Is Your Marriage Really Over? 15 Signs To Look Out For

Let's start this article with a common phrase that nothing is forever. It does not sound promising, but unfortunately, it's a cruel reality. The fact is that the percentage of divorced marriages is multiplying year by year. Times change, people get alienated and get away from each other, they quickly get into marriage, but quickly get divorced. Really, this is not something that you want to hear when you think that you have found the love of your life and you prepare for marriage. But since every rule has its exceptions, there are many happy relationships that grow into happy marriages. Maybe one of them is yours, who knows. There's no universal explanation of why this happens, but there are definitely some means that indicate that your marriage is coming to an end. If you recognize any of these signs, ask yourself, is it worth the salvation or simply need to let it go?

There are people whom marriage has become routine and who have devoted so much to other things, they don't see that there are no sparks anymore, there's no closeness anymore and they gradually estrange from the partners. If you avoid accepting this, consider these signs showing your marriage comes to its end.

The fact is that some passions that existed at the beginning of your relationship will be extinguished, it is a natural flow to a mature and dedicated love. But if you two are literally living as strangers in marriage, if you forgot when you were last time intimate or you do not have a desire to do that, something is definitely wrong with your marriage. If there was love, there would be a common desire to solve this. If that did not happen, this is a clear sign that your love simply disappeared.

This sign is closely related to the one previously described. Simply, you are stuck in a routine which is difficult to get out of, but you just know something is wrong. You start to do things mechanically. You lunch together out of habit, even though there is an unpleasant silence. You're ironing your partner's clothes because you've been doing this for years. You go to a common celebration to give the impression of a happy couple. But everything breaks inside you two and you know that the end is near. Just need to gather courage and leave...

This often happens especially in couples who have been married for a long time and have already grown up children. In order not to stress them and not to burden them with their troubles, partners stay together by any means, even though their marriage is problematic and every attempt to make things better has failed. At this stage, marriage becomes a torture, and you and the children are the victims of all this, even though you just wanted to protect them.

Many people do not want to leave their partners and break their marriage because they have some kind of a security, material or financial. They do not want to break because they may have a joint venture, perhaps some loan they took together or common property. This is a sign that the couple has stayed in bad marriage only because there is some interest and to avoid problems with the sharing of obligations or common funds.

As this sign, we mean some deep, constructive conversations. Not to those mechanical, every day small talks. You do not share your secrets with partner anymore, now everyone has their own concerns and interests. There are no more agreements and common plans. Each one of you has its own troubles and issues. Your marriage becomes a one-way street where everyone sees just their own side. This is a sign that you slowly become indifferent about what will happen to your marriage.

This is one of the most obvious (and most disappointing) signs that your marriage is doomed to failure. If one of you two start insulting, either verbally or physically, it is usually late to return your marriage to the right path. Verbal abuse is the first sign that the two of you stopped carrying about each other, and from that moment there is only a small step towards divorce and those unwanted papers.

You no longer feel the need to even argue with your partner. You became completely indifferent to all his actions. You're not upset about things were thrown around the apartment, you don't angry if lunch is over salted... You absolutely do not feel any emotion, even the negative one. So what are you waiting for? Why do not you just leave? This is already the ultimate sign that your marriage is just a torture for both of you. It's just a matter of time when one of you will decide to leave.

This is the worst thing that can happen. You love each other so much, but that you just cannot stand being in marriage anymore. Your love is not enough to save your marriage of breaking and it is slowly falling apart, and you can't do anything because this is still a battle that should be gain by the joint forces. And there's no will for that.

This bad feeling ''deserved'' a title and article by itself. Although many believe that the presence of jealousy in marriage is a good sign, when it turns into a pathological feeling, it can destroy everything in front of itself. You love your partner, but you are constantly upset about something. You are always interrogating him, watching, spying, attacking for no reason. Trust just disappear, and you do not trust him anymore. Perhaps there are reasons for that, and maybe there aren't. If you allow this feeling to prevail over love, you have voluntarily destroyed your marriage and caused trouble in it.

We will take one's cue from the previous character. When there is jealousy in your marriage, you are disturbing your partner, especially if there's jealousy with no reason. When you are constantly attacking someone and questioning him like you are an FBI, you mistreat him, and this can lead to more serious consequences, everyday fights and, possibly, physical violence. When you notice that jealousy overcomes all boundaries, simply leave everything if there's no other solution because it can become dangerous.

This can be related to many things. Starting from arranging your apartment to a place for a vacation, you have reached the stage when your opinions diverge and this becomes the cause of many fights in your marriage. It doesn't suit you with anything you've been doing together until now, and you are looking for changes all over and over, which your partner may not be ready for or he just thinks that's not necessary. Perhaps this seems like a little thing to you, but this is a sign that your marriage slowly starts to collapse and that one tiny thing is enough to break it completely.

You do not like how your partner dresses, or his hairstyle, or just his voice irritates you. In a way, it starts to disturb your presence and you are no longer ready to compromise. If you are a side from which changes are required, and you reject them, they are unreasonable, it is just another trigger of numerous discussions. And when all your fights stop, it comes the phase of indifference, and then you'll know it's over.

It doesn't matter to you anymore whether your partner is in a hurry to work or has an important meeting where he has to appear. It's more important for you to get to the hairdresser for example. You have become a team that breaks down and everyone starts looking at his own interest. You think there was enough sacrifice and that you did your best, but that's not enough. If you give up, it's best for the other side to do the same.

Tears are ok, but not too often. When you cry, it will be easier for you and you just ''wash'' out all your worries and problems. However, if in your marriage there are many things that lead you to tears, you have to ask yourself is it worth it. Your partner is sometimes unaware that he is hurting you with his acts. Well, on first signs of being selfish, you should be consider about your marriage.

If you come to the stage when you answer questions about your marriage in a superlative, and the truth is far from it, you know it's the end. You are just fooling yourself and delaying something that cannot be postponed. Torture yourself so that the public will have an ideal picture of your marriage, and you know deeply that you have failed.

A good marriage is based on agreement and communion. If your opinions diverge in most important things about your marriage, family or children, and you cannot find a common solution, you better break it in time. Every single conversation will turn into a discussion, and it's already a red alert that your marriage is close to its end.

It is definitely possible to save a marriage, but is it worth it? Do you really think that if things go wrong once, that it will not happen again? Sure, this is an individual matter and each marriage is different. In that case, before the divorce, it is best to seek professional help from a marriage counselor, and then make a decision, if you are determined to give another chance to your marriage after all. What if you failed again? Nothing, move on with your life. You give it another shot and it was a failure. You might be sorry that you did not try.