What are the chances of finding a soulmate?
Does believing in soulmates make you a hopeless romantic? Or is it a fantasy to believe that soulmates actually exist? While a soulmate is someone you will have difficulties ignoring, what are the odds that you will actually meet them?
According to Science, the chances of finding your soulmate are slim to impossible. Take to the assumption that your soulmate is originally set at birth – meaning you are roughly age mates, and that you are able to recognize them and feel love at first sight. Then, the chance of finding your true love is only 1 in 10,000 as mathematics estimates. Meaning that you can only find your soul mate once in 10,000 lifetimes.
However, does this mean that you are destined to be alone or unhappy? Or should you just give up trying to find your soulmate from the start?
The answer is no. Finding love is not a huge waste of time since science does not dictate the art of falling in love. No one will teach you how to fall in love and love itself cannot be controlled. If it happens, it happens. This is because love is an emotion that sprouts within humans and the feeling is actually amazing. Thus, finding your “The One” isn’t something you can easily walk away from.
10 ways on how to find your perfect soulmate
For most of us, there is always that underlying fear of spending the rest of our life alone. Thus, some of us will settle in meaningless and unhappy relationships and hope to master love during this period.
Yet, finding the perfect soulmate should not be an act of desperation. Most relationships are likely to succeed when you invest in yourself first before inviting love into your life. Thus, before your soulmate comes along, you need to love yourself first.
Therefore, how do you find The One when you are physically, emotionally and psychologically ready for a relationship? Here are ways to help you get the perfect soulmate and enjoy a fulfilling and happy life and love relationship.
1. Have an open mind
Despite science showing disappointing results in the chances of finding your soulmate, you cannot entirely rely or focus on meeting one person and hoping that they are your soulmate. Then this would mean that you can only enjoy true love once in 10,000 lifetimes.
Thus, have an open mind when approaching people and do not hold prejudices or internal biases. Refrain from being obsessed with seeking only one best person for you. Instead, take the time to know someone and they could develop into the desirable traits you seek in love.
2. Go on blind dates
You do not expect your soulmate to come knocking at your door, literally. Thus, putting yourself out there by going on blind dates will increase your opportunity of finding The One. Blind dates increase your chances of meeting new and interesting people.
3. Expanding your social network
In order to develop your dating pool, you need to be more social. Your interesting friends are a gateway to meeting interesting strangers. This way, you are more likely to encounter like-minded people and promising dates the more you pursue and expand your social network.
4. Enjoy single-hood
While this may not be a direct way of finding true love, it is important that you enjoy being single at the moment. This way, you are able to focus on building your confidence and avoid coming off as desperate in looking for love. This is also the time to be happy with yourself and know what you want when you eventually get into a relationship.
5. Be friendly
As you seek to meet more people and make new acquaintances, you would want people to feel comfortable around you. Thus, your body language and actions should pass across as friendly. This will help you in making your potential soulmate like you, as compared to avoiding you in future encounters due to your unfriendliness.
6. Maintain an honest yet mysterious online dating profile
In this day and age, most you will often find most people are leading successful relationships even after meeting online. With current technology and the numerous online dating websites, it is okay to seek love online and alas! You can find your soulmate online.
Therefore, do not expose yourself too much or give too much information that can cause potential soulmates to lose interest in you. Also, ensure that your profile is honest as exaggeration can have negative consequences.
7. Avoid people who are taken
Maybe you made a deep connection with someone only to realize that they are taken. Nothing will come out of having an affair with them and chances are they may never leave their significant other or have a lasting relationship with you.
Therefore, seek an ideal soulmate among people who are single and open to dating.
8. Faith over doubt
Doubting that soulmates actually exist will only result in making it impossible for you to find The One. Positivity will welcome attraction and dating and thus, it is important to have faith and believe in meeting someone whom you are compatible with.
9. Avoid fantasy
While the line between believing in love and actually fantasizing about it is thin, the two concepts are very different. This is not a Disney movie and your soulmate is definitely not a fairy tale character. Therefore, ensure that you are aware of the reality that nobody is perfect and learn to appreciate others and their flaws.
You cannot always go around kissing every Tom, Dick, and Harry just to determine whether there is chemistry between the two of you and to know whether you are soulmates. As you build your social circle and meet new people, you might meet someone who is perfect for you yet, there is no excitement between the both of you.
With a potential soulmate, not only do you feel the chemistry between the both of you but you are more excited around them than when with others.
What to do when you found your soulmate at the wrong time
Most of us growing up, we tend to believe that destiny prevails and that soulmates exist like in the movies. Everything always seems perfect and lasts forever, right? Until reality strikingly hits us that nothing is perfect.
One such imperfection is meeting your soulmate at the wrong time. They could be committed to someone else, celibate religious leaders, or cannot pursue a relationship with you due to certain withholding conditions and the fantasy of a soulmate does not play out as you imagined it.
This is one heart-breaking and bitter pill to swallow when you find your soulmate at the wrong time. The emotional pain can even develop into negative energy which could lead to emotional disorders like depression, stress, and other mood disorders.
So what can you do when you find the Right One at the wrong time?
For starters, you need to understand that there is nothing like a wrong time. It is estimated that a person can fall in love at least three times in their life. Therefore, if you are not meant to be, then it is as it is. You at least have other chances of finding someone else. You only need time to heal.
If that isn’t working for you and you still hope to get together you can either befriend them and maintain open communication or cut them out of your life completely. Befriending them means that there are high chances of revisiting the dating topic once the time is right, while the latter means that there are absolutely no chances of ever being with them.
Therefore, as you learn to embrace reality, always know that there are other options to choose from when your soulmate is not destined to be with you.
Friendly spells to find a soulmate
At some point in our life, we will want to find someone with whom we want to spend the rest of our lives. So here are some spells that can give you alternative way out and can help you hasten the search process in finding your soulmate:
Top 3 Books on finding a soulmate
Here are top books on finding a soulmate that will help you understand and develop romance and a relationship.
1. The Soulmate Secret – Arielle Ford
Ford highlights to readers how one can take charge of their destiny by using the laws of attraction to find and meet your soulmate.
2. Love Will Find You – Kathryn Alice
Alice explains to detail what you need to focus on and know when searching for a soulmate and eventually find them.
3. How to Find Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul – Jason and Crystalina Evert
Jason and Crystalina Evert enable readers to understand various strategies in which to approach their romantic destiny and not lose themselves in the process.
Love and romance will occur in your life when you are ready to experience that wonderful journey. Thus, you are able to create a soulmate and share everlasting bliss together. All you need to do is follow these guidelines and you will find yourself true happiness in your love life.