Follow these 6 Tips on How to Get Your Ex Back

William Shakespeare, the famous British playwright and poet once very artfully quoted, “The course of true love never did run smooth”.

Love brings with it copious amounts of joy, happiness and yes, even heartache. It is especially painful when after experiencing it with that someone special, you end up losing it somehow; when it has slipped away while you helplessly watched it slide away like sand between your fingers.  

Are you trapped in unrequited love with an ex-lover who doesn’t love you back?

If the fault was yours then acknowledging it is the first stage in the healing process. The good thing here is that hopefully, you can do something about it. A sincere apology from the heart can go a long way. However, when the hurt is deep, sometimes you may require way more than that.

Here are some tips which may help you win their heart back.

Sometimes, this will be all that you need to get your relationship back on track. If the relationship fell apart because of something you said or did, then after offering an honest apology and explanation, this is the second best thing you can do.

Give. Them. Time.

This means backing off. Don’t call. Don’t text. Don’t hound. The downside to this is that you may risk losing them altogether. However, on the other side, they will see that you are respecting their wishes and giving them the freedom to choose.  This will create unwilling respect in your ex’s mind for you and how far can love can be from that?

If respect for each other was an integral part of your relationship earlier, he or she may just realize what they are about to lose and this realization will be enough to bring them back.

The most embarrassing thing right now for your ex would be to see your heartache and 'I-miss-you' quotes posted all over social media. If it’s a public post or you and your ex have a lot of common friends, they will see the one side of the story: yours.  This will cause your ex to face everyone’s censure which will not help your case.

If you put yourself in their shoes, you would find the idea appalling yourself. Maybe it would be a good idea to give your social media postings a break. Don’t do anything drastic like deleting your account but try to keep it normal i.e. no public confessions of how your life has suddenly gone for a tailspin and no broken-hearted quotes for the world to see.

It is great to express remorse but never at any time come across as a person to be pitied.

Keep yourself dignified at all time. After all, would you respect or want someone who turns into a slobbering mess just because you decided not to continue the relationship?

Show them they are still important to you and there is nothing more than you want than having them back in your life again. You can do so without resorting tobe looked upon as an object of pity.

After all, you don’t want you’re ex coming back to you out of feelings of pity right?

This is an off-shoot of the point about keeping yourself dignified at all times. A desperate person evokes feelings of disgust and sympathy. What you are aiming for right now is reclaiming emotions of respect and love.

If you find yourself trying desperately to find your ex’s schedules to find out where they will be next, and what they will be doing, then take a deep breath and STOP. There will be nothing that will speak louder than words about you being a needy person if you keep turning up at all the events that you know your ex will be attending too.

Your ex may find that flattering or/and amusing at first, but it may turn into embarrassment and/or contempt very quickly. So do yourself a huge favor and never at any point come across as being desperate.

It is said that ‘Desperate situations require desperate measures’.

You may find yourself doing this, if after many disappointments at trying to win your ex back. It may be to either prove a point to your unforgiving ex or to forget about the pain you’re experiencing, whatever the reason the last thing you need right now is getting into a relationship with some else on the rebound.

This is easily the worst thing you can do right now. What would make it even worse, is that if it is with a valued close friend, you may end up losing a treasured friendship too. So stay away from making any tricky relationship decisions at this time.

By this time, if you have done all of the above then this may be the last resort for you. If nothing has worked till now then this tip may be the best option for you to win your lost lover back. By now, your ex may have realized how much you want them back and if nothing has worked till now and you’re still trying, then it only makes you look like a needy person.

Now is the time to throw in the gauntlet; or at least pretend that you are doing so. Show them that it would be great to get back but if it is not happening then you still have a life. Be the guy or girl she or he fell in love with.

There are two advantages to this. One, they’ll see in you person they initially fell in love with. The independent and happy person that so attracted you to them in the first place. The second is that it will show that you are ready to move on even without them and still be fine.

Maybe that will make your ex sit up and notice.

Gone are the days when one had to post letters and cards to express one’s deepest feelings resulting in an agonizing wait.. Thanks to technology today, feelings can be sent by just a simple flick of the wrist of your favorite gadget. If you are trying to win the lost affection of your loved one back then check out these beautiful quotes to help you out.

Be sincere in your words and genuinely remorseful with what you are conveying to your ex. The worst thing you can do right now would be to treat your ex like a fool and assume they will just believe just because it’s coming from you.  

If all goes well for you, your ex will see that you are sincere in your apologies and will decide to give you and the relationship a second chance. Surely, there would be nothing better than that!

However, it is also a sad reality that one cannot force love. If even after all your efforts fail to bring your ex back then maybe it is best to respect their wishes to not want to be with you anymore.

Take it as a learning experience, one that made you grow into a better person and move on.