Tips and Advice on Dating over 60: Age is Just a Number

Popping back into the dating world can be daunting at 60.

By Adina Mazilu
Tips and Advice on Dating over 60: Age is Just a Number

If you think that people over 60-years old do not end up single often you are very wrong. Nowadays, there are a lot of seniors who, due to different causes like divorce or the death of their partner, are looking to meet someone new to enjoy their companionship. And wishing to do that is completely normal and healthy. At this stage of their life, these people often experience a shock. They cannot help but think that they will end up all alone now that the children are adults and there’s nobody by their side anymore. Thankfully, things do not have to be this bleak.

If meeting someone new in person might seem difficult at this age, online dating is always an option. Many seniors have met a partner through various such platforms and apps and are now living a happy life. Those are completely valid and effective solutions for both the young and the old nowadays. This is why, in this article, we will prove that age is really just a number and that there should be nothing to worry about even if you’re no longer 20-years old.

Here are some tips and advice for dating over 60. Enjoy!

Chances of finding love for Seniors dating over 60 years old

When talking about the chances of finding love for seniors that are still dating over 60-years old, there is one thing that everyone should be aware of: there is no such thing as a good or bad path. Everyone is different, has their own preferences, rhythm, style, personality, and finally, willingness to try something new. When looking for a partner, a person usually learns a lot not only about themselves but also about how the world works and about people in general. This is why dating, even after a certain age, is one of the most beneficial things that you can do.

After that comes the variety of cultural backgrounds, social and financial statuses, ages, occupations, and appearances of the people who you are willing to meet. These are all factors that might or might not matter when it comes to entering a relationship after 60. It is worth mentioning that when it comes to online dating, there are certain websites that are specialized in finding suitable partners for elderly people, like SeniorMatch or SilverSingles, but those are just a couple of example out of a very wide collection.

When talking about the chances of finding someone as a senior, you should know that those are very high, especially with so many options around. Keep in mind that such dates shouldn’t also include intimate relationships or anything else that you might not feel comfortable with. In fact, most of the times, people over 60 are only looking for someone to spend their time with and drive away the loneliness. They can take walks together, eat together, share memories and have good laughs. At the end of the day, it’s about making these senior years more enjoyable.

Advice for Seniors dating over 60 years old

1. Character matters the most at this age

When you are a senior, the way the person looks should matter the least. Most likely, at this age, the beautiful years have passed but what remains is the character and personality. This is what someone should analyze when they meet a potential new partner. You probably don’t want someone who looks like a celebrity but talks like they’re missing a part of their brain.

Most seniors are looking for kindness, fidelity, and intelligence, above all else. So, make sure that your possible partner checks all of these boxes before engaging into something more, like sex, for example. Also, take this step whenever you feel comfortable unless you are only looking for a short fling. However, this is probably very rare if you are over 60-years old.

2. Become friends before anything else

The most important thing is to let a potential partner get to know you before anything else happens. So, the first step that you need to take is to go out there in the world, make yourself seen, have a drink at a bar, and be kind to whoever approaches you. At this age, no relationship is possible without being good friends beforehand. Also, try to meet your potential partner’s family, kids, pet, get accustomed to them and become a loved and kind member of their circle. After all of this has been done, you’ll see if you two have the potential to become something more or if you’re good with being just friends.

3. Don’t have sky-high expectations

This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t have expectations at all, but don’t reject people who don’t fit your ideal standards concerning financial status, social status, life experience, or education. After all, you don’t have to be a billionaire or to have won a Nobel Prize to be a decent and intelligent human being. Don’t go down that route and try to keep your expectations anchored in reality. You definitely have to understand that dating as a senior is completely different than when you were young. You might already have the means to take care of yourself, a house, and grown-up children. What you need now is a companion for the soul, not a contributor to your wallet. Always keep that in mind!

Rules for dating similar age singles

1. Handle your emotions well

You might get a little over excited when you finally meet someone who you feel is right for you. However, be careful to handle your emotions well and don’t become too hyped. This is also a safety mechanism as it is a way of showing your date that you are firm on your feet. Also, don’t believe everything you hear at a first date, but you might already know that.

2. Be careful with online dating sites

Use them by all means, but make sure that you always ask lots of details out of a potential date before going out. Also, be honest when completing your profile and upload a real, flattering, and unfiltered photo of you. Apart from this, look for potentially-dubious individuals and try to avoid them as much as possible. Do take caution if the other party ask for cash for emergency reasons and request you to remit or transfer over. When it comes to requests for monetary return, avoid and report to the site administrator if possible. This is one of the common scam methods that unfortunately exists in online dating sites. Being vigilant and not overly emotional will spare you a lot of trouble.

Finally, don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t work out for you. There are plenty of other places to meet a good soul. Which brings us to the next rule.

3. Go where you can meet singles of similar ages

This means that you can find a good match in real life too if you know where to look. When it comes to people who are the same age, you can try frequenting cafes, interest groups where you know a group of seniors will hang out. Also, don’t refuse any social engagement or event (like a wedding or a group meeting) because you might just regret it. Seniors usually meet this way and become good friends that eventually can turn into lovers.

Speed dating for over 60-year-olds

Speed dating has become more and more popular nowadays, and seniors benefit from it the most. These are, in fact, organized dates where pre-made pairs of people rotate their partners every few minutes to get to know them better. There is usually a coordinator who announces when you “date” has ended and who helps you with the entire process. There is no need to worry if you don’t know what to do because usually, nobody else does besides the coordinator.

For seniors, speed dating is beneficial because you have no pressure whatsoever to accept someone. You don’t like them and that’s fine! It’s also very thrilling to figure out whether or not the person who you liked the most would also like to go on a second date.

However, be careful and know that you will have to be prepared for both disasters and amazing dates. But this is similar to real life and should not be a problem at all, especially for an experienced person. The experience is what matters most here and if you happen to also meet someone who you feel attracted to, it’s all the better. Try it and see if it’s for you!


Finally, for a senior looking for someone to share a good laugh with it’s important to go out there and find luck. You can also simply log in on a dating website and hope for the best. There are alternatives for everyone to try if they feel like doing it. However, never forget to take everything with a grain of salt, lower your expectations a bit, and most importantly, be open-minded and have fun. Life is still beautiful and will continue to be so even if you’re in your 60s. You rock and you deserve someone equally nice to keep you company!