Relationships are hard and rocky; and sometimes we face so much heartbreak that we no longer want to believe in love. Those that have a sliver of belief left in them choose to just give up on the idea of love. But we hope that you realize it is not healthy, when relationships become unstable, you should work hard to regain the foundation that you built together initially.
When you feel there is no love left in the world anymore, you go out on an adventure that lightens your heart and shows you the bigger picture, and how the world is based on the principle of hope. People on the brink of giving up should know that sometimes the love that we think has long been forgotten is just waiting to be rekindled. Go on dates, read passionate literature, listen to the songs that tug at the strings of your heart and feel the love you thought no longer existed.
Advices for Giving Up on Love and Relationship
1. Redefine what love means to you:
All relationships hit a point where you no longer remember why you fell in love and what you are doing with the person. This is a point where instead of giving up, you need to remember what did love mean to you back then and if the definition has changed. If it has, look for the new things that help you describe love.
2. Recognize your own worth:
Sometimes we get so lost in relationships and the perfect idea of love, that we feel undervalued, it’s not because our partners are not loving us enough, but instead it means that we aren’t loving ourselves as much as it is needed. Whenever you feel disconnected with love, you must start treating yourself right, you will notice a difference.
3. Have an elevated emotional state:
Just as we talk about valuing your own self-worth, it is important to indulge in activities that you enjoy, and that gives you peace. You don’t have to do it with your partner, you could do it alone, or with a group of friends. As long as it is helping you feel positive about yourself and your life it is worth it!
4. Stop waiting for the perfect love:
When you wait for the perfect time or the perfect amount of love, you will never feel like you have enough of it no matter how much is it that you receive. Learn to appreciate the little gestures of love, instead of waiting for magnified efforts and declarations of love. This will make your love life easier.
5. Don’t compare love notes:
Everyone’s love is different, never compare your love to someone else’s because a couple might have a different way of handling their quarrels and celebrating their victories. You do not know what happens behind closed doors, just learn to be grateful for what you have, you can’t always be stuck in the Grass is greener syndrome.
6. What makes you feel loved?
It is important to know what makes you feel loved, and what makes you feel ordinary. Often we forget that we need certain things to feel certain ways, and if we don’t get them, we end up feeling frustrated and detached from our loved ones. In order to not give up on what we’ve built, it is essential to communicate to our partners what makes us happy.
7. Make the moment count:
We spend so much of our time worrying about the perfect picture, the perfect moment, the perfect trip that we forget to enjoy and cherish what we have in the moment. If most of us start appreciating the making the moment count, we would never feel like giving up on those that we love. Being appreciative just makes you feel in love.
8. Start refocusing on each other:
When we take the people we love for granted, we eventually start feeling like there’s nothing left to work on or save, it is advisable that whenever you feel drifted apart, start refocusing on the things that you initially loved about each other, and what you loved doing together. Make it a point to bring all those things back in your life.
9. Keep your eyes open for love:
You could find love anywhere, at any moment, it will never come to you when you expect it. It could come on a day you feel the least romantic. It could come to you on a day when you don’t feel love is worth the effort anymore. You just need to live life with an open heart, and accept love wherever it comes from.
10. Don’t go back to Bitter-town!
At some point in your life, before you found love, you must have been bitter about life and how you went about it. Remind yourself the kind of a dark place it was, and how much you do not want to go back there. It is important to remind yourself that love is what keeps you afloat, it is what makes you day exciting, your heart soft.
Top 3 Songs about giving up on love
1. "Let Her Go" by Passenger:
This song talks about the regret you feel after you let someone go, after you give up on love. How when a person you love eventually ends up leaving because you let them, you will miss everything about them. You realize about how dim your life is without that one person, how you will appreciate everything once they leave and you have nowhere else to go. When the regret of giving up hits you, you start missing home.
2. "Say Something (I'm giving up on you)" by A Great Big World:
This song is the plea from someone just on the brink of giving up on the ones he loves, he wants the person to say something so significant that it would either pull him back or push him off the edge. We all understand how difficult it can be to let go of the love we thought would last an eternity, the struggle of giving up is defined in this song perfectly.
3. "Takin' back my love" by Enrique Iglesias:
The song talks about giving up on the idea of love, and taking back the love despite constantly trying to mend broken relationships. While it is not possible to take the love back that you might have offered to someone; the sentiment of the song makes you wonder how much better it would be if we really could take back our time and efforts from those that we invest in and end up losing?
Top 3 Songs about not giving up on love
1. "I won’t give up" by Jason Mraz:
Mraz wrote the song when he was found life and its ways complex, he talked about how little he understood life and how to go through with it without giving up on his dreams. It also talks about his love life, and how he wants a reason to never give up on the person he loves, and how much he wishes she wouldn’t give up on him – despite the difficult times.
2. "Just Give Me a Reason" by Pink:
The song talks about how difficult the process of falling in love is, and how harder it is when things start becoming unstable. Pink addresses her lover and asks for a reason, because of which she would think that staying and working on their relationship is still worth it. This is a perfect song for people struggling to believe whether or not it is worth the efforts any longer.
3. "Make You Feel My Love" by Adele:
This song by Adele takes a different perspective; it is addressed to the person considering giving up on love. It talks about how she would create a safe haven for him/her, and treat them with the love that they crave and desire. It talks about the other end making the extra efforts to make their significant other stay.
Quotes about giving up on love
1. “Three months ago, if you asked me, I would have told you that if you really loved someone, you’d let them go. But now I look at you, and I dreamed about Maggie, and I see that I’ve been wrong. If you really love someone, Allie, I think you have to take them back.” ― Jodi Picoult, Mercy
The author Jodi Picoult in the book Mercy talks about how a little time frame can change how you approach relationships. How when you haven’t experienced fierce love you could imagine of letting people go, but once you have loved, you couldn’t imagine sending someone you love away.
2. “The truth is if you reach a point where letting go is the only option, it usually means that this thing or someone already let you go. You are trying to stay in a place where you are not welcome anymore.” — Rania Naim, The Art Of Letting Go
This quotes discusses how important it is to realize your self-worth before choosing to stay in a place or relationship that no longer values you. Naim talks about how if you’re thinking about letting go, it is because the other person has already let you go and you’re just facing the truth and making up your mind for walking away.
3. “I'm all out of midnight phone calls and flowers sent to your door. I'm out of throwing letters off fire escapes and drawing a cathedral in the sand. I'm out of spray-painting your name on freeway overpasses. I'm low on cute names given between blankets at 9am. I've got no dramatic displays of public affection left. And now everyone else I ever love is going to think me boring. Because I used it all up on you.” — Iain Thomas, I Wrote This For You
Thomas talks about how unfortunate the next person that he loves would be, because they will not receive the same amount of love from him that his ex got, because he wasted all his phonecalls, his flowers, his poetry for her, and now that he has let go, he is afraid to love again.
Memes about giving up on Love
1. For the love of Garlic Bread
People on the internet often joke about no longer being concerned whether or not they get love and that they will now resort to food, this meme is hilarious in those terms: because for those that do not have the fortune of finding love; will always have garlic bread to fall back to!
2. Spare the cats!
Like the food meme posted above, women are often seen calling themselves the cat ladies of the future because they assume they will be unsuccessful in finding love. The meme here shows how cats also ask for mercy from these women, saying that if no man wants to live with them why would these cats!
3. Never give up!
the above mentioned meme seems to be hilarious because it describes the struggle of those that want to give up, and those that are holding on with dear life. We see a distressed man trying to save his relationship by giving up his identity and self-worth. If he had just given up on love, wouldn’t it have been better for him in terms of self-love criterion?
All relationships hit rock bottom, but none of this means that you should just give up and move on. There are struggles and efforts that you need to make in order to make it work. The article listed a few things to keep in mind when you hit the phase where you cannot decide whether your relationship is worth the efforts or not.