How To Break Up With Someone Nicely: Not Hurting Their Feelings

Nothing is permanent these days and relationships are no exceptions to this rule. In the initial phase, everything looks hunky dory and we are passionately, insanely, and deeply in love with our partners. But, when the reality starts sinking in, we start fighting with each other over petty issues and the wonderful feeling of being in love goes for a toss. When we start dating someone, it feels so amazing to be with your guy all throughout the day. We just cannot stay without each other. Either we are on the phone talking to them or we are meeting each other. This happiness has immense power in overshadowing everything else. When the initial attraction is over and the couples face the harsh reality, some of them survive the test of time whereas some fizzle out. It is never easy to break out of a relationship, no matter how short or long it was.

There is always more than one reason why a relationship doesn’t work out. Once the honeymoon period is over and the couples start to know each other well, differences start creeping in. our feelings for each other change and we start judging each other. This is not the case always. In fact, there are many who have survived through all the hard times and proved that love wins over all odds. But, not all can sail the boat smoothly through rough times. They get hurt and sometimes they go into a revengeful mode and start hurting each other even in public. The guy who promised to behave gently and nice to her is now hurling curses at her and vice versa. Break up is always bad for both the parties, but accusing each other of the fate of their relationship is not a good idea. Both of you have grown apart because both had some faults in yourself that you denied to accept and rectify. The reason behind a breakup can be the difference of opinion, values, interests, feelings, and ideas. Some relationships cannot stand the test of time because one of them was scared of committing to a serious relationship, whereas the other one was damn serious about it. All these issues slowly turned into a big fight and finally led to a break up. Though breakup is always a bad feeling that hurt both the partners, but if it can be done amicably, then your life won’t be ruined and you won’t feel like everything has come to an end. Instead, you can start afresh and won’t have any lingering hard feelings for the guy.

If you are thinking about dumping your partner because you have understood that it is not working out and you are feeling stuck in this relationship. A relationship is healthy untill the time both of you are growing and bonding well. You both came together for a reason, but now that reason seems to be a huge liability for you and you don’t see any ray of hope. Your relationship is now sliding downhill and you can do nothing, but watch as a silent spectator. If your relationship has hit the rock bottom, then it is better to move away gently, rather than making a scene and ending it abruptly. Though you have a clear idea about why you are breaking up with your guy, but saying the same thing nicely to him without hurting his ego is a very big task for you. Take some time before announcing your decision. No matter how sure you are that both of you have grown apart and now even he doesn’t have any feelings for you, still it isn’t an easy thing to say it on his face and making him understand his feelings. Scared already? Don’t be. We are here to help you out of this situation. Just follow the tips and you will be doing just fine.

In order to avoid a murky situation in the break up, most couple avoids speaking to each other when they know that nothing is left between them. But, the problem with this is that none of them are completely sure whether the other has got the message or not. So, it is better to drop them hints about the break up before vanishing into thin air. If you have common friends, then it is obvious that you will bump into each other every now and then. It will be quite awkward at that time after the break up. Therefore, it is better to let your partner know that they are not part of your life anymore by declining their invitation or addressing them as just friends in front of others. They will get the idea and you don’t need to be rude or hurt their feelings also, instead you will be able to convey the break up message gently to your guy.

Now you have tried to tell him indirectly without hurting their feelings that the relationship is over and you don’t want to hang out with them. But, they are no getting the message. So, what do you do then? Nothing, you will have to clearly mince the ugly words and let them know what you feel about them. It is not a very good idea because you don’t know how they are going to react. But, there is no other way out. You have tried dropping hints and letting them know that you are no longer interested in them but they are still bothering you. So, come out in the open and let them know that though they were fun to hang out with, but it was all friendly gesture and you are not interested in getting into a serious relationship with them. Your honest confession will help them understand your feeling and they will able to move on with their life without much of a baggage.

Last time when you were prepping up it was for the proposal and this time around the preparation is for letting your partner know that you have grown out of love. It won’t be easy to break up so be prepared for the worst and hope that nothing of that sort happens. Have your points ready because it could be the most difficult conversation you are getting into. Once you are ready with all your points jotted in the mind, go over to your bae and express yourself quite clearly. If you are honest with the selection of words and if your feelings are honest, then your bae will also understand and step back amicably.

Once you break the news to your guy, either they will be hugely upset or they will ask you for a second chance. In both the cases, you will have to keep your calm and handle the situation nicely. You will have to make the guy understand gently that it is of no use to drag a relationship that has already met its dead end. In this situation, you will have to be honest with your partner and gently convey the message of break up. You know it’s over and there is no hope of reviving the relationship. So, be firm about what you think and make your bae understand that even if you give a second chance to this relationship, it will again meet with the same fate. Be honest about what you feel went wrong in the relationship and why you want to break up. Dragging it will only mean bitterness for each other in the long run.

Long distance relationship is not an easy thing to maintain. When you are not meeting your significant other for days and months, then staying loyal becomes a huge issue. Even if you stay loyal, still the distance plays a major part in growing you apart. While dating, you connect through video chat or texts or calls. If you are not meeting each other for a long time, then it takes a toll on the relationship and finally you will realize it is better to break up than dragging it too far. If you are in this situation, then let your partner know about your feeling nicely without hurting them. Break up is never an easy task, but being in a relationship just for the sake of it is also not a good idea at all.

Timing is very important. If you don’t want your significant other to overreact or react at all, then you should select the time wisely. If they are going through really bad time, maybe some family member has met with a serious accident and you drop at their door telling them that everything is over between both of you, then it is definitely not a good idea. You should express your feelings gently about the break up when they are not in any kind of stress. They will try to understand what you are saying, rather than arguing with you and blaming you for the break up.

While breaking the news to someone special that you want to break up with them, it is always better to take the blame on oneself rather indirectly. Never say that you are the one who hasn’t been able to keep up the promise or stay faithful. Instead of saying such thing, you can point out some of your drawbacks and tell them how much it is affecting the relationship. You think it is better to break up instead, of dragging it and making thing even worse for both of you.

If you have been dating each other for a short period of time, then you won’t be having a long list of things against them. Be short and crisp when you are letting them know why you chose to drift away from them. Without making a huge deal out of a small issue, it is better to call off the relationship on an amicable note. Let them know that you liked them a lot, but now you feel that both of you have grown apart and now you don’t find anything in common.

Though technology has helped us in staying connected but letting your significant other know that you have broken up with them over text is very rude. Yes, it seems the easiest way out because here you won’t have to see their face or their angry or disgusted reaction. But, no matter how tempting it might seem, it is still not a smart move. The proposal wasn’t done over the phone, so the break up should also be done face to face. It is the most respectful thing to do. In case, you just started going out and nothing is made official yet, then you can give a call to your significant other and let them know that you no longer think that the relationship is working out. It is better to stop right away, rather than trying to revive something that was never meant to be.

It is easy to pet hard feeling for your bae after the break up, but believe it doesn’t help you a bit. The more you keep them in your mind, the more you get hurt and you can hardly move on with your life. So, after break up, if you bump into your ex in a party or social gathering, just acknowledge them with a formal conversation. Don’t make it awkward by avoiding them because you will end up bumping into each other more often than not. Therefore, whenever you meet, share a friendly vibe and move on.

When you have just expressed the breakup idea to your bae and they have also left you, a void creeps in. You immediately look out for someone who will be by your side consoling you and helping you deal with your break up. Most likely you will feel like calling your ex and hearing his voice for the last time. But, it won’t do any good. Once you have broken the news to your bae, go and hang out with your girlfriends. Ask them to make some exciting plans for you, so that your significant other’s thought doesn’t linger in your mind. Your girlfriends will be more than happy to cheer you up. Try to keep yourself engaged with something that will restrict the thought of your partner from flashing into your mind. Break up is always the toughest thing to do, but sometimes it is also the right thing to do. Once you have broken up with somebody never speak ill about the person. How would you feel if your partner would have gone around the town telling everybody how evil you were? You loved them once with all their flaws and now that you have drifted apart, it doesn’t give you the license to hurl out a curse against them.

It is easy to point out faults in others, but it is not that easy to figure out that you were also at fault. You can let your significant other speak for themselves and voice their opinion about the relationship. Though they might be upset and angry with you, eventually deep down they will also agree with what you have to say. This way you will not part ways amicably, but you will also be friends with your ex and won’t have any hard feelings towards each other.

Every relationship teaches us some lesson no matter how short-lived it is. It adds a new color to our life and depending on how we deal with the breakup, either the color stays with us or it fades away with time. It teaches us something new about our personality and makes us a better person every time. When we start dating, we start caring for each other’s feelings, and when the break up happens it should be treated with same care as well. The dating period is over and now the harsh reality of break up has hit you hard, but don’t be bogged down by it. Respect the other person’s feelings and end the relationship in the best possible manner without getting into mud-slinging and all. Everybody finds the dating scenario to be very gentle and nice, but when the breakup happens all of a sudden the sweet mask falls off and the ugly face comes up in the forefront. Try to be as humane as possible because it is tough for both of you. Be considerate and generous and make sure you don’t utter any harsh word towards your bae and make them even more upset about the whole situation. It is now up to you to decide how you want to deal with the situation and to get over your break up.