To Kiss Or Not To Kiss: Do's And Don'ts On A Second Date

Congratulations! You have made it to the second date! This means that you both like each other enough to keep getting to know one another. Not everyone makes it to this stage, I can not tell you how many first dates I have been on that never made it to the second date. Much less, the third date. So you are doing great! Let us keep that momentum going and talk about some second date etiquette, and the big first kiss. So, this is somewhat big, but do not let that get your nerves going. Remember, you have already made it past the first test, which is always the hardest. Your first impressions are over and now you both can dig a little deeper into each other to see if you are compatible. There are many questions that people have when going on a second date. Like, is this a more casual date or should I dress up again? Is dinner involved? What kind of restaurant should I pick? What kind of food would they like to eat? Are they an adventurous eater? What about the end of the date, is there a kiss or no kiss on a second date? Let us delve into these questions and more, do not worry, I will get you ready for your second date.

Flowers are always a good first impression, it may help get you one step closer to a kiss. Even if that kiss is on the cheek, you are moving in the right direction. If you follow the advice I give below, you will hopefully, have a successful second date that ends in a sweet, romantic kiss.

On the first date, basic dating etiquette is that the guy typically asks the girl out. If things went well and both people liked each other then there was an agreed upon second date before the first was over. So who is suppose to plan the second date? In my experience, it has always been the girl who plans the second date. This is where she can shine, on the second date she can show off some of her interests and share with him a little more information about herself. While there might have been an agreed upon second date at the end of the first, basic dating etiquette implies that the girl should be the one to suggest when the second date should occur. My advice for my girls out there, have a plan before contacting your guy. You want to know what you plan on doing before asking him to go out. It shows that you are prepared and have put some thought into your plans. You can take his interests into account when planning your date, but keep in mind that this should be something you guys can do together so some bonding can occur. Basic dating etiquette advises finding an activity you both would enjoy and also allows for conversation.

Remember to keep your dates simple and fun, be sure to pick activities that allow for conversation and interaction with one another. It is the best way to get to know someone. And the best way to move towards a goodnight kiss.

My advice for second date ideas would be something where you both can interact with one another. This means no movies, you can not talk during a movie so what is the point? Save those for dates later down the road. This also means not dates where you Netflix and chill. Because again, you are just watching movies then so no talking would be involved. Some good second date ideas might be bowling, I know it seems a little old school but trust me, it works. Bowling allows for easy conversation, a little bit of light teasing between the two of you can also occur. Maybe there is some bragging going on, it could even lead to a bit of light competition. Another good second date idea could be skating, ice or roller skating. Just be sure you feel confident enough for that, I am always a clumsy person and have fallen twice on my chin while ice skating. Both incidents resulted in stitches, thankfully neither of these happened on a date, but you do not want to end up in the hospital on your second date. No matter how good of a story that might make, it is just not a good idea. Essentially, these second dates allow for some easy flirting.

I love to cook, it is a good way for me to relax and show off a talent of mine for my date. However, cooking for your date should probably be saved as a third date kind of thing. Because by then, you both would know each other better and you would not be inviting a complete stranger over to your house. When cooking for your third date, keep in mind a few things, their food preference and possible allergies. You do not want to send your date to the hospital because you forgot they were allergic to seafood. Also be sure to find something that is relatively easy but sure to impress them. Pasta is always a good choice, but be sure to go easy on it because that can be a heavy meal as well. I have always enjoyed making pizza for a dinner date. I know it does not sound super impressive but it is super easy. There are even ways to change it up a bit, rather than baking it you could grill the pizza. It is a nice change. On top of showing off your talents, cooking allows you to do an activity together. Invite your date over and make dinner together. People tend to relax when they are doing things like this, it allows for some light flirting and easy ins for kissing. Just a suggestion there.

The best example of mimicking body language is seen here, they both are facing each other and the space between them is close. Eye contact is key because so much can be said with just a look rather than your words.

Now that you have carefully planned out your second date and confirmed with your guy when you are going to go out. It is time to go over how to get that kiss at the end of the night. Do not be nervous! This goes for both guys and girls, you have to remember that this person has already agreed to go out with you. They like you enough to get to know you more, they obviously enjoy spending time with you. So, while you are on your date, remember to remain calm. Be talkative and funny, tell stories, ask questions, and listen to each other! These are all important things because it shows you are attentive. And this will work to your advantage in getting that kiss at the end of the night. There are some things to remember however, when it comes to the first kiss. Read the other persons body language. Are they also leaning in for a kiss? Some times you can tell someone wants you to kiss them if they are glancing at your lips. Another good indicator of someone wanting to kiss you is if they lick their lips or are maybe gently biting their lower lip. It is generally normal to be nervous when it comes time for the first kiss, so relax a little. Also another big thing, do not just jump in an steal a kiss from your date. My advice, lean in first and see if they lean too. People tend to mimic each other when they like someone.

See how he is leaning in but she has her arms crossed. She is clearly closed off to the idea of physical contact, much less a kiss.

So it is the end of the night, the date seemed to go well, there was conversation and laughter. Some good stories were exchanged and you both were polite with one another. But, the first kiss did not happen. Sometimes, for whatever reason this may occur. It could be that you both are just too nervous to kiss, or shy to initiate the first kiss. Maybe she is deferring to basic dating etiquette that says the guy should be the first to ask for a kiss. I know one time a date told me he did not want to kiss me because he forgot his mints and he felt his breath was not fresh enough to be kissable. That was cute, I kissed him anyway. It could also be that one person thought things went well and wanted to kiss but the other person felt differently and did not want to kiss. There are so many different factors that could be in play here, it is hard to say why the date did not end in a kiss. Sometimes you just miss the cue for the first kiss, and that is okay. If a third date is talked about and planned then the third date is when your first kiss will most likely occur. Because by then you both will know each other a little more and the idea of kissing will not seem so scary or daunting. Whatever the reason the first kiss did not happen, it is best to not dwell do hard on it. There are plenty of other times you will have a kiss. It may not be with this date but maybe another date. And maybe it will be the last first kiss you ever have and maybe it will not. It is best not to fret too much about it, a kiss is just a kiss.