I Want My Ex Back: 6 Tips on Getting Him Back

Going through the stages of dating and landing a relationship with someone can be a great joy, but breakups are one of the toughest heartaches anyone can go through. To devote yourself, your time and your emotions into a relationship only for it to end can be hard to let go.  

Reconnecting with an ex who wants nothing to do with you is NEVER an easy feat. Often in relationships, certain situations can occur that may be hard to fix. Sometimes a significant other can be so scarred from a past relationship, they bring it into their present which causes them to mistrust. So, even if a situation is small, due to past pain the impact may be great on their emotions. This can trigger old feelings of hurt, anger and resentment leading to them feeling hate towards you. While it's not easy to connect with an ex who may have hateful feelings toward you, it's also not impossible.  

Although it may sound harsh, it's vital when you're trying to win back your ex. Showing how much you constantly want to be with him and begging for him to come back to you will only scare him away. This can also lead to him viewing you in an even more negative manner and potentially cause ridicule to your ownself.

Further, doing so will only send the message that he was the source of your happiness thus you don't have anything else to go for you in your life. While it may be nice to be loved, it's never healthy for anyone to become your source of happiness. This can be perceived as neediness which is unhealthy for everyone involved in the relationship. 

You never know whether you will get back with an ex partner. Therfore, cutting all contact is what is best for the time being. Doing this will only help you to regain your strength and focus, which is essential during this time. You don't want to place hopes on something that may not happen. Instead, focus on your goals and revamp your life. 

Sometimes it takes being apart to come back together. It's vital for your partner to do the same, as working on yourselves can actually bring you closer and help repair the relationship in the long run. By doing so, you both can become better versions of yourselves if and when you decide to give your relationship another shot. Moreover, this will give him the time and space to realize how much he misses you and therefore allow him to see how much he needs and wants you back in his life. 

Take charge and don't be afraid to pursue what you want. Sometimes we can be afraid to go after things in life again just because they don't work out the first time around. Image if you didn't try again for your dream job or your weight loss goals? Any goals for that matter and pursuing things with your ex is no different. Simply gather courage and let him know how you feel. You will be surprised what can and will happen if you remain determined on your goals and what you want.  

Most of the time a man will not know what you're thinking. They aren't psychic or telepathic so they won't be able to read your mind or remotely guess what you're thinking. This too goes for your ex-partner which is why it's ideal to make what you want to be known to him. 

Yes, you may be broken up but that doesn't mean he automatically knows you want him back, especially if the circumstances were not perfect in which things ended. So, the easiest way for him to know is if you tell him. Be clear and upfront about your feelings toward him and why you want things to work. 

Perhaps the most important piece of advice, it's vital that you stay calm and remain patient. Like the old saying goes, nothing that's worth it will happen fast. Meaning, anything or anyone that is worth it will always take time and lots of effort. You want things back to the way they once were and although it would be nice it simply won't happen so fast. So continue on with your life throughout the process and you will know if or when things will workout for you and your ex. 

You know you have a strong desire to be with him again but, do you know why? Taking a second to realize and understand why you want him back may be the difference between being happy or heartbroken again. In relationships sometimes we don't realize when it's best to move on, when it's unhealthy. 

Maybe you were madly in love with one another and something took place. Or, maybe you gave him your all only to receive little in return with hopes he would change. Either way, exploring your feelings and why the relationship didn't work will help you to realize whether it's truly worth trying to get him back into your life. 

One surefire way to ruin it even more with an ex-girlfriend is to be insecure. This is especially bad if this was one of the factors in causing her to leave in the first place.  Although it stings, it's important you give her space, even if she's with someone else. If you do interact with her you have to make sure you have put aside any feelings of rejection or anger, at least for that moment. 

It's completely natural to hurt after relationships, even for men. Spending time and investing emotions is a huge deal, especially when you expect to remain with someone for the long haul. However, it's important to remain positive in her presence whether that's digitally or in person. A lack in positive character will only taint any possible chances of winning her back and give her more cause to remain in her current relationship. 

Yes, it hurts like crazy to see the woman you love with all your heart move on with another man. Things seem like they are going well between them and she seems like she couldn't be happier. However, don't get yourself down on this ideal. Things aren't always what they seem and you could still have a chance to make things work. Often, women leave not only because of issues in the relationship but because they think another man has what they are looking for. 

As we all know, the grass is not always greener on the other side. Instant gratification does and will wear off as time goes on, and she begins to realize some things. So, spend this time identifying what she looked for in someone else and work on yourself. By strengthening every aspect of yourself you could become just what she needs in the end. Note, NEEDS not only WANTS. She will recognize your new-found confidence and feel secure in her decision to give things another shot. 

As you know, women are emotional creatures. This can be both a gift and a curse and in the case of getting back an ex-girlfriend, it's definitely a gift. This can work in your favor a great deal and can be the difference between her negative feelings for you growing stronger or her positive ones. 

It's all in the way you interact with her. Positive interactions can only yield positive results. If in the past, you have been known to speak without thinking or take a certain tone with her carelessly then change these habits. Instead, become more pleasant, funny and caring. Or simply more considerate of her feelings. All of these things will make any woman smile and change her perception of you. This can lead to a more positive outcome as she will see you are now caring for her emotional well-being. 

A woman must experience what she once felt for you. You cannot simply approach your ex and say "Hey, I want you back I love you," and expect her just to tag along with what you say. You have to show her. She has to see that you mean what you say and upon showing her, she will develop feelings about your actions. She will feel loved, respected and cared for...the way she is supposed to feel. So if you really want her back, show her that you mean it. 

You cannot show back up in an exes life the same way you were when things ended. Obviously this is a serious problem and you have to make a change. Were you negative towards her? Did you cheat on her? Were you possessive or lazy in your life? What ever the problems were that caused her to leave, are the same issues that have to be fixed. If not, you will only receive rejection as she will not see the use in fighting for the relationship with you. You must approach her as a completely changed man who is willing to do what it takes to be with her. 

We all have strengths and weaknesses. Highlight your strengths and add to them while working on losing your weaknesses. Strengths are those things that caused positive outcomes in your relationship. Maybe you were always considerate or a great listener, add to those. On the flip side, maybe you were too insecure and jealous...lose those. Doing so will create an ideal balance within you and ultimately allow her to see you are making the changes necessary to get her back potentially. 

While there are ways to work towards getting your ex back, there are a few things to keep in mind. Don't act desparate and give them their space. Relationships can end in several ways and if you're a huge part of why that happened, begging for your ex back is never a good idea. This comes across as needy and very desparate which will only keep them away. The only thing that is guaranteed is working on you and getting yourself in a much better place in your life.

If your ex sees that you have made important changes that could help bring positivity into their lives and what they're looking for, then there's a chance it could work out between you too. However, never place all your hope on this. Sometimes things simply don't work out and that's okay. 

You can never know for sure what the outcome of a situation will be. Although you long for your ex sometimes they won't feel the same. However, it doesn't hurt to try because it's all you can do. Also, things could turn out for the best. People do and can change and your ex can and will likely take notice. So, continue to fight the good fight for love and happiness. You do deserve it, after all.