5 Working Tips on How to Make Your Ex Want You Back

Breakups never come alone but with a neverending wave of anguish and introspection. But breakups do not always turn up to be the end of the world or an end of courtship. There is always hope and scope to make a relationship work and get back your Ex in case you follow the right plan.

You were together for a reason. And now, here you stand apart, wondering what went wrong? Maybe it is time to remind your ex and be reminded of the long forgotten ties that bound you together once. 

While you are working on ways to get back to your ex, you must be very clear about why you want to get back with your ex in the first place. You broke with him because you were hurt. The relationship didn’t work for a reason. There has to be a reason to get over it as well. The reconciliation must result in mutual growth and healthy relationship in the end. It should be more about filling the missing links than nurturing the voids. The desire to get back must come from within and must drive your future course of action for you and your relationship.

Here are a few ways to help you think through if you would like to get back your ex: 

Get some space and retrospect. Getting back instantly may sound desirable but it is time to step back, think it out and spend some time with yourself. You can always be polite with your ex no matter how worse things went but keep a safe distance not to be overwhelmed with emotions. Take enough time to clear your head.

Spend some alone time doing things you love. Having a quality me time will help you rediscover yourself as a person and reasons why you would like to get back with your ex.

Understand why things messed up in the first place. Reflect over the past events during the course of your relationship with your ex. Identity if you are ready to fix the issues to work out your relationship. Was it your temper that was constantly flaring up for no reasons? Was it more of him that you have an issue with? What was the root cause that resulted in the breakup?

Words have been said. Emotions have overflown. Anger has been disgorged. Tears have been shed. How can you find a way from this depressing situation back to a happy reunion? At this moment of time, the era spent together seems questionable and pointless. But a simple, legitimate, but less acceptable answer to this can be the loss of attraction and attention. No wonder how daunting it may sound, the key to making your ex want you back is to remind them of what he found attractive in you or what drove his attention into this relationship at first.

Here are 5 fast ways to make your ex want you back:

Come up with a plan on how to discuss with your ex. A  good choice will be to consider giving each other some healthy boundaries to recover from the past relationship. Understand how your ex is like. Was he an introvert? An extrovert? Does he need time to heal from the previous relationship? More importantly, are you ready to recover this relationship?

Communicate to your ex what your relationship meant to you and that you do find it painful to lose them. But at the same time, you are ready to stay strong and move on for the good of your ex if it is all he/she want. Give some space for some time, make them feel your absence, and let them experience the breakup.

No matter how eagerly you want it but do not silently give in to everything your ex wants just for the sake of being together. It is neither the time to show love or affection nor the time to beg. Neither act cold nor call or text desperately. A healthy distance can help both of you figure out the mistakes and a way to fix them well.

Stay strong when he gets weaker. Focus on improving yourself when you are not hanging out with your Ex. it is time to get independent and healthy both physically and emotionally. Forget self-pity and give yourself time to be more happy, comfortable, and confident as a being.

Go for casual hangouts with friends to bring things forward. You might just be lucky that your ex paid extra attention to your social activities. This does indicate your ex is not over you completely and the hope of getting back is higher. Just be careful that such action may backfire and your ex may mirror your actions (and hope to make you jealous).

When you have mentally recovered from your breakup phase and are pretty convinced about getting back together, it is time to make it work. Reach out to your ex and get in touch. You can break the ice with a casual and positive text. Give him a reason to meet you again. It can be something positive that recently happened in your life reminding you of your ex.  

Frame your conversation that reflects you have retrospect over how things went and that maybe it was a good idea to move on at that time but it may not be wise enough to simply give up on a great relationship you two once shared. You can suggest casually meeting up over a cup of coffee.

When you feel ready, it is time to contact your ex. But before you do, ensure that you have given enough time to yourself to retrospect and rebuild your inner strength. The best and easiest method to contact your ex, especially in a long distance relationship, is to send an email, a short text, or a hand-written letter. However, irrespective of the mode, the content matters most. It should communicate your acceptance of the breakup, apology for inappropriate behavior, and information about what’s new in your life.

There are some basic rules you must remember while sending a text to your ex when you intend to get back together. It should be relatable, short, and convincing. Never send an empty text message or one which is too brief. Never let your text convey desperation or need. Deter showing feelings through text. They are better reflected through facial emotions. Most importantly, never argue over text. Your message should never convey anything negative about your ex, your breakup, or your relationship.

A better idea is simply to communicate how a simple thing in life made you remember him. You can use the text message as a reminder of good times. Let him know you are moving on and doing great things. Stay positive and subtle. The key is to gradually rebuild interest and attraction. And when asking out for a meeting, never call it a date.

When you do get a chance to meet with your ex, take it as an opportunity to rebuild trust. Convey that you are ready to get back together at the right time. But do not be in a rush to jump boundaries. Good things take time, so stay patient and let time work its charm. 

Need more help? Here are 6 more different tips that can help win your ex back to give you more ways to have better success in getting back.

Getting back together may not seem to be the first thing on the cards after a breakup. But with proper approach and given time, things can possibly work out in favor. All you need to do is to stay patient, work on yourself, figure out the loopholes, and understand why you want to make it work in the first place.  Once you feel ready, you can get back to your ex and make the first step towards a healthier relationship.