all he wants from you is sex, then it won’t take long for you to realize this. You’ll realize that all he talks about is how your body turns him on or anything along those lines. And if he isn’t talking about how smoking your naked body is, he’ll be telling you how he misses having sex with you.

Throughout history, the jealous ways of man have been documented rather too well. It is therefore perfectly normal for a boyfriend to enjoy his girlfriend’s body in private but be quite uncomfortable when she shows her cleavage in public. This is simply because he is jealous and will, therefore, be ready to wade off any competition that is likely to emanate from potential suitors. But if your boyfriend is using you for either money or sex, you’ll realize that this will never be the case. He won’t care how much cleavage you show whether in public or in private. To him, as long as he is smashing, everything will be okay with him, even when you choose to attract other guys with your showing cleavage. At some point, he might even have an issue with you for not showing too much skin. If this has ever happened to you, then there’s a very high chance that he’s using you for sex. And that should be your cue to get rid of him because the more he stays, the more you’ll end up losing.

If your boyfriend keeps avoiding eye contact, chances are he isn’t your boyfriend in the first place. He’s just a dude you live and have sex with and occasionally hold hands while out on dates. This is because a real boyfriend will do just about anything to have an emotional connection with his girlfriend – and that includes strong eye contact. But since all he wants is your naked body throbbing with you moaning every single night, he’ll almost always avoid making eye contact with you. Avoiding eye contact can also mean he has something to hide. If this is the case with you, then you’ll need to come clean and ask him to be truthful with you. Thing is, you deserve a guy who wants to make a spiritual, physical as well as emotional connection with you. Enjoying your body and you enjoying his will always be better when the both of you have a connection. That said, the moment you realize what’s up, do what you can and take flight as soon as possible. For the umpteenth time, you deserve a man who adores every aspect of you and nothing less than that!

Groping from time to time is normal especially for couples who are deeply in love. But if your man is using you for sex, he’ll make a habit of groping you every single time he feels horny. And to make matters worse, he’ll get to do this even without paying attention to your emotions. And if you comment about the inappropriate groping, he won’t even have the slightest interest in whatever you are saying, let alone apologizing for his behavior. Therefore, always make a habit of paying attention even to the seemingly minutest of details because a lot of women miss them out. And if you are still not sure whether he’s using you for sex or not, try asking him what you are to him. If he struggles to give you an answer, then you ought to know exactly where to stand with him. And that’s exactly how most women end up losing money and respect, or both. Once you have realized what’s up, move on from that relationship without looking back because if you stay, you’ll have everything to lose. Declare yourself as single, independent woman and take your leave with your head held up high. Chances are that you’ll find someone who loves you for who you really are and not just use you for sex.

If you live with a boyfriend who does all in his might to avoid deep, meaningful conversations, especially those involving the future, then chances are that he might be a user. And once he is done using you, he’ll take flight and never will you ever see him again. It, therefore, helps to always pay close attention whenever you are having deep conversations because then it would be easy for you to know where you stand judging from his reactions. During the deep conversations, expect two things to happen. He’ll either find effective ways of curving the conversations. Or worse, he’ll struggle all through until you introduce subjects that revolved around your hot, naked butt. And that’s when he’ll sit pretty and contribute for hours until you get bored. Deep conversations that objectify your body will always have his face will light up and he won’t ever get tired of making contributions. And since you will be blinded by love, it will really be that difficult for you to know whatever is going on. But if you finally realize that he is using you, and I won’t get tired of telling you this – `you get the F out!

It is easy for you to know whether your boyfriend is using you or not by simply keeping track of all the times you guys hang out. You’ll realize that almost every single time you are with him, you’ll always end up having sex. If that’s the case with you, then chances are that you are only but a warm body for him. Worse, he might be staying because not just for the sex but because he needs money and a roof over his head. This might be difficult for you to realize at first because you are either busy with your career or are head over heels in love with him. That’s why when you have such suspicions, always push your emotions aside and strive to see things for what they really are. And if you are having an issue finding out what’s really happening, then talking to your close friends and family mind end up doing you some good. Outside counsel is invaluable because they people don’t have any emotional attachments to your user of a boyfriend.

When your boyfriend is using you for sex or money, you’ll always find tying him down almost impossible, even when you both live under the same roof. If he isn’t busy conjuring up with a shitload of excuses about not being ready for commitment, he’ll be cleverly avoiding conversations especially those about the future of the relationship. But don’t jump to conclusions just yet because your boyfriend might have solid reasons why he can’t commit. Unfortunately, one of these so-called “solid reasons” might be because he is using you for sex. Maybe he just can’t find another great body to warm his bed and until he does, he’ll settle for you. Yes, I know just how sad and cold this sounds. But like I earlier said, people, aren’t as nice as they spend copious amounts of time pretending to be. Therefore, if you ever find yourself in such a sticky situation, you ought to know what to do. And while you are at it, don’t ever degrade yourself or entertain such thoughts. Just accept that in life shit happens. Then get up, dust yourself and find your way out of that poor excuse of a relationship as fast as humanly possible!

One of the most obvious physiognomies of a boyfriend who is using you for either your money or sex is his perfectly-timed disappearing acts. Disappearing for several days without a word wouldn’t be weird, at least not for him. And whenever he resurfaces, all he’ll be gunning for is sex and after that, proceed with life as though nothing happened. This trait shouldn’t be a difficult one for you to decipher because the writing is on the goddamn wall (and it is written in bold capital letters for that matter). Why? If your boyfriend is seriously in love with you like he is supposed to, he’ll never stay out of touch with you even for a single minute, at least not purposefully. And when he inevitably does so, he’ll always have a solid explanation backed up by a long list of alibis. Therefore, if your boyfriend ever pulls a Houdini on you and never bothers to explain himself, just know your place and leave him before he damages your life and self-esteem further.

If you live with a guy who doesn’t bother covering his tracks especially when flirting with other women, then he is for a fact using you. This is because a boyfriend who truly cares about you will always protect your feelings at all costs. And while the boyfriend who is in the relationship because of your hot, banging body will pretend to care, he’ll always find himself flirting with other girls. Cheating is a like a factory setting that he reverts to from time to time. At first, he might hide it but as times goes by, he’ll not see why he’s even bothering. And that’s when his “true colors” (read claws) will show. The latter will only show that the end of the relationship is nigh. Therefore, you’ll be required leave while your dignity is still intact. For the umpteenth time - and I’ll never stop stressing this - never, ever compromise your happiness for anyone, let alone for a dude who doesn’t see your worth. Break up with him at once, even if it leaves you broken. The feeling of brokenness is temporary and the good thing is it won’t kill you. Just get some cello tape, hold yourself together and leave!

Real couples love cuddling and talking especially after they just had some bomb sex. And if the both of you have an incredibly strong connection, then you’ll both look forward to the conversations that happen after sex. But if your boyfriend is using you for sex or money, he’ll do just about anything to avoid the cuddling that comes after sex. Why? Because he knows jolly too well what comes after that – serious conversations about the future of the relationship. More often than not, he’ll present readymade reasons for ducking immediately after sex, leaving you with a hell lot unsaid. And if he can’t find a valuable reason for conveniently sneaking out after sex, he’ll opt to fall fast asleep – or pretend to always fall fast asleep. And if you outwit him by any chance, he’ll either ignore you or change the subject as fast as possible. But don’t jump to conclusions just yet. Sometimes your boyfriend might do this because he’s genuinely tired or not in the mood for a deep conversation. But if he has a knack for doing this, then your position in the relationship should be crystal clear, even without him saying the words. The good thing is you aren’t obligated to live with such a disrespectful dude in the form of a boyfriend. Skedaddle baby girl, skedaddle!

Pay attention closely, if you live with a boyfriend who never gets jealous when other guys are hitting on you, then he doesn’t love you at all! He is only staying in the relationship because he is using you for his convenience. And as I have said throughout this article, you are way better than that! The point is, a real boyfriend will never be okay with another guy hitting on you. Guys always know when another guy is threatening his relationship and most of the time won’t be afraid to be vocal about it. But in this case, your “boyfriend” will always be cool with other guys hitting on you. And most of the time, he’ll be cool with it because it’ll justify him flirting with other girls. Therefore, don’t be surprised when he uses the “but you were also flirting with other guys” line whenever you confront him for flirting and hitting on other girls. The good thing about this sign is you can’t miss it. There are many things that girls are wired to detect and this sign happens to be one of them. And since he’s only using you for the sex, make him regret that he ever did by leaving him and hooking up with another guy who deserves the hot, steamy sex!

If your boyfriend really likes you, then he’ll make time just for the two of you. And that will include locking down dates with you beforehand. Therefore, if your boyfriend isn’t a huge fan of making promises, let alone keeping them, then chances are he might be using you either for money or for sex, or both. As expected, he will come up with flimsy excuses for not being able to lock down dates. You should, therefore, be careful not to fall for such because you are too smart for that. And in the end, the truth will always come out and once it does so, pack your bags and leave.

If you think seldom locking down dates and making promises is the worst you’ll see, then you are in for a huge surprise. The guy you are staying with - because he doesn’t qualify as your boyfriend - will do one better and break a huge chunk of the promises he makes you – if he does make them. And no matter what rickety excuses he conjures up every time he lets you down, he’ll do absolutely nothing to write his wrongs. But why does he do that – you might ask. Well, it’s because he doesn’t care about you – end of story. Always give him a benefit of a doubt at first. But when this becomes more of a habit, then, by all means, walk out of the relationship. And in case he asks, tell him exactly why you can’t live with him anymore. Just because he is a pathological liar doesn’t mean you have to return the favor.

Caring is another valuable trait of a boyfriend who loves his girlfriend. And that kind of care will be exhibited by him being an active member, especially on her social media platforms. He’ll like all of her photos, leaving sweet comments on every selfie she posts, including the not so sexy ones. He’ll also make an effort to tag her on the funny memes and make sure everybody knows they are an item. But this will never be the case especially when he is using you for sex. If anything, he will try to hide the fact that you are dating. Thankfully, it’s never that difficult putting a stop to such kind of betrayal. Therefore, the moment you suspect he is using you for sex, pack your things and leave.

Another obvious sign that your boyfriend is using you either for money or for sex is when always he takes ages to respond to your texts. And when he finally responds, he’ll almost always use singular words. More so, he won’t even bother giving an explanation for doing you like that. Therefore, if this ever happens to you, you’ll need to do either of these two things: You either confront him or draw your own conclusions and leave before it’s too late. The fact is, if your boyfriend is always taking long responding to your texts, chances are that he’s busy entertaining another girl. And just in case you’ve never been told this, you are too good to play second fiddle!

Whether he is using you or not, it’s never a good idea for any woman to stay with a man can’t protect her. If a man is not willing to take a bullet for you, metaphorically speaking of course, then he isn’t in love with you. You’ll notice that he has a knack for distancing himself from any drama in your life. In worse case scenarios, he’ll go to the point of questioning when he’s supposed to believe and stand by you. Having someone who is supposed to give you a shoulder to cry on doubting you like that is the worst feeling ever and needless to say, you don’t need to live life like that.

Once your boyfriend is done using your body for sex, he is likely to avoid any possibilities that may lead connecting with you emotionally. And that’s he’ll always skedaddle long before you wake up. Truth is, if your boyfriend loves you, he’ll do all in his power to stay over and even take a shower with you. Even better, he will have breakfast in bed with you before he leaves for work. But if your boyfriend is not keen on spending more time with you, he is not attempting doing any of the above-stated things. And that can only mean he is using you for sex and nothing more.

If your boyfriend loves you and isn’t using you just for your money and sex, he’ll do all in his power to make you feel you are desired, always. That will include checking up on you through random phone calls and texts messages. He’ll keep on checking on you even when you are going through hell – because going through hell is normal in any relationship. But if you are staying with a dude that doesn’t check up on you on the regular, then there is definitely a big problem. Talk to him about it and if he isn’t keen on changing his ways, then, by all means, do take your leave with your head held up high. Trust me, that’s the best decision you’ll ever make!

If your boyfriend is using your body for sex, he’ll often find it difficult to compliment you. And even when that once in a blue moon moment comes and he does compliment you, he’ll be using it as a pretext to get laid. But since you are smart and have self-worth, you’ll not keep giving him a pass once you realize he is using you for whatever sick reason. And as I have said many, many times before, there are literally millions of guys out there who will love you wholeheartedly. And that will include taking good care of your body as well as your emotions. Therefore, if he doesn’t compliment you as much as he should, then its time you had a sit-down and talked about where the relationship is going.

When a boyfriend you are staying with is using you for sex, he’ll always keep everything a secret. He will neither tell you how much money he’s making nor how he is making it. Most of the time, this seems to be the case because he lives with you for sex or money. And as I earlier said sharing is caring and, well, he just doesn’t care.

In conclusion, a real boyfriend is supposed to be there for you and be present in every aspect of your life. But if he is only interested in sex, he is bound to exhibits all of the above traits – or at least a good number of them. And if this happens to be the case, then you definitely know what you are supposed to do. Users are the worst kinds of people to be in a relationship with. Therefore, the moment you realize that your boyfriend is using you for sex, get the hell out!